| why does it suck trying to find someone decent in Arkansas?
Posted: 1/3/2009 10:01:50 AM | 1-Trailblazer: I'm with you on that one about starting as friends. I want to start with the premise that it's a friendship. If something comes of it that would be lovely. But the reality is, that the chances are, it will remain a friendship only. I'm up for friends; it's not something a person can have too many of. But the chances of any relationship advancing into "The One" are slim, whether that is here or any other venue of opportunity in life. If it was easy to find "The One" we (any of us) would likely not be here at all, eh?
Kennyb43: The notches on the bedpost is exactly what some people out here are looking for. I guess they don't care how empty that whole sort of behavior is, or how risky, but I don't judge them. I don't do it & like you, I don't want to be on the recieving end of it either, but who knows what those people are going through. They may still be in an emotionally numb place & just need to be held or something. I will acknowledge that there are simply plain old cold hearted players out here too. eeeuuuh. | |
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Posted: 1/5/2009 7:52:05 PM | | have you noticed that the most beautiful women are far, far away? | |
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Posted: 1/6/2009 2:23:15 PM | No, can't say that I have - there is one right above you in the posts and if you go to any of the POF functions you will see a boatload more - you just have to open your eyes 
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Posted: 1/6/2009 7:11:21 PM | billfishin, I do believe you have made my case clear.
Mapsonus says she is 109 miles away---way too far for dating.
And that pore gal is MARRIED--I aint messing with her! | |
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| why does it suck trying to find someone decent in Arkansas?
Posted: 1/6/2009 8:47:10 PM | AuroraA,
Starting out as just friends before anything else develops is great.
But some many of the ladies in my lower economic class still want the guy who is just a friend to pay for meals out every weekend, instead of splitting who pays or going dutch all the time.
Guys won't mind paying if the ladies would volunteer and cook to alternate things.
And, just be upfront about sexual interests. Even Teddy Bears have desires... just don't act like you're dating... be upfront.
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Posted: 1/8/2009 7:50:29 PM | | Good point, how far away someone is will depend on where you are starting from! | |
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| why does it suck trying to find someone decent in Arkansas?
Posted: 1/12/2009 12:00:27 PM | I lived here in Arkansas for two years and was forced to move back to Texas, I have been back now for about 6 months. Not sure where you guys are finding all these snobbish people because everyone I have meet have been nothing but nice. People always smile and speek to me where ever I go. Maybe it's the way you carry yourselfs. Are you smiling and trying to be friendly or do you have it in your heads everyone here is snobbish because one or two may have beed. Try always to be the best that you can be and of course there will always be some people that are not worth talking to in this world no matter what state you are in, but I am sure you will find everyone here is not so bad. After all I am here, lol | |
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| why does it suck trying to find someone decent in Arkansas?
Posted: 1/19/2009 6:45:58 PM | I was in TX and hadda come to Ar to make a living. Now how's that for a kick in the teeth? No, seriously, my dad had several strokes and I thought I probably needed to come spend some time with him while I could. Two years later, he moved back to TX and I got a divorce, lol.
Now my granddaughter and I love it since we moved to Little Rock from NE AR. I've made a few friends but always looking for friends, since romance seems to be for the young and pretty. Oh, well, what happened to the dances, SWARE? | |
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| why does it suck trying to find someone decent in Arkansas?
Posted: 1/19/2009 7:40:28 PM | Hey C.,
The Legion is still having there parties.
And a new group on DateHookUp is trying to get things together. We had our first saturday at CLASSICS in NLR at 7 p. m
If you like swing-dancing to rock and roll, check out the place after 8 pm on thursdays. | |
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| why does it suck trying to find someone decent in Arkansas?
Posted: 1/26/2009 5:20:13 PM | Decent by what standard. What is your definition? Compared to whom or what? What is your evidence procedure? How would you know if you found one? What would a decent man sound like? What would he look like. And so on and so forth.
Some people when referring to decent man mean christian perhaps a christian dating site would serve you better. Don't like the religious fanatic types myself but some do.
But if your not clear on exactly what your looking for how will you find it? | |
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| why does it suck trying to find someone decent in Arkansas?
