deni30
| | Joined: 12/11/2007
Msg: 176 | |
| | I'm not sure if I intimidate guys, or if I am just butt uglyPage 8 of 10 (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10) | | I think what you might need to do is be more approachable. Learn how to flirt effectively. Men pick up on non-verbal cues. For instance, hold a stare for a full 5 seconds (count it out, it's long enough to feel a lil uncomfortable to the person conscious of doing it lol) and the same goes for a smile. Touching a man, on the arm even- is a good one also. Stop them and ask stupid questions- like, "is your name Matt? No? oh, you look like my friends brother" is one I use. Ask men for help (not that your helpless, it's just an opener) like for directions or something, if they like you they'll use the opportunity if not they'll likely at least be polite! WHen you are talking to them use their name several times. Finally, be confident- it's like men can smell it or something and I swear it works like mojo. I'm not the prettiest girl around though I work my xtra pounds, attributes and personality like nobody's business and the men line up hun. I think you're beautiful and please don't compromise who you are. :) Good luck. | |
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Nona37
| | Joined: 12/4/2007
Msg: 177 | |
| I'm not sure if I intimidate guys, or if I am just butt ugly
Posted: 1/6/2008 6:22:16 AM | Naeco:
Thank you for that great observation, maybe we should contact her and inform her of the activity which has been happening on this thread SHE started!!!!!! lol
Migivadam: I LOVE THAT SONG!!!!!!! :)
DENI: I like your advice so much, I'M GOING TO USE IT!!!!!!! ha | |
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| I'm not sure if I intimidate guys, or if I am just butt ugly
Posted: 1/6/2008 7:11:17 AM | Oh! kitten, that not true! someones tried to catch you several times .
They have foul hooked you in the nose, and now you do have an intimidating look about you. ~ You look like a fighter thats still standing and worse the wear. I be thinking, damn!, I don't know if want to share this small boat with "that" or not?
She might be some wild african, man eater, and have razor sharp teeth and can take a finger or pecker off with one single bite.
really thou ~ I know that this adournment is "in" fashion now. It's your generations way of being different yet being the same.
One young poster stated "don't change, you'd just be shallow" ~ funny!! ~ like he knew something about depth, heheheh !
I don't know what kind of young man that your looking for kitten? ~ If you are looking for a young man that will love you for what you truly are ~ the person deep inside that has a big heart and warm feeling and has alot of love to offer. A person with depth, intelligence and love for life. A person that was confident in herself and knew who she is. ~ I'd show that person and 86 the hardware, the fad clothing that screems " I wanta be cool!" ~ I'd suggest you be yourself and not give in to the rebelious juvenile pressures. ~ and join the rest of us here in this screwed up world.
You making yourself appear butt-ugly is not going to change the world my sweet ,but only restrict your rightful place in society. Limit what you could have had, what you could achieve.
Now! go have fun ~ you are beautiful ~ go get a real life ~ quit fighting the system ~ I know it seem hopless at times ~ but you ~ in your own way ~ are doing your part. Trust me, your time will come. ~ dar | |
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Nona37
| | Joined: 12/4/2007
Msg: 179 | |
| I'm not sure if I intimidate guys, or if I am just butt ugly
Posted: 1/6/2008 9:13:11 AM | Dance:
THis is TOTALLY way off topic here on this thread, but you are on the "Saddam" thread, same as I, and I will reply to your statements as soon as the moderator let's me :) lol
Good advice you gave here, by the way :) | |
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| I'm not sure if I intimidate guys, or if I am just butt ugly
Posted: 1/29/2008 8:46:20 PM | uhhh soo yeah like.. you're on like... 20 people's favorite's lists and so like... i'm totally not sure what you're talking about... like ... lol! sorry couldn't help myself.
Anyhooo... i don't think you're ugly. Very pretty face. skin looks good.....extremely important by the way. Lose the nose ring, get a haircut and get smooth, touchable hair... and get yourself in the gym.
Girl! you got it... you just need to know how to work it... and the nose ring and the hair... just aint workin it... know what i mean?  | |
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| I'm not sure if I intimidate guys, or if I am just butt ugly
Posted: 1/29/2008 9:00:07 PM | Don't change a thing!!
I love your straight forwardness and your individualism. You stand out!!
I think the only thing I would worry about is that you are hiding some emotional baggage behind all of your "uniqueness" and that may be projecting an insecure angry image.
