| Money Vs Personality....
Posted: 8/14/2007 7:25:17 AM | | I had a strange problem. I met a guy who wasn't that attractive. He really wasn't my type, kinda older looking. I had to do a double take when we first met because he didn't look anything like his photo. (I should have looked closer. I went home & checked! Nothing wrong with being older. I thought his dad was hot!) But it was his personality that sold me. I thought everything else I could overlook. We had fun when I thought he was being sincere so it became comfortable for him to let loose. Then he really opened his mouth, and now I'm wondering, "WTF was I thinking?" All he did was talk about his $$ & his car & how he thought he was better than the average guy, partly because of it, partly because his ego was too big for him. Most of the time I let him talk about himself, while holding back the need to roll my eyes. I just figured if I didn't feed into it or show any interest, maybe he'll see there was more to life than being how shallow he was, especially when there was nothing to brag about. There's a lot of things that I can help boost in a person, but with him, there was no hope. I wasn't impressed! If I wanted a guy with money, it wouldn't have been just some little used car he thought was cool. I'd choose personality any day (I could make my own $$$$$), but I could never stay with someone with an old ugly soul! | |
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Posted: 8/14/2007 3:48:56 PM | | There is a bit of good in the worst of us and a bit of bad in the best. Everyone has there certian qualities. Some people are gifted in ways other people are not. Once in a great while, if you look very hard you might find someone who has both. Even more Rare, is to have the luck to stumble on someone who has neither. | |
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Posted: 8/14/2007 6:35:26 PM | ok this is what i find fickle.
Why is it, a girl can be anywhere from 21-30 and still living at home, and she is totally content with that life style and everything, and nobody gives two craps about it.
But you take a guy who is 27 and still living at home and he is lower than a pedophile?
Or why is it, its ok for a girl to be at a dead end job, with no life ambition, and as long as she is average to decent looking, guys dont give a crap, they will hit on her and ask her out, and date her.
But, a girl wants the guy to make 100,000$ by the time they are 25, and have a house and nice car?
I see it almost everyday, women who look down on the guys who work hard at thier jobs, maybe they dont make a lot of money, but they are a great guy.
But the same ladies will get all weak in the knee's at the guy who was born with the silver spoon in his mouth and never had to work a day in his life, and is a complete player, also treats women like crap and has a ego bigger than the Milky Way, but buys a brand new BMW, or Mercedes every yr?
Any girl,women,lady who say's they are not shallow like a puddle is lieing. | |
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Posted: 8/14/2007 8:36:10 PM | I think somewhere in the middle would be the ideal but then again, I'm so conflicted on the issue sometimes I feel screwed either way.
I'm fairly young but I've worked hard to get where I am today. I have a career and maintain a decent lifestyle on my own. I don't expect any guy to support me but feel it would be nice to meet someone who also shares that drive and ambition. I am hoping to find someone long term and I really don't want to be the sole (or virtually sole) breadwinner in the family - even if I turn out to be the one with the higher income. Yet I feel guilty saying that, like it's wrong for me to even want it. I guess there's just that stigma around the love/money/personality thing.
Anyway, back to the scenarios at hand. I do believe if it came right down to it and I met the "right" person who fell into category #1, I would get over any preconceptions I had rather than choose someone who falls into category #2 and isn't right for me. | |
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Posted: 8/14/2007 8:45:17 PM | If you have talked with them enough to really feel like you are not going to find out something that would cause the boring one to become more interesting and if you have plans for your life that would not really mesh with what the financially chellenged individual would bring to a relationship, you would be happy with neither one of them.
The individual you describe in 1 also seems self-sufficient so unless you are looking for a mate to do more than pull his weight, there would be no reason to not continue getting to know the individual in the first scenario. | |
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Posted: 8/14/2007 8:52:50 PM | | wow 8ballplayer, you are either totally bitter or you have been meeting all the wrong women for your entire life. Or maybe it's just that you keep looking for the wrong ones because they are prettier or something? I don't know.... But you are definately wrong in your conclusions. And with those thoughts so engraved in stone in your head you're probably killing off the chances you DO have to find the good ones. | |
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Posted: 8/15/2007 7:29:36 PM | I am not bitter, I just speak the truth
Here's a good example.
Say you have two guys, both are indentical in all ways, so you can just say well the guy who has the better personality or who treats me better.
Guy #1 works hard, putting in 40-50hrs or more per week, makes a decent amount of money but nothing great. his car is about 2 steps up from being a POS. But it gets him from point A to B and he doesnt care what people think of it.
Guy #2 hardly works, cuz his family has lots of money so he inherited the family business and just sits around watching the money roll in. His car is basically what he wants to drive. And for clothes he only buys top notch stuff.
Now which guy do you choose? If you pick guy #1 all he offer's is the average lifestyle. If you pick guy #2 your on easy street living the american dream and probably never have to work again.
Now here's another thing, why is it, when a guy starts to talk to a lady, within the first 5 to 10 minutes, she ask's him what he does for work??? It's because she's wondering if he can support her lifestyle or if he makes bank. If they guy makes a load of money, she's obviously going to be more interested than the guy who is working 1 job, or possibly 2 jobs and hardly has any free time. | |
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Posted: 8/15/2007 7:47:46 PM | I'd take guy #1 and I'll tell you why.
