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| has anyone tried the other online dating sites?
Posted: 5/9/2008 4:50:56 PM |
i've been on here for a little over 2 years now and have had no success whatsoever. granted, a lot of people have. a lot of the women i've messaged for the majority of the time dont even bother to write me back. all i see is "read deleted" or "read". "read deleted" i get, but "read" come on dont beat around the bush, a response isn't too much to ask for. maybe i'm not attractive enough who knows?
Don't take this the wrong way, but you are one of the cutest guys I've seen on POF in quite a while. Do not sell yourself short as you are adorable. | |
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Posted: 5/9/2008 4:56:26 PM | I joined nearly 100 dating sites to do research for an eBook I wrote (seriously, stop laughing!). I didn't know of POF at the time and am not sure how I skipped it. A good majority of them were nothing but spam. I can't tell you how many men messaged me to meet me after I joined, even with a blank profile, 99 years old, no teeth and said I weighed 600 lbs! I then joined them as a male persona and to this day still get responses from women wanting to meet me, even though they all live in countries whose names I can't pronounce.
I still belong to a handful of sites but haven't met anyone in ages.
On site A they are seeking a relationship, someone to cuddle and hug and hold. They want a little woman to cook and clean, to take care of her man, to have 2.5 kids and a white picket fence.
On site B they are looking for a skank ho to bend over that white picket fence and do up the butt.
On site C they are seeking TV/TG as long as they "pass." | |
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| has anyone tried the other online dating sites?
Posted: 5/9/2008 5:19:57 PM | I've been on lavalife and date.ca, and match.com
3 years plus on lavalife, search isn't very good really, misses people that are fairly near me. You pay a fee and get credits, I still have a lot, choices were not really there, often would send emails and not get anything back, and I paid to send the messages.
One of the problems with lavalife I see is the children, most men aren't looking for woman with children living with them so you don't come up on searches, here on POF you can say the children are over 18.
I've had a little more luck with date.ca you pay a fee per month and can email whoever you want, but because its set up like this you often get no so serious emails, plus you get emails from other countries, no way to filter it out. Without a subscription you can see who sends you an email or flirt but you can't read it. Plus it auto renews your subscription and it makes it difficult to stop that. I spent half and hour one day untill I finally figured out how to stop the auto renew.
I've also had a match .com account you can't even see who is sending emails or flirts, unless you have a subscription. I never really gave match much of a shot because I joined POF a week later. | |
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Posted: 5/9/2008 7:49:59 PM |
On site A they are seeking a relationship, someone to cuddle and hug and hold. They want a little woman to cook and clean, to take care of her man, to have 2.5 kids and a white picket fence.
On site B they are looking for a skank ho to bend over that white picket fence and do up the butt.
On site C they are seeking TV/TG as long as they "pass."
I’ve seen these types of “multiple personality” profiles also, many times.
When I was single I had a profile on LL as well as one on POF. There’s a large cross over of people in my city on both sites. I found it hugely amusing to read many men’s profiles on POF, waxing poetically about wanting to find the love of their life for a long term, committed, NORMAL relationship, and then read the same people’s profiles on LL, looking for an “adventurous, open minded woman for good time” and bragging about their sexual prowess and all the kinky stuff they were into  .
I didn’t find lava any better than POF in terms of the quality of men or the seriousness of those seeking dating or a relationship.
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Posted: 5/10/2008 1:01:12 AM | Yeah I'm still on Lava life , but alas most of the guys there near me are on POF too! So , kind of useless, so I rarely log in unless I get an email or something , which I rarely do, LL was my first experience in online dating well over a year ago...I was such a noob and careless at whom I talked with, I sure learned the hard way.. I found out about POF from a friend of mine who met her husband on here first crack...
unfortunately,I have not been so lucky .....................
oh yeah, I always heard ppl talking about Eharmony so I tried that out for One day, because that's how long it seemed to take to fill out them damn questions.....I found it a bit odd and deleted my account. | |
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Posted: 5/10/2008 8:33:09 AM | | My opinion is all those pay sites are just a scam to keep you sucked into giving them your money. I've tried many of them. The only thing I've ever gotten out of them was nothing! But they will get more money from you if you let them suck you in and keep you hoping. I think they're all the same in that respect. I like POF, seems there are actually real people here. | |
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Posted: 5/10/2008 8:39:24 AM | I've had friends that have gotten dates from match.com.. unfortunately I've not had the same luck... I suppose over the years, I've payed a few shiny pennys for the chance to email women, but have gotten about the same response as I get on POF... (that would be zero)
Anyway... I'm still on there, hoping that someone will notice my profile.. but I don't hold out TOO much hope...
