| Where are all the GOOD guys?
Posted: 8/6/2007 8:35:00 PM | | The good ones are hidden among, and in some cases by, all the bad ones. Your job is to find us and, be warned, the bad guys, by the use of deceit and distraction, will not make it easy. | |
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| Where are all the GOOD guys?
Posted: 8/7/2007 8:09:32 AM | | While I don't deny there are games played online, don't lump everyone online in the same category as your previous bad experiences. There are good men and women out there, I personally have many male friends that I met on this site, thank god none of them have written testimonials about our friendships as my personal opinion about those are that they are rather childish if someone is so wonderful why isn't that person with them? -laughs- but yes, I have some awesome guy friends now that I wouldn't trade for the world and they know who they are. I just choose now to keep things casual online. | |
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| Where are all the GOOD guys?
Posted: 8/7/2007 8:22:56 AM | I can relate to you. There are guys that state in their profile that they are looking for a long term relationship, however the only thing they are actually looking for is to get into a woman's pants! These men who represent themselves as good guys actually make it more difficult for the real ones! Unfortunately, a lot of people misrepresent themselves & their intentions; which is true of both men & women. Definately taking it slow will be helpful in people potentially revealing their true nature & intentions. Initially, people will let you see only what they want you to see. It usually takes a longer period of time for the truth to reveal itself. The only two comforts are that good guys do actually exist & karma. I do believe what goes around comes around. Although you may never personally witness it these types of people inevitably run into their own kind & get a taste of their own medicine. Try not to become to discouraged by these types of men because there are some worthwhile men out there. In order to appreciate the good, one must also experience the bad as well.
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| Where are all the GOOD guys?
Posted: 8/7/2007 8:24:43 AM | Right here on POF, I have found a lot of good people, men and women....high quality, caring, compassionate, kind, loyal, honest, loving people...
I do not know where ALL of the good guys hang out, but there are oodles around this place...
all you have to do is find them.   | |
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| Where are all the GOOD guys?
Posted: 8/7/2007 8:41:35 AM | hey I can realy relate to what you are saying woman of all ages have this problem, but what it can come down to is the signals you might give off, a man who is a player can see signs in a woman if she gives off signals of I realy want a relationship they use this to their advantage also if she is a vulnerable at the time then they zoom right in, the playing hard to get thing might be a good idea as the players get bored and go looking for other prey, I know from experience just how lousy it makes you feel, but there is good guys out there so dont give up and by the way I tend to realy listen to what a guy is saying a conversation with them can tell you loads about them and it is amazing just how fast you can suss them out. good luck  | |
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| Where are all the GOOD guys?
Posted: 8/7/2007 8:59:21 AM | But guys...it's just like she said, she's going out with people who have "long term" in their profiles. She has no way of knowing they are lying until later on. If she was meeting people who have "intimate encounters" in their profiles and then complaining about guys wanting nothing but sex, I could see telling her she's "choosing" it.
But until we meet someone, and sometimes till we get to know them a bit, all we have to go on is however much truth they see fit to put in their profiles! | |
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| Where are all the GOOD guys?
Posted: 8/7/2007 9:02:24 AM | jiepie,
The reason no one takes you seriously when you say that stuff is because all the jacka$$es say the same thing, and so we don't know who to take seriously anymore. It's not fair to truly nice guys, but it's safer not to believe anything anyone says, till you meet them and find out for yourself. | |
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| Where are all the GOOD guys?
Posted: 8/7/2007 9:03:40 AM | Patrol Sgt...
Yahoo Messenger is great for "remembering" conversations, because you can keep a log of converstations. That's a good idea for seeing if someone can keep their story straight. LOL!! | |
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| Where are all the GOOD guys?
Posted: 8/7/2007 9:09:55 AM | Good guys are everywhere...in fact lots of women here have this cute little name for them. "doormats"
Maybe you need to re-define who and what you are looking for? | |
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| Where are all the GOOD guys?
Posted: 8/7/2007 12:18:09 PM |
What is it with men in Canada? Every time I see a post like this its from some hottie in Canada that should have men lining up around the block to go after her. Instead all I see are sob stories about dumb dudes that screwed these girls over. I don't get it. I think I need to move to Canada.
Could be because people limit their email preferences to "within 75 miles only". disregarding the derogetory term "hottie".
I have a particularlly odd set of interests, and I know it will be rough to find the right woman who I can "connect" with, so I've been messaging women in toronto as there seems to be a high population of female gamers over there.. that doesn't seem to be working though. As people think, oh no they live too far away for anything meaningful... heh ok ;p
oh and Wii > Playstation !
To the OP : Shoot me an email! I can't send you any.. hah.
Sorry about my spelling, I ninja typed this just as im about to leave work. bye ~.~ | |
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wafta
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Joined: 6/14/2007
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| Where are all the GOOD guys?
Posted: 8/8/2007 4:05:00 PM |
I was hoping for more replies from ppl who have went through similar issues instead of saying oh well it's my problem...
Looking for sympathy by any chance?
You won't get any from the men here because they've heard this too many times and they're sick and tired of being put into one category because of one woman's bad choices.
Just because you've had a few bad apples, doesn't mean there aren't any good ones left on the tree. Try being more selective and taking your time and STOP BLAMING ALL THE GUYS because you can't find a good one 
I don't even know why this thread is still here. It doesn't take a genius to work out this has been done to death on these forums, or is man bashing allowed as often as the women see fit now ?  | |
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lyndi
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Joined: 7/2/2006
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| Where are all the GOOD guys?
