| Why are guys scared of smart girls?
Posted: 8/9/2007 9:46:59 PM | A intelligent woman is great! I personally have no issue with a woman who is very smart or smarter then me. What I think is a turn off to some men as well as myself is the attitude behind the intelligence. If a woman is intelligent and struts her stuff with a attitude that "I'm all that and more" then it's a fast turn off.
Do you like a guy who looks in the mirror for example and thinks hes Gods gift to women? Looks at his muscles in the the mirror and thinks to himself "mount everist has nothing on these biceps baby" Wait I don't have that issue here, mine are like speed bumps but anyway. 
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| Why are guys scared of smart girls?
Posted: 8/9/2007 11:11:18 PM | ok, the point of this was to know why guys freak out over "man topics", not to bash me and/or my girlfriends that have had this experience. I picked cars and automotives just because it happened about a month ago; it's also been about football, computers, sex, drugs, and rock n roll. You get the idea.
I give up... i only wanted to know why, not that I'm a ****, because i already freaking know that.
To those that expressed an opinion that can (and has) helped, thank you. | |
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| Why are guys scared of smart girls?
Posted: 8/10/2007 1:53:03 AM | I take it the ones you liked were the only ones that helped? I'm surprised you were even in here asking us our opinions seeing as you already know everything. Obviously you're an authority on all subjects male... the one subject that is obviously lacking is men themselves. If you make your future conversations involve them a bit more than yourself you might get a bit farther. We ALL like an opportunity to shine.
Men enjoy the self confident, and revile the self absorbed.
Eno. | |
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| Why are guys scared of smart girls?
Posted: 8/10/2007 3:46:33 AM | | I consider myelf a smart female...and the only thing I know about cars is: when the gas guage gets close to empty, I know I need to stop and fill it up. There are just somethings that I don't care to know. I have a membership for roadside assistance if I need it...I have no interest a vehicle, except that it gets me from point A to point B. That being said, I am considered very intelligent in my career area and in being able to fix alot of things around my home....but I also know when to ask for help. I think everyone has their area of knowledge and skill...it only becomes a problem when it is perhaps flaunted... | |
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| Why are guys scared of smart girls?
Posted: 8/10/2007 5:23:15 AM | I have experienced 2 scenarios:
1) The other person sees you as a smart alec. But if a date does, then IME, your family and friends also think so too, and don't hesitate to tell you at every opportunity. So if they are OK with you, it is doubtful that this is a problem.
2) The other person wants to feel like you need them, and want a typical "man-woman" relationship. A lot of traditional men like girly-girls, and are intimidated by a woman who knows about "man's stuff". I've met quite a few tomboys, who found it hard to find a man to take them seriously, because all they want is a girly-girl.
The simple solutions are:
1) Make sure to find things to talk about that the guy knows about where you can show your lack of knowledge, so you two can feel as equals. You know about some things, and he knows about other things.
2) Make sure to date confident, intelligent men. These are men who can do "girly-things", like cooking, cleaning and sewing, just as much as cars and sports. I love smart women, because I was brought up by one. My mother taught me about basic car maintenance, and my father showed me that men can cook and sew. I still remember his ratatouille!
P.S. If you know women like yourself, who live in the UK, let me know! I love women like yourself. | |
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| Why are guys scared of smart girls?
Posted: 8/10/2007 8:06:59 AM | Fear of smart? No, not at all. However, if you're like my ex who is NEVER wrong, well then yeah, I'd have a problem with that. I'm the first to admit that I may be wrong on many things - except for those I'm passionate about. But isn't that everyone? If you're passionate about something like automobiles and more specifically Camaros, then doesn't it seem that you'd know more about Camaros than someone who just happens to like cars?
People who refuse to admit they're wrong bug me. I can't stand them. BUT intelligent women? Oh h e l l yeah! A major turn-on for sure. | |
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| Why are guys scared of smart girls?
Posted: 8/10/2007 11:03:13 AM | | I don't know, maybe at 30, people kinda slow down at getting their drink on. No problems with the whole car thing though, I think it's great that you know the differences between oil, filters etc. Kudos on being the crew captain as well!!! Great to have political opinions as well! I'd rather discuss something like that, and what's going on in the world or our province, than your newest nail poilsh. | |
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| Why are guys scared of smart girls?
Posted: 8/10/2007 11:18:48 AM | Seriously guys, why are the vast majority of guys seeking a girl who is smart, worldly, etc. scared of us girls that are smarter than a lamp post?