I just don't think online dating is for me. | |
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Posted: 5/10/2008 3:58:40 PM | Yes, I have tried other sites. Some of them are just out there to get all of our money and some don't really have a good format like PoF. I've been here over a year now... had a profile last year and changed it up some, and I have been quite satisfied with it all right here !!
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Posted: 5/10/2008 4:22:05 PM | Let's see...
Matchmaker.com - I, along with many others, used to take advantage of the free profile days back in the late 90s. You, after posting a picture, could get up to 2 weeks free with absolutely total use of the site. When that two weeks was up, simply make a profile with a different e-mail address. Rinse, repeat. Met a couple of people from there, maintained a "phone relationship" with a girl from Minnesota, ultimately nothing but drama. Matchmaker went straight downhill when they were bought by Lycos (who doesn't even exist anymore!), and now they're nothing more than a poor Match.com ripoff. Best experience: I met a good friend in Dallas who I remain friends with to this day, and we met in person for the first time back in February, after 10 years of being online friends.
Match.com - The first of the sites to include all the "personality profile" junk which makes it seem like they're working harder to enable compatibility, but it ultimately fails, and has tons of fake profiles designed to make you think there are other women interested in you. As others have noted, you get e-mails talking about all the "new messages" you've got, but only after you've left the site, and you have to pay to read the mail.
Yahoo Personals - I was a user back in the days when it was totally free (back in '97 and '98). A few dates came out of it, including the worst date I've ever had, but ultimately the best thing that came out of it was me becoming friends with the guy who wound up dating a woman I initially became friends with through that site. He and I are still friends; we have no idea what happened to her after they broke up.
Lavalife - Used it for a short time, too much like Match.com, left it after the free trial period was over.
EHarmony - The single most expensive dating site on the 'net, and largely unsuccessful for me. I can't fathom paying $50 a month for a site where I can't even do searches and choose who to write to.
POF - Despite an approximate 90% read/delete rate (and most of that was before I gained my reputation for being so unpopularly opinionated on these forums), it's about the best thing going. Efforts are made by the site to insure the profiles are real. The bad part of it is the number of women who come to a dating site with no intentions of actually finding anyone, but only so they can kibbitz in the forums.
Online dating is more of a crapshoot than real life, sadly. At least in real life, if you walk up and introduce yourself to a lady and compliment her, she isn't going to completely ignore you (the real-life equivalent of "read/delete"). At least in person most ladies seem to have a modicum of consideration and politeness. ;) | |
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Posted: 5/10/2008 11:33:45 PM | | I have tried just about every site mentioned in this thread though I must admit my attempts are extremely half-hearted and more window shopping. I tend to currently browse here and ok cupid since they are both free. Ok cupid can be fun for the quizzes. | |
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Posted: 5/11/2008 3:23:45 AM | In the last 18 months i have tried Match.com.... dating direct..... friends reunited dating ......and single parent dating...... i have had dates from 3 of those sites and a couple of short term relationships....... i met my current chap on Dating Direct about 10 weeks ago...... everything is going great, so i would say yes they do work.
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Posted: 5/22/2008 11:51:32 PM |
I think a dating site should provide free allowance to women and charge men; this would in effect a functional equilibrium for me.
I tried the phone dating service a couple years ago where the men paid and women got on for free and I didn't get much results. There are a lot of women using those services as their call girl line or running their escort service, and why not they get to use it for free. Then there's quite a few on there just for phone sex. That made me mad cause I was spent my money to hear a bunch of ads from ho's and hookers and I was being sincere about meeting someone. How does that make a equilibrium when half the females that are using those services are just looking to give you a handjob for 50 bucks? If your really into that idea, then call one of those lines. | |
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Posted: 5/23/2008 9:18:56 AM | I was on lavalife for a while, but i never had any sucess becausse i didnt pay... I did however get my record collection posted in their magazines "What your [BLANK] Says about you" column they used to run which was pretty cool.
