Oriole
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Joined: 6/30/2007
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| Whats with women that invite their dogs into the bedroom to sleep?
Posted: 10/22/2008 3:34:22 PM |
People who force others who are spending the night to sleep with an animal - no one should do that, especially pet owners. Why would you want to force your pet on someone, give them a chance to decide if they are comfortable with that and go from there.
Well again, no one is forcing the boyfriend to spend the night. It's not like you have out-of-town guests for a funeral and you say "by the way, I converted the guest room into an aviary, so don't mind the bird crap on the duvet." Though even that wouldn't be forcing people to share a room with your pets, they can just go to a hotel. If the boyfriend is choosing to spend the night and the dog normally sleeps on the bed, then the boyfriend is choosing to spend the night in the dog's bed. Nobody's forcing him. If he doesn't want to sleep in the dog's bed, he can find a different bed. | |
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| Whats with women that invite their dogs into the bedroom to sleep?
Posted: 10/22/2008 4:40:42 PM | | I always explain to people that are interested in me that my dog is very important to me and I only date people who are animal lovers. I also tell them my dog and cat sleep with me in my king size bed. My dog is clean and does not have fleas and does not bother anyone. She sleeps under the covers at the bottom of the bed. You see some people have a strong bond with their pet which is not bad and not strange. If their pet gives them love, joy and comfort why not spoil them and enjoy them. After all they don't have a long life span. When I go to other peoples houses and their dog jumps on me and licks my face i pet and play with the dog and let him or her give me affection. I don't all grossed out. Not everyone is like that and thats fine but I would not want to live with be in a relationship with someone who is grossed out by pets or affection or letting a dog sleep in the bed. They would deffinetly not be my type. Just like those who are grossed out would not date someone like me. No problem. I will say I have found the people who are not uptight about animals are nicer, more easy going, friendlier, compassionate people. Not saying people who don't like animals are bad. But just sharing my own experiences. | |
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Oriole
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Joined: 6/30/2007
Msg: 629 | |
| Whats with women that invite their dogs into the bedroom to sleep?
Posted: 10/22/2008 6:23:16 PM |
When I go to other peoples houses and their dog jumps on me and licks my face i pet and play with the dog and let him or her give me affection.
I don't tolerate dogs jumping on me, mine or other people's, it's a dominant behaviour that I find totally unacceptable. I don't think I'd date someone whose dog behaved like that. It's not a sign of responsible dog ownership in my opinion. (Luckily I find those dogs usually leave me alone if I bare my teeth and growl at them.) | |
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| Whats with women that invite their dogs into the bedroom to sleep?
Posted: 10/23/2008 2:10:58 AM | | as a dog owner i allow both my dogs, rottie and a boxer to sleep with me, when i have an overnight guest they must sleep on the floor. the dogs are not permitted to jump up on visitors and when the visitors encourage that activity in my dog i explain the reasoning behind it. one thing i am unable to control in my pets in the nose in the crotch. the dogs are my protectors and have the run of the house, but i am the mistress! | |
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| Whats with women that invite their dogs into the bedroom to sleep?
Posted: 10/23/2008 4:36:14 AM | | My tiny dog who is smaller than my cat will come up to certain people she knows and can sense they like her. She does not go to people that she senses that they are not animal friendly. When I go to other peoples houses and they have a dog that comes up to me and is friendly and wants attention I give it to them. I see nothing wrong with an animal being friendly and greeting those that they know like them. They are very smart and can sense who to approach. I could never push a dog away that wanted to show affection. if that makes me a bad person so be it. To each their own. | |
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| Whats with women that invite their dogs into the bedroom to sleep?
Posted: 10/23/2008 5:11:56 PM | Why do some people feel so threatened by the connection between pets and their owners?
Grown ups can understand, hell even I understand!
That pet was there before you! That pet will be there after you!
That pet has been there through everything that the owner has had to deal with! At times being their only companion!
That pet has never beed judgementle, rude, or nasty when the owner is up set or in a bad mood! They are just like family members!
Maybe it's self esteem, maybe it's some other type of complex. But it makes no sense to me that unless one has an alergy that this should be such a huge deal! | |
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| Whats with women that invite their dogs into the bedroom to sleep?
Posted: 10/24/2008 2:58:25 PM | | Yes Sexy she did hit the nail on the head. Thats what I have been trying to say. I know people who want no part of animals/pets. Its their choice and my choice is to have animals. Some people are meticulous about their homes clothes hands etc. I am not nor have I ever been a fuss pot. I don't care if I get dirty or get dog paws on my clothes. I was in my yard today doing lawn work and moving lots of things that were dirty and didn't wear gloves. I can wear them but I don't feel the need too. I have never had hangups about that stuff. When I come in I clean up and do not die cause I got dirty lol. When a dog kisses me in the mouth I do not get sick. But I know those that are dirt and germ a phobic, and would never let a dog kiss them yet they are sick all the time. So go figure. I would rather enjoy life then be afraid of everything including animals. | |
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Oriole
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Joined: 6/30/2007
Msg: 638 | |
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| Whats with women that invite their dogs into the bedroom to sleep?
