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 Irreverent Lass
Joined: 7/24/2007
Msg: 76
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so your theory is total hogwash. you would love to think it true, but what do you say to those women and men whos pics are of the "g" rated variety and are still getting sleezemail?


No need to get defensive, Hon.

I haven't received a single one of those "sleaze" emails out of a few hundred since joining in June, and don't accept IMs from anyone not on my favorites list, so there is something to my theory. If they are going to send sleaze mail, it has to be at least 100 words and perhaps their imagination isn't that great.

:)
 KitNbootz
Joined: 5/31/2007
Msg: 77
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Posted: 7/30/2007 1:46:59 PM
The best way to deal with emails like that is: "Block & Delete".

These guys know they are being complete pigs and are looking to get any type of reaction out of you so you'll email them. They know they wouldn't want their sister being subjected to emails like that but they do it anyway. They are scumbags and hypocrites to boot so why waste any of your precious time reply to them?

Spend your time replying to the good guys. Not the complete morons.

Happy fishing.
 jewelescent
Joined: 3/2/2007
Msg: 78
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Posted: 7/30/2007 1:48:22 PM
I just block them.....its not really a common occurence. Ive only gotten maybe 3 of those since ive joined this site.
 mahogany_rush
Joined: 7/18/2007
Msg: 79
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Posted: 7/30/2007 2:01:00 PM
pepprmynt, all women get sleazy emails, why???? because most men are horny dogs and you are a woman, What kills me is when I see a woman posting a pic online in something a little risque , then complain, "oh why do I get sleazy emails from pervs" I find it hard to believe that you would post a pic in a business suit and have more sleazy emails than a pic of you in a negligee ? come on Im pretty sure my mother didn't drop me on my head as a child?
 *DisneyMom*
Joined: 5/15/2007
Msg: 80
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Posted: 7/30/2007 3:58:26 PM

any other winning ideas you'd care to share?

Yes. Ignore. Problem solved.
 prettyinpinkxo
Joined: 10/2/2006
Msg: 81
A Good Way to Handle Nasty Emails From Men
Posted: 7/30/2007 4:01:12 PM
I report them to POF. Never happens again after that.
 MB58SC
Joined: 2/1/2007
Msg: 82
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Posted: 7/30/2007 5:09:55 PM
I don't usually receive "nasty" e-mail. I've received some psycho letters, but I just ignore them.
 Meface
Joined: 11/15/2006
Msg: 83
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Posted: 7/30/2007 5:38:06 PM
I never got any emails like that. I did, however, get all kinds of insults when I only had a headshot. It seems they all met a 300 lb. woman on here and I was expected to pay for it. Since I've put up body shots, they've been OK.
 adventureman45
Joined: 3/6/2007
Msg: 84
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Posted: 7/30/2007 5:52:48 PM
Do not send out emails like that.
 nursemate68
Joined: 2/5/2007
Msg: 85
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Posted: 7/30/2007 7:00:57 PM
Easy.....a sexually explicit email is not deserving of a reply....DELETE. If he/she doesnt seem to get it at that point...BLOCK.
 Betti Bewp
Joined: 4/27/2007
Msg: 86
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Posted: 7/30/2007 7:11:16 PM
I had one IM me and asked if I wanted to make love all day....I responded with No, that was yesterday, his window closed immediately...

the nerve, he didn't even say hello, how are you?lol

Cheers
betti
 Straight Christian Lady
Joined: 6/14/2007
Msg: 87
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Posted: 7/30/2007 7:18:14 PM

oh then... right after I send it.. I can block em ..
lol

Just save their message to a .txt file, block them, and THEN email your thoughts.

Yes, you can email people you've blocked, as long as they haven't yet blocked you.

.. or you can quote their message body, so you still will have the record of it in the 'they made first contact' message history even after blocking and making their emails disappear.
 NotSoFuzzyClock
Joined: 6/6/2007
Msg: 88
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Posted: 7/30/2007 8:11:14 PM
Those who say "delete" and "delete-and-block" (matter of personal preference) have it right.

That's what the delete/block facilities are there for.

No point in reporting 'em, they just get canned and create another account.

Spiderwoman is right when she says "I want them to feel like their email was too worthless to create a strong reaction from me. "

Don't respond to them, it's all they're looking for ~ their email is too worthless to create ANY reaction, is the thing.

Picture this: the "guy" is really a ten-year-old kid who has downloaded a boilerplate set of garbage comments from the web somewhere...

