| Money Vs Personality....
Posted: 8/30/2007 1:45:36 AM | HAD BOTH!
Dated a guy in a dead end job but had a fantastic personality. Used to think my heart would burst if I didn't see him, but after the honeymoon period was over, I noticed he was resentful of my career and would pass snide remarks when I talked about furthering my education....
Dated a guy who was loaded and the biggest bore imagineable - used to think a least he has the few bob, because after an hour in his company felt I had aged by ten years - at least he could pay for my plastic surgery...
BOTH turned out to be insecure - one felt the need to put me down because of my career and the other did the same (because he was in a more important position).
I am now looking for an equal on EVERY level. | |
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cmsr0j
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Joined: 7/30/2007
Msg: 52 | |
| Money Vs Personality....
Posted: 9/3/2007 12:18:47 AM | | That seems about about right. It just seems impossible to find the right inbetween to make you happy. I have had similar situations myself, and they all have come out horribly. | |
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Posted: 9/28/2007 8:18:06 PM | I can relate to that - I work my arse off, I do full time work and sometimes pull 12 houyr days, longest single shift I ever did was like 26 hours straight or something insane like that. I dont earn a lot, I dont own the best car, I cant eat at the best places but Im a decent person.
I know plenty of "rich" people (Well they get like twice what I do anyway) who are total and utter sleazy scum.
I struggle to make ends meet some weeks, I always seem to be playing catchup - but I'm happy with my life, Im not living in squallor or anything like that, and I manage so whats the issue? Is it bad because I cant provide you with everything you want on a whim? That Im 22 nearly 23 and dont own a house?
Some of us come from poor families, some of us dont get a lot through no fault of our own, some us dont NEED to be rich to be happy and so dont chase it because I mean if you are happy, why change it? | |
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Posted: 10/9/2007 11:10:23 AM | I hate people that think what they earn makes them better than other people. I hate people that think the world owes them something because they are beautiful. I hate gold diggers.
People like that are just users and abusers and will never be happy. I liken it to prostitution.
Love and happiness are the main things in life. and as long as you have one then you can be content.
People that are driven by money are soulless. Sure it would be nice to get everything in life handed to you on a platter but get real. To even suggest that you will do anything in a relationship as long as its a funded relationship is an idea that makes me sick. If you want to treat a relationship like a job because your so hopeless that your only way to live is on easy street then your pathetic. Love requires feelings and sacrifice. Not a gold credit card.
I'm betting that some of the people involved in this thread probably didn't even finish reading the first line of this post. Maybe it doesn't pay to have a heart these days but i don't like the alternative.
I don' read these forums i just stumbled on a response link that repulsed me in a certain someones profile. if you want to comment on my post then best to PM me.
LOVE HAS F.A. TO DO WITH MONEY | |
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| Money Vs Personality....
Posted: 10/9/2007 11:23:08 AM | Money is important, it helps keep you fed, clothed, keep a nice roof over your head. However, the amount of money a person makes doesn't distinguish, wether he's top dog, or lowly. Sure, making 30 bucks an hour would be awesome, especially if the work is easy, but there is no need to brag about it, or worse!!! Allow it to turn you into a jerk. This world needs more people with money, and personallity.
Solemn. | |
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US2AUS
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Joined: 1/16/2008
Msg: 56 | |
| Money Vs Personality....
Posted: 2/3/2008 11:42:36 AM | | I think that it is nice to be a little different in the way you look at things the the person you are dating, I also think that if the person makes you happy then money isnt really everything. I to have dated both side from the really rich to the not so rich and found good and faults in both , it wasn't till i was alone that i noticed that i am just looking for someone who has a little of both and the passion in what they do and will want to help me do more and want me to help them do more and understand what makes them love and smile. | |
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Posted: 2/3/2008 1:26:46 PM | Personality, sense of humor and attitude wins hands down over money every time.
Personality, sense of humor and attitude come from within. And while these things change over time, they typically don't just disappear, whereas you can have money and material wealth today and it can be gone tomorrow.
Money can buy a lot of things, but it can't buy happiness. | |
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Posted: 2/3/2008 2:45:15 PM | I like to joke with pple that I am looking for my Next Ex...
Husband Wanted:
Must be Filthy Rich, Older Gent...late 90s, No Heirs!....heart condition, blind in one eye, deaf, one foot in the grave ...the other foot on a banana peel.
okay..so...that would be lovely....considering I left a 26 year relationship physically, emotionally and financially bankrupt...barely got out.
I would have to say there has to be a connection.... money means squat to me...it does not define who I am and I do not judge others on what they drive, what they wear or on their zip code... Personality...is what counts. | |
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Rage44
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Joined: 1/29/2008
Msg: 59 | |
| Money Vs Personality....
Posted: 2/3/2008 2:54:13 PM | | if your a gold digger go for the money. if you want a good man go for the other. I make decent money. I am not rich but I owe no one anything. if it money that makes a man acttractive to a woman. Then i would say that man doesnt need that woman | |
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dani57
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Joined: 12/25/2007
Msg: 60 | |
| Money Vs Personality....
Posted: 2/3/2008 3:15:35 PM | This is my point of view as a succesful woman.