1. He's probably better in bed.
2. I have an almost immediate dislike for people who milk off their family's cash.
3. I don't have much respect for people who are given everything on a silver platter because they have less appreciation for what they do have and for the fact that most people have to work so hard for little. It has to do with character and integrity.
4. Once upon a time I married the best guy in the world and he had next to nothing when we met. We made "together" what we acquired and accomplished. That's much more important to me and a whole lot more fun.
5. I've dated men who had everything at their disposal - and they sucked.
6. I'd feel a lot more comfortable knowing he's at work actually working just like I am. Puts us more in the same orbit.
7. I have absolutely no problem with an average lifestyle. I've lived one all my life and I'm happy. Money does not buy happiness. Trust me, I learned that lesson years ago.
Now here's another thing, why is it, when a guy starts to talk to a lady, within the first 5 to 10 minutes, she ask's him what he does for work???
I have been asked the same exact question by each and every man who has ever approached me. It's called conversation and getting to know about each other.
You're so off ... and you refuse to even entertain the thought that you could be wrong. | |
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Posted: 8/15/2007 8:03:52 PM | | personality , money matters very little to me, its just a mean to a end. Plus i'm pretty well off already... | |
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Posted: 8/15/2007 9:28:14 PM | | Money can't bye you Love, can't take it with you, give up the material world and remember whats really important. Most of this will said by people who have money. Your asking me to give up something I never had. My father was a blue collar Union worker most of my life, my grandparents came out of the depression and world War Two. I know people who have money and I am not one of them, but I'll be dammed if I'm not going to give it a shot. The drive I have to succeed is very much a part of my personality. It would be important for me to have a partner who had the same work ethic. Maybe even come into the Family business and help me build something. At very least, a girl with goals and ambitions of her own. | |
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Posted: 8/17/2007 1:33:13 PM | I would definately get to know number 1. I would rather he worked at McDonalds, have a great personality. etc. and be ugly as a fence post.
The guy with a great job but no personality sense of humor. I mean what are you going to do with them after the Sex is done, Why bother. | |
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Posted: 8/17/2007 1:56:57 PM | | i would rather go for personality/attraction,money has no meaning in a relationship. if you love someone and they love you you will get through anything, well thats my belief anyway. | |
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Posted: 8/18/2007 2:28:33 AM | | Soooo...hands down personality over money...but........you need to recognize first if the person is a "professional" leech for lack of better terms...In the old ays personality was an acceptable way to earn a living..being entertaining and captivating could earn you a meal and a place to stay..In today's world that doesn't have a place especially if you are looking for a relationship...don't be blinded by personality..you could end up supporting someone for a long time with no real chance of recouping your investment. On the other side of the coin..if you pick a financially stable person who has no personality you are just as "wrong" as the freeloader type..women love stability..but don't compromise yourself for it..you'll end up in some sordid affair down the road when you realize how unhappy you are..I've been scolded in my younger years for passing up financial stability with attractive women(by her close friends no less) but I feel that you need to have a solid connection on all levels...finacially and emotionally..or you're setting yourself up for ....who knows..an unhappy existence. The ugly reality slaps you in the face when you've realized you've compromised(wasted) too many years of your life...I'd hate to get old regretting... | |
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Posted: 8/18/2007 2:52:46 AM | Personality is a lot more important. They could be very wealthy and still be *itch.
But if they have a good personality maybe that means they should be smart enought also to know making enought money to live comfortable is important.  | |
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Posted: 8/18/2007 3:10:03 AM | | If a guy has a strong personality surely he also has the means to make a good living. If a guy already has money he usually has the strong personality which comes with being well-off. and.....it depends so much on the personalities of the ones he meets to stimulate his personality. The personality of a person is personal to the mingling of personalities with the other personality. | |
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Posted: 8/18/2007 3:33:04 AM | | anyone who would say they would date someone with money but no personality cant be too gifted in the brains department.thats all im gonna say. | |
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Posted: 8/18/2007 11:33:17 PM | $$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$
married the 1st time for love 
if theres ever a 2nd it will be ALL about the BENJIS
$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$
Sounds shallow I know.....but you havent lived my life to know why I feel that way.....
life expierience has left me feeling like this
no apologies given | |
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Posted: 8/19/2007 2:59:42 AM | A load of guys have mailed me saying what great jobs they have and nice cars, loadsa money etc. I ignore them, if someone can assume that I am that shallow that they are the things that will impress me then I am not interested. I would much rather meet a jobless bum who is down to earth, can make me laugh and smile.......btw guys thats not an invite | |
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Posted: 8/19/2007 3:31:01 AM | I was married for 19 years to the most wonderful man there could be. He didn't have any money, we barely made ends meet. But he was a great husband, never cheated on me. was a great dad to our little girl. We miss him still after 10 years. We had a very happy home, we were always teased about still having rice in our pillow. Money is nothing if that is all you have.
