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OTFB
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Joined: 6/7/2005
Msg: 52 | |
| why do peaple have to be rude about people being over weight or there looks
Posted: 6/19/2005 11:28:56 AM | In all honesty and sincerity,rude and critical people are of the mental type that must berate
others in order to bolster their own self image. It is a battle in the mind of the id and the super ego. The id is the mental function which tells us we are worthless,useless,and have no proper standing in society as a person. The super ego tells the mind we can do no wrong,we have everything under control,we should be loved and desired by all and will not properly manage information to the contrary. These may be extreme in there discription but are fundamentally sound and "normal" people have a mental balance in the two areas allowing acceptance of being neither above or below others as a whole. So in this journey refered to as life,when confronted by such people,consider the source and try not to allow them to live
in your concious mind rent free,it's really not worth your time. Should there be a situation that cannot be allowed to pass,I offer this reprisal. Well,you are entitled to your opinion,and we also know opinions are like a$$holes,we all have one,it's just unfortunate that your's has grown arms,legs and a head. But we can't all be perfect,now can we.
Nail 'em to the wall sweetheart,they deserve it.
Your Most Humble Servant,OTFB
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| why do peaple have to be rude about people being over weight or there looks
Posted: 6/20/2005 12:33:56 PM | | I agree.... but i can tell you honestly.... it is starting to make me very hesitant to go out with anyone... I'm not an ugly person... and sure I have a bit of a tummy.. but damn... I do have feelings.. well one anyway... and I'm beautiful on the inside.... where it really counts. | |
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xander
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Joined: 2/22/2005
Msg: 55 | |
| why do peaple have to be rude about people being over weight or there looks
Posted: 6/20/2005 12:34:35 PM | It's not all the stereotypical skinny-person-bashing-BBWs.
I heard very recently of a friend of mine (curvaceous), standing at a public event eating a hot dog, when another (at least equally) curvaceous woman walked up to her and asked if she should be eating that. She was not too impressed, to say the least.
Side note: I showed the forums to my girlfriend (curvy) and we clicked here and there. I pulled up a profile of someone who had just a headshot but, at a guess, had to be at least 50 pounds overweight. Height: 5'3" Body description: Big & Tall/BBW.
She (5'0") turns to me and says "LOOK! I'M BIG AND TALL"
My thought? Big & Tall and BBW should be two different descriptions. | |
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Scags
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Joined: 5/23/2005
Msg: 56 | |
| why do peaple have to be rude about people being over weight or there looks
Posted: 6/20/2005 5:35:28 PM | | Because some ppl are ****ing ***holes! People like this don't give a shit about hurting other's feeling's. All they care about Is themself's. Some ppl belive look's are everything, They don't give a shit about personality. It's sad really, Personality Is what I look for the most! | |
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Scags
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Joined: 5/23/2005
Msg: 57 | |
| why do peaple have to be rude about people being over weight or there looks
Posted: 6/20/2005 5:46:18 PM | | Take me as an ex. I'm not the sexyest guy In the world, I don't look like Brad Pit. But I have an awsome personality! But to some ppl that means nothing. I feel for you! Kinda reminds me of my life growing up. I was constantlly made fun of, School was horrible for me. But now It dosen't matter, It dosen't bug me. You just have to get this attidude where you don't give a shit anymore. **** em! That's what I say. Were all not perfect, Nothing Is! Even this life we live In Is not perfect. But alsong as you belive you are beautiful or handsome inside, That's all that matters! **** everbody else who thinks other wise! | |
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| why do peaple have to be rude about people being over weight or there looks
Posted: 6/21/2005 5:08:33 AM | I have had my share of incidences on here. While some men I have encountered are out right mean and nasty about things, there are a few who think they are trying to help.
Like the one guy who offered to be my personal trainer in exchange for sex. He didn't like the way I looked, yet he still wanted to sleep with a big chick.
