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| how do you know if someone is out of your league
Posted: 8/18/2007 4:29:55 AM | MSG 43
But this "no-one is out of anyones league" thing is absolute rubbish.
I wouldn't call the opinion 'rubbish', as at least one poster believes that the leagues don't exist. This is quite a positive way of looking at another human being.
However, I cannot believe that people who use that term have never concluded that another person IS out of their league, even if that wasn't the term they used. Everybody judges everybody, and sometimes negatively. | |
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| how do you know if someone is out of your league
Posted: 8/18/2007 4:35:15 AM | I believe 'Leagues' do exist. The same as Social Class exists. Even if it is not consciously done, people automatically dismiss people for various reasons and therefore are putting themselves into a 'League' of some sorts.
I do not think anyone is out of my league and vice versa but I do instantly dismiss people that I do not find attractive, this is not saying they are not in my 'League', I just do not fancy them! | |
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Posted: 8/18/2007 4:43:06 AM | | Maybe league isnt the right word. Meeting our expectations is probably a better way of saying it. We all look for people with certain qualities who measure up to what we are looking for, looks, personality, lifestyle, whatever. As the above poster states, we all judge others and not always positively. | |
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Posted: 8/18/2007 5:09:54 AM | Msg 41 I never claimed to be looking down on anyone.I sure as heck never called anyone a moron.I was replying to a post from another posture.I certainly am not shallow.You have no idea who I surround myself with.I'm not sure why you directed the below message to me.
Re: Msg 39
'Still waters run deep'
Bet he'd have more interesting conversation than the bloke with his large bank account if you'd ever bother listening to him.
Life experience isn't gained from living a 'normal' life you'd be amazed what you can learn from the people you seem to look down upon from your pedestal.
And consequentally if you find shallowness in your usual 'type' then maybe its because gaining wisdom isn't neccisary if you spend 9-5 in an office and the rest of the time surrounding yourself by the superficiality of a modern consumerist lifestyle.
Think anyone who uses the term 'moron' in this thread is up for both barrels.
Just my twopenneth
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You need to check msg 21 buster before you come after me with any barrel.Read and get it right.
OT: Again I reinerate,I am not out of anyones league. | |
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| how do you know if someone is out of your league
Posted: 8/18/2007 5:57:05 AM | They say opposites attract, so no ones out of your league they maybe just think differently about things, but you could merge together and find you have lots in common.
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| how do you know if someone is out of your league
Posted: 8/18/2007 6:36:58 AM |
A couple of days ago a guy who's profile I viewed messaged me to say , ' Sorry darlin but you are definitely not in my league ' . I replied most politely ' I realise that darlin - people like yourself never reach the Premiership
I have to say that seems just plain rude and presumptuous. Good comeback though 
I often look at peoples profiles who post on the forums just to find out a bit more about them (men and women). I certainly hope that they don't all assume that I fancy them just because I viewed their profile. | |
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| how do you know if someone is out of your league
Posted: 8/18/2007 6:56:38 AM | Thing is... If you want to live in this dilusional little bubble where no one is more attractive than anyone else etc then do so.
I KNOW that there are men who are far more attractive than me who can and do get the cream of the crop when it comes to women, i admire them from afar and thing yep they are nice looking but i wouldnt make a move on them and embarass myself!! | |
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Posted: 8/18/2007 7:18:16 AM | but to be honest,dont we all try to portray ourselves in a light the we think is our best?
no i dont on the forums i have put things which i assume would put quite a few people off me if they liked me in the first place, but at the end of the day i am just being open and honest about things which i cant say for all people on here, i have had quite a sordid life in some ways and do communicate these on the forums from time to time if threads appear where i have had an experience they are asking about | |
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| how do you know if someone is out of your league
Posted: 8/18/2007 8:03:24 AM | bat out of hell: i have had quite a sordid life in some ways and do communicate these on the forums from time to time if threads appear where i have had an experience they are asking about
I recall one of your threads had us all in total hysterics. think it was about the lady who wanted you to insert a finger where fingers wouldn't normally go.. it gave people an opportunity to make light of the more sordid things they'd done or been asked o do... so I wouldn't place too much emphasis about you being the excepion rather than the rule. You may have had experiences (and I know a few of them cos I've met you) that make you think you're out of people's league because of that, but I think you'd be surprised, and HAVE been surprised by the depth of experience other forum members - as small a group as we are on the UK forum- have compared to your own.
Not many of us escape bad things by the time we get to this stage of our lives... it's just part and parcel of who we are..
The question is, not whether we are leagues apart as far as looks and physicality are concerned, but whether another person can accept and live with the past experiences that have shaped us into what we have become today.
A wise ex partner of mine said : we are all damaged goods to a certain extent.