Posted: 1/29/2009 8:15:10 PM | | Sigh...ok...I've lived in Arkansas for 23 years...I always knew I would not find the man for me here so I moved...now I live in Las Vegas...married a man...and now divorced...damned if I do and damned if I don't...I don't have the answers.. | |
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| why does it suck trying to find someone decent in Arkansas?
Posted: 2/7/2009 3:16:45 PM | | In regards to my December post. I must apologise for my stupid actions as I hurt this woman with my words which was totally uncalled for. I am not asking forgiveness as I don't deserve it. The information I got was totally false and I used it against her and it hurt her bad. She lost friends because of my stupid actions. I was an ass and a jerk for what I did. | |
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| why does it suck trying to find someone decent in Arkansas?
Posted: 2/16/2009 12:44:50 PM | It sucks trying to find someone decent anywhere. It's easy to explain why too. Most people aren't decent. Most people are selfish (nothing wrong with that) and don't care who they hurt to get what they want (something wrong with that)
Then you have people who honestly believe that they're different. They're not, but they're that delusional. Women that will think a guys not cute enough but find something else to be wrong, guys that will think a woman is to fat, and admit it. (may be kinda shallow, I don't think so, but at least they're honest with themselves). Everyone does it. Half of you are screaming that you don't, because you honestly believe you're not like all those bad people that have hurt you. But in many ways, you are. In my own ways I'm just like many of the guys I despise for how they've treated good woman. And good women, are in some ways just like the women that have stomped on my heart, and the hearts of other nice guys.
People are pretty predictable.
Besides, should you really be asking on a dating site why it's hard to find people? The forums here, and of all dating sites are full of people that are single, and have done their best to convince themselves that it's not their fault they're single, it's everyone elses! Guess what, when you have a pattern and the pattern is of constant failure, you look for the common denominator. If that common denominator is you, and it is, be honest with yourself and fix it. | |
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| why does it suck trying to find someone decent in Arkansas?
Posted: 2/16/2009 3:01:11 PM | | Dusty, While I disagreed with about 90% of what you said, you finally did make a valid point. If the SAME thing keeps occuring in your relationships, it's time to look at your own behavior or relationship patterns. I know women who complain that their ex was abusive...then the next guy is abusive. They never 'get it'. Plenty of other women passed the guy by...why didn't you?? There are women that can not be without a man in their lives....any man. But the entire time they are with Mr. Wrong, they are boring their friends to tears with all their whining about Mr. Wrong and always looking for Mr. Right. They never 'get it' either!! Plenty of other women can be alone waiting for Mr. Right...why can't you?? Yep, I get tired of hearing all this nonsensical complaining b/c it's never about taking any personal responsibility or steps to change themselves so that they don't keep repeating bad relationships. | |
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| why does it suck trying to find someone decent in Arkansas?
Posted: 3/18/2009 1:03:25 PM | | I would like to think AR is full of decent folks, just hard to find a compatible person more than once living in the same small town for so many years, seems the nice women are taken, others that have lost marriages may not want to get involved with anyone else, but I am going to keep looking, hopefully I will get lucky again in life. | |
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| why does it suck trying to find someone decent in Arkansas?
Posted: 4/3/2009 7:44:54 PM | OMG, some male in NWA typed to me, 'contact me when you grow some balls.' There is little respect for the female in me when a man sends that message and I am fully about being female. It's been weeks that my profile has been listed in Bella Vista and there is very little for me to get excited about. No chivalry exists, no male self esteem, no manners that I've witnessed. It's more than difficult to find someone decent to date b/c the mamas didn't teach their little boys how to be men. Gentlemen are kind, considerate, appreciative, and generous. I've not found that yet. Ye gads, it's about time to leave POF or move home again to the north where a man knows how to treat a woman.
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| why does it suck trying to find someone decent in Arkansas?
Posted: 5/26/2009 7:55:17 AM | | Between April 3 and today many experiences in nwa have made me want to delete my other post. I've met 5 wonderful gentlemen and visited with scads more. It's been way fun. We've danced and golfed and partied. I'm not going back north, the climate here is too nice. | |
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