If people have to take the time to point out you are overweight, maybe not pretty enough for them then the issue is definitely with them. Something makes them feel better when they decide to put someone else down. There is an ego boost for them feeling superior than someone. But the fact is they just lower themselves as people and most intelligent people lose respect for them.
Not everyone is going to be attracted to everyone else, but there is no need to belittle and put people down because they aren't what you want. | |
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Sexyme
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Joined: 5/30/2005
Msg: 59 | |
| why do peaple have to be rude about people being over weight or there looks
Posted: 6/21/2005 9:20:32 PM | Well this one of the best subjects I've seen on the forums.
I started out on this site in May I did not fill out all of the questions and did not post a picture. I had been receiving mail from different people and enjoyed interacting with them.
However one day I noticed a profile from someone that interested me. Sounded like a good guy, great profile seemed as if he would be receptive to my note. I sent a creative response to him and when I received an answer I was estatic. That is until I read it.
It happened a couple more times with the same results. I started to feel as if i were the most undesireable creature put on this earth. After pondering a bit, feeling very upset I decided to heck with those guys and posted a pic, show em what they rejected. Revenge was my goal. hehe 
My point in all this to you guys out there just because someone does not feel it necessary to post a picture or answer all of the questions it does not mean they are extremely overweight, ugallly or undesirable it just means that they wish to remain a little private. And will share their body type with whom they wish. | |
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| why do peaple have to be rude about people being over weight or there looks
Posted: 6/23/2005 1:37:58 PM | | Well this topic is very close and dear to me for im as big as it gets I have been heavy all my life and since my accident I have got a little heavier so for you female that have this issue with males I have it with females I get so pissedoff with people being judege and jaury over me the last time I check I had feelings JUST LIKE THEM who in the HELL do they think they are I only wish that they would read the whole book and not judge the book by its cover!!!!and I only wish to here from others. The way I deal with this is THOSE WHO LIKE ME WILL LIKE ME WELL AND THOSE DON'T CAN GO TO HELL!!!. THE BIG CAPER | |
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MsX
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Joined: 2/16/2005
Msg: 61 | |
| why do peaple have to be rude about people being over weight or there looks
Posted: 7/14/2005 5:23:24 AM | I have not had any bad experiences on this site as I really haven't talk to the many people or received that many messages.
On a few of the different sites that I am on, I have been told that I am fat, have to big of breasts, ugly and that no man would ever want me because of my size.
I am a big boned woman and I am who I am. If I am going to change it will be because I want to and not because a man tells me I should.
Looks are important to a lot of people, the vain ones, but what is important is what is inside. I am a real person and have feelings. I try very hard not to judge others because I don't like to be judged. I want to be accepted for me. Is that too much to ask? | |
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| Why do people have to be rude about people being over weight or their looks
Posted: 7/3/2009 12:16:07 PM | I noticed a whole lot of men who are with overweight women... well... "usually" they're also overweight or those of a dark complexion which I often get asked by both men and women quite often, why do we have this preference... meanwhile I haven't really been involved with anybody overweight until the age of 29. I then realized... although we were very much in love... I no longer had that certain mojo in restrospect which thankfully she was absolutely understanding convinced that I might need more time to get adjusted... but about 10 months later, it remained the same way where she wanted to get me Viagra... but... I rather not ever do any kind of drug, especially of that sort because I was afraid it might somehow have an adversed affect on me.
The first time we got together, several of the ladies were really glad to see she and I were together... but so many others became rather bitter towards us that there were those who even tried to cut right in between and beautiful as they did appear... she suddenly saw why I chose not to be with any of them instead. She just started working out a few weeks beforehand as her final car payments were made... but showed hardly any progress eversince. When we broke up... I was rather offended about what she said to me... yet, I brought her a large teddy bear, a box of chocolates and a bouquet and walked away with a small note that said... "If I only knew what I could've done differently, Love Always". Her best friend told me later on, that she really thought about what she accused me of and felt horrible about it and wanted me to forgive her... yet, I already did so long ago within that very minute. I took the opportunity to dance with her again amongst my friends several weeks afterward... and she told me that she's going to be staying in Texas and will still cherish what we had together.
