| Money
Posted: 8/9/2007 9:22:42 PM | It doesn't matter to me if he has money or not ...REALLY!!!... but if he is emotionally or morally bankrupt THAT matters!!!
I have too much pride to go after a man for his money..dinner now that's different | |
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| How important is money?
Posted: 8/9/2007 9:41:43 PM | If both parties are at a similar place financially, there will be less grief and aggravation. When I was young and in school, so was my sweetheart. So we found great little mom and pop places to eat, drove used cars and went to baseball games at the 7th inning when you could get in free.
Now, I look for men who are as financially stable as I am. We can share expenses, have a nice bottle of wine and sit in good seats at the theater. Currently, either I pay, he pays or we split. My most important criterion is that he not be tight with his money or ask me for any of mine. I can be generous to a fault, but only if it seems right, not because he is cheap.
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Posted: 8/9/2007 10:00:39 PM |
Men make money, women make babies.
Holy shiit ~ so that's how that happened. He was out making money and I conceived. 
~OP~ I don't know how important it is to ALL people. For me personally, I've had more than my share and I've struggled. It didn't really seem to matter, it got spend regardless. The more I made, the more I spent (we at the time, I should say.) Today, my life is very non-complicated financially. I LOVE that. I've dated men of incredible financial wealth and net-worth and I've dated men who were on disability or not working. Today ~ I'm at an age where it is more important to me than in the past. I don't "look" for money, I wouldn't even know how to do that. But, he needs to be able to deal with his life financially and I deal with mine. But when it comes to long-term, in order for me to even consider that, he'd have to have his future financial plan in the works. Selfish maybe ~ but I'm a realist on this subject. Money doesn't buy happiness, but it sure allows you to enjoy a lot of things that you might otherwise not have options to enjoy. JMO  | |
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Posted: 8/9/2007 10:22:16 PM | | I am the type of person who is not motivated by money . As long as I can pay my bills ,I am fine . If I was motivated by money ,I certainly wouldn't of dedicated the last 8 yrs of my life caring for ,first my mom ,and now my brother . As for dating I have no issue with going dutch or doing something less expensive ,as long as I am with someone I want to spend time with . | |
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Posted: 8/9/2007 11:01:37 PM | msg 25: "aisle 2, C L U E S are on sale-RUN"
when i SAY-"$ is NO issue in LOVE (for ME)
tis NO L I E
(and, i abhor Sports-except hockey/boxing  )
if you Truly Believe that drivel that jist dribbled down yer chin/out yer mouth...
 for YOU
tis ~simply~ NOt
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Posted: 8/9/2007 11:20:44 PM | Money is pretty important for some people.
There are two types of people in this world , people who are entertained by being with good company doing anything and people who are entertained through entertainment such as movies, vacations , activities.
If you find your the first type of person and can find another person of the first type and fall madly in love then finances don't matter much till you think about providing a future for your family unit. How much you want to provide is up to you two.
The second type is more common , make enough to support the lifestyle you want to live. If you find the right sort of girl , she'd want in on your lifestyle too. Working to show off doesn't help , attracts the wrong sort of people. Make what you can be content with it and see if there are people that will opt in , likely they'd be more of the right type for you anyways. | |
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Posted: 8/10/2007 4:50:03 AM | Money is always an issue. I have to admit it is very nice when a woman takes me out and buys me dinner. Doesn't happen very often, but cool when it does.
The bigger issue is long term dreams and life outlook. If the mindsets are way too different it will not last. If one person thinks retirement is a main home with a vacation cottage and the other thinks a doublewide equals a mansion, might want to relook things. | |
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Posted: 8/10/2007 7:23:01 AM | | there is alotta game going around, where guys are being played to be "gentlemen" or whatever you want to call it. Personally I work hard for my money and it belongs to me. The time I would play that roll of provider is when I'm in love with a woman, probobly living together and planning a family together. At that point I would provide everything that she needs as she is becomming my family, and it is my responsibility to provide for my family. Apart from that the money is mine. | |
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Posted: 8/10/2007 7:34:41 AM | | Probably to a lot of women money is important. Perhaps not as important as you may think though. I mean you have to be stable and able to pay your bills and rent, but you also have to be good with your money and not squander it. I think some women are just looking for someone who is financially savvy, and not so much loaded. Like paying your rent and bills then blowing the remainder on drugs and alcohol is probably a major deal breaker. | |
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Posted: 8/10/2007 7:47:23 AM | | Are you serious? Money is very important to women and men. But women want romance and that doesn't take money only proper attention to them as a human being. Sometimes the sweetest most romantic thing you can do for someone you love is to just sit quietly beside them when they really need a friend. | |
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Posted: 8/10/2007 8:01:02 AM | | My personal opinion is that men are not put on this earth to finance women's entertainment. I know there are women out there who string men along for money to make ends meet or to provide the extras for which their own incomes do not allow. It's not right or pretty, and you don't need or want a woman like that. If you're going to throw money at a woman, make it a hooker, not a human sponge. At least a hooker is a sure thing. | |
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Posted: 8/10/2007 9:08:12 AM | ^^^ Very good point.
If the women I atract is because my bank roll ... I'm not your competition OP but, your benefactor: you are better off without those women. | |
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Posted: 8/10/2007 9:37:03 AM | | It would be nice to have someone equal or close in income range. Life is better when you have two incomes, that's for sure. As far as dating, I think the guy should pick up the tab the frist few times. But then go more halfers once the two people are dating.... | |
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Posted: 8/10/2007 9:42:08 AM | If you live in New York City ... It's a different story... No Money No Hunnie hehe
It really depends on the girl.