It is very uncomfortable to be with someone when you make more money then him specially if he does not have a job or a carreer goal or not doing anything about improving his life style and securing his future. No matter how attractive he is and how much we enjoy each other company or hitted from the start if there is no balance between his emotional state and his finances something is lacking in the whole picture. A person as a male or female must have the balance....If you are concern and worrying about paying your bills how do you have the time and the energy to give of your self to someone else when you are not able to take care of your own self. You see there is an unbalance here even so the person is not aware of it. Why do you pick a succesful woman if you lack success?
This is my opinion. I am not posting to offend anyone just sharing my experience.
Please no one should settle for any less of what they want and need. Compromise build recentement. If you disagree with me it's ok also............ | |
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Posted: 2/3/2008 3:31:13 PM | | I think the song At the Calie by Celtic woman comes to mind when I read this post. Also being a working man who conciders himself a gentlman, I would say I sure hope a woman would concider me over a rich man. I have qualities that only come through struggle. I am patient, sweet, kind, smart, funny. These thins come from keeping my chin up and busting my hump trying to earn an honest dollar. | |
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Posted: 2/3/2008 3:32:38 PM | practicallyperfect on 2/3/2008 3  46 PM Subject: Money Vs Personality.... Message: Personality, sense of humor and attitude wins hands down over money every time. Personality, sense of humor and attitude come from within. And while these things change over time, they typically don't just disappear, whereas you can have money and material wealth today and it can be gone tomorrow. .
Message: ~ practicallyperfect laid it down straight for you ~ but that you'd ask such a question suggest to me that you won't get the message.
I've had it both ways ~ many times ~
A note here; a realtionship of any length of time ~ you are suppose to grow together ~
You earn it or you have no apperication, just lust
Bill Gates started humble ~ girls laughting at his dorkyness. ~
you hear anyone laughing now? ~~~~ didn't think so. ~ dar | |
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Posted: 2/3/2008 3:34:32 PM |
Why do you pick a succesful woman if you lack success?
Not to be a gold digger as I would still work and all I would choose a succesful woman if she had a great personality and could acept me for me. I want nothing from my loveer but loyalty, companionship, comradery, and LOVE. I am not loooking for money or shelter, so I do not see why I should not date someone based on personality regardless of social standing. | |
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Posted: 2/3/2008 4:17:18 PM | Bill Gates did not start humble btw...he lived in a gated affluent community in Washington State.
Check out this link :
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bill_Gates
William Henry Gates III was born in Seattle, Washington, to William H. Gates, Jr. (now Sr.) and Mary Maxwell Gates. His family was wealthy; his father was a prominent lawyer, his mother served on the board of directors for First Interstate Bank and the United Way, and her father, J. W. Maxwell, was a national bank president.
anyhow..the reason Bill is humble is because it was instilled in him from a young age, and he understood philanthrophy early in life. His quiet demeanor may be because there is speculation that he has a type of Autism called Asperger's Syndrome. A lot of computer geeks show signs of this btw... the extreme case would be 'Rainman'.
just thought you might find this interesting. | |
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Posted: 2/3/2008 7:30:36 PM | | I make my OWN money what would I care what he made? assuming of course he's not expecting me to pay his bills for him LOL that's not attractive in a dude. But I don't need a man to be rich for me to like him. | |
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Posted: 2/4/2008 9:00:44 AM | I did find that of interest ~ regarding Gates ~ westernrose ~ thanks ~
the point I was attempting to make was ~ The OP seems to ingore the the growing process and pontenial thats before each of us ~ very swallow thinking~ and really deserving of no responce ~ but thats not what the forum are about ~ But to engage and inform and share. ~
I don't wish to scold or preach ~ but a love interest of young folks ~ need not be successful or have a pocket full of cash ~ but only the capasity to love and learn and grow. To be otherwise does put one in the Golddigger line as far as I'm consern.
For the older of us either for that matter ~ at this point in life ~ I've gave away more then I 've kept, so my present worth has little to do with my worth. ~dar | |
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Posted: 3/8/2009 7:15:29 AM | | this user penny-stx is a fake account. she has had the same profile pic for years. i challenge you to upload another pic penny-stx. i believe this profile belongs to a gay man. | |
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Posted: 3/8/2009 7:42:04 AM | I think the problem is essentially people value monetary financial gain over the caliber of person whom you're dating. People and society in general are comfortable believing that money is what creates total happiness, not the person you're with. I'm unsure as to why this is, but living in Vegas I see it all the time. Maybe this explains why divorce is at 60% right now.
We all come from different backgrounds, races, religions, origins, and creeds, but if someone only cares about financial gain its an indicator of a few things:
1. They're selfish and probably want a free hand out.
2. They have little to no education themselves and just make sure they look hot so someone wealthy will "take them in." Although the people I know who are extremely wealthy know better.
3. They're obviously shallow.
The bottom line is you either want to be happy with the person you're with and live life to the fullest, or you want to merely exist with a large bank account to play with, which will ultimately bore you after a while and probably lead to infidelity. | |
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Posted: 3/8/2009 8:38:55 AM | I wish it were the first, but I think as a first impression, money can be important. I had a friend who, on another pay dating site, didn't list his income and he got a few responses to emails, but he was disappointing.
He changed his profile to $150K+ and in a matter of days, he was getting responses from many women, with one of the main questions being "What do you do for a living?"
Maybe not scientific, but telling for my friend (and me). | |
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