Being smart doesn't make up for a lack of physical attraction. | |
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| Why are guys scared of smart girls?
Posted: 8/10/2007 11:25:32 AM | Well, I happen to know there are guys who like smart women. But for the ones who want the dumb girls? Here are a few of my ideas:
Because we don't blindly believe everything they say? Because we have minds of our own and aren't afraid to use them? Because we listen to our intuition and pay attention to red flags when they are waving in our faces? Because they like us to believe that they know everything there is to know about everything, especially when they don't know what they are talking about? LOL! That oughta get you started. | |
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| Why are guys scared of smart girls?
Posted: 8/10/2007 11:09:31 PM | This is what I'm talking about!
Because we don't blindly believe everything they say? Because we have minds of our own and aren't afraid to use them? Because we listen to our intuition and pay attention to red flags when they are waving in our faces? Because they like us to believe that they know everything there is to know about everything, especially when they don't know what they are talking about? LOL! That oughta get you started. beachchick, you are BANG on the money!!! Thankfully, I have a family that raised me to think for myself, by myself, and to develop my own thoughts and opinions, and yes, red flags get the phones ringing to someone who'll back me in the event I need to bail. I am not very articulate in the 'puter, but you took the words out of my mouth. you are my new heroine! I hope to meet you one day! And for the record, my guy friends have started "de-agressing" my attitude. Road trip here I come!  | |
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| Why are guys scared of smart girls?
Posted: 8/10/2007 11:54:08 PM | | Oh boy, the same things keep coming up here...Most likely all those guys are simply small, insecure men inside, god forbid somebody could be better than me, let alone a woman...it's just so childish, that's all I can say...if that's the vibe you're getting, move on. If you find someone who's not threatened by your assertiveness in "male" areas, you'll know you've found your guy! | |
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| Why are guys scared of smart girls?
Posted: 8/11/2007 3:14:31 AM | | Less intelligent PEOPLE are usually intimidated by more intelligent PEOPLE. I prefer the company of an intelligent woman, especially one that is intelligent in an area of expertise we both share. I am turned off by men or women who don't have the tact to SHARE information and knowledge but instead assume a position of superiority because of what they know or how smart they are. Arrogance isn't gender specific. | |
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| Why are guys scared of smart girls?
Posted: 8/11/2007 4:00:31 AM | | Not all men are scared of smart women. It usally is the attitude a woman shows on the first date or two that can turn a man away. Maybe you came across as an independant woman that did not need a man for things "he" (not all of us) was use to doing for women. So the men you were out with felt intimedated by you. Pesonally I like an independant woman (not the sissy types ) that knows about her vechicle and can hop out and change her own tire and is not out on the side of the road crying . | |
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| Why are guys scared of smart girls?
Posted: 8/11/2007 2:42:15 PM | | to be honest what you put did not scream to me smart it scream avg mechanic guy you would probably not be suprised at how many of them can talk politics. Neither of these things scream smart. And if you hang out with most mechanic type guys they tend to want more fem girls so when you act all macho its like this is not gonna work. | |
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| Why are guys scared of smart girls?
Posted: 8/11/2007 2:58:46 PM | Because we don't blindly believe everything they say? Because we have minds of our own and aren't afraid to use them? Because we listen to our intuition and pay attention to red flags when they are waving in our faces? Because they like us to believe that they know everything there is to know about everything, especially when they don't know what they are talking about? LOL! That oughta get you started.
beachchick, you are BANG on the money!!! Thankfully, I have a family that raised me to think for myself, by myself, and to develop my own thoughts and opinions, and yes, red flags get the phones ringing to someone who'll back me in the event I need to bail.
I am not very articulate in the 'puter, but you took the words out of my mouth. you are my new heroine! I hope to meet you one day!
Umm. That's not guys being afraid of smart girls. That's girls being afraid of guys. 
So confused.
And if being afraid of a woman who's overly paranoid and cautious with men is a fault, I'm guilty.
The rebuttal to this is "We should be paranoid!" and maybe you're right. But it's not exactly flattering to be treated like a potential criminal, and that will scare the non-criminals off. | |
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| Why are guys scared of smart girls?
Posted: 8/11/2007 4:16:22 PM | | I think it is because you are spending your time trying to be a blue collar man instead of a lady of class and virtue. I do not know very many men who find a woman who can down a beer in 23 seconds ladylike or attractive. It has nothing to do with your smarts or your job. The vibe you give off is that you are uber-competitive and you're too much like one of the guys. That is what is putting them off. They aren't looking for a buddy with a vagina-- they are looking for a lady. | |
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| Why are guys scared of smart girls?
