| why does it suck trying to find someone decent in Arkansas?
Posted: 1/18/2008 1:47:17 PM | | I been wondering the same thing, I'm not from here and have only been here 2 years. But I have been all over the USA and have never found people that are as snobbish and unfriendly anywhere else. I'm beginning to wonder if the old keep it in the family joke isn't true. | |
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| why does it suck trying to find someone decent in Arkansas?
Posted: 2/2/2008 7:55:43 PM | txpride hit the nail on the head! I am not originally from here either. But of all the places I've been, I've never met people who are so snobbish, unfriendly, stuck up, full of themselves, self-centered, and just un-sociable as women in arkansas. Now I am not gloating or anything here but I have been told a few times that I am a catch of a lifetime (just repeating what I have been told) but I usually don't think of even trying to find anyone here in this state. I tend to be independant by choice, meaning that I don't need a woman in my life...and I sure don't need an arrogant stuck up redneck girl in my life-so I don't even put much effort into meeting people. That said, I know for a fact that there ARE great people out there but they are few and far between. And for lots of us who don't do bars & clubs, we have a rather tough time meeting people. I don't mind travelling a little distance to meet someone so I guess I speak for myself here. Something else to consider is that in this day and age, couples tend to get married quickly and very early in life, have children, and they're usually divorced before age 25. So for folks like me who would rather not date someone who has kids, that rules out a lot of potential matches.
Seriously, try this sometime. Do a search on POF. Search for a single woman who has never been married, no kids, and doesn't smoke or drink. I will bet that you won't get 25 matches.
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| why does it suck trying to find someone decent in Arkansas?
Posted: 4/4/2008 2:37:00 PM | | I just moved to northeast Arkansas (Cherokee Village) from northern Iowa last fall after a divorce. I think there are several reasons it is so hard to meet new people around here. First, the population is small relative to the amount of land the area covers. There are few restaurants, one movie theater, and shopping? If you can't find what you need at Walmart or Johnson Hardware, you're just not going to get it! This is also a dry county so there are no public bars or clubs, not that they are the most desirable places to meet anyone anyway. But these are just the negative things about this area. There are many wonderful people around here! I have yet to meet a man of any age around here while I'm out and about who wasn't courteous. Everyone waves and says, "hello." I haven't been flipped off in traffic (which was a common occurence in the city, whether or not you did anything wrong). Have I met any men to date? Honestly, no. In fact, I haven't really made any girl friends either. But that seems to simply be due to a lack in quantity of people I've met, not the quality. On the bright side, we are so lucky to have a "free" site where we can meet people in this state at all. I have met some really nice people here and I'm grateful. Hopefully many will become friends. May even find someone "special." I'm willing to be patient. | |
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| why does it suck trying to find someone decent in Arkansas?
Posted: 4/5/2008 9:34:45 AM | Arkansans have problems with outsiders a lot of the time. There are several reasons, one, we get trashed all over the country. 2. We're used to people moving here and bring an attitude that they are better than us. (not saying that about ya'll, it's just a general thing) 3. When people move here, they try to change things.
After Katrina, we absorbed a lot of trash from New Orleans that did bad things to our crime rates, we have a lot of big industry here that brings in outsiders to manage the companies after the homegrown leaders retire, that usually changes those companies for the worse and breeds an attitude of "damn yankees"concerning them. It spills over into all outsiders.
I'm now a trucker and firearms instructor, I used to be an EMT and Firefighter. I've seen the best and the worst of Arkiansans. As a trucker I've been to 46 states and at times have met more rude, vile, disgusting, filthy retards in places like Jersey, NYC, LA, and Chicago in one day, than I have in Arkansas in a month (except when I worked shelter security for Katrina in Jonesboro.)
For all I know, ya'll are great people. But when you get people from New Orleans that rob, rape, and steal, people from San Fransisco coming to Conway to set up Gay pride marches, Execs from NYC coming in and laying people off, then it's going to jade you towards outsiders.
Oh, and there are those that wanna see if you'll take it. Very few people that could actually contribute to society came up here from New Orleans, so until Katrina Arkansas was full of nothing but good hard working people and now it's full of lazy parasites, so people may be trying to distinguish you from them. | |
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| why does it suck trying to find someone decent in Arkansas?
