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I guess I should say I never respond to profiles where the guy has to put one of his pals in a pic with him because I know he plays a larger than appropriate role in your life.
...we will be more than ok.
Me? I have that pic up because I am lazy...it is the only picture of myself I have, and I never bothered getting more taken because it was / has been / is working just fine...and you just confirmed that.... | |
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deegal
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| Ohmigawd....
Posted: 8/8/2007 7:57:03 AM | | sorry but I have to agree with some comments here about dogs some people treat their pets as a substitute for children,those that have had children and the kids have grown up and moved on and still want to do the mothering thing and those that dont have kids and use the dog as a substitue for kids, nothing wrong with loving your pets but treat them like the animals that they are as so many people give them health problems with the overlying love that they give them, and i am talking form experience dated a guy who didnt seem to know the difference tho he was one of the sweetest people I have ever met, he didnt have any kids and by the way I love dogs. | |
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| Whats with women that invite their dogs into the bedroom to sleep?
Posted: 8/8/2007 8:01:42 AM | | I went out with this one woman who lived with a cat and dog. The dog used to sleep in the bed with her when I was not there. However when I slept over the dog used to sleep on the floor beside me and it almost felt like the dog was jealous of me because it was always staring at me! Creepy! | |
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| Whats with women that invite their dogs into the bedroom to sleep?
Posted: 8/8/2007 8:26:32 AM | not that it really matters, as those who believe it's fine to have their dogs in bed w/ them will continue to do so, but...
there's a show on HGTV called "At The End Of My Leash" , and the trainer just said that dogs should never sleep on the bed, as it gives them a false sense of who's really in control of things. there's some testimonials on the web site:
http://www.endofmyleash.com/
myself, not a dog person, but I know many many locals that are. I do have a cat, but she doesn't sleep in the bedrooms, either.
and having a dog looking @ you or trying to get on the bed when you're having sex is just plain wrong on soooooooo many levels. | |
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| Whats with women that invite their dogs into the bedroom to sleep?
Posted: 8/8/2007 9:01:23 AM | Don't know about dogs but my cats have always had the run of the flats I've lived in & since cats will always find the comfiest spot to get a bit of kip they spend a lot of time on the bed. Sometimes they can intrude but they tend to bugger off when things get heated anyway so it's not a problem to me. I can understand why dog owners want someone who likes dogs - if you think their pet is somehow disgusting then that'll carry over to them to some degree. Having said that it does make my skin crawl a bit when I see people kissing dogs on the mouth - dogs drink out the toilet & lick their balls for gods sake.
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However when I slept over the dog used to sleep on the floor beside me and it almost felt like the dog was jealous of me because it was always staring at me! Creepy!
Of course the dog's jealous - you've nicked it's comfy spot & it's sleeping on the floor instead. However, it's a dog & as such has limited intelligence. If you let the dog's jealousy affect you it doesn't say a great deal for your intelligence. I once went out with someone who developed a sort of rivalry with my cat which I found creepy & unhealthy. The cat was jealous of the attention I paid my girlfriend, but then again she's a cat - she & my tom cat fight over which one of them sits on me - & the fact that my girlfriend responded to that freaked me out cos, well, she should've known better. Needless to say she's long since an ex. | |
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| Whats with women that invite their dogs into the bedroom to sleep?
Posted: 8/8/2007 9:21:34 AM | OK, first off, I am not talking about any kinky stuff, just plain old dogs sleeping on the bedroom floor, or even on the bed.
I seem to have met several women lately that state "you must like dogs" in their adds. Well, I do like dogs and have dogs. They are dogs in my book. These women get upset with me because I tell them I can not sleep with them and their dog in the same bed. Now I am not talking about itsi bittsy 10 pound dogs here, but full size 100 plus pound size dogs.
I guess to each their own. When I have a girlfriend, I want to sleep with her, not her 4 legged friend. Is that just me or is this a common thing?
Just wondering.
Leaving after sex is better; this is why we have our own apartments. If you sleep at home in your own bed, it won't bother you as much. That's how things are at other people's houses. At your house, do things the way you want to. Better yet, have her come to your place. Problem solved. | |
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| Whats with women that invite their dogs into the bedroom to sleep?
Posted: 8/8/2007 9:26:40 AM |
There are animal people and there are non-animal people, as is patently obvious by the answers to this thread.
The latter are not to be trusted, and cross-association usually only leads to trouble.
LOL: ) where does that statement come from "doctor" ?
there are also 'people' people, and 'non-people' people (who love animals or their pets more than they love people).
to me, the latter are not to be trusted.. | |
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| Whats with women that invite their dogs into the bedroom to sleep?
