| Online Dating.............
Posted: 1/23/2008 7:43:13 PM | I am interested in someone online, but I still chat with a friend here and read up on the forums here, as well as post.
To me, it all comes down to trust and open communication between the two involved. | |
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| He logged into POF while on a weekend Date with me
Posted: 1/23/2008 8:27:52 PM |   THIS thread is sooooooo old!
AND...if one person read a few of the OP's ORIGINAL statements...you would crack up!!!!!
SHE: Met for the FIRST time for a WEEKEND tryst.
HE: NEVER EVER went ONLINE when she was at his home...as far as SHE knew!
SHE: Drove hours home. High on "LOVE"....
SHE: Went( immediately) ONLINE upon arriving home to see if HE was online???!!!
OOPS.
He "HAD BEEN" online (NOT POF by the way) but she had NO way of knowing WHEN.
COULD have been waaay before she met him, or waaaay after...most Dating Sites are INACCURATE as to sign-in times. (seriously)
END of Months old story.
SHE was a paranoid, controlling whathaveyou.....
She even admitted she LIKED him a lot...then BLEW it via paranoia/jealousy.
All I gotta say...is...UGH!
WHO needs THAT crapola??????
You meet for the FIRST time, have a weekend fling, go home, sign on, see the "fling" was online at some unknown point, you freak, yell, threaten, and end the "fling"????
WHO is the nutcase here???? Just asking?  | |
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| Online Dating.............
Posted: 1/23/2008 9:48:05 PM | got one better this guy we have been talking for acouple of months,,so i say lets get together sometieme soon maybe we will hit it off,okay here goes i wondering for about 5 day whats happend to him i was getting worried ,,well he gets back on and says to me i was gone all weekend i went cool u cold told e so so i wasnt worrying,,,get this his friedn thats hot and yes 23 called him well he went over there and ****eed her all weekend and than ssaid to me sorry i was so lonely forgive me please,first i wemt whhat u didtn care enough about me to wait and than i was sick with worrie ,what would u do me i to **** off becasue if he can do that just knowing a cared alittle can u guess what i would of done couple of months down the road,,he is ass so is she for doing taht to me,its funn y he has know ****ing clue what he did wrong because he was lonly what a****his name is evenstar310 in here watch him he has no clue | |
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| He logged into POF while on a weekend Date with me
Posted: 1/23/2008 9:50:08 PM | I can say I know how you feel. I met one that was CRAZY and wanted me to delete my profile within 3 days.....Oh yes, and we did it together and before I got back to my place, ****less than 30 minutes drive***** he had opened another profile up looking the very same thing, HE CLAIMED I WAS, just used another name and a different town. AND honest, I was checking my email and there he was on the top row, Instant Message lit up, under his new identity!!!! So, wish in one hand and sling the crap with the other!!!!
So-PLEASE-let Great Grannie give you some advice---Listen as long as they are talking- and leave it at that. I have made some great new friends, but alas the MAN up YONDER is in control of our destiny--Not on-line friendships that may or may not work out..... YOU really have to keep tabs on the heart----If you tender and wishing, hoping and praying and willing to travel to meet guys---U are heading down hill....IF U FLIP HIS TRIGGER- he will come to meet you. We make ourselves way to WILLING and to AVAILABLE-
DAWG-- I really am not a negative person- but there does seem to be a lot of guys like the one you traveled to meet.
At the price of $3.41 a gallon, I am not into wasting my alloted gas money chasing Varmits!!
lol-----I am getting worse , Huh--I quit~
SO just use caution and don't let the Lonely Blues eat you alive!!!! | |
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| He logged into POF while on a weekend Date with me
Posted: 1/23/2008 10:00:28 PM | Wait !!!! You logged on to check ?What do you expect from this site.....?What were you doing checking? Oh yes ...reading your messages from some other interested admirer.
So look at the picture and the circumstances realistically,...do not allow assumptions to cloud your vision. If he is "right" don't fret, just make certain he doesn't surf after you commit!
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| He logged into POF while on a weekend Date with me
Posted: 1/23/2008 10:08:07 PM | Girl...ASK HIM why he was on! If you are trying to build a relationship with this man you need to open the lines of COMMUNICATION! Without that as the basis of your relationship, you're doomed!
"Babe I may be overreacting but I was really curious why you were on POF the weekend I came out to see you. I don't mean to be paranoid it's just that I've been burned before."
If he has any respect for you he will answer truthfully. If he dances around the question or is pissed that you even brought it up you'll know it's time to kick him to the curb.
Good luck friend!!! | |
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| He logged into POF while on a weekend Date with me
Posted: 1/24/2008 5:40:56 AM | OP, If the guy is checking his mail while he's with you, then he's obviously NOT that into you. It shouldn't be taken personal though. You're definitely what I would call eye candy, and from you being bothered by this, it's also obvious that you're a caring person with some scruples. Ditch the bum, move on and find a guy who's more your actual type. Looks, chemistry, income, and everything else matters but for it to REALLY matter, it HAS to be mutual between you and him. Hang in there, keep smiling and don't change who you are. It's a commodity to us guys that would adore someone like you. ;)
Also, in my experience, some dating sites have the ability to send you phone texts and log on ability through your cell phone. Not exactly sure how that relates to being "online in the past two days" but that also could be why he appeared to be online. Did you by chance confront him about it? | |
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| He logged into POF while on a weekend Date with me
Posted: 2/9/2008 7:42:35 AM | so this is replying to the original message. I'm confused, you are judging this guy for being on a 'dating' site (even though many people come on this site to look for just friends) and yet YOU are on this site as well. Your defense is that you were coming onto the site to admire his photos...is he not allowed to do the same to your photos? Or how do you know he wasn't logging on to go change his relationship status to "dating" or "looking for friends"
all I'm saying is that don't judge someone. See, we all have a habit of "snooping" whether we realize it or not. Even I have looked at other people's profiles to just find juicy little things, like who they're talking to, what they're saying about me, if they're even talking about me, and yes to admire their photos.
