daisie
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| Where are all the GOOD guys?
Posted: 8/9/2007 1:34:15 PM | just a few notes:
1 guy advertized himself as being "sweet". then there were CONSTANT put downs about you. hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm. .....well my BIG question for YOU is how did he have the opportunity to give you CONSTANT put downs? I dont understand that. Maybe Im kinda weird (well yeah ok I am ) but about the 2nd put down about me and that guy would have been OUT. They only have the chance to give you CONSTANT put downs if you are sticking around for it.
dont blame him for living in a pigsty. maybe he likes it that way. its his home to have anyway he wants to. YOU on the other hand destested his pigsty yet you kept hanging around it and him. that makes you worse than him.
so.........................girl........what's wrong with you???? You need to get a backbone and stand up for yourself.
so he lied and said he was "Sweet". big whoopdie-doo. what...you actually expect him to advertize "I'm an a$$wipe....wanna go out for coffee?" come on...of COURSE he will lie about being "sweet". and furthermore a lot of losers TRULY do see themselves as being "sweet" and easy to get along with, and very straightforward and open. He MIGHT believe it all. WHO GIVES A $HIT WHAT HE TELLS YOU. Your JOB is to use YOUR noodle and figure stuff out for yourself.
another guy disappeared after 1 date? So????????????? after one date he doesnt owe you anything. NOTHING. He re-appeared later? so??? unless he did something evil whats the big deal? Maybe he was involved with someone else and he had other priorities at the tiem. now he's back......if hes evil then get rid of him. If he's NOT evil be nice and get to k now him if youre interested in him. Dont let him "use" you as a Backup girlfriend if thats what you suspect....but he could really be a nice guy. dont let a one month gap in communication after ONE lousy date be the last nail in his coffin.
hmmmmmmmmmmmm why advertize long term when really wanting sex? well its true that is really rude, deceptive and childish to intentionally hurt people. however....it sure as heck aint nothing NEW!!! You have to judge people carefully.....judge their actions carefully. Lots of people are here for the GAME....and saying they want Long Term is part of the GAME. there are all kids of spins and variations on the GAME. Anything to make it more fun, exciting, challenging, rewarding when they "win". soooooooooo you just make sure they dont win. YOU MAKE SURE YOU WIN...if its gotta be game time.
so really this isnt a hopeless case here. you just have to be smarter.
Now.....Go Get 'Em!!!!!!! | |
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| Where are all the GOOD guys?
Posted: 8/9/2007 2:02:19 PM | Don't feel so down on yourself, my dear. There are not only good guys out there, but GOOD GIRLS as well! LOL, but if you happen to run across one, send them my way. 
I can't say much of anything about the "just wanting sex" part, but I'm finally starting to distinguish the difference between sex and love. I've found that this seems to be a trait with men, but not with women. Ah, well, I'm off the subject.
The good guys are out there, really. I'm still looking myself. But don't give up. Go out, experience the world and all the diversities within it. But even if you find your "click", always reserve a small part of yourself to hold on to until you are SURE this is the one for you. I made the mistake of giving all of me to someone who I thought was my soulmate (and he is, we're just not meant to be together.) and it nearly riuned me. I haven't had the greatest of luck with these dating sites, and blah blah blah, but one bad apple can't REALLY spoil the whole bunch, can it? Don't let it happen for you!
And if you're still worried, carry a can of police-issue mace. Works like a charm! 
Blessed Be,
~Sir Integra~ | |
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| Where are all the GOOD guys?
Posted: 8/9/2007 2:36:27 PM |
ou wont find a good guy off of here sorry to break it to you hun! a good guy doesnt spend his time on a internet dating website he's in the real world. believe me would a nice guy with an awesome paying job waste his time on here? i think not the only type of guys you'd ever meet on here are the ones with baggage or the players. my grandma told me this and im starting to believe her cuz i havent met on decent man off of here and ive been on here for a while.
This is very wrong. There are many reasons a good guy will come here.
My reason is my type of girl is hard to find in the "real world" when I am this far south.
I enjoy hunting, fishing, used to be a trapper. My interests make it hard to find compatible friends much less trying to find a compatible girlfriend in this area of Ontario.
You mentioned a "good guy" as having an awesome paying job. That tells me a lot why you are having a hard time finding a good guy. Just by saying that you scared away most of the great guys who have an awesome paying job. I could be wrong, but that statement screamed gold digger to me.
Just give it time. You always find what you deserve. | |
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| Where are all the GOOD guys?
Posted: 8/9/2007 3:02:32 PM |
this is not an insult..but if u keep runnin into the same kinds of guys..maybe ur problem is the type ur attracted to...or the type u attract to u
Why is it something we are doing that we attract these idiots? 4 years and that is all I get too. I don't think it is us or why are there so many women complaining about the same problem? Internet dating is a very easy way for jerks disquised as nice guys looking for a long term relationship to get what they are really after - a one night stand. If they say they are looking for only one night of sex, which is what most guys are really after, how many women are going to say "sure - love to"???? Because they have better luck getting what they are after pretending to be what women are looking for, they have to lie and play games to get what they want instead.