As for POF
So far I have
Added several (around 6) Women to my MSN/facebook from meeting them here
Met 4 women in person
Dated one woman for 2 weeks
And had a couple of "dates" with another
All in all :) | |
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Posted: 5/23/2008 9:49:14 AM | | It has been several years since I actually used any of the sites for dating, and back then I don't think PoF existed, though other free sites did exist such as aol. By far the best site - in terms of most and best dates - back then was match, in my opinion. I don't know how it would compare now. To some extent, it's the site and how well it's designed, but the bottom line is the people on the site! Some people will find success almost anywhere, and some will have difficulty anywhere. | |
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| has anyone tried the other online dating sites?
Posted: 5/23/2008 12:54:44 PM |
Ok cupid and I are great pals, and for me the quality of responses has been INFINITELY higher, but... I suspect that may not be the case for everyone.
That's definitely the case for me. I signed up for Ok Cupid a week ago and have had ten times the response there. It's a far better site than PoF, actually, and it's free. However, the PoF forums are much better. I love the forums here. | |
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Posted: 5/25/2008 3:54:56 AM | | I have only been on one paid site and that was Passion.com. This is more of a sex site than a dating site. The vast majority of my messages were ignored and those who did reply disappeared quickly. On local sites (N.Ireland) the only real attention ive recieved has been from scammers and at the outset as i was almost duped as i had never experienced dating scammers before, but im not stupid enough to send money over the internet to anyone im unsure about. On POF the great majority of emails get "read delete" or "read" and no reply. Despite this ive still managed to chat with a lot of girls but they come and go so quickly that your heads in a spin most of the time and most of them just seem to play you along or play mind games before moving on to someone else. Finding a genuine woman is difficult task. Finding one who is genuine and interested in you is even harder. Ive been contacted by some howlers and if i was prepared to drop my standards id probably have a woman by now but i think a blind-fold and some anaesthetic would be necessary. ONLINE DATING; its all a game, with greedy paid site administrators and the shallow, selfish, phoney, flighty, disinterested, time-wasting women on this free site. Talk about trying to find the needle in a haystack. Ive stopped sending messages. Whats the point in giving another b*tch the opportunity to reject you? | |
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Posted: 5/25/2008 4:59:49 AM | i met my now ex-wife online, but it was not a dating site. it was actually a chatline for ravers, although neither of us was a raver and have nothing to do with that lifestyle.
number of people met from that chatline: 12
number of people met from hotornot: 1, yp: 1, pof: 1.
i finished the eharmony questionnaire but never bothered to pay their exorbitant prices. i still get emails from them advertising their latest discounts but they still won't let you even acknowledge receiving a message, so i automatically delete those messages from my inbox unread.
i did the same with Catholicdupid.com. i even emailed them a suggestion. they said they'd make the change and, if it worked out, they'd give me a free membership. didn't hear from that site again for maybe a year, until 2 days ago when i got a message saying i had mail. turned out to be their advertising, which i deleted unread.
I think a dating site should provide free allowance to women and charge men; this would in effect a functional equilibrium for me.
are you joking? imagine how the dynamics of online dating would change if only the women were charged and not the men:
1. women would simply not sign up, especially if they found out that men didn't have to pay, thus turning the site into a stag party
2. maybe the women would be more inclined to respond or initiate contact if they had to pay for it. yes, i know they do pay for the contact function on many sites. | |
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Posted: 5/25/2008 8:23:37 AM | I'm also on the unmentionable cupid one that is ok. I like the polls and quizzes and have met someone interesting there. However, I have also discovered that their "matching" system is leaving guys out of my searches, one who was geographically and statistically good for me. It makes me wonder how many potentials I'm not seeing. Their new forums suck and I much prefer POF's forums for talking.
With POF I think I have better searching options. I have met several nice guys through here, just not the ONE that sparks me the right way. But I figure at least I'm meeting guys which beats sitting at home alone all the time. | |
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Posted: 5/25/2008 8:52:48 AM | I have been on here off and on over the last few years, met some wonderful friends and such.
There aren't many free sites available, or they are free to join, but pay for contact. I have joined another free site miblackbook.com its a newer dating community but I think it can go far. The on site instant messenger service "my presence" is the best I've seen with options for cam/audio chat. | |
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