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| What caused your last serious relationship to end?
Posted: 8/26/2007 10:11:27 PM | A loss of respect.
Extremely argumentative and swore up and down it was I who loved to argue. 
I'm not sure how many people are like me .....confident, firm in their beliefs and opinionated...but HATE to argue in any way shape or form with the one they are with.
I believe in communicating honestly and straight forward with the one you love and care about and being direct with what you WANT and NEED. No expectations of each reading the others mind or statements such as "you should already know." Love the girl to death but once she began to curse me out I felt the level of respect had deteriorated beyond an acceptable point. | |
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| What caused your last serious relationship to end?
Posted: 8/27/2007 8:02:08 AM |
the usual thing. too much assuming and too little communication. when will i /we ever learn?
Sorry to hear that Summer, I think that is a mistake many of us have made in the past. | |
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| What caused your last serious relationship to end?
Posted: 8/27/2007 2:14:42 PM | | If only we could now learn from it and not do it again! Maybe we all should have a sort of maintenance manual listing the major non negotiables and exchange at the start. At least then we might have the basics covered. Just a thought, silly one, but a though. | |
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| What caused your last serious relationship to end?
Posted: 8/27/2007 3:36:21 PM | Summer,
as I said last nite wait a while and then approach the subject again with your love interest.
The most frustrating thing that can happen for either of you right now is to part ways without knowing the "what's and why's"! It may sound a difficult task to do, but it will relieve any harsh feelings if you both can sit down and Politely talk of it.
I can attest to the fact that I definitely dislike being kept in the gray or dark on where things are going, headed...
For you, now is a time to practice patience.
"CowboyEnuff
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| What caused your last serious relationship to end?
Posted: 8/29/2007 9:55:53 AM | My last serious relationship lasted for just about 3 years, I truly don't ask for much, and I am a loving and caring man, but the only thing that I requested from her is that she didn't use drugs, and for about 2 1/2 of the 3 years she didn't. We were very good to each other, but I started noticing the changes in her, the sudden severe weight loss, staying out late when she hardly ever did, money started turning up missing, credit cards in wrong locations in my wallet, items missing from the house and then finding loan tickets. etc. .... Well, I took it until I couldn't anymore, and then she got arrested for drunk driving and got the truck inpounded, I went and got it out, packed my stuff and everything else that I could load up and left....... just like that. I even begged her to stop... but the only one who can stop someone is the one who is doing it...... | |
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| What caused your last serious relationship to end?
Posted: 8/31/2007 9:07:34 AM | | He was seriously psychotic. If I looked at another guy I had sex with him. If I looked at a girl I had sex with her. So he thought I was having sex with everyone but him. We also didnt agree on important things like kids and education and preparing for the future. It took me a while to break up with him. I had to find the courage to do so. | |
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| What caused your last serious relationship to end?
Posted: 9/1/2007 2:45:37 AM | Not enough space for details... short version is...
4 yrs ago wife hunted up ex b/f.
moved in with him and his wife and 3 kids.
him & my ex left his ex.
got a apt
and "rumor" is 2 new kids.
(interesting how them UNINVITED rumors carry 2500 miles)
I FINALLY (2-3? months ago) got her maternal rights taken away for abandonment/neglect/non support., etc.
The important why's are obvious
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BTW, for those of you that find online "dating" odd.
I met her online chat... not a dating site.
Didn't even start out as dating interest.
Just general conversation for about a year.
Then she came for a visit and stayed from 97? - 04.
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| What caused your last serious relationship to end?
Posted: 9/11/2007 10:57:04 AM | My last serious relationship was my marriage that ended on March 15th 2005 after 7 years. Well actually that was when I found out what he had been doing and because I found this out he filed for a divorce. Like I would have stayed after finding out.  The divorce was final on January 2007.
What caused it to end? His dishonesty and his inability to remain faithful.  | |
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| What caused your last serious relationship to end?