Posted: 8/8/2007 4:44:52 PM | Gothsweetchickie,
I know EXACTLY what you are talking about. First off dont let all the neg comments get to you. I have made the mistake before of posting hoping for some advice and got crucified. People wishing all kinds of evil on me...very rude. Ill never do it again You want to talk, get some feedback, advice ...not be talked down to and berated. It is fine to critique but what happened to manners and courtesy? I have read all the comments and here is my opinion you already said you wanted to take things slow so other than taking it slow and trying to get to know them the rest is useless. YOu doknow what you want and what you are looking for. Im sure you dont go soley by looks. I have been on here a yr and have many of the same experiences as you. I dont want to put all my personal biz on here surely someone will crack on me too. Anyway i have also met a few nice men friends. But yes there are alot that lie alot alot alot. I am hearing all the time that nice men are out there. Well you are young so you have time..dont give up. I hope that helps. If youd like to email me we can chat about it. Good luck to you. | |
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| Where are all the GOOD guys?
Posted: 8/8/2007 5:00:59 PM | OP... I don't think there are many that haven't gone through what you have. Sure, you don't want to hear it, but the ones that are saying it is you are correct. Do not take that as an insult or as being demeaning, I seriously doubt it is intended as such. You are the only one that chooses who you date. If it did work the other way, I'd have much more dates than I do now..lol It happens and it is up to you to cull the crop of losers and find the good guy that IS in there somewhere. They go unnoticed because they slip under everyones radar, get passed over or overlooked because they do not stand out in a crowd, or are just plain ignored.
And the same can be said about the good women as well. Don't give up, take the time you need to do what you need to do and go back out there. | |
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| Where are all the GOOD guys?
Posted: 8/8/2007 5:21:06 PM | | your profile say this,( I don't mind a little sarcasim) there you are a ttracting players | |
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| Where are all the GOOD guys?
Posted: 8/8/2007 5:36:26 PM | | Trust me i feel your pain. Its funny when i see these kinds of blogs. Cuz somewhere reading this blog the thought of this whole thing is brought on by the person writing the blog! Hey i do it too so i know. We all have had at one time in our life's a person that liked us for who we were and didn't care about our faults! Or the fact were act as crazy as the next person. But we didn't see this person with love in there eyes, or even care if they felt pain cuz we were not into them. The funny thing here is we didn't realize all along we had what we were looking for, the love that would have mattered the most... No! We chose to go for the people that didn't care! But yet would have took anything we had. We didn't get ripped off. We let it happen. Why? Cuz we care about what people think about us. We want what everybody else has and if it means looking true love in the face and look the other way! Then we must some how realize its our own fault and maybe taking time to really get to know a person before we even give up our phone numbers. Sometimes the best way to find something is to simply stop looking for it. Kinda like your car keys..lol | |
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| Where are all the GOOD guys?
Posted: 8/8/2007 5:55:37 PM | All kinds of good guys around.
The problem with online dating is that it's like writing a resume for a job. You get someone who can exaggerate their abilities and qualifications just enough to get the job. Unfortunately they can't keep it up and they quit or get fired and leave a bad impression wherever they go.
The ones that were passed up for the job were probably a perfect fit but they didn't make it through the first screening because their ability to impress on paper was not as high as the ones who are so good at that glib and oily art (King Lear... nyuk nyuk)
Good luck to ya. I think you just need to break away from habit as a single girl for a while and come back to dating when you view things differently. What you are doing now is not working.
I hope you find what you are looking for. | |
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| Where are all the GOOD guys?
Posted: 8/9/2007 11:40:47 AM | WOW! Sorry to hear that.
This is what I do.
If I start talking to a guy on here and by the 3rd message he starts asking about sex and asks for more and more pictures, I take a deep breath, roll my eyes and just block them. It's pretty simple and makes my life less hectic when I can have a Block Button!
Sher
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| Where are all the GOOD guys?
Posted: 8/9/2007 12:01:33 PM | | There are tons of "good guys"!! Depends on what neighborhood you're looking in! don't search the garbage for a good man. | |
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| Where are all the GOOD guys?
Posted: 8/9/2007 12:46:34 PM | Stop looking
work on yourself
and if you want to take it slow take it slow... no drinks other than coffee if you will and do not take it too seriously, have some fun, if they are jerks and your radar goes off, listen to it and move on...
good luck and enjoy being single! | |
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| Where are all the GOOD guys?
Posted: 8/9/2007 12:51:00 PM | | you wont find a good guy off of here sorry to break it to you hun! a good guy doesnt spend his time on a internet dating website he's in the real world. believe me would a nice guy with an awesome paying job waste his time on here? i think not the only type of guys you'd ever meet on here are the ones with baggage or the players. my grandma told me this and im starting to believe her cuz i havent met on decent man off of here and ive been on here for a while. | |
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| Where are all the GOOD guys?
Posted: 8/9/2007 12:57:15 PM | | not all of us are like this I am a good guy I am 20 years old but I am in the Us Army. And yes its true alot of guys on here just want to ger in your pants I am happily not one of them. Sorry to hear all the shit you been through I can sympathize cause every girl i gone out with has cheated on me or has just wanted to have sex so I can see where your coming from well hope to hear from you talk to you later bye. | |
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| Where are all the GOOD guys?
Posted: 8/9/2007 1:14:16 PM | | LOL - most of you ladies say you want a nice guy, but i always get walked over and dumped when i treat a woman with respect - you all want the bad boys.... | |
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