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| how do you know if someone is out of your league
Posted: 8/17/2009 1:33:50 PM | | Think you just know whether someone is in your league or not ... although everyone is guilty of drunkenly giving someone who isn't in their league a chance ... but these are short-lived experiences as generally the alcohol wears off and we come to our senses! | |
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| how do you know if someone is out of your league
Posted: 8/17/2009 2:44:04 PM | i don't believe in leagues myself, but i once saw on tv, if u look in the mirror and look at urself honestly, comparing yourself to the average person, not celebrities, lookswise and then think about what ur best assets are, e.g. tall or nice eyes, and think about how funny, caring, smart, hardworking, good looking and how sorted u are financially, and give urself a mark out of ten, (reckon i would give myself a 5.5- if i believed in leagues) and your league is one mark above u and 2 marks below- so if u were a 6 ur league would 4-7 lol!!
this all sounds very superficial i know, but if u generally wanted to know about leagues and were sick of hearing 'there's no such thing as leagues' then maybe i helped :) haha | |
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| how do you know if someone is out of your league
Posted: 8/17/2009 2:55:58 PM | | If you have a crap job and are ugly, the likelyhood is you have to take what your given. If your rich and goodlooking, you have many options as your seen as desirable and sought after. Thats the way life is, what does my head in is when time and time again people say looks aren't important it's the personality, yeah right. if thats the case why am I still single?! lol. It's better to be honest with life rather than kid yourself otherwise. Women who are very attractive I'm not interested in, they are out of my league, whats the point in damaging my confidence with definate rejection? It's better to look for people in your own league, this is why I find average looking women more attractive than ones that belong on the cover of a mens magazine | |
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| how do you know if someone is out of your league
Posted: 8/17/2009 3:00:31 PM | PoF is quite good at showing you what league you are in.
There is a page that shows you people who browse your profile, all those whom you didnt look at first are in your league, they are the ones interested in you, or at least your looks.
PoF is based on initial first contact based on looks, we are all "guilty" of basing our desires on looks, after all somebody can not love all 100% of somebody if they are not attracted to their looks, after all their looks are a part of them too.
Your league transends many "levels" from looks to smarts.
I mean somebody who is good looking can be attracted to a gradutate but they have no education above basic schooling.
"Your league" is not one single thing, not by a long way | |
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| how do you know if someone is out of your league
Posted: 8/17/2009 3:06:05 PM | | Whats attractive to one person aint attractive to another..And if people dont like my looks then they dont like me i dont care.You have to like what you wake up next to its choice ....... | |
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| how do you know if someone is out of your league
Posted: 8/17/2009 3:38:48 PM | Im oblivious to the whole league thing myself.....if i like the look or profile then ill usually send a welcoming message, its the guys that obviously dont like the look of me as they either read and delete or just delete!
Im a friendly lass so it does grind a little, that men cant just humour me at times   | |
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| how do you know if someone is out of your league
Posted: 8/17/2009 8:01:04 PM | How you see yourself will pretty much determine your status in any league if such a thing exists, if you feel that your not worthy of the attention because you feel they are better than you you've automatically made them unobtainable and out of your league.
Providing you are confident with who you are and happy with life and your circumstances you will always have an appeal to the opposite sex as people are always attracted to happy contented people, desperation and unhappiness are normally a turn off.
People are generally attracted to similar to themselves as they have more in common and have a better chance for a future together. | |
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| how do you know if someone is out of your league
Posted: 8/18/2009 4:13:06 AM | According to some psychological studies we tend to look for partners that match our own 'attractiveness'.
This may be true (hence we will determine whether others will be considered in-or-out of our league)... but humans are so complex that innumerable other criteria will need to be taken into consideration in deciding whether another is 'in our league or not'.
Having said that, if the premise that matching attractiveness is true, then it will likely stop our initially contacting (what could be) a potential partner, making other criteria irrelevant as we've 'already made our decision'.
There are no easy answers!
The only way to truly know whether someone is compatable or not is to meet them. No amount of messaging, texting or theorising will answer the question.
