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| Why are guys scared of smart girls?
Posted: 8/12/2007 8:23:49 AM | Okay Albertagrrl.......... I can understand what your saying I tend to run into the same thing (being a woman myself) I was raised by my dad who was a transport driver and he had similar beliefs, you wanna see a man run for the hills try telling him about your harrowing day at work as a AZ driver and how much of a bit-- it is to back in blind side at a convention center. I no longer drive transport and really don't miss it but still what gives guys?
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| Why are guys scared of smart girls?
Posted: 8/12/2007 8:55:21 AM | The OP is gone, but I'll answer anyway...I think that when people talk about others being scared of them because they're so smart, it means one of two things...
1.) They are always talking about how smart they are, or...
2.) They really aren't that smart, but they have to shift the blame to the other person rather than take a look at themselves. | |
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| Why are guys scared of smart girls?
Posted: 8/13/2007 1:16:29 PM | ^^^
LOL
My ten cents - I work as a librarian and I am fairly bright and curious. I don't know everything... I know for sure I don't. I don't know cars, I barely understand investing, I'm terrible at math, and I'm trying rather hard to not kill myself rewiring the barnburner of a house I'm fixing up. These are just a few of the thousands of things I don't know anything about.
By the same token, I know a fair bit about a broad swath of stuff I deal with every day and/or have read about and/or have done. As an adult in America, there are plenty of things I have had to learn.
The flip side of the coin is someone who is overly enamored with the whole "Librarian Concept" and wants to get their freak on with someone who will shush them and spank them with the newspaper canes. When I found there was a whole sub-forum of that in the adult entertainment industry, frankly I was horrified. Don't you people know what the average librarian looks like? Ugh.
Regardless, I have found that people are people. If they're comfortable being with a bright woman - so much the better. If not, there are plenty of fish.
Good luck folks - and remember
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| Why are guys scared of smart girls?
Posted: 8/13/2007 1:57:32 PM | Personally one of my big things that I look for in a women is that she is "smarter" then I am or can at least teach me something new. On the other hand the last thing I want is a woman who is arrogant or who rubs her knowledge in my face. Bottom line she would'nt like it if I went on and on about the things I knew that she did'nt why would I put up with that from her?
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| Why are guys scared of smart girls?
Posted: 8/13/2007 10:30:02 PM | male ego, the majority of guys out there with the big trucks lookin fine big muscles have a big ego 2, kinda like the internet geeks weirdo bookworms flat factual little ego creepers, donchanoe mrs. smartiepants | |
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| Why are guys scared of smart girls?
Posted: 8/13/2007 11:18:20 PM | I believe there are many kinds of intelligence- there are those of us who are good with technical things, literature, science, math, people, etc...Everybody I have ever dated has been "more" intelligent in some (or many!) things than I have been.
I have never dated anybody who was arrogant, however. Attitude, personality, intelligence, physical chacteristics...these all add up to make a person. If any item is lacking, it can be a problem. | |
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Posted: 8/13/2007 11:55:54 PM | You mean, they actually exist?? Hey, who woulda thunk.  | |
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| Why are guys scared of smart girls?
Posted: 8/14/2007 1:02:03 AM | Probably because they are hard to come by!!
And when they see one they don`t know what to think..
I can`t tolerate an airhead..Tell me where are the smart ones???? | |
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| Why are guys scared of smart girls?
Posted: 8/14/2007 5:29:14 AM | I just tumbled into another one of these "smart" women- and one of the posters above hit the nail right on the head. She wouldn't shut up about how smart and successful she and everyone around her thought she was. There just comes a time where an intelligent woman (or man for that matter) just has to trust that if s/he is really that intelligent- someone will eventually notice without having to be told.
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| Why are guys scared of smart girls?
Posted: 8/14/2007 5:36:44 AM |
I think that when people talk about others being scared of them because they're so smart, it means one of two things...
1.) They are always talking about how smart they are, or...
