| Foreplay.....rough or soft?
Posted: 2/6/2008 11:16:24 AM | Barbie's sis has got it...you need to communicate it!
I think that except for the biggest jerks, most guys want to make us happy and would prefer that we communicate.
It's funny I've never really thought about foreplay as being rough or gentle...it just is. Some parts of the body require a firmer touch than others. And that also differs from person to person. Just think, some ppl like to have their backs scratched and some prefer the lighter touch of a tickle.
Also I think the foreplay is affected by our state of arousal...if your partner approaches you while you are watching tv, you probably are starting out pretty low and will need some workin' up. But, if you've been teasing each other all day w/looks and touches and clothing choices.. well, arousal might already be pretty dang high and then it's like *attack*!!!!  Guess which one I prefer? LOL Gads, what fun. I miss having a partner!!!!!
Kaylie...as usual saying too much... | |
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| Foreplay.....rough or soft?
Posted: 2/6/2008 3:03:06 PM | | i tell the guy to put his pinky fingertip in his inner eye and press. i say does it hurt? well, it hurts when you press a woman's clit too hard too, just like your inner eye. | |
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| Foreplay.....rough or soft?
Posted: 2/6/2008 5:15:05 PM | | Every one is different for me i love the romance and the feeling i get hen she (arrives) the soft touch the taste te feel of skin glideing over skin. In the end often she wants a little pain but thats for her not me I love the tender feeling of holding back teaseing playing. But some like it fast and hard i guess! | |
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| Foreplay.....rough or soft?
Posted: 2/6/2008 8:05:13 PM | | I personally prefer it a little rougher! Gets me way more turned on then soft and slow, even though there is a time adn a place for that too! I like feeling sore the next day too, reminds me of a good night! LOL | |
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| Foreplay.....rough or soft?
Posted: 2/6/2008 10:39:10 PM | you can say , we can do it your tonite and can we try it my way, then it wont make a guy get mad and think that you are telling him that he suck | |
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| Foreplay.....rough or soft?
Posted: 2/16/2008 10:50:42 AM | It just depends on the moment and the individual........
and it's nice to come to some sort of agreement....that way it can really be enjoyed...... rough or soft......................
communicating is very important!
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| Foreplay.....rough or soft?
Posted: 2/16/2008 11:07:25 AM |
This is why I prefer women...They take their time...They know how, where, and when to touch, kiss, feel the right place..They are not in a rush...Men wanna rush through foreplay so they "bang" it good...They want to show you how freakin great they are in bed...How great their c-ck is...Dudes, get over yourselves and just enjoy the moment...I think foreplay is 10 times better than penetration anyway...But that's just me... 
Totally agree!! Soft touches make us (or me anyway, lol) crave for more soft touches, crave for more of those hands and fingers, crave everything more, and the longer you tease us, likely the better it'll be. :)
Then again, there's nothing wrong with going from soft where it counts, to rough and pinning down and some nibbling here and there....   | |
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| Foreplay.....rough or soft?
Posted: 2/16/2008 11:11:02 AM | | THAT what I have said . a woman wants the man to give her a gental touch . BUT , i see I am still single so , it must not happen . | |
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| Foreplay.....rough or soft?
Posted: 2/17/2008 11:57:44 AM | Try BOTH . .
Soft-and-Gentle can be Very stimulating . . leading into a L O N G Passionate Session . .
Rough and Energetic can be Explosive .. for a *Nightime Tranquilizer*..!!
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| Foreplay.....rough or soft?
Posted: 2/17/2008 12:52:09 PM | men most of the times have no idea how bad they can hurt us ...especially by bitting .....what i hate the most is those guys that suck and bite on your nipples and then look at u all proud like they did something good :s
i always tell the guy if he is too rough ..anybody should ..its stupid to shut ur mouth just coz u dont wanna hurt his ego ..blah
in the same time too soft isnt good either ....there has to be a middle way
i guess the partners have to kno eachother very well in order to kno what feels good . | |
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| Foreplay.....rough or soft?
Posted: 2/17/2008 3:40:50 PM | | I always try to bring my woman to orgam during foreplay, either orally or by touch. Her reaction determines whether I should be rough or soft, as it's not always the same. | |
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| Foreplay.....rough or soft?
Posted: 2/18/2008 3:03:59 PM | | Personally, I like it rough I want to be biten, scratched, proded at ect... I just like being rough. | |
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| Foreplay.....rough or soft?
Posted: 3/17/2008 3:16:59 AM | | The best way to handle it is to be honest. If a mans ego is damaged due to a woman telling him how to please her then he isn't much of a man. Any man worth his salt will listen to a womans requests and fufill them, anything else just does not make sense! | |
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| Foreplay.....rough or soft?