Posted: 4/14/2008 1:27:07 PM | | I have met some nice folks on here if you want a friend,but one person on here kind of summed it up about the men in Arkansas. In fact most of the ladies summed it up....I've been here 5 yrs andthe men they are different.....They say they want one thing, but overlook some wonderful women,because they can not get past the visual...I know some beautiful, single ,older women....That have love,experience and devotion....what do the guys want skinny,needy,uniteligent,hop into bed with me women and guess what guys the good women don't do that....So ladies hang onto your values as they don't deserve us | |
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| why does it suck trying to find someone decent in Arkansas?
Posted: 4/15/2008 7:41:32 PM | | I'm born and raised in Arkansas and I very much resent the keep it in the family joke and how rude we all are here. I have lived in several different states and visited many others and I can name several places where the people are very rude. It's not our state or our people maybe it's just the people your meeting and who knows if they are from Arkansas or not maybe they are from the same state your from. Don't move to our state and then start bad mouthing it. Arkansas's not perfect but we are a hell of a lot better than a lot of them! | |
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| why does it suck trying to find someone decent in Arkansas?
Posted: 4/17/2008 3:27:39 AM | I agree w/ morningangel 2 and some others in that, its the people you have talked to, the ones you set your sites on may be the right shape or age or something but not the right person you are actually after. Try not looking at pics and just look at interests and such, maybe you will have better luck.
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| why does it suck trying to find someone decent in Arkansas?
Posted: 4/18/2008 12:59:56 PM | It may not be the state, but, rather, your state of mind. I have lived in AR my entire life, and love it. I have met many men and women who are "decent". It also seems like part of the problem may be your lack of social stimuli. Are you stuck in your ways? It order to meet others, whether for dating or not, you need to get out of your house. "Dateable people" are not going to fall on your doorstep, just like you would (hopefully!) not walk up to a person's house and say "Hey! I'm decent. Wanna hook up?". That's just insane.  Try hitting a few music venues with some girl friends. It doesn't have to be a bar or club, but music festivals are a great way to meet people. Then, again, what is wrong with a bar or club? A lot of people feel marvelously uninhibited after a nice dose of social lubricant. 
Your frustration, at present, is a result of your own lack of ambition. | |
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| why does it suck trying to find someone decent in Arkansas?
Posted: 4/23/2008 6:34:30 AM | I really don't think the state has anything to do with it. I love this state and wouldn't want to live anywhere else.
"Finding someone" is a crapshoot any way you look at it, in my opinion. You might have the same problem any other place. | |
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| why does it suck trying to find someone decent in Arkansas?
Posted: 4/23/2008 6:48:28 PM | I was reading through postings here and found what you said to be somewhat true, and yes there are some jerks out there, but the men feel like we are all frigid.....My problem is honesty, just take a look at some of the profiles on here,
1. Standing by a Harley/Honda/Yamaha: Does not make you honest, it makes you someone with an expensive good weather ride only.
2. Wearing a Big Cowboy Hat & long Coat: Does not make you a cowboy or honest
3. Holding a Guitar: Does not make you a Latin Lover or Honest
4. Most Men over 50 want a woman that is 23 - 38, come on now that is just not good math......What are the chances of that working? Slim and None.......Be honest with yourself...
How about being honest about who you are in these profiles and what you have and what you want in a woman.....If you really want one, Sorry but Honesty is really hard to find on here........About ready to give up...... | |
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| why does it suck trying to find someone decent in Arkansas?
Posted: 4/24/2008 8:08:15 AM | I think AR is a great place to live, I have traveled all over this great nation of ours and I am proud to come back home to AR. I always feel I am welcome in AR with friends and family. I think we have some of the most kind, friendly and respectable people in AR. Everywhere you go their are going to be jerks and people who brush you off. When I first moved to AR I to had the stereotype of what AR use to be known to be but I can tell you now I am proud to live in this beautiful state we live in now. I mean just look outside and see the beauty you can be in a city and within 10 minutes you can be on the road looking at beautiful landscape of the land, a creek, a river, lush trees and ground foliage, and majestic green hills.
I also think we have some of the nicest people in AR alot of times you can just smile and walk up to a stranger and talk to them about the weather what is going on with politics. Like I said anywhere you go you are going to find jerks but their are tons of great people in AR sometimes you just have to open up the blinds on your eyes to see what is out their.
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Just my 2 quarters worth of my thoughts.
Peace
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| why does it suck trying to find someone decent in Arkansas?
