| He logged into POF while on a weekend Date with me
Posted: 11/24/2007 12:17:22 AM | *teeheehee*
MY 'story' is a lil different
Goes like dis: Very First Date i go on via POF
*signed up/on only few days
*gent mails me
*gent gives phone #
*i call gent, he asks me out/on date
*i dont have picsup-he Does
*i tell gent "cant tonight, was actually going over to friends-so she can take pics of me
("dont you wanna see what i look like first?")
*gent gets really 'persistant' (um...Desperate? hehe), suggests we Both go to my friends
*i 'relent', we Do 'go out'
*we meet at local grocery store, he sees me,says "ohhhhh, yer purrrrty!"
*while At my friends, he goes out to car, after a 'while'...i go out to 'check on him'
~Drrrrrrrruuuuuuuuuuummmmmmmmm Roooooooolllllllllllllllllllllllllllll~
He is On LapTop, Checking POF?
hahahahahahahahahahaha
i laughed (heartily) Then
i laughed (heartily) later that night
i laugh about it today
*by and by* this was Yrs Ago
(no, there wasNT a 'second date')
didNT care then-doNT care now-tis No Matter
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| He logged into POF while on a weekend Date with me
Posted: 11/24/2007 12:28:56 AM | | Mmmmm... and what would YOUR profile say? Active within the last month? Day? I'm afraid that unless it is discussed ahead of time, we really should not assume that we are exclusive. I didn't actually delete my profile when I was dating until I got engaged. Neither did he. I've made more friends on this type of site than anything. I stayed on one website until a guy I was talking to came back from Iraq. It was the only way I was in touch with him. You really can't assume you are in a relationship until you actually meet face to face for a while. This is my opinion. | |
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| He logged into POF while on a weekend Date with me
Posted: 11/24/2007 12:44:52 AM |  does anyone have morals anymore??? OMFG! you not only spend a weekend with your "boyfriend" you litterally just met in person, but then you "get intimate"?
unless im missin somethin, you basically slept with a complete stranger.....and then question "morals"??
i can see this sites gonna be great entertainment if nothin else, i honestly thought my ex was 1 of a kind, boy was i wrong lmao | |
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| Online Dating.............
Posted: 11/24/2007 11:05:36 AM | maybe he ges emails as well still and checks them, or maybe he was admiring your photos before he went to meet you...just to memorize your face so he doesn't introduce himself to a blind beggar on the street corner? Theres lots of reasons, so why fret about it?
Remember, your not alot to b!tch at him until your married...then its open hunting season on his butt! | |
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| He logged into POF while on a weekend Date with me
Posted: 11/24/2007 6:39:28 PM | | I feel for you too. I had the same thing I was with some one we said we were going to delete the profiles and then we were a couple.... but then after he seemed offish at times and never wanted to talk about his feelings I went on POF to see if maybe that was the problem he found some one else..... I made a new profile and looked sure enough he had logged on all week.... hmm what was I to think.... I asked him he said he was just checking his email.... so not true.... he still tries to contact me telling me he loves me and hes sorry but I dont TRUST him at all.... I too wonder if this is the trend of the online dating game.... | |
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| He logged into POF while on a weekend Date with me
Posted: 11/24/2007 10:04:47 PM | | My wife and I both have profiles on here. Mine is kinda new because my favorite user name became available again! We talk to people, guys and girls alike, and spend time in the forums. It's all good. | |
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| Online Dating.............
Posted: 11/25/2007 1:28:48 AM |
gf...friend.....whatever you want to call it! I'm smart enough to know that it takes time to become exclusive. But.....damn...have the common courtesy to pay attention to the one who traveled to see ya in the first place.
HERE, HERE and Halleleujah. That was the equivelent to eying every chick that goes by while he's with you in a restaurant. First date or not.
xoxo
cyne | |
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| Online Dating.............
Posted: 11/25/2007 6:30:48 AM | This still lives?
For those who have not read all the poster's FACTS:
Her "date" (first time together...week-end date) DID NOT go on his computer IN HER PRESENCE...as far as she knew, he was NEVER on his computer while she was there!.
He was never RUDE to her while she was there.
WHEN she got back to her house (a long drive away) SHE went onto HER computer and looked HIM up...and only then noticed he had been online...sometime between her week-end date and her arrival home...(IF the times shown were even valid? Most are not) ?!!!!!!! SO WHAT!
It is CRAZY to b*tch someone out for being on their site/profile AFTER you have LEFT their home...crazy. Possessive. ESPECIALLY when you just met the person!
And worse...she said how much she liked him...but ended things as soon as she "discovered" he had gone back online AFTER she had departed....
Yep. Possessive. AND paranoid.
IF you meet someone on a dating site...until you BOTH agree you are "dating"...EXPECT that they will continue with their dating site. In fact, if I met someone, had one weekend with them, and noticed they were no longer on their site..I'd feel a wee bit nervous that they were expecting the same from me without discussing it.... | |
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| He logged into POF while on a weekend Date with me
Posted: 11/26/2007 2:18:02 PM | | Why does it have to be a man a lady I was seeing nothing more then friends told me shy was having a lot of trouble and didn't want to see anyone at this time but she was on POF everyday made up some excuse that she loves the forms and that is why she is on POF now instade of saying I don't want to see you anymore she ignores you | |
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| He logged into POF while on a weekend Date with me
Posted: 11/26/2007 6:47:20 PM | | Gee I guess I'm terrible, but I never dreamed that I would be expected not to meet or talk to other men just because I go out on a date with one. As a free single woman over age 21 I've always considered myself free to talk/meet/date any number of men that I'm interested in getting to know. I'm talking to/dating several at any given time. I will admit that when it comes to sex I prefer not to be one of a crowd and if only for protection of my health would request that the man and I be sexually exclusive for the duration of our physical relationship but if I were willing to have sex with a guy at the first meeting, I would not presume it to be an exclusive relationship. | |
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Tuula
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Joined: 11/23/2007
Msg: 265 | |
| Online Dating.............
