| Foreplay.....rough or soft?
Posted: 8/17/2007 7:28:18 PM | See this is the problem.....
Some women love the soft gentle foreplay, and even during sex they dont spanking , hair pulling and dirty name calling........which is fine......but once a man is custom to that style, then he meets a "freak"
It takes a little time to adjust, I had an ex make me always nibble her nipples till she saw blood, wasint my thing, but when oyu are in a relationship you do what you have to to make the other person happy I guess | |
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| Foreplay.....rough or soft?
Posted: 8/18/2007 4:09:16 AM | hi evryone
all thise things about softer and harder its deepend from personality,of course you have to inform youre partner what is good for u or what is not,
but the main time until u did not get the right sex u dont know what is good for u,,
i was reading lots of books about it,because i realy whant to know how to touch ladys...
if u know how to touch where when,,its just going better and better
so all is u have to talk about what do u like and how,,,and of course its not football u going to the right and me to the left and goal,somehow softer talk ... | |
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| Foreplay.....rough or soft?
Posted: 8/18/2007 4:32:56 AM | I find with each new partner I have to gauge where their sensitivity level is at. My current gf has really sensitive nipples and is only into the softer stuff, whereas my last couple partners liked their nipples treated a little rougher
It's all about getting to know your partner and where their comfort level is. | |
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| Foreplay.....rough or soft?
Posted: 8/18/2007 4:50:16 AM | | At times I have keep focused so this does NOT happen...become too rough. But yet one MUST be comfortable with other ... being able to tell other LIKE or NOT LIKE...IF one is not comfortable with theirself....seems they tend to keep it hush,hush. SPEAK UP....:) | |
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| Foreplay.....rough or soft?
Posted: 8/18/2007 5:56:17 AM | Again, I think this comes down to communication and personal preference. I've been with a man that liked things I thought would hurt (biting) but he asked for it and made me understand he'd sincerely and totally appreciate it. So when I got the nerve up, it totally rocked his world.
Mind you, it did nothing for me and I was so concerned about breaking skin that I had to totally focus on him.
But hey - isn't that what we're about? Bringing pleasure to our partner, and communicating clearly so they can bring pleasure to us? | |
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| Foreplay.....rough or soft?
Posted: 8/18/2007 7:18:31 AM | | OP, not all women like it soft.. some of us like it rough. That is where communication is key. You should let your partner know what you like and they should do what you like. It's not rocket science. | |
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| Foreplay.....rough or soft?
Posted: 8/18/2007 8:16:24 AM | verygreeneyez: Your ex was a fool........Your profile is a Riot....you made my day and for that " THANK YOU" | |
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| Foreplay.....rough or soft?
Posted: 8/18/2007 8:23:08 AM | Hi Mish
For me the whole pleasure of sex is pleasing my partner. So does it hurt my feelings to know that I've cuased dis-pleasure and not pleasure? Yes! That's not ego, just disappointment that I'm not up to the task. However, if your partner cares for you at all then they'll learn quickly from their mistakes.
So don't take umbridge if your partner gets a little down when you complain, but you can get royally p****d off if they keep doing the wrong thing!
Ian xXx | |
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| Foreplay.....rough or soft?
Posted: 8/18/2007 8:25:56 AM | Well, if you feel you can't speak to each other about what it is you like, want, how to, how not to... then really, y'all shouldn't be having sex together... it's a receipe for disappointment. Different strokes for different folks they say.... but if you can't communicate it to each without feeling that you're bruising an ego or having yours bruised...then it's time to mature-up.
I think any discussions should happen before the foreplay begins...kinda like a little erotica to set the scene... then say good night and when you see each other next....should be good n'hot and everyone knows what the other likes and expects....cause they've been dreaming about it all-night-long... | |
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| Foreplay.....rough or soft?
Posted: 8/18/2007 8:35:42 AM | | soft everytime, i want us to enjoy sex with eachother and her reaction and orgasm's are so much more intense if you caress and not knead her body | |
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| Foreplay.....rough or soft?
Posted: 8/18/2007 8:44:18 AM | This is one of the reasons I never have anonymous sex and liken it to watching paint dry. To be with me, you have to know me, and get inside my head by knowing me. I'd also like to know what trips his trigger beforehand as well.
I like it hard, I like it soft, I like it all ways .... it depends on me, the mood, the guy and a number of factors. | |
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| Foreplay.....rough or soft?