Surely that aspect puts us all in a similar league to start off with. | |
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Posted: 8/18/2007 8:17:50 AM |
recall one of your threads had us all in total hysterics. think it was about the lady who wanted you to insert a finger where fingers wouldn't normally go..
i think you may be referring to the lady that wanted to piss in my mouth and did so while i was giving her a tongue lashing
i except that other people have had problems and experiences in life and that i am not the only one who may have led a troubled life, and yes i have read other peoples posts were i thought that it was brave to put it online but as the statement that we all like to show the better side of us i was just pointing out that not all people are the same and some who give the impression of being on the moral high ground have also had things they have done which many others people may be shocked by if it come out and hide behind a persona that is indeed not the true person | |
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Posted: 8/18/2007 12:38:16 PM | Re: Msg 56
Terribly sorry medear, not like me to not read a thread all the way through.
No excuses was off out early and didnt have time for a full read through (Tis a trifle confusing when its not in quote form though!).
Readdress my post to christi66. | |
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| how do you know if someone is out of your league
Posted: 8/18/2007 12:50:35 PM | If you are still looking at people thinking they are out of your league, then they nearly always will be.......
You need to get a gsoh, a really good one works wonders, few one liners etc..., and be well versed in everything you can, so if they talk football, you know enough to muddle through, if they know politics you know enough to muddle through etc..
Once the confidence rises you'll soon realise the league thing pales into insignificance...
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| how do you know if someone is out of your league
Posted: 8/20/2007 10:14:16 PM | If you're thinking like that already before knowing them,They are!!!!!!
You know why a hot chick is hot????
Because you do not know her problems.Think about it!!!
Out of your league does not exist unless you let it!!!
You should have more confidence in yourself before taking on a relationship anyway.
Otherwise how are you going to protect what is yours.
Relationships are neither for the weak nor the insecure.Do not attempt one!!!!!!!
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| how do you know if someone is out of your league
Posted: 8/20/2007 11:53:00 PM | League to me = Level of acceptance.
I will be honest, due to my looks I don't even get a reply from most women I contact on this site. There are 200 million women all looking for one guy and I don't have that jackpot ticket. If I did I wouldn't be on this site at all.
Acceptance on this site is based purely on looks, what you say and your timing. It has very little to do with what your like in the real world because everyone will have a conversation with me in the real world.
I've met 3 women on this site in real life, none of them went anywhere although I do IM them from to time to time. I went to the camping meetup in Chichester and met some really nice ladies, had a dance about and lots of fun.
The fact remains that because of the nature of internet dating, if your going through all the trouble to meet a complete stranger it will most likely have to be worth it on the grounds of your pic. If you go to a meet up like i did, where your not the focus of attention you will find a more relaxed and flexible atmosphere. The last time I talked about fun it had "UNIVERSAL" appeal.  | |
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Posted: 8/21/2007 1:00:11 AM | come on!!! where's your imagination and romance. think julia roberts in pretty woman think sandy and danny in grease, just as 2 example of the top of my head, they were all from "different leagues", but ended up together. we are constantly bombarded on all sides by people triumphing over adversity. even when the odds are stacked against you. it's a challenge and we all love a challenge, so don't give up without even getting on the first rung of the ladder. how defeatist. me thinks it is a confidence and self doubt issue maybe | |
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Posted: 8/21/2007 9:06:49 AM | | err wasn't julia roberts a hooker in pretty woman? i mean she would have gone with anyone who would have paid enough money she was just lucky that richard gere was the curb crawler, and not some 25 stone redneck in his pickup. that "fairytale" relationship was only based on money and sex. | |
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Posted: 8/22/2007 1:47:09 PM | | If you send someone a message and they dont have the manners to reply,and a few minutes later your message is read deleted they obviously think you are not in thier league.Still never mind,its thier loss really,lol. | |
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| how do you know if someone is out of your league
Posted: 8/22/2007 3:01:17 PM |
think julia roberts in pretty woman think sandy and danny in grease, just as 2 example of the top of my head, they were all from "different leagues", but ended up together
They were from different social circles... all good looking though.
If someone is much better looking that someone else then they probably arent going to be interested. I'm sorry but i think some posts are claiming that there are no "better than anyone else" situations, but in my opinion that is absolute rubbish.
People tend to date people who are on the same level as themselves looks wise. If not, people that looked like Olive from "On the buses" would be dating Robbie Williams lookalikes!!!!!!!!!!!!! | |
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Posted: 8/22/2007 3:17:38 PM | If someone is much better looking that someone else then they probably arent going to be interested. I'm sorry but i think some posts are claiming that there are no "better than anyone else" situations, but in my opinion that is absolute rubbish.
People tend to date people who are on the same level as themselves looks wise
money at times can be a glueing factor
but apart from that, what you are saying might be true on a general level but I still believe that the OP should not let these considerations stop him from trying to approach the ones he fancies. If he doesn't try so he knows for sure that nothing is gonna happen.
I think you wrote earlier that you never approached someone you thought out of your league, well they definetely will always be.
I am a shy type but if I really like someone -usually it is not only a matter of looks- I let her know, no harm done in that, doesn't matter her looks is very close to the current aesthetic model.
EDIT: sorry, I have realised that referring to the OP I confused two threads but the rest stands...agree with the two posts below | |
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