(1) Do you really want to give this nerd the satisfaction of knowing he provoked a reaction from an intelligent adult.
(2) ...Or give this dufus the opportunity/encouragement to send MORE randomly-generated drivel and maybe jerk your chain some more?

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 prettypicky
Joined: 10/2/2006
Msg: 89
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Posted: 7/30/2007 10:37:56 PM
Hey Key Player--how are ya?

What I didn't know up until recently in that even Giacomo Puccini's opera titles can qualify as a "nasty message", depending upon who sends them. Yuppers. It's true...attempted psychological torment--that's what that is.

But silly me--I forgot to block 'em before I deleted them. The beauty in it is that I don't even care!

I am OVER him...eeeehhhhhaaaaayyyyhhhhoooo! (See I'm even proving it by making claims in a public forum.)

Thank God I have my faculties back and I'm cheekier than ever!
 pepprmynt_39
Joined: 5/11/2007
Msg: 90
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Posted: 7/31/2007 6:38:40 AM
Message: so your theory is total hogwash. you would love to think it true, but what do you say to those women and men whos pics are of the "g" rated variety and are still getting sleezemail?


No need to get defensive, Hon.

I haven't received a single one of those "sleaze" emails out of a few hundred since joining in June, and don't accept IMs from anyone not on my favorites list, so there is something to my theory. If they are going to send sleaze mail, it has to be at least 100 words and perhaps their imagination isn't that great.

after reading your profile that essentially reads "HEY LOOK AT ME,, ARENT I AMAZING,, ITS ALL ABOUT ME,WEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE."" superficial stuff, i find it hard to believe you get much email at all, but like you said,, in your estimation, its an advertisement and goodness knows there are plenty of superficial ppl in the world.
and btw,, just so you understand, i was making a point, not getting defensive. and you still failed to answer the question,, what do you say to women who dont have suggestive pics and still get sleezemail?? since your theory is you reep only what you advertise for. umm, and on what reality are you workin off of today that honestly makes you think that all mail under 100 words gets blocked? omg, who has that kinda time to devote to answering every email?
 pepprmynt_39
Joined: 5/11/2007
Msg: 91
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Posted: 7/31/2007 6:40:51 AM
ummm ,, mahogany rush, , first off, my pics arent risque,, i see less on bikini clad women on the beach. furthermore,, i wasnt complaining, i was makin a point. and lastly, i want to thank you ever so much for callin me a liar,, real class there.
 prettypicky
Joined: 10/2/2006
Msg: 92
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Posted: 7/31/2007 7:00:27 AM
^^^If you want to post pictures of yourself in your delicates, go ahead--knock yourself out. Why should I care?

But please don't pick on Irreverent Lass--she rocks!
 mahogany_rush
Joined: 7/18/2007
Msg: 93
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Posted: 7/31/2007 8:07:59 AM
pepprmynt39, I had a paroxysm of laughter after reading your last rejoinder, too funny ......... well me bad as my goddaughter would say, I should of separated the post, the first part was address to the general public, the last part was addressed to you.

Perhaps we are having problems with the English language Pepprmynt, I didn't call you a LIAR, I said I was having a hard to believing what you said

Im thinking your critical thinking skills are poor , it shows a lack of class , arguing without analyzing your terms, attacking someone profile ( Irrelevant Lass) is usually a last resort for someone who has a weak argument ( just a thought)

To answer your original question Pepprmynt, All women get sleazy emails, like i said earlier Some men are just horny dogs , the longer a woman is online the higher the probability she will encounter one of these dogs, and most confident women will shake their head and dismiss them/block/delete and not make a big deal about, its part of online dating.
 Always smile!
Joined: 4/6/2007
Msg: 94
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Posted: 7/31/2007 8:14:19 AM
Funny that it is a two way street. Most of my friends are women, and they show me that grotesque stuff. I would never do that on camera, unless it was private and for a girlfriend.

The problems guys have is that 95% of the mails we get are from some "chick" (could be a guy or gal in real life) asking you to see their "private pics" on this or that paysite.

The lesson is just to watch for online predators, and report them as spam or prohibited.
 Irreverent Lass
Joined: 7/24/2007
Msg: 95
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Posted: 7/31/2007 8:49:21 AM

what do you say to women who dont have suggestive pics and still get sleezemail?? since your theory is you reep only what you advertise for. umm, and on what reality are you workin off of today that honestly makes you think that all mail under 100 words gets blocked? omg, who has that kinda time to devote to answering every email?