Posted: 8/8/2007 9:39:03 AM |
I have this strong view about people who "get" dogs and people who don't. The ones who "get" them learn a lot about life from them...dogs know how to enjoy the simple things in life, because it really is the simple things that are important, not the silly things us humans can get caught up in. I think the ones who can't establish a connection with dogs are missing out and not capable of understanding what it is that I am talking about. On the flip side, I do see a lot of people who don't establish healthy relationships with animals... .
ahhaha..yes, it is such a bad thing to not establish healthy relationships with animals..probably more important than establishing healthy relationships with humans?
don't you think that people learn a lot about life from their children, rahter than from child-substitutes, as well?
funny how extreme some people get; if you don't want to sleep with a dog and maybe have it witness your sex life, you are all of a sudden an "animal-hater"????? | |
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| Whats with women that invite their dogs into the bedroom to sleep?
Posted: 8/8/2007 9:42:46 AM | I love animals as much as the next person, but they should never take precedent over your lover/partner. When you are in a relationship, and you choose to have your animals sleep on the bed with you and your partner, you are using your animals to limit intimacy. How does this help develop a romantic relationship with your partner?
For the many that allow their animals to sleep on their beds they are saying through this action that romance and intimacy with the opposite sex is less important than what ever they are getting from their animals. That is sad and to me it is a "red flag" that shouts I am not open to an intimate relationship with a human being. Why would anyone want to put a roadblock in the way of finding that special person that they can live the rest of their lives with? You can avoid this turn off by simply training your animals to sleep on the floor next to your bed. Isn't this the healthier choice anyway if your true goal is to find a partner? | |
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| Whats with women that invite their dogs into the bedroom to sleep?
Posted: 8/8/2007 9:47:15 AM | why some guys don't like this animal-love??
because some people form a stronger "relationship" with animals than they can with humans; they don't "trust" humans basically, or project mother-love onto animals instead of children.
people who "talk" to, have *LONG* " conversations" with their pets? I'm pretty sure that animals don't understand or comprehend English!!!!!, ..or other human languages..
I've seen women bundle their small dogs up in swaddling cloths as if it were a baby and carry it at their breast, cooing. at them, "burping" them.......
even "dress" their lil' doggie in children's clothes or human clothes.. this is NOT "cute" to me..strikes me as a bit sick or obsessed!
kiss their dogs on the mouth, maybe a little tongue-contact, etc.? maybe lick their fur for the spots the doggie can't reach on its own?
................I *hope*!! they don't also breast-feed it!!!!!!!!!! | |
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| Whats with women that invite their dogs into the bedroom to sleep?
Posted: 8/8/2007 10:09:41 AM | I'm pretty sure that animals don't understand or comprehend English!!!!!, ..or other human languages..
Animals don't understand English, but one funny thing is that cats don't meow to each other, only to us. They use body language & those funny breeping sounds with each other. Animals do understand tone of voice & certain sounds however - I've known a few dogs that get excited at the word "walk" & I could swear my cats know what "fish" means, the greedy little sods
Most pet owners talk to their animals to some degree, it's not just nutters who do that. Anyone having a lengthy, in-depth conversation with their pet probably does have a few issues, however.
As for emotional attachment to animals, ever had any pets? Because if you haven't, you're really not qualified to comment.
Re: msg 84 - do you know anything about animal psychology? Most of the pet owners I know got books on the psychology of the animal they own, so perhaps pet owners really do understand their animals better than those who don't own pets. | |
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| Whats with women that invite their dogs into the bedroom to sleep?
Posted: 8/8/2007 10:32:13 AM | LOL:) yes dogs are "loyal" to you., maybe because you feed them and shelter them and they are dependent on you, perhaps??
children up to at least the age of 10 or so are almost invariably "loyal" to their parents, as well..
'unconditional love' maybe because they" love" always getting that doggie food or porkchop & water from you every time they feel a lil bit hungry? | |
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| Whats with women that invite their dogs into the bedroom to sleep?
Posted: 8/8/2007 10:36:06 AM | Well I guess it is a common thing. My animals have almost always slept with me, just like my kid for that matter. Well she doesn't sleep with me anymore, she's 25, LOL. But she still will crawl into my bed for a nap during the many many times.
Max my White Shepherd spends part of the night on the floor and the rest of it with me on the bed. When my boyfriend stays, it is not uncommon to see first my head on the pillow, followed by my boyfriend then my dog. My boyfriend has no problem, he loves me, my daughter and the four legged's
Nothing kinky here..... we're just all enjoying a good nights sleep, well except when the dog farts.
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| Whats with women that invite their dogs into the bedroom to sleep?