Posted: 4/28/2008 9:39:48 AM |
glock22shooter, if u were just a few years older, what a philosophy u have, good for you
lol thank you. Unlike most people my age I was smart enough to keep my eyes open and try to analyze the mistakes of others that I saw throughout my life. Didn't do my any good though lol. Nothing ever annoyed me more than women that were weak and wouldn't stand up for themselves to a guy. So what did I do? Found women that were just as headstrong as me. lol yeah that doesn't work to well either. | |
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| why does it suck trying to find someone decent in Arkansas?
Posted: 5/26/2008 7:28:50 PM | I live in central Arkansas.. was married to a texan that converted ... lol. It is not the State that is the problem. It is the state of mind.. and that is everywhere. There is alot of hurt and bitterness and distrust in the world right now. We are in the midlife age group .. the 20's we thought love would last forever.. and took the chance to believe...
the 30's we were raising families and building a future.. the 40's the kids are growing up or already grown.. and you look around and say.. who are you? Not that slim perfect person I married.. suddenly you might feel old or wonder if there is more out there... some used to call it the empty nest syndrome.. or the midlife crisis... its reality.. our parents just suffered through and made it last and found it was worth it.. we live in a disposable world.. toss it out and get more.
Sex is a sport to many now.. not intimate. Quick fixes and one nite stands are better than nothing.. at least that way you don't get hurt or taken... yet you still find yourself lonely and wanting something more..
I still believe that maybe by the time I make the old folks home.. there will be some decent men there not wanting to die alone... | |
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| why does it suck trying to find someone decent in Arkansas?
Posted: 5/26/2008 8:34:34 PM | Suzzane, you are totally right about disposable world
One night stands are ok for skinny young people, us old folks need need old term hook ups... from friends with benefits to common law marriages living together. .
But Suzzanne, by the time you get in the nursing home, you might have to take a number. It might be 3 to 6 women for each guy.... a senior citizen's harum haha | |
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| why does it suck trying to find someone decent in Arkansas?
Posted: 5/28/2008 6:45:30 PM | rdb, I spend a LOT of time in the forums here, I do a lot more reading than I do posting but it doesn't take long to figure out that for some reason, there are insane amounts of extremely jaded women here.
Go to the "ask a girl" forum and call yourself a nice guy. You'll quickly feel like bait for pirhana's.
I think a major problem in the dating world, probably magnified here, is that people can't seem to get past the fact that because one person, or 20 people, did something to them, doesn't mean that the next one will. Heck, I'm as jaded as the next guy so I'm no different, but people don't seem to realize you can't find happiness if you don't open up and look at each person as an interesting new adventure. | |
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| why does it suck trying to find someone decent in Arkansas?
Posted: 6/4/2008 1:02:27 PM | | why is it that everytime someone on line tells you how much they want to have a nice dinner with you and you set it all up they DON"T so up and tell you a bunch of BS about why they could not even call to let you know that it was off?? | |
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| why does it suck trying to find someone decent in Arkansas?
Posted: 6/25/2008 12:20:33 PM | Finding anyone decent in Arkansas is no different than anywhere else.
This thread reminded me of a story: There was an old gentelman sitting on the side of the road,a traveler stopped to ask ,"what are the people in the next town like".The old man replied what were the people in the last town like.The traveling man said,oh they were warm,kind and friendly.The old man said that is what you will find in the next town.Along came the second traveler,he ask the same question,The old man ask him what the people were like in the last town. The traveler's reply oh they were mean,standoffish,and not at all friendly,the old man replied that is how the people in the next town are too.
Let us be real in what we are looking for and be confident in who we are.Then the one just might be the next one you e-mail. | |
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| why does it suck trying to find someone decent in Arkansas?
Posted: 6/25/2008 6:51:42 PM | very cute.
And, arkansas' rural nature doesn't help for people our age who aren't paired off since they were younger, plus a lack of places in metro areas for us middle agers to meet up without having to endure smoke and $$ clubs. | |
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| why does it suck trying to find someone decent in Arkansas?
Posted: 6/26/2008 11:51:02 AM | | Love that story, Ladyhawk, and I'm wondering if OP wouldn't find the same problem wherever - It's not Arkansas, it's your own state of mind. I've seen a bit of the world, I may see more, but right now I'm OK with Northwest Arkansas and the people in and around it...and about everyplace else I go, I'm OK with those people, too. Am I just that naive? Should I go LOOKING for the bad? | |
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