Be who you are and be proud of it. You most certainly do not want to change for anyone and more so you don't want anyone you would have to change for!!
As corny as it sounds, you have to love yourself before anyone else can. | |
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| I'm not sure if I intimidate guys, or if I am just butt ugly
Posted: 1/29/2008 9:08:01 PM | Well,.. your DEFINATELY NOT butt-ugly It MAY be that "Funky fresh" thing.. maybe they thing you smell bad or something Even the nose ring looks ok..(you do keep it clean, right?) Perhaps they're intimidated by piercings... You DO got that "tough" look in a soft kinda way. Anyway, your not butt ugly..so I'm going for intimidating.  | |
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| I'm not sure if I intimidate guys, or if I am just butt ugly
Posted: 1/29/2008 9:26:14 PM | Nah..you are gorgeous! Some guys just probably aren't attracted because of the nose ring. They probably read you wrong because of it. They make assumptions about you etc.etc..
That is NOT to suggest that you should change it if that is what you like, though.
If you really want to keep the nose ring, sooner or later, you will meet someone who is not intimidated by it.
And right..like someone said earlier..you are quite young yet. You have lots of time.
Get out there and live, and laugh..and maybe..just maybe ,you will find ...love?  ...sorry..yeah..that was hokey..but it just flowed out...sorry about that..
I'm not normally the sappy sort.
Soleil | |
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| I'm not sure if I intimidate guys, or if I am just butt ugly
Posted: 1/29/2008 9:54:47 PM | BornAUnicorn, you are drop dead gorgeous judging by all of your pics....
you have chosen a particular look and you like it! so be happy with it
inside and out you may be shy but I bet if you smile a shy smile it will get them looking your way- beauty is also supposed to come from the inside and I think you are
also that too.....I see it in your eyes.....just be yourself if thats not good enough you don't need him...period.. | |
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| I'm not sure if I intimidate guys, or if I am just butt ugly
Posted: 1/29/2008 10:16:31 PM | Nose ring doesn't scare me a bit..
My advice, approach guys instead, and have fun with it. Why so many people are obsessed with people not approaching them is beyond me, there are probably billions of reasons for why no one has approached you.
Perhaps the better question to ask is, For what reasons have you not approached someone you liked? see that list.. yup, its universal.
If you do approach people you like.. then keep it up.
Just imagine what would happen to a tree if it didn't push its roots down and look for water.. it would likely die before anything decent ever came to it !! | |
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Davou
| | Joined: 7/28/2008
Msg: 189 | |
| I'm not sure if I intimidate guys, or if I am just butt ugly
Posted: 12/24/2008 12:19:13 AM | Well this might not help too much, but I've never one approached a girl... At least not with intentions of flirting... I'm just way to shy for that. If the guys around you are anything like me, their more likely than not to pass on approaching you in favor of stealing a long look when your not paying attention.
**sigh** | |
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| I'm not sure if I intimidate guys, or if I am just butt ugly
Posted: 12/24/2008 1:10:43 AM |
I'm not sure if I just look so crazy that they are scared of me, or if they think i'm ugly
You are not ugly, but you have adopted a style that has a limited audience and therefore considerably narrows the field of guys who will hit on you. Could presenting yourself as you do, be a self fulfilling prophecy?
I think the majority of women lack the balls to approach guys by themselves. As sexist as it sounds, most women on the make present themselves seductively and for that I'd lose the black nose ring. It's just plain not sexy. Other than that, eye contact and smile. | |
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| I'm not sure if I intimidate guys, or if I am just butt ugly
Posted: 12/29/2008 4:03:55 PM | So when you are out and about and see a guy that you might like to talk to, just do so. Begin the conversation with something you like about them, a compliment goes a long way and it is quite effective as an ice breaker.
"I like your pants." Then go on to compliment the way they fit their backside.
"I like your dreads." Wait a second and ask, "Can I touch them? What made you decide to grow them? How did you do it?"
"Cool eyeglasses." Wait for a thanks. Then say, "Can I see how blind you are? I'll let you see how blind I am, try mine on."
"NIce hair color." Wait for an acknowledgement. Then say," I love it when a guy has huevos and will dye his hair blue." | |
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| I'm not sure if I intimidate guys, or if I am just butt ugly
Posted: 12/29/2008 4:59:16 PM | I think you are a gorgeous young woman. Perhaps you haven't found the right guy yet to appreciate your body art. I think in this day and time it is appropriate. Hey, we all had our little quirks and fashions. I say let the young have theirs.