2.) They really aren't that smart, but they have to shift the blame to the other person rather than take a look at themselves.
Now THAT is a smart conclusion! | |
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| Why are guys scared of smart girls?
Posted: 11/15/2007 10:04:21 AM | Well, 'smart' does not necessarily equate with 'intelligent'..both have countless
'definitions'----there is 'Street Smarts' (almost a prerequisite for POF), 'Smart 'Mouth',
'Smart' in a general sense ( sort of...the ability to carry on a 'mutually satisfying' conversation over a wide range of topics), and a couple more which would be deleted instantly I think , or at the very least replaced with a lot of '****'s.
There can be 'Intellectual Intelligence' (mainly IQ which is a 'gene pool' thing), Emotional Intelligence' (the most important for dealing with ALL of 'Life'), 'Intelligent' in a general sense (kind of...'intelligent', thoughtful, responses to any conversation--whether it be "Is that green emoticon thing a dancing pickle or dancing banana ??..." OR a philisophical discussion on the Dalai Lama's 'Book of Wisdom')....
The CRITICAL thing to remember is simply to be as 'natural' as you can with whatever
'level' of 'Smarts' or 'Intelligence' you might be blessed with. That is 'Part One'.
'Part Two'? Since each individual will have differing opinions on exactly what 'smart' or 'intelligent' actually 'means'; the KEY factor to me is more 'Attitude' ....and this is hard to explain. So, I will try to do that instead with a favorite quote of mine:
~~" The longer I live, the more I realize the impact of ATTITUDE on life.
Attitude, to me is more important than facts. It is more important than the past,
than education, than money, than circumstances, than failures, than successes,
than what other people think or say or do. It is more important than appearance,
giftedness, or skill. It will make or break a company...a church...a home. The
remarkable thing is we have a CHOICE everyday regarding the attitude we will
embrace for that day. We cannot change our past ...we cannot change the fact
that people will act in a certain way.
We cannot change the inevitable. The only thing we CAN do is play on the one
string we have, and that is our ATTITUDE ...I am convinced that life is 10%
what happens to me and 90% how I react to it. And so it is with you ...we ARE in
charge of our attitudes. "~~
--Charles Swindoll
And, sorry, cannot resist just one more...perhaps it also could be used as one of the
'Commandments For Replying to Forum Threads':
"Our judgments judge us; and nothing reveals us [ or ] exposes our weaknesses
more ingeniously than the ATTITUDE of pronouncing upon our fellows."
So, thanks for putting up with me!
And what was the question? DUH...
And as long as we LISTEN and truly THINK about each person's 'take' on the subject and ADMIT that there perhaps is no 'right or wrong' answer and ACKNOWLEDGE within yourself that 'YOUR way, does NOT have to be the ONLY way'.....then, hey, life is good!!
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| Why are guys scared of smart girls?
Posted: 11/15/2007 10:13:39 AM |
2.) They really aren't that smart, but they have to shift the blame to the other person rather than take a look at themselves.
ding! ding! ding! ding!
we have a winner!!!!!!!!
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| Why are guys scared of smart girls?
Posted: 11/15/2007 10:17:12 AM |
Seriously guys, why are the vast majority of guys seeking a girl who is smart, worldly, etc. scared of us girls that are smarter than a lamp post? They aren't. Not even a small majority of them. But it's not like it comes up that often. There aren't very many smart people, including women, to begin with. Just look at how many people waste time online posting opinions when they could be doing something worthwhile and rewarding instead. | |
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| Why are guys scared of smart girls?
Posted: 11/15/2007 10:23:48 AM | Of course I'd have to blow the suds off a few beers with the guys you're talking about having dated to get thier side but a couple thoughts come to mind as I read your OP.
First thing that caught my mind is the "stereotype guy stuff". Anyone that stereotypes anybody or any thing is committing an injustice in my view. It simply ain't fair. If he seemed freaked out by you're talking about car stuff maybe what you missed was that somewhere in your freaking him out that stereotyping and unfairness shone through. At least to him. I know I can spot it a mile away.