Posted: 9/12/2007 9:42:48 PM | | I couldnt get her to ever wash the race car , drive the stinking truck home from the races so i could sleep, she always farted in her sleep , and the dog kept eating her underware and she was blaiming me for taking em, besides that we just didnt feel like it was a life time deal so we moved on,,,,, damn dog always gets me introuble | |
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| What caused your last serious relationship to end?
Posted: 9/17/2007 11:00:56 PM | | Wow, I haven't talked about this with ANYONE! I was a complete fool and should have known but DIDNT! My last relationship was in the beginning of May 2004 and lasted til nearly the end of May 2005. I put my whole heart and soul into this relationship and in the end was torn to pieces. BUT anywho, blah blah blah, he had a very wonderful daughter that I was completely in love with. He of course had his daughter living with US and everything. Never even TALKED about the mother, well I know why now. Turns out he was still married to her, they had never divorced!! She left him with the baby girl and took off for never never land with her new guy. SOOoo anyways, comes back into the picture when I think I'm starting to fall in love with the guy, and BAM he tosses me aside and goes back to her without a second look. TOOK me a LOOOONG time before I ever trusted another man again. But I did, and learned that they're not ALL liars and cheaters, just some lol! | |
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| What caused your last serious relationship to end?
Posted: 9/18/2007 6:57:12 AM | My last relationship started almost perfectly. We met while we were at separate retreats at the same camp, my women's ministry group and his men's group from churches around the state. Since a shared faith is extremely important to me, it was an awesome place to meet a man. Not only was he the one man who stood out but he boldly approached me, indicating he didn't want to lose the chance to get to know me, and turns out we lived only about 40 miles from one another. So we started dating.
It turns out he thought I was younger and I thought he was older. We still got along great and had an amazing number of things in common considering the 14 year age difference. Maybe it was my own lack of self-confidence, but I got to thinking that when he was my age, I'd be 57 years old! Knowing that I personally have no desire to be with someone in his mid-fifties (because I've never found anyone that age with enough in common or personally attractive to me), and because I was looking for long-term and not just a fun fling with a younger man, I decided it wasn't going to work and I didn't want to take the chance of putting myself in the position of being dumped because my man didn't find me attractive anymore. Maybe not a good reason, and maybe reveals some fears on my part (and possibly an age hangup) but I still wish him all the best. | |
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| What caused your last serious relationship to end?
Posted: 9/25/2007 1:14:20 PM | | a break in the vows caused my marriege to end. the vows say forsake all others, what about that is so hard for people to understand. how come poeple think it only means sexually. when in all fairness it means everything, job , family, friends, everything except the lord. nothing comes more important then your spouse or significant other. i did the good husband should do. i told my family my place was by my wifes side. she wanted to move out of state to be with her family. i left a good job, family and friends for her. sometime later i started hateing where we were at to the point it caused serious depression and misery. that caused problems in the marriege. i didnt wish to leave my wife, i just wanted to leave where we were at. i was told if i came back home i was going alone. that told me right there that she was not forsaking all others for me ,that i wasnt first in her life as she was mine. i loaded my truck the next day and hit the road. if someone cant understand how being unhappy in your life can effect all aspects of life. then there not worth the effort. | |
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| What caused your last serious relationship to end?
Posted: 9/25/2007 3:38:03 PM | Texascrab, Im just wondering.. and this is absolutely positively IN NO WAY an attack on your post. ... Was she as miserable here as you were there? Again, Im not attacking your post and I think it's wonderful you shared your experience with us. We all know how hard it can be to talk about this kind of thing. I would of emailed, but I believe I'm over your 75 mile limit.
The reason I ask is I have this male friend who lives pretty far from here, and we had discussed being together, but I have to move there if it's going to ever happen. He refuses to move here. I'm trying to decide if I could be happy living in another country. | |
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| What caused your last serious relationship to end?
Posted: 9/25/2007 9:33:24 PM | It ended roughly in April of this year. I had moved all the way across the country to be with him and help him take care of his dying mother.