This is a dating site - go date (and find out!) | |
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| how do you know if someone is out of your league
Posted: 8/18/2009 6:11:20 AM | According to some psychological studies we tend to look for partners that match our own 'attractiveness'
Sometimes, if we only go by the wrapper we can be disappointed but I guess when you talk about leagues you could put people in leagues for internal attractiveness as well as external and I've noticed that some people exude a lot of inner beauty despite not being terribly attractive to look at. No-one likes to be rejected and I think that's why a lot of people perceive so many people to be out of their league, although perhaps they are also being realistic at the same time. I don't know about leagues but I choose people I think I'd feel comfortable being with....though I'm a lousy judge at times! | |
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| how do you know if someone is out of your league
Posted: 8/18/2009 10:50:04 AM | How do I know? because they are not hot enough to be with me!
RELAX! I'm just kidding.
The honest answer is if you like someone just go for it, that's how you get in the major league!  | |
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| how do you know if someone is out of your league
Posted: 8/18/2009 1:35:15 PM | Hmmmmm
First of all, i check the obvious, see if they've got a couple of decent signings up front. A good solid backline would indicate someone who wont be letting many in. Is the goalie any use? Is he known to 'come' for anything in the box, or does he hang back and rely on his reflexes. And lots more things like that, some of which are tantalisingly close to being amusing.
Of course, then you have the other teams to think about, whats the strength of the league they're currently in like, is there a good chance of promotion or maybe even a playoff spot.
Or is she in a higher league but relegation is odds on because the squad is getting on a bit?
I prefer a lower leaguer myself, but a likely top half finish every season, that would be lovely
Its hard to guess really though isnt it? What if they get taken over by a Billionaire and suddenly have tons of cash? Surely a promotion or 2 will come of this?
One Man's fillet steak is another's offal though, so Leagues are something we construct in our own minds. In spite of intense media pressure telling us what we should and shouldn't be fancying, at the end of the day, the choice is ours and ours alone. | |
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| how do you know if someone is out of your league
Posted: 8/28/2009 10:31:24 AM | they do matter for me. and reading most of the posts i see people dont agree with me.
I consider myself out of a mans league if he does not work, if he doesnt earn enough money to pay half his way on "our" meetings, if he has no pension or assets to provide for his future.
I refuse to support any more men. I have 3 kids to support and dont need another. i do not intend to put a roof over a mans head either so he can claim half of my kids inheritance. If had to move a man into the house, after 6 months he can claim half of everything......or after two years. WHY what has he done to deserve the money other than move his tooth brush next to mine. why should i land up with half a house when i had a whole house when i met him!!!! because of several time and near hit misses, everything got put into trust. the trust will match whatever my future partner has. and up till now everyone i have met has had nothing, been in serious debt and been out of work for years!!!!!!!!!!!
i have lost over 6 hundred thousand on men. and since my last 3 potential relationships did not pay half their way i dont intend to spend another penny on a man from this week forth.!!! I now do expect a man to pay for everything in that way i know he is not lying about working. | |
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| how do you know if someone is out of your league
Posted: 8/28/2009 10:50:39 AM | | I don't believe in leagues, i don't consider anyone to be above me or beneath me they're either your type or they're not, their commitments regards family, outlook and morals are all important factors but their job, income, career prospects, where they live etc etc mean nothing to me. | |
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| how do you know if someone is out of your league
Posted: 8/28/2009 11:12:22 AM | Society has and always had people of differing social class and status and in the main people do not socialise and date outside of their social group. People are attracted to differing things but some of those reasons are education, money, profession, power and influence, personality, confidence, fashionable,and obviously looks and if your not an equal in any area or better then they are probably out of your league because you would have nothing in common.
Initial attraction though are based on certain parameters and similar outlook and ideas but once someone gets to know someone they can end up fancy someone who they may not normally be attracted too. | |
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| how do you know if someone is out of your league
Posted: 8/28/2009 2:57:08 PM | | if women walk off muttering "twit" after you have just given it your best (chat up) shot, then that could be taken as a fairly reliable indicator of your place in the dating universe...just below that of "buster bloodvessel". | |
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