| What caused your last serious relationship to end?
Posted: 10/2/2008 6:49:32 PM | I caused my last serious relationship to end. I divorced him.
He caused it by, in his own words "waiting for you to tell me things had gotten that bad."
He refused to be responsible for his own actions or deeds - even children eventually learn, he never has. | |
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Whism
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Joined: 6/1/2008
Msg: 105 | |
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| What caused your last serious relationship to end?
Posted: 10/3/2008 1:00:52 PM | According to my ex: I lost weight and got a second Master's degree and decided I was too good for him.
According to me: It might have had something to do with the amount of alcohol he consumed.
According to friends: "Why didn't you leave that idiot years ago?" (I'm sure he heard the same from his friend) | |
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| What caused your last serious relationship to end?
Posted: 10/7/2008 6:51:13 PM | It ended when I found out he had a girlfriend who didn't know he was married to me. Then he wanted ME to help him get over her. I pitched hissy fits until he moved out. Took 3 weeks to get rid of him. Filed for divorce. He tried to take my dogs so I took EVERYTHING. You don't mess with a Texas Woman's critters... bad bad move on his part.
Am I bitter? Nope. Got the best revenge possible. Made him a free man and turned him over to his g/f, who promptly tossed him out on his ear. I have a wonderful life now, 4 beautiful dogs, new home... oh yeah, everything he left after the divorce I sold on ebay and made a pretty penny.
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| What caused your last serious relationship to end?
Posted: 10/23/2008 12:09:50 PM | It ended because he was on drugs (not just pot as he'd told me), had cheated on me numorous times and when I confronted him about rumors I'd heard to that effect, he lied to me about it.
We were friends before we started dating so I thought MAYBE after some time and space we could be again but since I never could trust him at his word again and he was like my only bad habit I had to cut that off at the knees. | |
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| What caused your last serious relationship to end?
Posted: 10/23/2008 12:47:28 PM | He was hit by a car. He wasn't the same after that...
I stayed around about a year, checked on him, tried to help with errands, but he was angry all the time, and stopped wanting to see me. I still think of him.  | |
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| What caused your last serious relationship to end?
Posted: 10/26/2008 9:51:47 AM | Well I was married for almost 20 years, I was the dedicated wife, mother, worked 8 hours a day, came home cooked dinner, made sure the boys home work was done and they had their showers while all along he sat on is azz doing nothing after he got home from work. I was the old fashion wife taking care of the family full time as if I was the stay at home mother, but yet in doing this I was still able to hold down an 8 hour a day job.. Then one day a week after our son's wedding he asked for a divorce because I just was not doing enough as a wife, the end resulkt was one week later after asking for a divorce I received a call from a Man telling me that my husband at the time was cheating on me with this Man's wife.. Talk about a shocker, but yet relieved because from that point on I knew the divorce was not my fault.
However it ruined our family. My oldest son has lost all respect for his father and the way my oldest son see's it... His exact words are "My father shipped me, my little brother and mother up the river for some woman that he hasn't seen in over 22 years."
This December it will be 3 years since my divorce was final and my youngest son is starting to see how his father is and that he has put my son second priority to his new wife.
When I received that call, I confronted him and he told me that he thought he could pick up where he left off back 22 years ago with his high school sweetheart. The funny but yet sad thing is... He has since remarried, but not to the woman that he cheated on me with, the woman he cheated on me with I guessed thought well if he will cheat on his wife of almost 20 years, then he might just cheat on me... So I guess the story stands true.... ONCE A CHEATER ALWAYS A CHEATER...
I will always believe this until someone proves me wrong.... | |
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| What caused your last serious relationship to end?
Posted: 10/27/2008 12:01:55 AM | Hey
Just got out of a really "I love you, she loves me" 5 month relationship. I did tell her about a month into the relationship if I am doing something wrong to tell me. She never did and we broke up last month. She said my house looked like a redneck bachcalor den? My house is very clean for a single guy. And she threw in that I dip, drink beer, watch football and Nascar. Go fiqure. But you just have to zip up your pants and move on. I have a cool date this Thursday. | |
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| What caused your last serious relationship to end?
Posted: 11/24/2008 2:01:27 AM | What wife? What does that mean?
I try to be as sweet as I can and if she told me, which she knew I dipped that it bothered her and said dont do it around me, I would have.
She came up from Houston 11 weekends. I went twice but she preferred to come her to my place. It was a really strange brake up, Kinda one sided.