Posted: 8/8/2007 10:48:45 AM | Regarding the OP,
I completely understand your POV. My dog and I just kind of happened. He wasn't planned, I got him as a puppy, and when he jumped into the bed that first time with that soft puppy fur, we cuddled. Perhaps he was a sustitute for human affection, but he was also a replacement for abuse.
It is actually really nice in the winter, except when he snores.
If/when I find Mr. Wonderful, I am sure a few things will have to change. But in the meantime, I don't mind waking up and finding that he is using my ankle as a pillow.
If I were a man, I don't think I would want to put up with "us" either.
He now weighs around 115 lbs.
One of my best friends and I joke about my relationship with my dog all of the time. He likes dogs and likes my big, goofy dog, too. We met over eleven years ago. He got married and divorced and custody of his children. I had a few botched relationships and wound up with a dog.
You would have to understand our mutually warped senses of humor, but we joke often about if we were to have sex how he feels about the dog participating, because it is his bed, too. Personally, I think he is homophobic, so if I get a female dog then maybe it will be okay.
Okay, I have just begun to reveal what a sick, demented person I really am!
Don't take anything I say too seriously, because I am not all that serious.
Seriously, though, my 120lb. lap dog does share my bed with me, and it is a relationship killer! | |
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| Whats with women that invite their dogs into the bedroom to sleep?
Posted: 8/8/2007 11:01:26 AM | My Lady told me when we 1st started dating, Love me, Love my dog"!!!!!!!! I like dogs & cats, but not in the bed!!!!!!!!!!!!!! She considers it her "perpetual baby" She never had kids, so.....dog is her Baby!!!!!!! Not working for me........It's a Chihuahua too! They bark at everything!!!!!!! NOT working for me!!!!!!!!!!
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| Whats with women that invite their dogs into the bedroom to sleep?
Posted: 8/8/2007 11:20:05 AM | My question:
How do these "relationships" where people have such different opinions of what a pet owner should and shouldn't do even get far enough where a dog (or cat or whatever) sleeping on the bed is an issue? Are we this lonely? Apparently it's a mis-match, not a soulmate. Date someone who believes in living the same as you do, or keep separate residences and do sleepovers in the most convenient place so stupid crap like this won't even come up. If you plan on moving in and marrying someone, pick someone who fits. Duh.
People are supposed to accept each other as is or move on. No one should have to change stuff like this for someone else - being involved just isn't this critical. JMO | |
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| Whats with women that invite their dogs into the bedroom to sleep?
Posted: 8/8/2007 11:43:31 AM | there's a show on HGTV called "At The End Of My Leash" , and the trainer just said that dogs should never sleep on the bed, as it gives them a false sense of who's really in control of things. there's some testimonials on the web site:
...is EXACTLY the point my vet friends was / is making.
There is nothing wrong with loving dogs. The problem is when you "love" them in a way that isn't healthy FOR THEM. They are DOGS. Not people, friends, or anything else in the way of HUMAN roles.
Of course, many people will vehemently disagree...which is fine...it is better that they identify themselves... | |
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| Whats with women that invite their dogs into the bedroom to sleep?
Posted: 8/8/2007 12:05:41 PM | gogobearto,
I am a first time dog owner, which just kind of happened. He has been with me for about two years now. We have gone to Obedience School and I have done bunches of reading. I found out too late about the bed thing.
Perhaps because it is just the two of us, it is working out just fine. It isn't unhealthy for him. The vet says he is healthier than 99% of the dogs he sees.
Having a dog that will not let you out of his sight is a pretty big relationship killer, though.
Sometimes my dog is a Big Dummy. Rottweilers are known for their strong wills and I have made some mistakes along the way.
Peanut Butter is his Kryptonite. | |
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| Which I believe...
Posted: 8/8/2007 12:51:54 PM | | sure...you can learn a lot from a child, AND you can learn a lot from a dog...I am amazed by how many people on here are negatively judging people because of the relationship they have with their dog. These people do have relationships with people...at least I can speak for myself. The one thing I do know...I never met a dog I didn't like...I wish I could say the same for people | |
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| Whats with women that invite their dogs into the bedroom to sleep?
Posted: 8/8/2007 12:56:19 PM | My dog sleeps with me. He's all of 20 pounds and a non-shedding Bichon who is a lot cleaner than some people's kids. If, by some miracle, I have an overnight guest, Jake sleeps in his crate. He doesn't make any noise; doesn't bark, whine or make any noise that will distract either of us.
That being said...he makes a great bed partner. He doesn't take up a lot of room, doesn't snore too loud, doesn't poot in the bed and typically doesn't have to lay right up against me. | |
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