Posted: 8/11/2007 7:53:04 PM | ^^^You'd be surprised, I've heard guys say that's exactly what they are looking for in a woman. 
Mind you, this isn't a majority, but they are out there. | |
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| Why are guys scared of smart girls?
Posted: 8/11/2007 9:18:45 PM | There is a saying that the more knowledge you have, the less wise you are. And there are two ways for a brilliant person to relate to others, blind them with that brilliance, or enlighten them. What use is knowledge if you can't share it with others in a way they accept and understand? I use stories, rather than long words when someone doesn't understand something that I do. It's more interesting and less threatening. It sounds like your date was trying to share knowledge with you in return by mentioning tire pressure, next time, why not say "have you ever tried to ride a bike with a flat tire?" Start a discussion about friction and speed, if you ask them the right questions they will realize for themselves that it makes sense when all four wheels are under power that each should have the same pressure and equal friction on the road. Discuss, don't tell, Don't give a lecture, tell a story that illustrates the point.  | |
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| Why are guys scared of smart girls?
Posted: 8/11/2007 9:51:07 PM | Way back when I was, ahem, less mature than I am now, I noticed that most men were intimidated by women who were obviously intelligent and avoided them. So I said to myself, hmm, all the handsome jocks are over there competing for the girls smart enough not to act that way, so I'll just go over here and have all the obviously smart ladies all to myself. As they say in the Guinness ads, "Brilliant!"
I suppose I had in mind to be the male version of what is now called a "trophy wife" but it never quite worked out. My souffle kept falling at the wrong time, I never looked good in tennis shorts and my golf handicap was too high. I found out I had to be really smart to keep a smart lady entertained. Still practicing! | |
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| Why are guys scared of smart girls?
Posted: 8/11/2007 10:21:17 PM | I was at a party once drinking (duh), and was carrying on an idle conversation with a girl, and someone made the comment about a political country, or some policy, cant remember what ignited it; but the point is this girl just erupted and started to carry on and on about her "opinion" of what she thought was right and wrong.
Now, dont get me wrong, there's absolutely nothing wrong with this save one. When getting into these type of discussions, especially in a social setting, if you're not willing to listen to a different opinion, perspective or thought on the matter, and carry on you're not being "smart"; you're being biased.
I think this is relevant because I love having discussions about anything, and have no problem with being wrong. But every time i talk to a girl about a "in depth" topic, they rarely seem open to my opinion. I have no problem with someone being smarter then me, but that shouldn't invalidate my opinion or my relevance to comment on a topic.
Also, i've been in cases where girls have done the whole "well i spent 3 years in political science, so I'm smart". This is true, in the field of POL-SCI. With these people, if they try to get in my face with something like that, i'll make some obscure computer point or knowledge comment, and that usually re-enforces that just because you know something over someone else doesn't necessarily make you "better" then them as a whole.
I'd love to actually meet a girl that's open to discussion about something they know, or even dont know, just to challenge thought. | |
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| Why are guys scared of smart girls?
Posted: 8/11/2007 10:36:28 PM | Why don't we ever hear from any of these "less intelligent" women? That's because everyone thinks they are more intelligent than average. That means we all should consider that we are wrong, and half of us would be right to do so! That's point number one.
As lots of people have pointed out, knowing lots about one thing or a category of things is not the same as being smart. Some of the best philosophers probably can't change their oil and some of the best mechanics can't hold a conversation with the opposite sex without tubing a potential relationship. There are lots of to be good at. A smart person will continually try to get better at all of them that matter to them. That's point number 2.
If there is a problem between half the world (men) and one person (you) it is reasonable to consider that, although it might be the fault of half the world, it will be easier for you to check real closely in the mirror first to see if you could do a better job getting along. That's point number 3, to a poster that has tired of listening after a day or so.
Perhaps we're all wrong. | |
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| Why are guys scared of smart girls?
Posted: 8/11/2007 10:55:12 PM | | I am deathly afraid of a woman with a time machine. I really adore those small little, innocuous habits (like huge kahlua ice cream mochas) that drive your partner bonkers to distraction. A smart girl will take those out of the time-space continuum and not make a mess. At least manmade science disasters come with wonderful moments for alpha males, beta males, and, of course, faithfu sidekicks (irrespective of whether they be blokes in pixie boots, ex English military officers, and faithful pet alligators). | |
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