| has anyone tried the other online dating sites?
Posted: 10/16/2007 12:09:06 AM | | Hmmm, I have been on True, Lavalife, date/Match.ca, e-harmony, yahoo personals in the past...I'm a trooper...I may still have profiles on those places, but I usually stop checking my profile after a week to a month when I get inundated with winks/kisses or obviously fake matches that are irrelevant to my acceptable criterion for a mate. I haven't been active on those sites for ages, perhaps a year now. I think POF is the best because I haven't gotten spammed yet knock on wood. Although I think I am a bit biased because it is from the city I am from so there is more prospectives in my area. It may be different for other regions. | |
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| has anyone tried the other online dating sites?
Posted: 10/16/2007 3:06:41 AM | | I tried Match.com. Biggest scam I've ever run into. They use dead profiles to lure new members in. They take your money upfront and only then you can e-mail someone. But, since over 50% of the profiles are not active. You don't get a response. I did get correspondences as far away as L.A , Tahiti and Japan. The women contacted me first.But, due to our geographical seperation. We never met. Funny how once my membership ended. I was e-amiled that 11 members were all of a sudden interested in me at the same time and were waiting for your reply. Join for another $80 to write them an e-mail. I thought it was a legit site.Because they used a Dr.Phill photo and even he approved the site. Dr.Phill is supposed to be this fair trustworthy man. So, I fell for it. | |
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| has anyone tried the other online dating sites?
Posted: 12/10/2007 9:27:45 PM | Started off with Match.com. Was conned into their "give us six months of fees, we'll get you a date, or we'll laugh at your dumb a s s for another six months, for free!" And that's pretty much what they've been doing. Everything is a charge. Want to know someone read your email? Cough up the bucks. Want to know if your prospective love has teeth? Extra. Want to log in? That'll be $4.95 a month more.
But the biggest rip off, in my opinion, was my next one, eHarmony. You spend 12 weeks filling out a "compatibility exam" that would weed out all of the "undesirables." ("If you were a nostril, which side of the nose would you be?") Then, once a day, THEY find some "matching candidates," and send 'em your way. You can opt to do a "fast track" style where you just start talking to the other person, or you can do their "structured" meeting. You ask some canned questions and wait on her answers. Then she asks you some. Then you send a list of "must haves / can't stands." She sends hers back. More questions back and forth. You can spend two weeks just trying to find out what her favorite flavor of ice cream is, for crying out loud!
Because eHarmony is trying to focus on *personality matching* you may not even seen a picture of the person you're "talking" to until WAY late in the game. Call me superficial, and it's not like I'm God's gift to women, but, DAMN, I wanna SEE who I'm talking to. It MATTERS.
I found singlesnet.com next. Ehh. Stuck around for about a month. Lady there told me about POF. I've been here ever since.
Tried out Yahoo Personals. That went well for a few weeks. Strange thing about Yahoo. The majority of interest I got on that site were from older ladies. No other site has that happened to the level it occurred on Yahoo. The ladies there must have taken one look at my white hair and said, "Oooo, Myrtle, he's one of us! Bring the Metamucil!" You can't tell when someone has read your email, but it DOES keep track of every email you ever sent to someone. So, if you're like me, and forgetful, you don't send a message to the same person more than once.
I read an article about pay vs free sites. Had to be written by an advocate of the pay sites. The article's main gist was that the people who're *paying* to find a date are more *serious* about it. (Because they're investing money in the search.) While I tend to think that the folks who're on the free sites are smarter about it -- they're saving their money for their dates. | |
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| has anyone tried the other online dating sites?
Posted: 12/10/2007 10:44:03 PM | I tired a membership for three months with Yahoo. On my God! Went out with about five guys. Most of those were on some kind of fantasy trip. The dates from the Wizard Of Oz! But you know! When I need a really funny story to keep my friends laughing, I just talk about my dates from that place! I had so much better luck on plentyoffish. At least the men in here seem more human! | |
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| has anyone tried the other online dating sites?
Posted: 12/10/2007 10:47:52 PM |
Has anyone tried other online dating websites? like match.com and lava life? Will you find more quality people who are more serious there?
I've tried a few--not all at the same time, of course(no way I could afford that.
) : match.com, e-harmony, yahoo personals, and some of the more *cough* "alternative" personals sites. 
Out of the paid sites, all I ever really got was spam, spam, and more spam. On sites like matchdoctor and POF, at least I've gotten a few replies from REAL people . Never got to go out with any of em, but got some online friends from it, at least. That's better than getting "cum see my website! it's free, blah blah blah blah " spam e-mails I'd get from the other sites. | |
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| has anyone tried the other online dating sites?