That said... we might just have that subconscious mental block... but there's no reason why anybody should be arrogant at all. | |
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| Why do people have to be rude about people being over weight or their looks
Posted: 7/3/2009 6:45:43 PM | What the hell are you meandering about aGent Lemon? "She just started working out a few weeks beforehand as her final car payments were made" You mean she couldn't work out before that? Man you tell almost a life story of the relationship and it just seems to go off in a strange direction.
Now myself I am very polite about weight. I merely meet someone and say "Can we take your car mine doesn't have air shocks!" Oh c'mon people I am just kidding. LOL No there is no need to be rude about weight or looks. But there is also no need for people to be rude or offended if they get a e-mail back saying the connection is not there either if it is written politely. | |
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| Why do people have to be rude about people being over weight or their looks
Posted: 7/4/2009 3:22:19 AM | This has always been the problem with conversing online (same thing with chat sites) - and it's why (in the early days of chatting) you found a lot of married people getting themselves into trouble.
People are much bolder, much more uninhibited online. They say things that in person they certainly wouldn't.
Add to that the fact that those people with insecurity issues and less than average social skills also tend to spend a lot of their time online. Net result is that you have a higher percentage of people acting inappropriately in forums / instant messaging.
I had proposed (hmm...maybe a couple of years ago) a "karma points" system to deal with people who consistently use inappropriate behavior (amazing how vocal the opposition to it was). (someone sends you an inappropriate message, you assign them a couple of negative karma points - they accumulate enough negative karma, it affects who they can message. You set what your lower threshold is for karma for who you will allow to talk to you).
Maybe someday we'll all be forced to video chat...then those that would act inappropriately will be less prone to do so. | |
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| Why do people have to be rude about people being over weight or their looks
Posted: 7/4/2009 1:18:18 PM | So who cares.... get over it. What's the difference in a thread where all these overweight people are crying in their beer that nobody appreciates THEM for who they are, not their weight.
Then I go and read women's profiles and so many of them say..... MUST HAVE A FULL HEAD OF HAIR!!!!!
What's the freaking difference?
There will always be people who specify a specific look, color, body size, physical attribute, "professional" or whatever criteria is important to them. If you can't live with it, pass them buy and keep fishing. That's called life and nobody ever said it was fair.
Do I sound harsh to you? No, just very much a realist (1/2 bald) who lives with the way I am and if others don't like me because my hair is thin, I'm too tall, blah, blah, blah, blah, I just move along. It's their loss, not mine. | |
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| Why do people have to be rude about people being over weight or their looks
Posted: 7/4/2009 2:22:49 PM | | I'm no toothpick & never will be, I don't have the frame for it. I am extra chubby right now because I hurt my back in a car accident. I became super lazy as I was always in pain when I moved around. Then winter came, argg... Now that the weather is nicer & I'm no longer is pain, I have lost a good portion of the extra flab lol Now I just need to take pics to update my new less flabbiness LOL | |
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| Why do people have to be rude about people being over weight or their looks
Posted: 7/4/2009 4:29:55 PM | if people are going to be cruel/rude/unkind, they'll always find something to pick on
there will always be something different on which they will focus their petty nastiness, whether it's because someone is too short/tall/big/small/hairy/bald/dark or light skinned... it makes no difference really, a bully needs no excuse
just consider the source and ignore it; if you respect the person, respect the opinion... otherwise, why care what they say/think? | |
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| Why do people have to be rude about people being over weight or their looks
Posted: 7/5/2009 5:06:20 PM | I have to agree, WHY do some People have to be so darn RUDE???
I have had some replys say outright, and bold your to fat!
and another your to skinny!
is there a happy medum?
