| How important is money?
Posted: 8/10/2007 1:46:09 PM | Money is everything.
I can hear it now.. money can't buy you happiness... but think of this... the #1 reason for stress in relationships.. is money.
You can sleep, eat, get to work, have a child,, wipe your butt without it. | |
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| How important is money?
Posted: 8/10/2007 5:36:36 PM | | It's funny, but it seems like most of the women that responded aren't too concerned about money as long as a man handles his basic bidniz, and the few that are concerned with it are men... | |
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| How important is money?
Posted: 8/10/2007 5:58:58 PM | To a degree it is very important. If you are dating someone that does not know how to budget and manage his finances that will cause many issues. Or someone that lives beyond his means.
If you date someone who's ex-wife is "milking" him for alimony and their children (Mama Drama, etc....) - that will cause issues with your new spouse and/or family. Assuming he's not "TRUMP". 
Some women are not looking for a man to support them, if she has her own career/job. I know I don't, but you want to know that God forbid something happens to one of you the other can hold their own and then some.
There is nothing wrong with a woman picking up a tab or doing her share in a relationship. I guess it all depends on who you are dating i.e. Gold digger, etc....
Best,
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| How important is money?
Posted: 8/10/2007 6:06:45 PM | ALL women without exception are materialistic, only the level of degree change from one to the other.
Been so is NOT such a bad thing: as it make you cautious, inovative, drive you to better yourself and condition, secure a family etc etc etc.
It is when someone expect to been 'taked care of" by someone else that lies the problem.
Personaly I found it HYPOCRITE to claim to be "myself", "self sufficiant", "my own identity" , "free" and "independant" but at the same time wish to be provided by another in any way.
Equality: half and half, both pay half...both are independant, both have respect and self respect. | |
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| How important is money?
Posted: 8/10/2007 6:17:48 PM | [ALL women without exception are materialistic, only the level of degree change from one to the other.]
And I suppose you have met all the women in this world????
I just wish people would deal with their issues rather than go on making general statements about ALL people.
What I want from a man is someone who can held a job and pay his own bills, that is what I do, have my job and pay my bills. I do not look anyone to do these things for me. If that makes me materialistic then so be it. | |
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| How important is money?
Posted: 8/10/2007 6:19:00 PM | Are money issues not the #1 cause for divorces.....
Msg 57 if money wasn't an issue we would never need lawyers for a divorce... | |
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Posted: 8/10/2007 6:50:58 PM | | money is the least important thing in life i found that out that 2 years ago , then met a guy had money and that was his life money,nothing else just money thats not a life .your smart enough to spot the girls who trade strenght of character for money so you have a head start dont compete just wait you ll know her when you find her take care p x | |
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| How important is money?
Posted: 8/10/2007 7:56:51 PM | Personaly I found it HYPOCRITE to claim to be "myself", "self sufficiant", "my own identity" , "free" and "independant" but at the same time wish to be provided by another in any way.
I take it that French is your first language as it would explain why what you are saying is so hard to understand. I am all of the things you stated in quotation marks yet I do wish to be provided for in another way. I want a man to whom I have an emotional connection, I want a man to take care of my sexual needs and my lawn. Your statement appears to suggest that looking for this kind of provision somehow takes everything away from being independent and free.
I think that you were trying to say that you compromise these attributes in yourself if you look to someone else to provide financial assistance....at least I hope that was what you were trying to say, otherwise, I find your blanket statements in the whole of your message to be truly offensive and out of line. | |
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| How important is money?
Posted: 8/10/2007 8:06:01 PM | | Idealism is wonderful, but it doesn't work. If you can't pay your bills and want to be a sponge, it just ruins everything. You just can't be a burdon. No one feels loved and appreciated that way. It leads to problems all the time. You gotta pull your weight!!! | |
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| How important is money?
Posted: 8/10/2007 8:11:33 PM | what is money to love only you may find it, love that is and whats money if cant spend it ,
truth women or men looking for get elbow those accept me before money ok no probs , dont mean im going shopping for them next day | |
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| How important is money?