Secondly, I think we all have a different idea of what a "smart and worldly" person is. Man or woman. To me, intelligence is most evident in a person who talks more about what he/she is curious about knowing than what he/she actually knows or in many cases think they know. A person gets themselves higher points on my intelligence scale by saying something like, "You know John, the more I learn, the more I realize how little I actually know." People who already think they're smart, in my view, seem to hinder themselves from becoming even smarter.
I think maybe these guys WERE actually looking for a smart girl. Sounds like they met you and decided to keep on looking. I would. | |
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| Why are guys scared of smart girls?
Posted: 11/15/2007 11:08:45 AM | This is a great thread..many good opinions and ideas...
I don;t think guys are afraid of smart women..they are do not like egcentric attitudes..and that does not mean the person who started the thread...
I have posted in my profile and taken out several times...)that I have 3 degress and 3 diplomas) for various reasons and some of it was response ... I out and asked guys what they thought and got into interesting discussions about it...
like biing told I seemed to have a big ego..so we discussed that and why it seemd that way and how we felt..I listened to this..fro growth and change purposes
another said..." I am scared because I am a only a cowboy" so then we discussed that he may have labeled himself as something differnt or pehaps less and why we should not ..it was a good discusssion.. about uniqueness as nothign to odo with IQ
another talked to me about about different kinds of "smart" as many have on here..he was a retired bsuness man who had GR 8 education but gifted in busienss sense thus a degree is not neccesarily for some kidns of sucess..
I have to talked to some about general knowledge...life experiance..itnstitutional education...education in prison ..on the street and so on...
But at the core is...I believe.. MEN ARE NOT AFRAID OF SMART WOMEN..
If there is chemistry and open communication.. any precieved bumps or soceital beleifs as to what smart is or how the woman is presenting herself and judgements made by her and him CAN BE ironed out to go forward...
I am at present looking forward to hunting in the bush with a wonderful man from pof..so I can learn a new kind of smart
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| Why are guys scared of smart girls?
Posted: 11/15/2007 11:59:41 AM | Yes, men like smart women, but not TOO SMART. You don't see a man out there is looking for someone who is smarter than he it, do you? No!
Too smart= Advanced Degree from Ivy League, Wonderful Personality, Great social skills, Attractive Appearance. So they are more than book smart!!
Men don't need to marry someone who has to have a degree from Ivy League, works for Fortune 500 makes more money than he is? Do they?
Stats shows, that, women marry men who have an avg about 10points higher in IQ.
I am hoping I can find one who has a higher IQ than I do. | |
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| Why are guys scared of smart girls?
Posted: 11/15/2007 12:08:02 PM | being smart is great...
being a smart ass can get you in trouble...
I have dated women who were smarter than me (Mensa) and trust me being book smart is not all it is cracked up to be.
Being smart is great, knowing about cars is great... (I was hoping you could explain Hawking's theory on the expanding universe...apparently not) going on and on about it is kind of boring.
no one likes to feel like they are dumb, so make sure you are not talking down to anyone and take it from there.
Cause remember insecure is also insecure and not always rational... is it? | |
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| Why are guys scared of smart girls?
Posted: 11/15/2007 12:16:56 PM | Just when one thought we'd beat this dead horse entirely into dogfood with that other thread...
It should be self-evident that BOTH people in a relationship (or on a date) CANNOT be smarter than the other one.
But either way, the woman can always complain about either not being sufficiently appreciated or about being shortchanged. | |
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| Why are guys scared of smart girls?
Posted: 11/15/2007 12:42:18 PM |
Seriously guys, why are the vast majority of guys seeking a girl who is smart, worldly, etc. scared of us girls that are smarter than a lamp post?
I'm a guy, and I'm not afraid of smart women. The idea of a smart woman actually turns me on!! However, women without pictures in thier profiles?? Yeah... that I'm scared of... | |
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