The only thing to do about this never ending problem is to never agree meet these guys in private until you are meeting them longer than a month and more than 3 or 4 dates, but don't tell them that is what your plan is or they will date you 4 times, see if they can get what they want on the 4th date and then disappear off the face of the earth instead of the first time you see them. If they suggest meeting in private and they don't seem happy you aren't interested in meeting them anywhere private, that usually tells you what you need to know about them without having to waste time meeting them at all.
I don't know if there are any GOOD guys out there at all.. just jerks dress up as GOOD guys. The good thing is, it doesn't usually take too long to take the GOOD guy mask off the JERK. Timing is the only thing you need to weed all these idiots out. Maybe after weeding out a few million of them, you may find the one GOOD guy left in the world when you aren't looking because you have given up. | |
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| Where are all the GOOD guys?
Posted: 8/9/2007 3:10:43 PM | | Well i will give u a clue its nice to SEE what we might end up with,and if u read my profile u will know i will give it time before we jumop into bed | |
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| Where are all the GOOD guys?
Posted: 8/9/2007 3:33:47 PM | Youre adorable and smart..keep digging and hang in there. After your bad experience, what kind of questions will you ask next time about a new prospect?
1. Are you a neat freak or a slob?
2. Do you have anger issues or past incidents with temper problems?
3. Where do you work? ( then call and/or physically check this out, if he does ask his collegues what they think of him.)
Surround yourself in places that guys with a heart would hang out...library, coffee/bookstore, I met a real nice guy one morning at the gas station, in line, where I get a paper every morning and a coffee. Hes dressed to the nines ( clue of a job). Go to the beach or the park and walk every day...nice people there doing the same. Set your sights on someone a few years older, they may have a little more maturity. Check out everything they say, if you are suspicious about someone...if they get mad..they have something to hide. You are bright and pretty...don't settle for these goofy guys. Don't be in a hurry to jump too quickley with someone. There is alot to be said about the joy of the journey when you take it slow and smell all the roses..not just the ones they bring you.
Warm smiles,
Tamara | |
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| Where are all the GOOD guys?
Posted: 8/9/2007 3:45:10 PM |
you wont find a good guy off of here sorry to break it to you hun! a good guy doesnt spend his time on a internet dating website he's in the real world. believe me would a nice guy with an awesome paying job waste his time on here? i think not the only type of guys you'd ever meet on here are the ones with baggage or the players. my grandma told me this and im starting to believe her cuz i havent met on decent man off of here and ive been on here for a while.
Wow.. so nice of you pigeon hole me and you don't even know me. | |
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| Where are all the GOOD guys?
Posted: 8/9/2007 3:48:12 PM | | What is the saying, first time, shame on them. Second time, shame on you? Seriously, take a moment an evaluate why you were attracted to these men in the first place. More importantly, why didn't you dump them out of your life after the first date? Why linger??? Ever thought about taking time out to get to know these people via internet connection before meeting them in person? That tends to weed out the losers and nymphos. They don't want to take time out to talk with you long term and you can pretty much single out their behavior via their letters. So, yeah, might want to slow things down before meeting them so you can be more careful before things get overboard. | |
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| Where are all the GOOD guys?
Posted: 8/9/2007 3:54:59 PM |
Why is it something we are doing that we attract these idiots? 4 years and that is all I get too. I don't think it is us or why are there so many women complaining about the same problem?
While I don't agree with the statement of who is attracted to you (can't control that one bit), however.. you CAN control who you are attracted to and who you are with. In your own experience, look at the qualities you are predominantly attracted to and look at the kind of person they really turn out to be. Odds are good that you keep seeking the same basic type of guy. Odds are, those types will turn out to be the same across the board. Change what you are seeking and you will find something different. This isn't said with the intention of laying blame or fault, but to get you to think about it and come to your own conclusions whatever they may be. | |
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| Where are all the GOOD guys?
Posted: 8/9/2007 3:58:15 PM | | hi there.i real think that you are a lady and people on this thing real like to play games with people life not all but some.you tell it man well woman are real good at thing like that i;m a real good person and woman love to play games with man life and see what they can get and got they say i love you all the time and all the time it a games....it a busenessmen and not love it a busenessmen...it not that i;m say this decause this lady got me she did..all i;m say is that......................so woman do this not all.......just like some man do it.................................................IT A BUSENESSMEN NOT LOVE...........THANKS | |
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| Where are all the GOOD guys?
Posted: 8/9/2007 4:32:49 PM | Hi - I've experienced the same thing, and I always smile when I think of what Jay Leno said about--what is it Melody.com where you take a long personality test? He said truth in advertising would be more like, "Can an overage guy still get laid?" This wanting to find out one's personallity is a crock. I have found the best button on this network after two incredibly mean-spirited men answered an innocent how-do-you-do message from me--At the end of the message, just hit the "block user" button. Who needs someone that is inferior to being alone?  | |
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| Where are all the GOOD guys?
