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| Why are guys scared of smart girls?
Posted: 5/15/2008 3:04:42 PM | Most people have a critical level of intelligence aka common sense. We all just assume everyone else is stupid to explain the anamolies in the tedious, redundancy of our daily routines.
But I have also observed the dynamic of girls acting dumb and guys acting omnipotent. And it seems to compliment both genders sense of self and each other.
A witty sense of humor is a sign of developed intelligence beyond the ordinary. | |
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| Why are guys scared of smart girls?
Posted: 5/15/2008 6:00:37 PM | Whatever; I'm so sick of these posts. Usually smart girls arent' smart, they just think they know it all.
I have female friends that are brilliant. 10 x smarter than I'll ever be; I'm probably more street smarter but thats another story. they have no problems getting dates because they are nice, low maintenance and they dont tell people how smart they are or have an opinion about every tiny thing. I love learning from them and they are great. On the other hand I know some; most under 30; that are spoiled and think they know everything about everything and they tell everyone about it. Yawn.
I have no prob with smarter women. But an arrogant one that just thinks she's smart? No chance. She can act like a sheep and get the flock out of here. | |
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| Why are guys scared of smart girls?
Posted: 5/15/2008 6:32:59 PM | | What's there to be scared of? Intelligence in women is attractive. What's unattractive is a woman who never admits to being wrong and always has to have the last word. | |
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| Why are guys scared of smart girls?
Posted: 5/15/2008 6:35:12 PM | I'm only afraid of people smarter than me, thankfully that day hasn't come yet. 
p.s-stupid people scare me, smart women are just fine with me. | |
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| Why are guys scared of smart girls?
Posted: 5/15/2008 8:38:15 PM |
Seriously guys, why are the vast majority of guys seeking a girl who is smart, worldly, etc. scared of us girls that are smarter than a lamp post?
This brings to mind a very old joke:
A scientist was testing a frog's ability to jump. He put the frog on the table and said "frog, jump," and the frog jumped.
He then removed the frog's front legs, put the frog on the table again and said "frog, jump," and with a little bit of difficulty, the frog was able to jump.
He removed the frog's rear legs and repeated the experiment, but this time when he said "frog, jump," the frog didn't move. so the scientist wrote in his notes, "when frog's legs are removed, frog loses hearing."
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The point of this joke is this -- a lot of people assume a reason for people's reactions to them without considering the possibility that the true cause is something else. I am very attracted to intelligent women, but turned off by women who feel the need to flaunt their intelligence.
Similarly, I'm attracted to women who are in good shape, but turned off by women who obsess about every ounce they weigh and refuse ever to eat a cookie for fear they might weigh one more pound tomorrow morning. I could go on and on.
So perhaps it isn't your intelligence that is "freaking them out," but perhaps they feel like you're talking down to them. | |
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| Why are guys scared of smart girls?
Posted: 5/15/2008 11:08:08 PM | I think this goes both ways, women think "why do men go for the sl*ts??" men think
" why do all the good girls go for the @$$holes??" you just have to look for the right guy if sombody can't appreciate you for your smarts then plain and simple , it wasn't meant to happen. I personly prefer the smart ones, but yet they go for all the @$$holes. and then what happens? you see them a 2 months later pregnat / abused/ cheated on. that's when i just say "it wasn't meant to happen to me" | |
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| Why are guys scared of smart girls?
Posted: 5/16/2008 1:05:19 AM |
Seriously guys, why are the vast majority of guys seeking a girl who is smart, worldly, etc. scared of us girls that are smarter than a lamp post?
I have gone on a date where the guy was completely chivalrous, but when it came down to stereotype "guy-stuff" like basic car maintenance, it completely freaked him out that I knew about KnN air filters, the basic difference between 10W30 and 5W30 oil, and that the psi for my tires is 34psi on all four of them, because I have 4WD. I know I bruised his ego when I told him that, as he thought my tires should be fuller in the front than in the back.
I have also gone on dates where I could talk intelligently about my political views, world events, etc. but the second the conversation turns to anything that has been traditionally a "male" topic, and can converse about it, they freak out, and I never hear from them again?? I don't pretend to be all knowing, and I certainly ask questions when I don't know or understand something, but wtf?
For those of you who are curious as to how I know about this stuff, is that I have a lot of brothers who didn't want me scared on the side of the road freaking out over what to do if my (now old and long dead) car ever broke down. I grew up with a ton of guys who lived, ate, and breathed cars, and my girlfriends dad's who were mostly strong believers that girls should know how to take care of themselves so we never had to wholly depend on someone else to get us out of trouble. And my daddy who was a firm believer that if a girl could own her own car, she should bloody well be able to look after it.
I have been a crew captain for a good friend of mine when he was racing his 1970 LeMans, and currently am only one of 10 seniority girls in my workplace of about 118 unionized employees.
Enough of my rant. Thoughts?
Have you considered that maybe they just aren't interested in hearing all that and get bored of you? | |
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| Why are guys scared of smart girls?
Posted: 5/16/2008 7:47:15 AM | Imagine you are on a date with a guy that seems alright, but starts telling you you're all wrong about makeup, hair styling, and menstrual cycles.
Do you find yourself impressed? Or are you scared of this "smart boy?" | |
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| Why are guys scared of smart girls?
Posted: 5/16/2008 9:35:44 AM | | Im with rara avis77, intelligent women do it for me, women who think they know it all dont, nothing worse than a woman who insists on having the last word, even when they are wrong ! | |
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| Why are guys scared of smart girls?
Posted: 5/16/2008 12:28:28 PM | First and foremost: No.