In the end I am who I am, my attatude now is if you don't like what you see then don't look!
I know what I have to offer, and what I can bring into a relationship.
In the end I'm happy with me, and I'm not going to let anyone put me down!!!
KEEP SMILING BECAUSE YOUR BEAUTIFUL AND DAMN IT YOUR WORTH IT
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| Why do people have to be rude about people being over weight or their looks
Posted: 7/5/2009 9:02:42 PM | I don't know why people think they have the right to be rude period. Whether it be weight, looks, hair, whatever, some people seem to think it is okay to say whatever they want.
There really is no good reason for anyone to be rude. Everyone is an individual, and everyone contributes something positive to someone else's life. Personally I think that when people take on a holier than thou attitude it just shows that they are more insecure than the person they are being rude to, they need to feel superior to others, and can only do it my putting others down.
I would like to think that when a person encounters these types of people, that they can walk away from the encounter knowing that in the end they are not the one with the problem, because in all reality they are not the problem at all.
As celtic smiles says - "KEEP SMILING BECAUSE YOUR BEAUTIFUL AND DAMN IT YOUR WORTH IT"  | |
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| why do peaple have to be rude about people being over weight or there looks
Posted: 7/6/2009 4:27:53 PM | Msg 1,
Rude people are raised that way.
I remember once, downtown late at night, seeing a young drunk guy shouting insults at his girlfriend. She seemed normal, but he apparently thought she was 'stupid'. She shrunk back and smiled awkwardly, but otherwise took the verbal abuse. Hope she didn't stay with him.
Better to find out the easy way, that someone is rude, rather than the hard way. | |
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| why do peaple have to be rude about people being over weight or there looks
Posted: 8/18/2009 6:12:34 PM | | There are alot of shallow people out there that think everyone should look and be the same as them. Ugh, gawd forbid. People are cruel, its plain and simple. Just ignore them and move on, there are always nice ones standing by ready to be a friend and they are blind to gender, color, sex and intelligence. (ok, maybe not intelligence, haha) | |
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| why do peaple have to be rude about people being over weight or there looks
Posted: 8/19/2009 8:10:20 AM | People have the right to their own opinions, (freedom of speech) it is truely pathetic how some people can be so shallow and insulting towards others.
The human race in general has evolved for the most part, but for some individuals it never will,so sad to the point it pitiful.
Its unfortunate that there's no cure for ignorance,the world would be somewhat of a better place if there was.
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| why do peaple have to be rude about people being over weight or there looks
Posted: 9/16/2009 10:09:35 AM |  I've honestly never had that happen to me on here. I just try to treat people with respect. But my opinion on it, it's childish and ignorant. I am not going to waste time tongue wrestling on a damn computer screen and will not entertin anyone doing it to me. I KNOW DAMN WELL IF THEY SAW ME IN PERSON, THEY WOULDN'T SAY SHIT LIKE THAT TO ME. All bullshit aside, I have no complaints in that department. | |
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| why do peaple have to be rude about people being over weight or there looks
Posted: 9/16/2009 5:53:08 PM | | If someone told me I was fat, I would tell them to go eff themselves for being stupid. I am not nearly as thin as I was 8 years ago but I am certainly not a fat whale either. I listed myself as athletic because I do exercise a lot and have lost a fair bit of weight over the last few years, I am still what you could call average weight though but I don't consider that for my physique to be fat. | |
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| why do peaple have to be rude about people being over weight or there looks
Posted: 9/16/2009 6:07:01 PM | Some people just dont know when to keep there mouths shut.
Personally I just see it as a sign of stupidity when someone decides to call me fat. Its not like I woke up this morning looking like Megan Fox and some time during the day my ass exploded. I know what I look like, I know I have extra weight, Im ok with it. For someone to blatantly state the obvious bores me to tears. If youre going to be an ass at least try and be creative about it. | |
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