| WHY are you guys so QUIET when you have sex? Moan for me!
Posted: 8/16/2007 6:08:31 AM | Msg 77
But I'm sick of being the only one who shows signs of pleasure (other than the obvious climax) during the entire experience. Boooooooring.
JuHEEzus...since it might be assumed that since you care enough about the guy to have sex with him, can it also be assumed that you spoke with him about what turns you on? If you haven't, then the anger that seeps from your post may be attributable to a lack of communication.
Hey Lizzie, I've sent an email containing a recent g/f's email address. Please forward your techniques! | |
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| WHY are you guys so QUIET when you have sex? Moan for me!
Posted: 8/16/2007 7:20:24 AM | | I love to make noise, it has been someting didn't always do, but i found it keeps things going. i like to say exatly what is running through my mind as we are going at it. it steps up the tempo and keeps things flowing. i want to know what is running through her mind and she must wonder what is going on my in head, so i tell her. ohhh baby i like that, if we share bodies what is wrong with sharing minds? thank you | |
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| WHY are you guys so QUIET when you have sex? Moan for me!
Posted: 8/16/2007 10:10:52 AM |
"JuHEEzus...since it might be assumed that since you care enough about the guy to have sex with him, can it also be assumed that you spoke with him about what turns you on? If you haven't, then the anger that seeps from your post may be attributable to a lack of communication."
I'm so terribly sorry. I had know idea that wanting the guy to be "turned on" as well came across as angry. Thanks for the tip. I had thought that it was a nice thing to want the experience to be as good for him as it is for me. Are you saying I should rethink that sentiment?
since you care enough about the guy to have sex with him....
I don't have sex with a guy because I care about him - I would care about him regardless, and I care about a lot of other people who I don't have sex with. I have sex because we desire each other (hopefully) and we want to deepen the relationship through intense physical intimacy. At that point, it isn't really about what what turns me on exclusively. It's about exploring the experience as a couple - at least it is for me...
You see my post was a complaint that the man often expects ME to take the lead role, when I want him to be my co-star some of the time. I do apologize for being so insistent that I just wanted to share some of the glory.
Breath-holding is a common thing that children do when they first start to masturbate. Hopefully, as we evolve sexually, we learn all the different breathing (and often subsequently vocalising) techniques that enhance the experience and give it some variety, like anything else that spices up lovemaking. Many ancient religious texts discuss the spiritual benefits of breathing (and sometimes as a result, moaning or whatever you want call it) in terms of heightening and prolonging pleasure, instead of breath-holding, choking, and pushing through an orgasm in silence.
I'm not totally familiar with how a mans anatomy works, but I'm assuming his lungs, and blood circulation work somewhat like mine. Certainly there are differences, but honestly I think if people learned to maximize their sexual pleasure with a partner, they'd probably think, talk, fantasize, and obsess over it a lot less. That's some advice I can take the next time I'm blessed with a willing, open minded partner.
I'm sorry again if this technical information comes across as seeping anger, must be some subconscious stress I'm carrying around. I'll try to do something about that.
Again, my post - and this thread - is about the man's level of arousal, not mine. What a burden it must be for SOME men to hear we want to know you to like it too;). Just another thing for you to worry about, eh?
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| WHY are you guys so QUIET when you have sex? Moan for me!
Posted: 8/16/2007 2:58:24 PM | Say my name say my name LOL! But come on now ladies: non-verbal can be just as good. If your doing everything right and his toes are curling, eyes rolling, he's pullin your hair, biting his lip or pillow, scratching your back etc. etc.
To me, that is just as good if not better than screaming or moaning or whatever! | |
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| WHY are you guys so QUIET when you have sex? Moan for me!
Posted: 8/16/2007 4:00:11 PM | | Would you women prefer honest silence, or fake noise? Seriously...not all of us are actors and personally, I'd prefer a woman who's silent over one who's faking it. Now honest-to-goodness loud women...that's hot. | |
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| WHY are you guys so QUIET when you have sex? Moan for me!
Posted: 8/16/2007 4:38:29 PM |
That is ABSOLUTELY RIDICULOUS... you are telling HIM to moan... so YOU can feel better???
WOW!
Why dont you tie strings to his limbs so you can REALLY control him for YOUR pleasure...
freakin A!
Wow, you really don't get it, do you?
Lemme ask you this, do you like it when the woman you're making love to just lays there, stiff as a board and silent?