Generally speaking woman these days are financially stable and they expect you to be also. I mean you can't be a pizza delivery man at Age 30 let's say... You have to be doing something with your life.
But money isn't everything it's only one thing of everything else. | |
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Posted: 8/10/2007 9:58:36 AM |
Education, maybe. Opportunity, possibly. Ambition, likely.
This is what I know about careers. I may be young by some standards, but I've done and witnessed more than most folks drawing their pension so I would consider myself wiser than normal for my age.
Education: Yes.
Opportunity: Yes.
Ambition: Yes.
But there are some of us who know what we are good at and what we are not. I can advance quite a bit with my Education, Opportunity and Ambition - but the bottom line is I am GREAT at what I do. Sure I can make more money, but it would be doing something I HATE or something that I know someone else could do a better job at.
I"ll use an electrician as an example.
You have 5 electricians on the floor. One of them is one DAMN good electrician and the management thinks he is good enough to be management material. More money, more responsibility - who would ever turn that down.
So the one exceptional electrician gets taken off the floor and put into management. He finds he hates the job or just isn't good at telling other people what to do. The company just wounded itself.
1.) Their best electrician is off the floor - things break down and stay down longer than usual.
2.) His management skills aren't good enough because he is a better electrician. The whole team suffers and begins to dislike their old buddy.
3.) He can't go back to electrician in that company. For some reason things change between co-workers when promotions are invovled. He would no longer enjoy his old job on the floor.
4.) His home life suffers because he isn't happy at work.
I"d sooner be happy till the day of my retirement than miserable and making a few extra bucks.
What people should look for is if the person enjoys their job. It does wonders for home life.
My 2 dollars and 50 cents. :) | |
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Posted: 8/10/2007 10:03:25 AM | I like to think that what girls want has less to do with "dropping a few bills on them every week" and more to do with having financial security. Almost everyone has debts - if women only wanted debt-free guys I think they'd be single forever - but not everyone has a steady career (even if its not a high-paying one) and consistently pays down those debts.
If a girl chooses another guy over you for no reason other than his money, count yourself lucky. Materialistic people suck the life (and money) out of you and you were just spared a waste of time, money, and heartbreak. I'd pity the guy she went to.
Planning for the future is a bigger turn on for me then spending money frivolously. Look at me, I make a moderate income but next week I'm putting money into mutual funds. That should get the ladies lining up  | |
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Posted: 8/10/2007 10:33:37 AM | | Hmm...I'm pretty non-materialistic, so being filthy rich isn't important to me. As long as a guy can support himself and any kids he might have, I'm comfortable with that. Anything more is icing on the cake. | |
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Posted: 8/10/2007 11:28:21 AM | | bat girl & redkat , regarding your comments, ~ similar incomes, ~ sounds good, and works ~ but does not allow for any growth potential. ~ What we are today is not what we will be tomorrow. For dating, okay , but long term, Not ~ It's short sighted but today is what we are working with. ~~ To all; Material wealth is poor way to measure ones richs any day. Nothing is really yours, thats just an illusion. It's only yours to hold and use, fight for and worry about. Once this is clearly understood, life gets a lots more fun. ~ I'll take people as I find them, there can't be a top if there is no bottom. So how important is money? for people who keep score ~ very! ~ dar | |
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Posted: 8/10/2007 11:32:15 AM | | I have alot of qualities that get overlooked because I don't roll a Benz and have season tickets to the Seahawks. I guess I'll just take the prevalent advice and write off the goldiggers as not worth the attentions of those qualities. | |
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Posted: 8/10/2007 11:36:55 AM | | Money is VERY important if you don't have enough...............not so important if you do. I don't mean having a lot, but enough to have the things you want and need without worrying about it all the time. Anything beyond that is just gravy. | |
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Posted: 8/10/2007 1:03:25 PM | Money? Easy comes ~ easy goes. True.
Money doesn't buy one happiness but can open many doors to the unknown. Hmm ... there is plenty of the unknown on my list, for that matter. | |
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Posted: 8/10/2007 1:13:09 PM | I have a very comfortable lifestyle...it took me many years to achieve it so I have lots of experience with living "on the cheap". I am not a big spender and my last ex showed me a lot on how to be a saver.
I want my man to have employment, preferably the kind that he wakes up in the morning eager to go to. I really don't care how much he earns, if he has enough to cover his expenses every month, he's doing great in my books.
The things about a man that are far more important to me than money ever will be include the ability to use power tools, an interest in keeping our living space comfortable, some interests to share but others that are ours alone along with the freedom to enjoy them, an ability to actually talk out loud about emotions and feelings, an interest in making a future together and last but not least...a good lover.
I don't feel comfortable having virtual strangers buy me drinks and dinner. I want to pay my share. Sometimes I even pick up the tab as I can write off through my business. However, spending a lot of money on me is not going to get as much attention from me as working with me in my garden, taking the dogs and I for a walk, mowing my lawn, making me a meal, cleaning up after I make you a meal, picking up a vid at Blockbuster and some microwave popcorn or helping me change the oil in my vehicle. To me, a real man gives of himself, not of his paycheque. | |
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Posted: 8/10/2007 1:19:15 PM | " To me, a real man gives of himself, not of his paycheque." By zette2254
That is the best sentence I have read about this topic, so true. | |
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Posted: 8/10/2007 1:41:39 PM | | Beautiful women don't care about money. All the old rich guys just happen to be very charming men. | |
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