First of all, I am not offended that you did not like my "superficial" profile. You're not my type anyway.

Second, for women that do not have suggestive pictures up, and are not discussing their sexual preferences/beliefs/attitudes in their profiles and are still getting sleaze mail, I suggest adjusting the filters and blocking IMs except from those on your favorites.

Because I use the settings, I know that email under 100 words DOES get blocked and in many messages I've received — where they've attempted to send something shorter — they have mentioned "oh, I have to make this longer". It separates the wheat from the chaff and spares me one line cut and paste spam mail.

If someone doesn't have the time to send an email worth an answer, that's their choice. Mine is to set my filters so that it is not my concern one way or another.

For those that do put some thought into their mail, they get a response in kind from me.

Profile content, or pictures in a bikini, negligee or suit, we do have some power over what we are receiving and the demographic to which we're advertising.

It pleases me that someone like yourself wouldn't like me. My filters are working.
 oldsoul
Joined: 3/10/2007
Msg: 96
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Posted: 7/31/2007 10:37:28 AM
Hi OP,

I don't get many nasty emails ....I mean the real nasty ones like some have described......but I do get my share of the young guys asking me to help them fulfill their older woman's fantasy....haha!!!....but believe it or not, even most of those messages were decent enough and some were downright funny....and depending on the mood I'm in and if I have time, I might just send them a humerous reply back along with my thanks but no thanks line....haha!!

But I have received very nasty hate mail because of my personal religious beliefs which are stated on my profile....and I've even had to block a few who continued to persist in saving my soul from burning in hell!!....

Love and peace...
Old..

ps: And for whatever it's worth, I couldn't sign off before I added that I, like many people on here, happen to like Irreverent Lass's profile......I'm just sayin'...
 This Journey
Joined: 9/28/2006
Msg: 97
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Posted: 7/31/2007 11:08:06 AM
any nasty outburst whether vocally or in print demonstrates ones inability to be respectful of the wishes or of opinions of others. If one encounters any who has difficulties handling with consideration and respect ...may it be a rejection, a suggestion or an unfavourable advice given.
May I ask ...what value is there to you in continuing to induldge in ...degrading correspondences?
 kayakgirl35
Joined: 8/23/2006
Msg: 98
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Posted: 7/31/2007 11:26:11 AM
Ever see that Dateline show where they pose as young, barely teenage girls in chat rooms and lure the pervs to a house? They have the police there to arrest the perv for child porn or whatever the h@ll those morons do to young girls when the moron shows up.

Do the same thing.

That should stop their emails for a very long time.
 pbmac3
Joined: 5/16/2007
Msg: 99
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Posted: 7/31/2007 12:07:44 PM
First of all, I'd like to qualify my response by saying that I have never sent a nasty email.......unless this guy counts>>>

This is a free website. There are going to be doctors, lawyers, pizza delivery men, bikers, salesmen, 14 years olds posing as 20 year olds, and yes, perverts. There are also married men, married women, swingers, catholics, atheists, and yes, perverts. It amazes me that the same women appear to be constant targets for the harassment.


so what your saying is that somehow we are asking for it or deserve itand should expect such things. thanks ever so for that, me being one of those women who have what you call "misleading" picture on profile. your idea on this is quite limited, these perverts are perverted all on their own, and regardless of whats in front of them. your notion runs along the same lines of why all rapes arent reported, because on some level, cops etc figure that she asked for it. NO ONE ASKS FOR A PERV TO APPROACH THEM, NOR DO WE DESERVE IT.


I'm not a lawyer, but I'm not sure if it's illegal to send someone an e-mail asking them "to get busy with me".....whether it is wanted or not. Some women seem to attract these men like flies to sugar. Maybe they think it's a desperation thing, I don't know. Did you know that there is a feature on this website that lists people that have not received an email in the last 24 hours? If I was the type, this would be the first place I'd go to pick out my targets! Women/men who might be happy to have received an email just might be easier than the profile that produces 10/20/30 emails a day.......

There is absolutely nothing wrong with a photo of you in your "delicates". BUt one should not be surprised by emails that are geared towards activities that take place while wearing said delicates.

A photo of a woman in her swimsuit makes me think>>>>she likes to swim.

A photo of the same woman in her panties and bra makes me think>>>>she like to.....um....have slumber parties!
 cindyloo_2
Joined: 7/10/2007
Msg: 100
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Posted: 7/31/2007 1:03:10 PM
I block them and don't even think another thought about them.
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