Wanting to hear her man make noise and writhe and wriggle is a form of communication. It's telling her that she's turning him on and he's enjoying himself. Kindly explain what is wrong with that? What is wrong with asking for that? | |
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| WHY are you guys so QUIET when you have sex? Moan for me!
Posted: 8/16/2007 4:46:46 PM |
If a guy is quiet then you aint doing it right
THAT is the point!
One of my exs was the quiet, unresponsive type. One of the reasons he became an ex. I took it personal, and figured I was obviously not doing my job. Even when I asked, and he insisted that he was very satisfied with the sex and how I aroused him, it didn't help that he kept quiet and just lay there. Part of MY arousal, is knowing that I am making him feel good. If he's not making a noise, not moving, not anything, I don't get aroused, either.
So, okay, SOME men are just that way. That's fine... It's your life and sexuality. It's just not a good match for me. Nope, sorry. | |
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| WHY are you guys so QUIET when you have sex? Moan for me!
Posted: 8/16/2007 8:53:08 PM | In my last relationship my partner was the quiet one I tend to be rather loud and she liked it that way. Early on I asked her if my talking and guttural sounds offended or interrupted her moment, she told me she couldn't recall a thing I said or sound I made but it took her higher so keep it up. Although she was quiet as a mouse she had claws like a cat and when she started digging I knew we were heading over the precipice for one hell of a rideeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! 
Our first apartment had rather thin walls and apparently the neighbors weren't as enthused with my boisterous nature as several times there would be loud pounding on the walls as we concluding our activities. It was a young couple though, I think they were jealous. | |
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| WHY are you guys so QUIET when you have sex? Moan for me!
Posted: 8/16/2007 9:24:54 PM |
But WHY do I have to ask? Doesn't it feel better to you when you moan?
The reason for moaning would be climax, and the climax doesn't last long. Sometimes a BJ will bring about a bit of moaning, but it's because it's that good. | |
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| WHY are you guys so QUIET when you have sex? Moan for me!
Posted: 8/17/2007 1:58:12 AM |
The reason for moaning would be climax, and the climax doesn't last long
What?? It doesn't feel good enough until climax to even squeak out a moan...you must be kidding me!
Sometimes a BJ will bring about a bit of moaning, but it's because it's that good.
a bj is better than a sweet little twot? you must date some loose girls 
ANGIE | |
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| WHY are you guys so QUIET when you have sex? Moan for me!
Posted: 8/17/2007 6:30:06 AM | Thier is another thread about how men have a hard time judging when and if a woman cums. This thread is related I feel.
I think the reason most men don't make a peep during sex, may be related to the same reason why most men won't be emotional in front of others, most men won't express sensitive thoughts to others and most men, in the most intimate of moments can't or won't express what is in their heart for the woman they are making love to or just having sex with.
I hear this from woman friends of mine, and they wonder the same thing as; what this thread is about. I know from personal experience that men (myself) who have overcome this personal obstacle are valued by woman as being hot lovers. Of course they must also know what they are doing in the other things that go into love making and hot sex. | |
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| WHY are you guys so QUIET when you have sex? Moan for me!
Posted: 8/17/2007 8:12:40 AM | | I dont mind showing a little emotion. Its usually really good anyways so it doesn't take much for the both of us to get into it. And if you dont know when the woman is about to go.....you anit doing it right! Or had enough expeirence. | |
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| WHY are you guys so QUIET when you have sex? Moan for me!
Posted: 8/17/2007 9:06:48 AM | Some people are just not comfortable with the whole sex act to start with--and then to ask of them to make moans for you--is sort of uncomfortable for them--
For some it comes quite naturally--and for others it just takes some time.
Be patient and see what happens. | |
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| WHY are you guys so QUIET when you have sex? Moan for me!
Posted: 8/17/2007 10:59:45 AM | Some guys have to concentrate, as the moaning brings up the cum a lot quicker, and if she hasn't had time to hers yet.... somebody's going to be pissed!! If I think I am getting close... I can always think of my last wife.... and the the session will certainly continue!!! | |
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| WHY are you guys so QUIET when you have sex? Moan for me!
Posted: 8/17/2007 12:09:28 PM | | Hearing a guy moan is a total turn on. It shows us that the sex/foreplay feels amazing and in the end it helps us climax (well for me anyway). And if you are the really quiet type, a little dirty talk in the ear will make up for the lack of moaning. | |
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