You should find a man who likes you for who you are, and dear, do not change a thing. You are a breath of fresh air in this murky pond! | |
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| I'm not sure if I intimidate guys, or if I am just butt ugly
Posted: 12/29/2008 6:03:05 PM | you must be going to the wrong places. i know plenty of guys that would hit on you. dreads and all.
(and btw, people, dreads are not yucky. there is powder to clean them and some people even wash them with regular shampoo. if you're lucky maybe they'll even let you wax and roll them. lol)
anyways, you should definately start practicing approaching guys. it's very empowering. and i think some will like your shyness. just say, "HI". it's a skill that needs to be practiced before you get it right, just like anything else. and if you get rejected a couple times, it's o.k., just try again. | |
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| I'm not sure if I intimidate guys, or if I am just butt ugly
Posted: 2/22/2009 12:33:04 AM |  We are not to comment on your Beauty, however Unicorns normally have one Horn protruding from their forhead...
 I see NO HORN in any of your photo's, then again perhaps it is to be found elswhere, perhaps it is within your personality...
Here on The POF FORUMS, Looks really don't matter, on the Forums it is your mind that show's most clearly, your Humor, your wit and you heart...
I persay no onger look, I wasted many years on here, Now I just live my life and I have much better luck in reality...
The world is in sorry shape, but I prefer to LIVE in reality, then to hide within the fantasy of The Internet...  | |
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| I'm not sure if I intimidate guys, or if I am just butt ugly
Posted: 3/10/2009 11:09:43 AM | I met a girl like you one time she was beautiful as well but anyways. .......... She was always so shy I tried to make plans to meet with her but she was always so shy and saying that she was too nervous to meet. We met online and just sent text messages back and forth with an occaisional phone convo once a night. It seemed like we were clicking but she was always too much of a chicken $hit to meet me as she put it. So one day I sent her a Text saying..... Look I have to be me and I have to be honest I like you and you telling me you dont want to see me cause your too nervous or whatever just hurts so what do you want me to do ? I understand if you never want to hear from me again but I just had to let you know how im feeling . So cheers .
never heard from her again lol
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| I'm not sure if I intimidate guys, or if I am just butt ugly
Posted: 3/10/2009 12:33:50 PM | You have a pierced nose and lip.... you look weird to a huge segment of society. You have greatly diminished the typical person that will be attracted to you. Do you not see that??
A ton of guys do not want to bring you home to mom. A business man would not want to bring you to a dinner meeting.
Realize this and change or stay with the small amount of men who'd dig your appearance. It's all up to you. | |
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| I'm not sure if I intimidate guys, or if I am just butt ugly
Posted: 3/11/2009 12:30:37 PM | | There are alot of guys who like lip rings and nose rings on a girl. Personally when I see a girl with a Mo-hawk or Faux hawk that always floats my boat ! You know what they say about a girl with a tongue ring? Well its the same thing they say about a guy with a tongue ring lol | |
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| I'm not sure if I intimidate guys, or if I am just butt ugly
Posted: 3/11/2009 12:31:52 PM |
you are beautiful, but...you are taking away from your beauty with that nose ring, actually it is very unhealthy to have one there, also ditch the one under you lip, dye your hair a soft color, lose the locks, as they tend to smell after awhile, change your glasses to a gold or silver wire, as you are very soft, feminine looking young girl. which is good, try that, then take new pics. you'll see the difference in no time.
good luck
wow..... so basically you're telling the girl to change everything about herself, to no longer be a personal reflection of her own interests? Take out all the piercings, lose the dreads, die your hair, take new, less exciting pictures, create a dull, very average profile so you can appear to be the exact same as 90% of the population, because I'm sure a girl as unique and open-minded as you really wants some number crunching, tie wearing, nine-to-five kid of guy, right? The biggest part of finding success while dating is to be honest and be YOURSELF. If she walks in there a completely different person and finds a man, it will be short lived, I nearly guarantee it.
don't worry hunny, you're very beautiful. It is possible there is an intimidation factor. You seem to be relatively sure of yourself, and your profile is not the run-of-the-mill "if you want to know more, message me" crap.
Don't worry bella. He's out there. The thing to remember is not to wait around. He always comes exactly when you're no longer waiting.  | |
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