Posted: 8/18/2007 10:19:04 AM | | i myself like it many ways, soft,gentle at first then al depends, the best way for your lover to know is to show him how and guide trough if need be | |
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| Foreplay.....rough or soft?
Posted: 8/18/2007 10:43:25 AM | | I think it's all about communication. I've known women that want you to bite their nipples very hard. They just love it. Yet the same woman, two days later wants to be softer and nicer. So you as a woman need to give your man indicators of what you want today. And the man needs to prod around and get a feeling of what type of music you are going to create today. The thing to remember is that we all need variety so don't be afraid of saying. Try this, try that, oh, not to hard, I am tender today, yeah go there. | |
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| Foreplay.....rough or soft?
Posted: 8/19/2007 3:31:19 PM | | Hmm... I guess there's times for both... Sometimes there are the slow, soft, gentle moments where it's love making and can last for hours... and sometimes it's walk through the door ripping clothes off all the way, never to even make it to the bedroom. It's all about knowing when the timing is right for each.... | |
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| Foreplay.....rough or soft?
Posted: 8/19/2007 3:37:55 PM |
Why is it that men get a little too rough during foreplay?
Maybe it is the men you choose.
Sex takes practice to become a great duo at. If he isn't willing to take suggestions and learn then he will probably never get any better.
Just so you know some women are to rough at foreplay too. Some bits of my anatomy are tough and can take some rough handling other parts need a gentler touch or I will be saying "OOOUUUUCH! That hurts!". | |
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| Foreplay.....rough or soft?
Posted: 8/19/2007 4:29:51 PM | I think different ladies want different things. It takes knowing a person a while I think. The first time is never the best. I really enjoy taking time to undress, kiss and nibble. It's also nice to cut loose with someone you trust and push it just a little further. Foreplay, always soft and slow, but I can grab another gear when you are just about to pop.  | |
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| Foreplay.....rough or soft?
Posted: 8/19/2007 9:46:21 PM | a simple tug of the hair is the perfect test.
if her eyes roll back in her head and she groans gleefully... rough
if not.. not TOO rough hehe ;)
....mike | |
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| Foreplay.....rough or soft?
Posted: 8/20/2007 4:19:37 AM | For day to day foreplay rougher is better for me....But not overly rough!
The only time I care for the soft gentle stuff is in a intense LOVE moment....otherwise doesn't do much for me! | |
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| Foreplay.....rough or soft?
Posted: 8/20/2007 5:20:42 AM | just say it and if he dont like that then tell him to g.t.f.o, and not to let the door hit yah where the good lord split yah hahaha and i dont know i woud imagine that it's because of porn, alot of guys see the porno girls taking it all rough and assume everyone is like that, plus since everyone likes to think of themselves as agood lover it may hurt their ego to be told to do things differently resulting in a no call situation lol
(not like im generalising anything here, that's jsut waht ive gathered so far) | |
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| Foreplay.....rough or soft?
Posted: 8/20/2007 7:56:42 AM | I have to agree with "spence56" (post 4). Women are like a "moving" target. My experiences are like his. What's good one day, might not be good another day. Communication is important, especially on the woman's part, for a pleasurable experience.
Some times I'm a little more into a more "manly" touch, a little more firmer than the normal caress. But I would expect my partner to let me know if I'm too rough. | |
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| Foreplay.....rough or soft?
Posted: 8/20/2007 8:11:27 AM | Well I consider a lot of things foreplay....So it depends
I used to physically wrestle with my ex which would then turn into sex....So, rough foreplay can be fun! But soft playful foreplay can be nice too  | |
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| Foreplay.....rough or soft?
Posted: 8/20/2007 10:28:12 AM | | It completely depends on who I'm with. Some guys are better at rough foreplay. Some guys are better at gentle foreplay. Some guys just don't know what they're doing at all. And some guys are GREAT at it all!!! | |
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| Foreplay.....rough or soft?
Posted: 1/31/2008 12:38:45 AM | | I believe men get so arroused that sometimes they can't control themselves, like myself. I think the best way to avoid injuries and what not is for both partners to be open on what hurts them and what turns them on. Sometimes it takes for the women to control their guys on some foreplay, unless your the type who likes it a bit rough. It's like pain and pleasure mixed together. If your man can't take what you tell them then he's not respecting you at all. and that's all there is.. | |
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