We make mistakes when we jump to conclusions. If you're talking to the guy and the relationship gets fairly serious and his profile informatino hasn't changed any AND he's logging on every day, then you can worry that he may be trying to 'play the field'. But if the relationship is still new and not qutie serious (you aren't calling eachother your lovers or partners yet) then don't overexamine it. It'll only end up in hurt. | |
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| Online Dating.............
Posted: 2/9/2008 11:08:34 PM | | hey love wake up and smell the roses. so what if u had a good weekend doesnt give u exclusive rights to him. and if u become possessive well u will just loose. give the guy a break let him do what he wants to do. and i do have morals. so what if he gets online what business is it of urs u barely now each other. and the more u push the issue u may as well kiss his ass goodbye cause if aint going to want u. thinking that u r to clingy | |
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| Online Dating.............
Posted: 2/10/2008 4:25:49 AM | TheseHazel...you did the exact same thing you're getting mad at him for!
He just got to the website before you did. | |
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| Online Dating.............
Posted: 2/10/2008 5:33:04 AM |
I stayed w/him. Guess I'm a little different when giving people consideration. It shows a lot of weakness regarding class, character and bad judgement.
must be just me that agrees with the OP. if I have a date setup i'll temporarily stop talking to everyone else I'm talking to with whom a date might be possible.
on the other hand
people do have just friends in these places. | |
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| He logged into POF while on a weekend Date with me
Posted: 2/10/2008 6:09:23 AM | Simple answer and it doesn't require any questions in the answer. It's a matter of self-control, class and maturity. The guys a jerk. That's all. I just hope you didn't give him what he was there for.
No, I didn't read the entire thread so the only information I have is the first post. | |
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| Online Dating.............
Posted: 2/10/2008 6:25:11 AM | No, it's not just you browolf. I started to read the thread a bit. All the excuses people are making for this guy are nauseating. Oh it's all about open communication and trust. BS! It's all about leaving your options open because people can't seem to commit anymore in this superficial fake world we live in.
Those of us who are old enough to remember what the real world was like before the cyber world screwed everything up and sucked people of all generations into the black hole of a twisted reality know the real story. Bottom line, I've never met someone, never talked to them, only wrote to them here. Now I'm actually seeing someone, with them, talking to them on the phone regularly and seeing them regularly and my cyber friends are pissed off because I don't talk to them or log on here? LOL, my answer - Who are you to me? When I put my head on the pillow at night where are you? When I need to be with someone in person where are you? I choose to take a chance and live in the real world. Where are you?
Again, who are you to me? | |
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| He logged into POF while on a weekend Date with me
Posted: 11/1/2008 1:59:32 PM | | I wish I had read this reply before ever meeting you and falling for you. I wish I had read it before I was lied to, conned, and taken advantage of, too. It would have opened my eyes to who you really are, michaelmskcc, or whatever other name you go by now. You hurt me and mine. I wish I had read this post and not been in denial of your true character. | |
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| He logged into POF while on a weekend Date with me
Posted: 11/5/2008 2:23:08 PM | You exchange an emails,phones in2-3 months and when you met in person wham bam! you have a great time with him.. It does not mean that he is already inlove with you and you are exclusive, if he wants to have a lots of dates as he wants that is his prerogative. I read in the bible that "Men does not live by sex alone......or something like" the way to a man's heart is *not* through his groin but through is stomach and mind...banana:     | |
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| He logged into POF while on a weekend Date with me
Posted: 11/5/2008 6:27:53 PM | | This simply wouldn't bother me. I would not have my expectations go there-- I'd be more in observatin mode for a first meet, even if it was long. I wouldn't even be insulted - it would just be more information about the person's ideas about dating. I'd only care about other communication if there was an exclusivity agreement. Then, I'd hope his profile reflected that he was in a relationship/not looking, if he still wanted one. At that point, I'd probably hope for him not even wanting one. | |
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| He logged into POF while on a weekend Date with me
Posted: 11/6/2008 8:56:16 AM | I'm not sure if the right people will see this but I hope so. If any of you girls out there are chatting, talking, or thinking about dating Tony_68, don't do it. He comes across as this sweet, innocent guy who seems to know what to say and when to say it. He makes you believe that he is one of the good guys left and that he clearly knows how to treat a lady. I found out the truth about him. I confronted him and he totally denied it but I have the hard evidence, texts print outs, listing of phone numbers from the phone company, etc. He was trying to tell me he loved me after talking to me on here and on the phone for 2 months. He made it sound like he was a wonderful guy and was treated so poorly by his ex. his profile says he is divorced, he hasn't even filed for divorce. He has an ex gf that he was with for 2 years and he is still with her. He still talks to her several times a day, he works with her, he still sees her 2-3 times per week (he spends almost every weekend night with her) and he also still tells her that he is totally in love with her. She knew nothing about girls on here as he told her that they were all nothing more than friends. he keeps telling her that they are working on fixing their relationship. I found out the hard way girls. Steer clear of this guy. He may come across as wonderful but he is a lieng cheating player. He is making us all look like fools. He is short, fat, and really not that attractive at all. He is talking to us and at the same time still with his ex. I think he is trying to play us all to see which one he wants. I think we should push this back on him and all of us stop talking to him asap. Nothing positive will come out of us being with him! Just a warning girls. Keep this between us.  | |
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