| He logged into POF while on a weekend Date with me
Posted: 11/5/2007 7:55:05 PM | | I think that if you spent a weekend with him the least he could have done is stay off POF. He should have had some class. And yes I think a lot have become soooooo obsessed with the access to men/women that they can't go without a fix to see who's next. It's kind of sad .... May have met the right one and let her fall through his fingers. | |
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| He logged into POF while on a weekend Date with me
Posted: 11/5/2007 8:01:50 PM | Am I missing something here? I don't see a function ON POF that indicates "Active within the last 24 hours, 2 days" etc...the only thing remotely resembling this option is the last login time under favorites.
I can think of two other sites that offer this feature - is the OP confused or just making this up? | |
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| He logged into POF while on a weekend Date with me
Posted: 11/5/2007 9:34:29 PM | TheseHazelEyes,
First Question. Did he ask you to marry him on your date? Are you engaged? A date is a date and only that. He is still free to do whatever he wants, yes even staying on line with other people. Don't you have enough confidence in yourself, and your a very attractive person, to accept this?. Did you forget that your the one that does the accepting of his attentions, men are the persuers and always will be toward us. I would worry more if I was married to him and then I discovered he went on a dating site, but right now he is a free fish. If he finds you as the most enjoyable to be with ,then you win. Go on more dates yourself. You probably have many offers already.
Don't assume every man that dates wants a commitment, this only happens with time. In the meantime keep dating and try to avoid those men who are players. We women have special radar to sift through the tricky ones. Being online has nothing to do with this, it's just makes it easier to meet more people. So go look for another online yourself. Good Luck!
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| Online Dating.............
Posted: 11/5/2007 9:57:10 PM | I have made a couple of friends on POF and I am likely to stay in contact with them even if / when I get involved in an intimate relationship.
Maybe his home page was set to POF and auto-login so that no matter what he used browser for would have brought up POF.
Also some people use multi-tabbed browsers like Firefox that can bring up your 10 favorite web sites at once... In that case even checking the weather report before going outside with you could have gotten him in "trouble..." (A couple of follow-up questions after he admitted to logging in may have been useful...) What if he was "sneaking" a peek at POF to make sure he had not missed any last-minute e-mail(s) from you before your meeting???
That being said, you should be more capable than us of determining if he deserves the benefit of the doubt here... | |
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| Online Dating.............
Posted: 11/6/2007 2:10:23 AM | First of all to say the least that would be an insult. If your in a relationship then why the need to check emails.......what emails?? other men when you are with someone already? To me that is wrong, plain and simple--no excuses. Where has loyalty and values gone? right the hell out the window! I would of dropped the person right then and there! And tell him if talking to other people is more important than me then hit the highway bud!! lol  Lisa | |
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| He logged into POF while on a weekend Date with me
Posted: 11/6/2007 2:56:18 AM | | So you start out a relationship by monitoring his internet activity? You might as well have put a keylogger on his computer while you were at it. I don't think typing www.plentyoffish.com in your web browser of choice and logging in implicates any sort of negative behavior. I do however feel you logging on with intentions of checking up on his profile might be a sign of some trust issues deep within your mind. Good luck.. I hope you didn't chase someone good away because they decided to log on and check their email. | |
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| He logged into POF while on a weekend Date with me
Posted: 11/6/2007 3:06:58 AM | | often the info the sites provide isn't right anyway. I've noticed that I got mail saying "I see you're online now, wanna chat" when I hadn't been online that day! So.....maybe he wasn't really there when the site said he was. (some sites do this to make themselves look busy or popular I think). | |
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htarw
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Joined: 6/29/2007
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| He logged into POF while on a weekend Date with me
Posted: 11/6/2007 10:30:01 AM | | maybe he checked to see if you were on it, that's true. Honestly, that whole thing about going to check your emails and such, that really sucks. It's also an invasion of privacy. But yeah, it's not cool at all to see that. It's a lack of respect pretty much lol | |
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| Online Dating.............
Posted: 11/6/2007 10:35:11 AM | the problem is it is so easy to "see" what others are doing when you meet someone on a dating site..if you meet him in a bar and talked for months etc...you have no idea if he texted someone else while with you or if he is on other sites if the talked to them too..
Yeah it is tack for sure, I give you that but.............
the joys of dating..LOL | |
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| Online Dating.............
Posted: 11/6/2007 11:26:53 AM | | Possesive after one meeting are ya? lol well hopefully any guy who considers a date with you will find this thread first! | |
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| Online Dating.............
Posted: 11/6/2007 12:02:36 PM | Just cos your there with hi doesnt make u his gf on first meet no matter how close u became.
I understand ur feeling on it but maybe keep quiet and seein if he wants to c u again is the way forward x | |
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| He logged into POF while on a weekend Date with me
Posted: 11/6/2007 12:36:52 PM | | I think you're reading way too into this... big deal. He went online on a site you met him on on your first date. If it was a bit more serious, I would empathize. But it's not. | |
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icartb
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Joined: 10/30/2006
Msg: 197 | |
| He logged into POF while on a weekend Date with me
Posted: 11/6/2007 6:56:55 PM | Clarification: The thread started over THREE months ago! It's dead.
The site is NOT POF! You can't tell when somebody has been online here!
Read some of the older threads, ok? Gee! | |
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Rhett1
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Joined: 10/16/2005
Msg: 199 | |
| He logged into POF while on a weekend Date with me
Posted: 11/6/2007 7:35:07 PM |
Clarification: The thread started over THREE months ago! It's dead. So, start a new one and see how quickly it gets deleted for redundancy...as long as it's still going, it's valid. You don't suspect that there could be others out there who this might help, as well?
The site is NOT POF! You can't tell when somebody has been online here! Wrong. You'd have to be actively looking, but you CAN tell. Do a general search for members...when the list of profiles pops up, it tells you, within a certain amount of time, when they were on last.
Read some of the older threads, ok? Gee! So, besides slapping our hands for actually following rules, do you have anything to add to the actual topic? | |
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| He logged into POF while on a weekend Date with me
Posted: 11/6/2007 7:46:49 PM | OP,
You are a lovely lady but let's face it, this guy is a cad and frankly, just not that in to you. When presented with the flesh and blood package (stunning as you may be), he felt he had to go 'elsewhere and escape' for whatever reason. If I were totally enamored with someone who had come to spend the weekend with me, I would not want to waste a precious minute of time trolling the net looking for forums to read or looking at my email; I would be so excited to spend every momement with them! | |
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