Posted: 11/27/2007 2:39:22 AM | Honestly I think you're being rather hypocritical about this whole situation, you're questioning his ethics by logging in here and yet at the same time you're staying in a hotel with him for the weekend. So what if he logged in here, maybe there's people that he chats with etc. There are plenty of guys that I chat with that I've met on dating sites and frankly there's alot of them that I like but it will never amount to anything else other than being "friends", because I know what I want and they don't have what i'm looking for in a partner.
You also need to come to the realization (and this works both ways, women are just as guilty as men) that people will and do butter you up and tell what they think you want to hear, so they can get you in the sack and it's your choice whether or not you want to act on it when the situation arises.
I've met a few guys off a couple of sites and we both were well aware at the end of our date that it was going to go any further, I did however meet one guy off a dating site (he's on this site too, as i was advised by a friend that told me to join here) that I really had an interest in, we had alot of great conversations, talked about doing things together etc. and we met, he told me he would call me the next day and never did and won't even give me a reason as to what the issue was, but hey that's life and you move on. Upon meeting him I was not under the impression that we were "dating", even though we had some pretty serious and intimate conversations before meeting. Exclusive dating comes when it's discussed, I think that was a little presumptious on your part to assume that just because you had a long internet relatiosnhip and met for the first time that you were his girlfriend. Unless someone tells you that straight up, it's best not to assume. | |
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Posted: 11/30/2007 7:22:20 AM | im thinkin women are in general gettin kinda psyco (yeah, i know, they always were, but damnit, its gettin worse). last weekend i met someone in person from here, nothin major, just a casual afternoon kinda talkin and hangin out. nothing more. ever since im gettin some kinday psyco-babble if i dont call, or if im online more than 10 minutes and dont start talkin (add to it shes always invisible on messenger so how am i to know whos on??), and keeps gettin on this kick tellin me how im just playin with her feelings and all this crap.
almost feels like my ex-wife all over again, only it took her a few years to go fruity.
What the hell???
btw, before i get alot of advise, yeah, im pretty much bailin on this one, i dont think i need some bi-polar stalker poppin up everytime i blink.  | |
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| He logged into POF while on a weekend Date with me
Posted: 11/30/2007 9:09:48 AM | To the op
Let's just keep in mind, It is women who has created this behavoir in males.
I just sometimes can't read a womens mind. so until i can be assured that I am in a relationship, I may still have other interest out there that need to be attended to.
Just because you spent a weekend with someone from a long distance, doesnt mean he should ignore other interest . Until you find out what direction you two are going in, you cant toss away other interest until you have a commited into a relationship.
He might have been e-mailing the one from last weedend or even maybe the one for next weekend. Women loose interest in men quickly if men dont keep showing interest.
So skipping a weekend could be costlty to him.
JMO | |
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mac79
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Joined: 11/11/2006
Msg: 269 | |
| He logged into POF while on a weekend Date with me
Posted: 12/2/2007 6:30:58 AM | I think you are overreacting.
You call yourself his gf after ONE date??? I can understand where you may feel upset because you were so excited that you hit it off and he still logged on, but you did too.. that is how you found out he was on as well..
so he could be thinking the same thing.. 'we just got home and she is checking out guys on POF still"..
truth be told.. guys don't read into things as much so he probably doesn't care that you did. | |
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| Online Dating.............
Posted: 12/2/2007 6:43:35 AM | | well,you guys should have made some agreement like,lets stay off the site while we date each other.they should charge $30.00 a month here,then you get rid of alot of bad people.please check out my profile.it sums it all up | |
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| Online Dating.............
Posted: 12/2/2007 6:47:32 AM | | Well, let's just cut off his "cheating" balls and save all future women the misery of him checking his email! | |
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| Online Dating.............
Posted: 12/2/2007 7:07:33 AM | | I've been on this website about a couple of months and I was an "admin" of another website(not a dating website). After a while you establish online friendships and habits/addictions about getting online just to see whats going on. I think if I had access to a computer in a similar situation, I might be crazy about you but I still might log on. | |
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| He logged into POF while on a weekend Date with me
Posted: 12/2/2007 7:09:14 AM | | This will sound like a defense for him,I assure you it isn't.To let you know I agree w/ your feelings on this issue.For a possible explanation: I belong to one other site,can't mention the name.One particular weekend I went 2.5 hrs. drive from here to go do some work on my mothers house...I stayed all weekend.The woman I was dating at the time drove down the first night so we could spend some time together.We hadn't got to the point of removing profiles and bieng exclusive.Anyhow when she got home this one site told her I was active that day and she can varify.My mother has no computer and no I didn't access one somewhere else.She asked me about it and had to know it was impossible for me to do that,especially in here presence! So the sites(some of them) DO lie,it's a fact.It may not apply here but just wanted you to know! | |
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| He logged into POF while on a weekend Date with me
Posted: 12/2/2007 8:18:46 AM | | Well I guess since the both of you were just getting to know each other, and did not have any real history as of yet, ......I would just keep quite until he ask you to be in an exclusive relationship with him. I understand you enjoyed each others company, but get some history behind you before jumping the gun. Good luck, hope things work out. | |
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| He logged into POF while on a weekend Date with me
Posted: 12/2/2007 12:03:35 PM | People form feelings at different times for one another. Until you are exclusive he has every right to do that, its called dating. I think its healthy for when you end up with someone you know your not missing anything.
Just be cool, men hate drama, | |
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