I later married a man that was wealthy, it lasted 3 1/2 years. He thought that his money could get him anything he wanted. He was so jealous of my daughter he became abusive both mentally and physically. I had to divorce him to protect my daughter.
So go ahead go after your rich guys, go after the money. I will search for the person who makes me happy and serves God to the best of his ability, I don't care if he doesn't have any money as long as he isn't lazy. sometimes you have to adjust your wants. I guess it just makes a difference where your priorities are. Mine isn't money. I have no desire to be rich or have lots of money. That isn't what makes people happy, they just want more. | |
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Posted: 8/19/2007 3:45:14 AM |
If a guy has a strong personality surely he also has the means to make a good living. If a guy already has money he usually has the strong personality which comes with being well-off. and.....it depends so much on the personalities of the ones he meets to stimulate his personality. The personality of a person is personal to the mingling of personalities with the other personality.
ahh but if he has a strong personality and not motivated by greed, materialism or a slave to consumerism - what then --- he makes enough to live very modestly with the bare essentials required -- what then --- ahh yes you kick him to the curb and place in the "not ever list " as a potential mate because he cant support your lifestyle
hmmm Ghandi comes to mind as an example | |
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Posted: 8/20/2007 11:59:18 PM | Interesting Topic
Myth - All girls choose personality over money!!!
Fact - 20% of girls honestly choose personality over money coz of life experience, failed relationships or they have no money themselves.
20% are undecided and will say what makes them look respectable in a guys eyes
like "oh yeah, a personality is so much more important". Good Greif!!!
60% will date the rich guy or the trophy guy first to test the waters. They try to see past all the BS and wonder if this guy can be mouldered into something more attractive. These guys will always be the first option for a date, coz there are so many assumptions made about guys with $$$ and the lifestyle they can fund.
Money aint the B all and end of existance. Most girls will claim that, but it sure does make situations in life that little bit easier.
Atleast I know how 2 scare off the golddiggers, just tell her I make $50000 a year. You girls all claim to have money, why does that answer work everytime?! | |
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Posted: 8/21/2007 12:16:33 AM | "I just think it's great that not every guy falls into one or the other category. I say pass 'em both up. #1 How are they getting along just fine with no job? Since one of the top reasons for divorce these days is financial reasons ... why would you want to go into a relationship with that against you already. He can improve his situation if he wants to (unless he's disabled and that's a whole other topic). Two minimum wage jobs, if nothing else! #2 No personality... yuck! How could you stand that no matter how much money he makes!
Good luck! "
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I'm sorry my dear, I didn't know well paying jobs grew on trees. Because in my neck of the woods, they sure as hell don't. I currently hold 3 jobs and am going to school to pick up a fourth because with my 3 jobs, there's not enough work to go around to pay the bills to live on my own. I'm 29 years old and living with mom and dad. Sorry, not that easy. You make think it is, it's not. And don't think for one second it's because I have no education. I have a bachelors of Arts in Psychology and a Masters of Science in Sports Management. See, I wanted more than just some B.S. job that will allow me to support myself and a family. I refuse to go to a job I hate just to support myself. People who do that are absolutely miserable. I fortunately have 3 jobs I absolutely love and in time, there will be enough money to support myself. Women need to have patience. I can see your point if they are just a lump of s h i t who has no ambition to better themselves, but I'm hardly that. I guess all I can say my dear is walk a mile before you judge a foot. | |
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Posted: 8/21/2007 12:18:43 AM | "ok this is what i find fickle.
Why is it, a girl can be anywhere from 21-30 and still living at home, and she is totally content with that life style and everything, and nobody gives two craps about it.
But you take a guy who is 27 and still living at home and he is lower than a pedophile?
Or why is it, its ok for a girl to be at a dead end job, with no life ambition, and as long as she is average to decent looking, guys dont give a crap, they will hit on her and ask her out, and date her.
But, a girl wants the guy to make 100,000$ by the time they are 25, and have a house and nice car?
I see it almost everyday, women who look down on the guys who work hard at thier jobs, maybe they dont make a lot of money, but they are a great guy.
But the same ladies will get all weak in the knee's at the guy who was born with the silver spoon in his mouth and never had to work a day in his life, and is a complete player, also treats women like crap and has a ego bigger than the Milky Way, but buys a brand new BMW, or Mercedes every yr?
Any girl,women,lady who say's they are not shallow like a puddle is lieing. "
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Can we get this put on a billboard somewhere in my hometown??? Because my friend, truer words were never spoken when it comes to women in PITTSBURGH, PENNSYLVANIA!!!! I think I just said the samething down below which you can read, but AMEN my friend!!!! | |
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Posted: 8/30/2007 1:01:33 AM | Tell me about it. Then the guy treats the woman bad. They leave him and hate all men for the rest of their lives, or have emotional difficulties relating to men. (The same is true for women and "tough" hardcore guys).
It really annoys me because to most women. Being a nice guy means your an unconfident loser pansy.
The thing is that money fortune and fame can all be lost and made, yet personality (which is a part of you) sticks with you FOREVER!
What is more important? you decide? | |
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