Posted: 8/9/2007 4:52:34 PM | | know exactly wat u mean and altho i am olderits not much different,this one bloke cos i didnt text him decided to dump me he said i didnt want to keep in touch well im not into texting all the time iv got a daughter to consider.then he got in touch again and i said i liked him and we text each other every now and again and he made it out it was my fault and dumped me again just cos i didnt text him.this other bloke judged me in the wrong way and made me out to be a horrible person when he didnt even know me they get on my nerves y cant they just be normal human beings its true men r from mars hun xx | |
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| Where are all the GOOD guys?
Posted: 8/9/2007 4:58:41 PM | This good guy moved to the US to said "Valley of diablo" and is here looking for that ever elusive good girl. Move here next door and I'll fix you up haha ;)
There are good guys but you have to look for the GOOD GUYS. they likely will not drink much, will be in church, will not be out at seedy bars much, will not be so into immature lifestyles and comic books/lives like most goth types and will be more into spiritual growth etc. Why don't you go look for a "good guy" and then try to wild him up a little bit? That might be a better approach. Seems you are looking in the wrong places, as most women always seem to be. Women allllllllways go for that bad guy and shun the good guy. You probably are looking for bad outside/apprearance/attitude etc, and hoping he will be good to you, YEAH RIGHT. thats your problem if so. Do you have any idea how many GOOD GUYS there are out there who cant find a good girl who is attractive too if their lives depended on it? They are out there, in the millions in fact, start looking where the good guys hang out or would be, change your scenes and circle of friends and you will find that love.
cheers. | |
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| Where are all the GOOD guys?
Posted: 8/9/2007 5:12:13 PM | hate to say it but alot o fwomen ask this very same quesion.
But when they get an email froma good guy they don't reply and delete due to fact they are more into how a person looks. Or how much money is in their acct.
Sorry but if people would judge someone more on who the person is than the outsdie then they would find the good guys.
How many profiles do you read that say" looking for sexy, hot, good looking," not to say you can not find a good looking guy that is a good person. if you do not look at what is in the inside of a person. then no matter what the outside looks like you may end up getting used and or hurt. | |
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| Where are all the GOOD guys?
Posted: 8/9/2007 5:19:43 PM | BeachChick:
The reason no one takes you seriously when you say that stuff is because all the jacka$$es say the same thing, and so we don't know who to take seriously anymore. It's not fair to truly nice guys, but it's safer not to believe anything anyone says, till you meet them and find out for yourself.
You are right. The only problem is, you never find out because you don't ever meet them because you don't believe them. ("you" is generic, here -- men and women -- not referring to BeachChick).
BTW: My experience has been different. I've met nothing but wonderful people here. Of course, I've only met one woman... but that's another issue.
~Rick | |
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| Where are all the GOOD guys?
Posted: 8/9/2007 5:37:40 PM | OP:This topic is posted 1000 times a week but to answer your question:good guys are everywhere,you just have to know where to look.
Here's one of my favorite sayings:You can't soar with eagles if you surround yourself with turkeys. | |
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| Where are all the GOOD guys?
Posted: 8/9/2007 5:38:59 PM | Hey Chickie,
you know,there are people who feel they must down someone else to make themselves feel better,BECAUSE they have LOW SELF ESTEEM about themselves.You sound like you are a good heart that deserves better.
There are many good books in the "self help" section of your local book store that may help you be wary of wolves in sheep's clothing. | |
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| Where are all the GOOD guys?
Posted: 8/9/2007 6:17:39 PM | chauntie:
you wont find a good guy off of here sorry to break it to you hun! a good guy doesnt spend his time on a internet dating website he's in the real world. believe me would a nice guy with an awesome paying job waste his time on here? i think not the only type of guys you'd ever meet on here are the ones with baggage or the players. my grandma told me this and im starting to believe her cuz i havent met on decent man off of here and ive been on here for a while.
I have to respectfully disagree with you on this. Some people simply don't get out a lot to meet people, or simply don't want to limit their options geographically.
But, at 20, I can't blame you for having this view.
~Rick | |
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| Where are all the GOOD guys?
Posted: 8/9/2007 7:10:13 PM | I read in the newspaper a while back where the biggest problem with on-line sites is honesty.
And jokily I hope it said you are better off in meeting someone in a biker bar! At least you know what you will get. Anyway....
I can sympathize with you and just keep check-out these forums for help, the majority of folks here are quite good, and the real good ones I like to call the POF internet therapists , they been there,done that!
Then unfortunately there are others types here who still have a ax to grind,haven't let go and moved on. They are still bitter and moaning about there ex's, girlfriend ,boy friend, you get the picture,etc,etc, and now are looking to find someone to dump on or vent there vile on. Hopefully they too will get help in there road to recovery.
Gook luck and never settle for anything less.
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