Posted: 10/24/2008 5:17:49 PM | | I love being kissed by a man. Kissing is very important to me. If he is not a good kisser its a deal breaker. I don't make out with my dog I let her kiss me on the lips/face. Showing affection to a pet is not the same as making out with your boyfriend. | |
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Oriole
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Joined: 6/30/2007
Msg: 641 | |
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| Whats with women that invite their dogs into the bedroom to sleep?
Posted: 10/24/2008 7:30:51 PM | I don't think there is any problem with a dog sleeping in the bed with his/her owner, as long as the owner is claiming ownership of the bed. Meaning this: the dog comes to bed when allowed. The dog has to leave the bed when told to leave. The dog CAN sleep when not in the bed. The dog isn't territorial to the bed, or even overprotective of the owner. (Why do we need our dogs to be overprotective to us and our houses btw? Shouldn't we be able to do that ourselves just fine, unless we have some kind of dissablity?)
However, if an owner is going to let a dogs overprotectiveness of the bed and his/her owner get in the way of a relationship with someone, then I must say, the owner has issues. You're screwing up with you're relationship by doing this, and you're validating the fact that the dog is taking control of not only your bed, but you're house. I would say more dog owners are like this, than not too, which is sad, but true.
Also, just remember, dogs are not people! They are dogs and we should be treating them the way they want to be treated. As dogs! I could get into so much detail about this, b/c it's my area of expertise, but I wont, unless someone would like to chat about that more.
People really need to place their priorities in order. | |
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Oriole
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Joined: 6/30/2007
Msg: 644 | |
| Whats with women that invite their dogs into the bedroom to sleep?
Posted: 10/24/2008 9:15:28 PM |
However, if an owner is going to let a dogs overprotectiveness of the bed and his/her owner get in the way of a relationship with someone, then I must say, the owner has issues. You're screwing up with you're relationship by doing this, and you're validating the fact that the dog is taking control of not only your bed, but you're house.
I think the bigger problem with that isn't that it's screwing up your relationship, because that's the choice you're making. The problem is that it's screwing up your dog and his relationships with all the creatures in his world. Dogs need to know their place in the pack and they can't be the leader in a human world. It's not fair to them. | |
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| Whats with women that invite their dogs into the bedroom to sleep?
Posted: 10/26/2008 7:37:46 AM | | Exactly lucky I did get a bigger bed but my dog only weights 5 pounds. She is very queit and stays in one place and sleeps. She does not run around or scratch or fuss. She is the perfect bed buddy when you sleep alone. When i was married one of the only things that I was attracted to my ex was his love of animals. Both of us adored our pets. They were children to us. The has a small dog now and lives alone with his dog. Better to have a pet then no one or nothing. At least a pet is loving all the time not just when their in the mood. So when and if I meet the right guy he has to accept my pets and be a pet lover. Not just tolerate them. I would have noahs ark if I could. I truley could be Jane of the jungle, so hence I am looking for my tarzan who will love animals like I do. | |
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| Whats with women that invite their dogs into the bedroom to sleep?
Posted: 10/26/2008 8:26:31 AM |
I guess to each their own. When I have a girlfriend, I want to sleep with her, not her 4 legged friend. Is that just me or is this a common thing?
I have cats so it's not quite the same as a 100lb dog, but I think the same reasoning applies. The dog lives there, you are just a guest. If you demand either it's him/them or me, you most likely will be sleeping alone. | |
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Layken
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Joined: 1/8/2006
Msg: 648 | |
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lisshe
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Joined: 1/10/2006
Msg: 649 | |
| Whats with women that invite their dogs into the bedroom to sleep?
Posted: 10/28/2008 2:53:06 PM | | If the person is staying over for the first time, he should not be given the ultimatum of "sleep with me and my 100 lb dog or leave". My dog is the light of my life, but, he is STILL A DOG. He has a bed downstairs as well. I do not keep my dog in the room when I have been in a relationship unless the person I am with is comfortable with that, and then the dog sleeps on the floor, not the bed. Just because someone loves pets, does not necessarily mean they want to sleep in the same bed as they do. By the way, it is MY BED, not his and I choose when and if he sleeps on the bed or not. It should never be up to the pet, otherwise, you are no longer the alpha, and with a 100 lb dog, I can't let him do that, ever. | |
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lisshe
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Joined: 1/10/2006
Msg: 650 | |
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