I am not new to dating and it was goofy, I think she got back with an ex? But she came up for the whole weekend to brake up with me on Sunday instead of just coming up for one night.
And wife, I am looking for love and will change what I can to make it work. | |
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| What caused your last serious relationship to end?
Posted: 11/24/2008 8:02:53 PM | | I'm a chump when it comes to woman. Each time one sleeps with me I fall in love then my heart gets broken. I can understand the married ones using me for fun but my heart still gets broken. and that really makes me a chump! NO?! | |
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| What caused your last serious relationship to end?
Posted: 12/4/2008 10:02:04 PM | His getting drunk every day...never should have gotten married since we screamed and yelled for the 9 months we lived together. Then after we got married we split up about 5 or was it 6 times. Then after being married 18 yrs together 19 years he started cussing me out everytime I came home from work. Couldn't take it anymore, so I left. Two weeks later was home getting more stuff when I ended up in the hospital with emergency gall bladder surgery. Had surgery on Wed, came home on Fri, he gets drunk and leaves on Sun. 3 weeks later he tells me how much he still loves me, for me not to get excited that things will work out and he'll be home by Christmas. Next day I find out later, he goes to the arms of a barroom floozy who drank more than he did. A couple more weeks and he moves in with her and stayed with her from Oct 2006 until June 15, 2008. Told me June 1 2008 he still loved me. Moves out of her house June 15. July 15 moved in with a woman he just met and supposeably Sept 17 married her. Our divorce was signed by the judge making it final in May 2007.
I know I am better off, but it took awhile to believe it. Now because of the POF Meet & Greet events, I am having the best time of my life. | |
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| What caused your last serious relationship to end?
Posted: 12/5/2008 9:30:29 AM | well.. I can say how my last 2 ended, starting with my ex hubby. married him for all the wrong reasons, he was not good to me, spent all our money to a point i had to keep asking for help with rent n utilities. took too much time with his buddies. i understand space, n time with friends, but not on a daily basis, everynight, all night. I wasnt allowed to have that same freedom, but he loves making it seem like I had an affair for 4 yrs while I was stuck at home with My children, and his from his 1st marriage, 99%of my life. hed like to blame the computer. I didnt bother until i got tired of being hme by myself all teh time. I beleived that I get married, i stay married, no matter what. well. i got over it. he deserted me and my kids and ran back to PA, got with another wman within weeks, has another baby with her. still legally married, cant find him to serve him.
6-8 months after that, i met a very wonderful guy. I wasnt looking, didnt want a man in my life, but i fell hard fast. maybe too fast. 4 months after we started seeing each other, he decides he doesnt want a relationship. we can be friends. i tried to go along with that, but I was lost. LOL. we lasted about 3 yrs. on again off again. now we are just great friends. his feelings werent the same as mine and i came to accept that.
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| What caused your last serious relationship to end?
Posted: 12/12/2008 10:08:49 PM | well, I keep getting told the same thing...I love you, I say and She Says "I Love you more than you will ever know" then 3 days later another friend of mine visits lets herself in and shes dead on the floor.
Then the next friend I spend time with starts saying bye the same way...wierd.
morgan | |
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| What caused your last serious relationship to end?
Posted: 12/13/2008 8:43:22 AM | Ended March of this year. Ten month relationship. I really enjoyed the time I spent with her and she will always have a special place in my heart.
I don't play the blame game and say that she did this and that because she did not. I can only take responsibility for my part, which was I did not continue dating her when I should have. I made the mistake of becoming too comfortable in the relationship in thinking that I didn't have to date her anymore once we were boyfriend/girlfriend. I was under the false impression that once a girl tells you repeatedly that they love you for months on end that you don't have to play the attraction dating game anymore. I was wrong! My best advice for ALL men is to ALWAYS continue to do what worked early in the relationship that attracted her to you to begin with. NEVER ever ever get comfortable. Oh yes, and another important aspect that I learned about relationships, (which I knew in theroy but not practice) is to ALWAYS make friends outside of the relationship (not screw buddy friends) but real friends both men and women so you have a life outside of the relationship. This is very important for men, because if you do not have hardly any friends or any at all that live close by you will find yourself going out to the movies alone, doing everything alone, and your social life will tank in the process. If I would have had a time machine, I would have gone back to summer of 2007 continued dating her (not just taking out to dinner and movies) and not getting comfortable in the relationship.