Seems that once mother was gone, he didn't need me so much. Plus - he has MAJOR self-worth issues. It's very hard to love someone when they always assume you dislike them, are lying to them, and are planning on stealing from them. Practically paranoid.
Live and learn, right? | |
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| What caused your last serious relationship to end?
Posted: 9/25/2007 11:17:10 PM | | texascrab,,,,,,,,As whysper said, I'm not attacking either, I'm just curious, did you two even discuss a neutral place in the middle to move to and start over on your own ( your wife and yourself ), or was she dead set she wasn't going anywhere, and not just not going to your home town | |
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| What caused your last serious relationship to end?
Posted: 9/27/2007 11:02:37 AM | | hi wysper hope i spelled that right. she has a real big family there, and they are woderful people. im not taking anything from them. i didnt check into the area. when first discussed it we got in the net to check jobs found some good one with in the skill scope and inetially thought it would be an improvement over were we at. turned out they charge you to live ther. way more taxes , i had to clears almost 4$an hour more then what i made back home just to make what i made back home . it was not an improve ment. but she was on parole when we met and she was doing everything she was suposed to she was good with finances had her parole transferd up there her excuse for not wanting to come back with me was if she got stopped she would be harased by police. but when she transfered every agencie up there knew who she was and why she was there. and she never got harrased up there when she got stopped . when i moved from clifornia to texas they new who i was, why i was there. and i wasnt back 2 weeks. i know how the past can follow you, even 2000 miles. i understand that with her having such a big family her heart belongs there she could have just gave me a better reason. | |
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| What caused your last serious relationship to end?
Posted: 9/27/2007 11:08:33 AM | | hey midnight how you doing. she did say if i wanted to go somewhere else she would go. but she knew that was not an option there were not the funds. to get a place set up utilities as far as downs, live and eat untill found jobs, and still make two truck payments. i cashed in 24 days vacation and 41/2 years pention with previouse job to move there on and live on till we had jobs . there was no other choice stay there or conme back home its sorta good i did come back when i did my grandmother passed 45 minuts after walking in the front door. she was waiting till i got there to let go. | |
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| What caused your last serious relationship to end?
Posted: 9/27/2007 6:52:08 PM | | He cheated. Over and over again. He wouldn't get rid of his profile on here though he said that I was the only one with him, and this was last SUNDAY! Wow, how quick you change your mind when you log straight back on on Monday, hitting up on the chicks on here, pretending to be single and stuff. Oh yes, and he gave his final rose away to someone today...wonder who that is... | |
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| What caused your last serious relationship to end?
Posted: 9/28/2007 1:56:26 AM | From the top? I was stupid and married a woman to fill my Loneliness and cause I liked the Sex.
We didn't know how to communicate. We both had tempers and would yell at each other when we were younger. Glad I outgrew that part.
Then lets see, got married in 85, she cheated on me in 88, 89, 90, 93, 95 and 99.
Never figured out why she skipped a few years.
I got tired of the fact she still loved to yell and never stopped cheating.
Also got tired of the fact she would never do any house work.
And what really "Broke" us up???? My 12 year old son said some words of wisdom that totally blew my mind.
Each day my son would lock himself into his room and seldom came out. I got worried as any good parent should do. I went and asked him if he was doing drugs or something. He asked my why and I explained that locking himself into a room wasn't good for a young growing boy like himself. The words he said that day totally woke me up and put me into reality.
"I don't like the way mommy yells all the time daddy." "I don't understand how you can handle it so well, she yells at you a whole lot more than she yells at me dad."
Looking at my son, I went to defend his mother from his words and I could not think of anything to say in response to those words. So I said, "Yeah I guess she does yell a lot don't she."
I packed my bags and moved out, took my son with me.
He and I have had a great life since and he stopped locking himself in his room each day after school.
But I still believe our relationship ended due to lack of 2 people being able to love each other. | |
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