Posted: 3/17/2008 7:04:21 AM | You need to consider another aspect of foreplay. Men by nature just want to jump right to it and get their rocks off asap. Women, on the other hand want a slow build up. Now, a lot of guys might or might not understand this, but that "build-up" takes place even before you get to the bedroom. For hours, even days, depending on your lifestyles etc., your lady needs to be psychologically prepared. Showing how you feel about her, taking her places for special occasions, gifts, a phone call in the middle of the day to tell them how much you care about them. When you get home from work, asking what kind of day they've had. Anything and everything to let them know how special they are to you. Men need to invest TIME in this -- take the TIME to do these things for someone you care about.
You must show her how she is special to you. That you spend a lot of time thinking and dreaming about her.
You need to always show her respect, and consideration.
She wants and craves intimacy by the little things you do and say to one another.
And she needs to feel secure in her relationship to you -- no flirting with other women - she has to be your one and only.
If your relationship is to a place where this is taking place on a regular basis, then not only will you understand her better, she will be more willing to please you. That means you'll both know when you like it rough, and when you like it soft. | |
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| Foreplay.....rough or soft?
Posted: 3/17/2008 7:25:43 AM | | you are right michelle a gut should tell the guy if it hurts and stop him if wont listen to you , during foreplay i let her decide what she wants and how she wants it | |
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| Foreplay.....rough or soft?
Posted: 3/17/2008 9:06:41 AM | i like a combonation of the two, i have never been so sentsitive that it hurt that much though, but i like being sore the next day......i would just tell him, WHEN NOT IN THE MIDDLE OF SEX, that he needs to be a lil easier, tell him i luv it when u, lick or kiss my nipples really soft, hell get the hint.....but seriously, u should be able to tell ur partner anything, thats the problem these days, COMMUNICATION
HOLLA
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| Foreplay.....rough or soft?
Posted: 3/17/2008 9:45:30 AM | | If the dudes hand is going in and out of your ass like a saw and the other hand is hammering away on your clit like a windshield wiper out of time, than yeah you might want to say something. Guys as a rule don't realize their strength when they start breathing heavy and thinking with their "other" head. All they know for the most part is, its soft, warm, and wet and is supposed to feel good. I mean really would you rather have a guy go down on you and lap at your cooch like a cat on a saucer of milk, or go at you like a ravenous dog on a piece of raw meat. To each their own I guess. | |
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| Foreplay.....rough or soft?
Posted: 3/23/2008 6:39:54 AM | I would say mix it up. Some days she may want to take it soft and slow. Other days she may want to feel it in the morning and go for round two and call off work.
Try discussing it. Before you are in bed and ready for liftoff. LOL | |
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| Foreplay.....rough or soft?
Posted: 3/23/2008 7:27:33 AM | | well. in my opinion.. All men are different(thank God).. and I myself, like foreplay to start out soft... slow.. sensual.. then work into hot sexy and rough..lol.. But I do just kinda go with the flow.. what feels good at the moment. If i want it rough.. i tell my parnter.. mmm yes baby.. harder...lol.. Communication is definitley Key. just my 2 cents.. | |
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| Foreplay.....rough or soft?
Posted: 4/26/2008 7:40:29 PM | I agree, if life had no pain it wouldn be any fun. I would rather bark like a dog bite some ass and get dirty than have a boring session. I think i heard a record scratch and it feels like everyones staring......oh well. | |
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| Foreplay.....rough or soft?
Posted: 4/26/2008 8:32:24 PM | Foreplay is what is going on all the way up till sex.
Just like sex it is going to depend on mood and circumstances.
I usualy like softer slower sex after the wild scratching, growling, smacking, hammering sex.
Foreplay the same way, a lot of it is lead up till the actual sexual contact by then we should both be hot enough that she wants to be taken and used.
WOOF! | |
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| Foreplay.....rough or soft?
Posted: 4/26/2008 8:51:59 PM | I agree. Hard and fast is fun, but it usually just doesn't do it for me in the "O" department.
I find that guys tend to get carried away, and forget that soft touches work the best for some women. Mostly it's probably just because they are so used to touching themselves that they revert to that.
It can get frustrating after you've mentioned in many times. | |
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| Foreplay.....rough or soft?
Posted: 4/26/2008 10:27:48 PM |
A female should be able to open up and mention to her partner that it doesn't feel good, it hurts, or it would feel better like this. But then you hurt their ego and they get super offended by it. What would be the best way to come out and say the truth?
If a guy gets offended by that he's pretty pathetic in my opinion.
Best way, in my opinion, would be leading him by example. Taking his hand and using it the way you want to be touched. Or else touch yourself and he should get the hint. | |
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