I could become defensive and blame some things on her, but then that would not be taking responsibility for my own actions. | |
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hzle
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Joined: 11/28/2008
Msg: 121 | |
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| What caused your last serious relationship to end?
Posted: 12/16/2008 3:21:00 PM | In 2003 my last serious relationship with a gentlemen that was so awesome, but God decided he needed him more than me. We dated for 8 months and he passed away on 12/19/2003....Our favorite song to dance to was "Empty Glass" by Gary Stewart, who died on the same day....GO FIGURE!!!
In April of this year, I tried again getting into a LTR, and well got the big ole shaft!! I was dating a guy (not a gentlemen) in Cleburne, Tx...I would drive up there every 2 weeks (spend the weekend) from Houston area. We had gotten serious and we both were saying those 3 words....then 5 months later, on a Sunday, outta the blue, I received a Break-up Text, ya a Text...and just the night before on the phone he told me "I love you so much, and care about you so much"....
Well to get down to it the real reason....he was seeing another woman in Ft Worth same time he was seeing me, evidently she saw us out-n-about...there were no signs whatsoever... I was blindsided....
But I won't give up looking for the right gentlemen....I look at the positive side, it just wasn't meant to be.....I know he's out there....somewhere...!!  | |
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| What caused your last serious relationship to end?
Posted: 12/25/2008 8:25:27 AM | Technically there isn't a real date that our relationship ended - all forms of comminication just stopped. All I know is it was sometime after my birthday (Dec. 4) and before now.
I've known this guy for about 8 year, but over the years we lost contact. I'd see him now and again when I was out with friends. We started talking again and I asked him to a Halloween party the week before Halloween, where we decided to give "us" a go. The following week we went to his friend's party, where I found out that he had talked to his friend saying he thought I was the one, blah blah blah. Things were good for about 2-3 weeks. I knew he worked long hours. After we didn't talk for about a week, I talked to him about my feelings and thought things were better. We went out for my birthday but he basically ignored me while his friends were there. Again I talked to him a day or two later about how I felt. I didn't hear from him for another few days and when he finally texted me to say it was snowing in his town (only 30 minutes from me), I didn't reply back. A few days later he texted saying he was going out for a few beers but I texted him saying I was out with a friend and her nephews seeing Santa. So basically that was the last communication we had.
Sorry to me when you are in a relationship. you find time to text/call the other person, even if it is a quick "Hi! Hope things are going well!!" You might say one thing, but actions do speak louder than words!! | |
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| What caused your last serious relationship to end?
Posted: 12/29/2008 5:31:08 PM | | I'm another one you can chalk up to alcoholism. Over 4 years of hearing how bad he wanted to quit, only to end up drinking 24/7 again within a few months. He is what is referred to as a "functioning alcoholic." Kept a high paying job the whole time. However, the personality change was frustrating. I finallly got tired of it and know I deserve better. I just hope for his sake that he can get a handle on it. It killed his mom when she was 43. | |
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| What caused your last serious relationship to end?
Posted: 1/3/2009 9:58:09 PM | We were friends for 30 years. I moved away, came back, hunted him down. For two years, we had a casual relationship. Then, I put the ball in his court, and he took it, in spite of all his personal issues. (His ex-wife, his kids, his drug habit, and later, his drinking, and then it was, "I can't love anyone right now...I'm not ready" BS.)
But, we were friends before the relationship, and I wanted to respect that. I tried hard to make it work, in spite of everything. Then, one night after he had already left and came back several times (and I forgave and forgot everything every time) I kicked him out when he took this lying b*****'s side over mine who was TRYING to break us up. He moved in with the girl next door, and she commenced to rubbing it in my face.
Why can't people just all get along? All the guys I've ever been with have become my friend AFTER the relationship. I get along with all of them. But this one is bad. And he was the BEST friend I had BEFORE the relationship. He's still being mean and spiteful and vengeful toward me...and I am afraid to talk to him or have anything to do with him because every time he does mean and spiteful things, it really hurts, because I want the friendship back, and he has disrespected 30 years of it by how he is acting now.
Then, I find out (it's funny how people talk AFTER the relationship is over) he not only IS disrespecting the friendship, but he disrespected the relationship while we were together, with other women. How stupid can I be?
But, even after all that...ALL I want is the friendship back. We were great as just friends. I feel as if the old him has died, and the guy he is now I don't even know. | |
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