Posted: 8/11/2007 8:05:51 AM | | Money is much MORE important to a woman looking for a man too date regardless of what they say. I think it's the number ONE priority for most women on this site. Look at it this way.........a man will date down......meaning he will date a woman who makes less money then him and not think anything of it............on the other hand how many women will date a man that makes less money then them...........NOT VERY MANY............and that's a fact no one can deny. | |
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Posted: 8/11/2007 8:50:40 AM | OP, if you were really rich, like Donald Trump rich, and you were dating a really great girl, and she commented that she would never date someone who earned less than $100K a year, what would you be thinking? Great, this woman could be the mother of my future children? Or would you be thinking: time to use, abuse, and dump in the garbage?
I've been rich and I've been poor. Paying your bills is all you really need. Anything more than that, and most people are actually unhappier.
I have a friend who said that money was important. When she started dating her husband, he was in and out of work like a yo-yo. She makes sure he is well fed, and dressed, and does well at his work. He's now on a much better job, and they've just moved into a much bigger house.
Behind every great man, there is a great woman. IMHO, that is the only way to go. | |
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| How important is money?
Posted: 8/11/2007 10:00:39 AM | Message 66 , Out of the last 5 men I dated ,only one made more money then me ,so I have dated 'down" as you call it .
I agree with the person who made the comment the subject of money seems to be more of an issue with men then women . I dated one man who kept going on and on about money he inherited , and it made me uncomfortable ,because when looking for a relationship ,money is not a deciding factor for me ,but it seemed to be for him . | |
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| How important is money?
Posted: 8/11/2007 10:50:45 AM |
OP, if you were really rich, like Donald Trump rich, and you were dating a really great girl, and she commented that she would never date someone who earned less than $100K a year, what would you be thinking? Great, this woman could be the mother of my future children? Or would you be thinking: time to use, abuse, and dump in the garbage? Yeah I see your point - doesn't seem like those who worry about money beyond the basics are worth pursuing. I just wonder if I got past that barrier if my other qualities would alleviate that sort of thinking. | |
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| How important is money?
Posted: 8/11/2007 12:31:36 PM | Msg 53: "To me, a real man gives of himself, not of his paycheque."
Msg 64: "Idealism is wonderful, but it doesn't work."
Msg 53: Its a balance of the two, IMO. All relationships have ups and downs, of course. We all know that the first years are always amazing, and its been said that eventually "relationships begin to wear down". A real man does the best effort to keep the relationship alive and well, being aware of this and communicating constantly with his partner. Without man pride, without fear of anything. Every relationship deserves the best effort. If you claim to have "found the one", or "the woman/man of my life", or "until death do us part", think about this before even saying it. Think first if you honestly have what it takes to make such a statement. A real man is the one that can be a human being and also deal with the reality of life. A real man is one that can give a woman a deep kiss and a hug goodbye as he leaves for work, but also pays the electric bill on time. A real man is the one that can make life the less painful as possible for both.
Msg 64: It doesn't work if the scale tips to that side completely. What's truly a wonderful achievement is when affection and human understanding can live along with responsibilities and materialism. Its very important that BOTH PARTIES share the responsibility, one sided relationships will always fail, even if he/she is rich. No one appreciates being the one that carries the biggest load, and this is one of the reasons of so many divorces. There will be a moment when that "I'm the one who pays the bills here" comes along, and no one likes that. There has to be lots of TLC, caring, honest compliments, the best intimacy... just to mention a few. The essentials always covered, at least some saving, managing money wisely, etc. And room for some spoiling -a must. A man has to at least cover her frequent trips to the beauty salon, or for some shoes/clothes she may like. It feels really good to see your woman look beautiful, and you have no idea of how much that kind of caring is appreciated. Its worth the extra bucks, trust me. | |
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| How important is money?
Posted: 8/11/2007 1:11:10 PM | How much money he has, is not really important to me.
What is important is that he has a decent, stable occupation and that he's responsible with money.