Posted: 12/10/2007 11:03:05 PM | i tried
eharmony
friendf inder
yahoo personals
amigos.com
and in the end I got nothing. no replies, no emails, no views. It was just annoying. I found this site and I am getting almost the same thing, only this time I am getting two replies. The difference is that this time I am not paying LOL | |
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| has anyone tried the other online dating sites?
Posted: 12/11/2007 6:28:14 AM | | I have tried some of the other major sites including lavalife and date.ca but am not willing to pay so the only one that's worked has been lavalife because of the guys who buy credits to send messages. On date.ca and those like it I find it rediculous that both people have to pay to look at messages that are sent and received. At least on lavalife if someone sends you a message you can reply for free. I don't know that many girls who pay to message guys though so if you're a guy you might have have to pay if you like someone but at least it's by the message and not by the month on there. I found there seemed to be some better quality people who were more serious on the other sites but then were a bunch of others who weren't so great too. I have found there are a few I talked to on other sites that also tried this one after getting sick of paying. I think all sites have a good mix of people. One thing I like about this one though is that you can specify what ages you want messaging you. I was getting so mad at the other sites because of all these older guys messaging me even though I stated in the first sentence of my profile I wasn't interested in anyone more than 4 years older than me. It might be worth trying the others if you have money to burn but younger ones especially don't seem to like to pay. | |
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| has anyone tried the other online dating sites?
Posted: 12/11/2007 8:43:22 AM | I was on yahoo personals, american singles, and singlesnet.com. I didn't like singlesnet.com because the profiles are so generic; only the basic info on there. The big turnoff, though was that I received emails from profiles which ended up being phishers / spammers. I did IM with a woman I met on there, but she was too much of a partier for my tastes.
Americansingles.com was a waste of money. I kept getting notifications that someone was emailing me, and I would discover she was from China or somewhere overseas. Then, when I cancelled, I received an email that there were ten emails in my inbox. I also discovered that many of the women on there were on yahoo, so I signed up for the email service on there. Yes, there were a lot of profiles, but I wasn't getting any replies. My frustration reached its peak back in June, so I re-wrote my "About Me" section where I basically vented. It amazed me that I was talking to women from other areas of the country on cherry tap.com and they were all awestruck that I wasn't taken. After I posted the new profile, I started getting views and a few emails. I ended up cancelling it because I met a woman on cherry tap.com.
Most of the luck I've had in the past year was from myspace.com. I met four women on there who I dated. It dried up for me eventually. Same old story. No replies to email. | |
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| has anyone tried the other online dating sites?
Posted: 12/11/2007 9:32:00 AM |
He wasn't THAT great of a guy; he had an a-hole personality and not that great looking in his pics.
I know him!!!! That's the guy!!! He IS an a-hole
I briefly tried American Singles as a non-payer At least they allow non-payers to receive IM's from payers, and you can see who's emailed you. You just can't reply to emails without paying. The site didn't seem to have much action--not enough for me to pay.
I briefly signed up for Yahoo as a non-payer. They allow you to receive emails, but the only way to respond is by choosing one of their canned replies-- one per person. They also block the payer-to non-payer messages from containing an email address, so they obviously censor the payers emails- which I think is a rip off for the payer. Though some clever people knew how to beat the system by proper spacing and leaving off the @
I couldn't take either site seriously enough to pay.
I don't think I take internet people-shopping seriously enough to pay. | |
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| has anyone tried the other online dating sites?
Posted: 12/11/2007 10:01:31 AM | | i also have tried all of the above. i think most people stay on this site for the forums. its a fill in while they are waiting for there match. i did try singlesnet.com which is free for women if the man is a member. it is not that exspensive anyone. after only 1 week i met some i have been seeing for 3 months now | |
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| has anyone tried the other online dating sites?
Posted: 12/11/2007 10:06:01 AM | I personally don't have time.. I also am not going to pay to date someone.. That is how I look at the other sites.
POF has all I need, So I am just staying here | |
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| has anyone tried the other online dating sites?
Posted: 12/11/2007 12:51:49 PM | | ya I tried those sites as well heck I was on those sites when they were free I wont say what sites but will say this they includeing pof have all the same people on them with all the same b.s. | |
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| has anyone tried the other online dating sites?