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Seconded that knowing about cars doesn't mean you're intelligent, it means you're informed. You might also be intelligent, but proving it by throwing around stereotypical "guy-stuff" probably isn't the most efficient means.
Anyway, I haven't read the dozens of pages between the first and my post, so I'll just answer the question. No, we are not afraid of intelligent women. At least, not all of us are. I love 'em, actually, and that's one of the first things I look for.
Not all guys are like that, however - so what can you do? | |
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| Why are guys scared of smart girls?
Posted: 5/16/2008 6:55:59 PM | Reasons why a smart girl may have trouble attracting a guy:
1) She looks like Roseanne Bar's uglier sister
2) The only way she shows her intellect is in belittling others
3) She slightly less mean spirited than****Cheney
I find intelligence only improves a girl's chances, it's all those other classic feminine qualities I have mentioned that will turn men away from them. | |
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| Why are guys scared of smart girls?
Posted: 5/16/2008 10:25:22 PM | **** i wish more gals i dated would highlight their intellectual side but they're either afraid or just want a guy to make them laugh sometimes.
It's hard for me b/c i have an extremely high IQ that only 1 person in 100,000 thinks so i wish a gal could keep up with me on current events etc but it's almost impossible to find | |
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| Why are guys scared of smart girls?
Posted: 5/16/2008 10:49:00 PM | I have gone on a date where the guy was completely chivalrous, but when it came down to stereotype "guy-stuff" like basic car maintenance, it completely freaked him out that I knew about KnN air filters, the basic difference between 10W30 and 5W30 oil, and that the psi for my tires is 34psi on all four of them, because I have 4WD
this doesnt entail being smart at all. I think you are confusing being smart with gloating about things you know about. Huge difference. Likely he is more concerned with the fact that what you are talking about is more tomboyish and he probably puts you immediately into the friends catagory. While its nice to share things with women, guys don't want every activity to involve their significant other. It drives a lot of us absolutely bonkers. Its cool and everything that you know about cars, but discussing the timing on your car isnt interesting to most guys.
When most guys are saying they want a smart woman they are looking to stay away from the "I didn't know buffalos had wings" type of people. They don't need someone to give them a laundrylist of facts to show how smart they are, just be able to hold a conversation with proper English. | |
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| Why are guys scared of smart girls?
Posted: 5/18/2008 4:28:59 AM |
ooops, maybe it was just the venting..... i hardly go so far as to say I know alot about cars... and I hardly think I am trying to "be the man" on a date....
It really doesn't matter what YOU think; it matters what THEY think.
If YOU think you are NOT trying to be "the man" on the date, they'll still date you. If THEY think you ARE trying to be "the man", they WON'T date you.
Arlo | |
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| Why are guys scared of smart girls?
Posted: 5/18/2008 5:12:05 AM | | besides no one likes a know it all. I have a couple friends who are like this. They are very well read, and they constantly correct people and give them 5 to 10 minute lectures on a random subject that is brought up. They think they are brilliant and charming, but people just get bored of hearing them prattle on and being corrected over petty details. | |
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| Why are guys scared of smart girls?
Posted: 5/18/2008 5:27:31 AM | The same thing goes for those guys who talk, talk, talk, talk, talk, about sports ALL day!
Entire blocks of days can go by where I don't even THINK of sports, much less talk about them!
I mean, is there anything in your OWN day/week/past that you want to share?
Maybe, maybe not.
MOST guys don't confuse QUANTITY of talk with QUALITY of talk. Maybe your guy JUST WANTS TO SPEND TIME WITH YOU?
Do ya EVER have an independent thought????
Maybe if you'd clam up for a sec and let a man get a word in edge-wise, you'd be surprised! 
OP: Men aren't afraid of smart women. There's another reason.
Arlo | |
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| Why are guys scared of smart girls?
Posted: 5/19/2008 8:39:52 AM | Ok car knowledge doesn't necessarily make you smart. I see you say you talk about other topics, so that is good, but don't make car knowledge define you as smart, that is just one topic. Now to find a truly smart woman that is my goal. To many people, not just women, want to play the dumb ass card. The truth is the more generations that pass the dumber people get, because we lower the standard to make people fell smart. The truth of the matter is that they are still stupid. I would love to find a woman that was intellectually stimulating. These guys are scared of smart women because they are one of the reasons we lowered the standards for.
Of course I'm not the smartest guy out there. Shoot I had to use the spell check a few times in this post, and not all of my sentences are properly formed. | |
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| Why are guys scared of smart girls?
Posted: 5/19/2008 8:52:37 AM | Any woman out there asking herself this question, should consider herself dumb, since if you were smart you'd know the answer, or, would realize the question arises out of a crisis of perception. But that requires intelligence, which you don't have... until maybe now? Yay.  That was dumb. | |
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| Why are guys scared of smart girls?
Posted: 5/23/2008 6:12:43 AM | Simple enough answer. They arent!
It's the girls who have a problem dating regular guys who arent smarter than they are. | |
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| Why are guys scared of smart girls?
Posted: 5/23/2008 6:40:58 AM | Does anyone do thread searches anymore? This question has been asked about a bazillion times.
They don't need someone to give them a laundrylist of facts to show how smart they are
I concur. I think it's better to let other people discover your attributes for themselves vs. hearing about them from you.
Any woman out there asking herself this question, should consider herself dumb, since if you were smart you'd know the answer
Interesting point...
As so many others have said, there are tons of men who enjoy intelligent women; what they don't enjoy is arrogance/having to have the last word/bragging, etc.
One usually hates in others where one finds fault in oneself.
Exactly.
Attitude ~ a little thing that makes a big difference.
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