And room for some spoiling -a must. A man has to at least cover her frequent trips to the beauty salon, or for some shoes/clothes she may like. It feels really good to see your woman look beautiful, and you have no idea of how much that kind of caring is appreciated. This is really appreciated.  | |
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Posted: 8/13/2007 1:21:55 PM | Umm...I grew up around very spoiled and indulged parents, and for them, variety was the spice of life...because they could afford it...And I can't say I exactly suffered either with my wants, and I learned about a good many things...maybe too much in some areas....
How important is money? Well, in the environment I spring from...VERY! Simply put, life got very B-O-R-I-N-G whenever the cashflow was limited...A good number of people I've known in the past lived to really enjoy something new and different every so often, some more often than others...and unfortunitely, to the exclusion of everything...and everyone else!
Were they evil?...Maybe in some people's eyes...but from my viewpoint, they were very unsatisfied...Everything was handed to them, and there never was any sense of accomplishment nor completion...
I guess I'm saying the importance of money is based upon whom you ask...I think it's important to a certain extent...but I do know where to draw the line...and that's something my parents never could achieve... | |
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Posted: 8/13/2007 1:29:17 PM | I admit to not having much money.....just get by week top week lol.
But what I have learned is that if you have in a profile that you have wealth....you get replies...if you say week to week you get by....nothing.
So this person has learned that money IS utmost importantin a relationship and in even getting a date. | |
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| How important is money?
Posted: 2/26/2008 4:34:11 AM | | Money is important for lots of reasons, though I would think primarily for your own self-interest. It is better to own your own assets, have your spending under reasonable control, be in control of bills and debts and payments on loans, and to also have superannuation. But I think it is unethical to get involved with a person purely for their wealth, and life's ultimate meaning does not boil down to owning material things. | |
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| How important is money?
Posted: 2/26/2008 6:02:16 AM | | I don't care. As long as I don't have to look after you. I was dating a guy that was broke, then he got a nice job, then dumped me because I don't make enough money I'm too young bla bla. But he straight out said I don't make enough money... | |
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| How important is money?
Posted: 2/26/2008 6:18:29 AM | How much money you make is not important. It is how you SPEND the money you have that IS. My daughter's father used to spend more money on alcohol then he did on child support....
Spend some, save some, "Throw some away"
(Pay the bills, save for retirement and emergencies, and do have a little fun.)
I tried to teach my kids to see how someone tips and talks to the "service" people in their lives (the gas station attendant, a watiress, or cleaning person at your work for example). A date may treat YOU nice but see how they treat these people... if they don't treat THEM nice, they are really not nice people....Leaving an 18 - 20% tip is part of the cost of entertainment and someone that doesn't leave this for the service they receive will be treating you the same way soon.... | |
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Posted: 2/26/2008 6:28:31 AM | I dont want to date someone unemployed because i want a man who has some get up and go, goals etc. if hes willing to sit on his arse and live off the state all day hes not going to be the one for me..
money isnt overly important, but every girl likes nice things, and if she works hard enough she can get them for herself, but i wouldnt again want to date someone who couldnt afford to go to nice restaurants, go on holiday, own and run a car etc... i wouldnt expect him to always pay im happy to go dutch but i dont want to be the one paying all the time, or be unable to do things as a couple because he has no money... | |
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| How important is money?
Posted: 2/27/2008 8:13:23 PM | I have a lot of money, cause when I was awkward and shy with women I just worked. Built 4 successful companies. The catch to it is that I don't look like I have money.
I come from a farm family where we aren't stylish, I grew up really poor with hand me downs from the 70s, when I was born in 1980. So buying the highest priced things has never been important to me.
Looking like you have money is more important than having money. I've had a few long term girlfriends find out how much I really make. Most of them tell me that they assumed I was "a starving artist."
I've had quite a few dates tell me specifically they need a man that makes at least $60,000 a year. One date told me she just wanted a rich man. Then asked me how big my house is.
It really depends on the woman though. My cousin is a blonde bombshelle of a woman with Pam Anderson's body. She's perfectly content dating men that have no money, just as long as they have a job. | |
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