Posted: 12/11/2007 1:58:10 PM | I've tried:
abmatch
singlescanada
mate1
bikerdatingnetwork
Though I've had several contacts through mate1, none of them went any further than a few emails. Had absolutely no contacts from abmatch or singlescanada. A few men viewed my profile on bikerdatingnetwork ( I would have to pay to send them an email, so never did). POF has been the best of them all, at least in connecting with new friends, and I did go on a few dates through meeting men on here. | |
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| has anyone tried the other online dating sites?
Posted: 12/11/2007 2:24:27 PM | I've had friends switch to pay sites and come back to the free ones. They switched hoping that there would be less B.S. if people were paying but found that it was pretty much the same there and some times worse.
Worse in the case that on some of these sites you have to pay to make first contact. What would often happen to my friends is that some one would intentionally send them a wink (which was free) to get them to make first contact and then never reply back to them.
So basically if your going to try other ones go for it but just don't do any of the pay ones. | |
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| has anyone tried the other online dating sites?
Posted: 12/11/2007 4:01:13 PM | | I have a Yahoo boyfriend right now. I DO find that being on a site at first, you get a lot of hits, but after that, everyone sees your face and is sick of it. I mean, not YOUR face, they see MY face and get sick of it. I assume, because the contacts stop. I think, therefore, that rotating around to different free and pay sites probably is a good way to o. | |
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| has anyone tried the other online dating sites?
Posted: 12/11/2007 4:09:52 PM | | I've tried lavalife and actually had a lot more success on there than I did on this site. The quality of the profiles and the e-mails is generally better. Also, I have a better reply rate on there, and see more men that interest me. | |
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| has anyone tried the other online dating sites?
Posted: 12/13/2007 5:21:54 PM | I used to find Date.ca or Lavalife tolerable but within the last 2 years, it's become a total rip off,
Sending out fake smiles/ email invites to make you use up your "points" and also the girls, many girls will send out smiles an therefore you email them, they read the email an then don't reply
I found out that girls do this for fun, how sick & pathetic is that. This was around the time I 100% given up on American women, tired of they're vileness. I only email FW an everything has been hunky dorey since then.
Why send out 100 emails an get no reply other than F off loser when you can send out 10 emails an get 100 emails back | |
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| has anyone tried the other online dating sites?
Posted: 12/13/2007 11:04:06 PM | What? Free for women and make men pay?? Isn't that sexist to the Nth degree?
Over the years I've tried a few.....
EHarmony....Wayyy too many bland and totally uninteresting women, seems to have a very high proportion of 'average plus'
Match-Lots of folk who are 5's looking for 9's while thinking they are 8's.
Adult Friend Finder-A total fantasty site, men 'thinking' that these women exist while the women who post do it for naughty kicks but have no intention of ever actually meeting anyone online...I think the ratio of men to women must be 50 to 1 on that site.
Asian Friend Finder-Sorry to say but this has to be the best site to find a woman...if you are into gold digging princesses with nothing to offer.
One other site for vegan women just for a laugh-I was surprised by this one...I thought that vegan women would be more proactive in the dating world, seems they are pretty lazy or tired from lack of meat in their diet.
I actually think THIS site is the best, the forums are fantastic and maybe the ratio of men to women is uneven BUT they certainly seem to be a great bunch of folk and are more 'real' and 'normal' than anything the other sites have to offer by far. Lets face it, paying for the luxury of reading that you have beenrejected..again just isn't worth paying for
I hope all of you fish out there have a really great Christmas and lets all get hooked up next year!!!! :-) | |
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| has anyone tried the other online dating sites?
Posted: 12/14/2007 7:18:07 AM | | I had an ad on match.com,got some good matches initially but they didn't quite match up. But when I went back a couple months later I keep seeing the same few ads but not alot of new ones for my area. I think alot of women sign up for free trials but can't respond after a few days unless they subscribe,hard to tell if they are real ads. | |
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| has anyone tried the other online dating sites?
Posted: 12/16/2007 8:24:04 AM | | All dating sites suck. It seems that to be successful at online dating, you have to be willing to lower your standards tremendously... Kind of desperate, but thats what seems to work. | |
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| has anyone tried the other online dating sites?
Posted: 12/16/2007 11:24:27 AM | I've tried the others. I think half the profiles are bait to get you to "sign up". Ever notice that with [pick a site] you register and create a profile, then for the next few weeks you get a message or two a day. Of course you can't reply unless you pay, so you do, just to never recieve another message again. It's bait.
On this site, however, women seem real and actually respond to email.
IMO, if you think you have to lower your standards here, I don't see how meeting people in person will be any better. Maybe its more an issue of having realistic standards as opposed to high standards. For men and women...I think if you actually met some of the people you discard based solely on a photo, you find out what you're missing. | |
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