| how do you know if someone is out of your league
Posted: 8/31/2009 7:28:17 PM | I have got the confidence mate, although using this site is slowly wearing it down lol. I have tried everything on here, new pictures, rewrite my profile every few days etc etc and can I get any messages? Nope, I have even messaged ugly women with 5 kids my age who most blokes wouldn't want because of the "baggage" as it's said by some, and even they aren't interested lmao, so now I should be all confident on here and maybe a right stunner might get back to me instead of an ugly one with 5 kids? Na I doubt it. So I decided to just use this thing for fun, totally changed everything on my profile.
I began to realise, part of what it is, I don't want a relationship. I have been pushing women away without realising it. So I'm just on the market for sleeping about with as many people as I can, while am single. One day, maybe in another 10 years time, I might be ready to meet somebody then. Until then, it's freedom, less hassle and doing what I want to do for many more years 
I know some friends who are very successful with women off the internet and when they use here they get the same problem as me. The sex ratio of this site is just appalling. Theres just way to many men competing for to few women. One of the reasons why so many men post topics here moaning they get no replies. To be in the zone, you need to really good pictures and look like some celebrity like David Beckham to succeed on here if your a guy. If your a woman, christ you could look like the elephant man's sister and it wouldn't matter.
Before people say "oh it's all about the personality" well am sorry, your wrong. Don't kid yourselves. You CAN'T get to know somebody on the internet and theres no body language to go with it. It's well acknowledged that over 90% of communication is
through body language. So it's all down to the picture. Thats all people go off on dating sites like POF. Out in the real world, when I actually get time off work, I'm relatively successful with women, although am only average, so are most other people. If your a good looking guy, use plenty of fish, if your not then don't, as any little confidence you did have will be eaten away by women giving you the impression your not worth any more than a dog. Then you will be on the forums moaning you can't pull. Would I recommend internet dating? Would I hell. People need to get back to reality and put their computers away for once. We are heading down a path of isolation doing everything through these god damn things.
I'll still be using here though, cos like I say, I love to come here for a laugh now and again when am skiving at work. I just thing that anyone wanting to find a partner through here is wishing for too much. For a chat and a debate you can't beat sites like POF and facebook, and for that reason alone I recommend it. Over and out. | |
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| how do you know if someone is out of your league
Posted: 8/31/2009 8:07:23 PM | | wouldnt quite agree it all about pictures. its helps, but everyone knows when u meet the person they not going to look like their pic anyway. depends on what a person is looking for really in life and out of another person....if it common interest, or someone really makes u laugh over something, then a pic doesnt make any difference. Ie i have met many fishermen in their 60s and absolutely no way was i interested in their pic as i already knew i wasnt going to be anything other than a one day friend fishing with them. then u can meet someone for common interest and there is a spark of sorts or an interest and u spend a bit of time of them having fun......but still wouldnt consider a relationship with them. recently i met someone for a discussion on god and demons. i didnt know what he looked like...but i wanted the discussion..i had many a days and nights of good fun with him. but why would i want a relationship with someone who is not working, behind in his child support, living at home cause he cant support himself, and cant afford petrol money to come and see me?????????? at the end of a day when it comes down to a serious relationship a girl wants to know her partner is reliable, dependable, stable, a provider, a carer,.someone to respect.........some men u have fun with......others u marry........just like some guys say..id shag her but i wouldnt marry her...works both ways..... | |
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| how do you know if someone is out of your league
Posted: 9/1/2009 2:37:14 AM |
So it's all down to the picture. Thats all people go off on dating sites like POF. Out in the real world, when I actually get time off work, I'm relatively successful with women, although am only average, so are most other people. If your a good looking guy, use plenty of fish, if your not then don't, as any little confidence you did have will be eaten away by women giving you the impression your not worth any more than a dog.
Sorry that you feel that it's eating away at your confidence but anyone I've spoken to on here, it really hasn't been about the pictures, how they look or even if I want or don't want to meet them.
I don't look at messages and think you are "stunning" or not and I might or might not message you back and I don't even think at any point down the line am I going to end up dating this person, if you like someone and they like you there's no harm in exchanging messages with someone.
You also seem to be doing to other people what you think other people are doing to you, ie messaging people and doing so on the basis on how they look.
I wouldn't take it seriously enough on here to let it affect my confidence, it's not worth it. | |
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| how do you know if someone is out of your league
Posted: 9/1/2009 3:50:57 AM | | on the one hand you can sometimes walk up the street and see someone of average looks hand in hand with a stunner, but let's be honest, most people tend to end up with people who are roughly as attractive as they are. many people would feel insecure being with someone who got too many offers. as mentioned in another thread i am mates with a girl from school who was the undisputed "school hottie", and when i have gone out for a drink with her (as mates, not a date) she gets blokes diving at her (literally) like lemmings, i bet many guys couldn't handle dating her for this reason, knowing that she would be getting propositioned almost every time she wasn't by his side...it would need to be a self assured guy who could handle it i think, but funnily enough her boyfriend although not a bad looking guy, seems like a bit of a dweeb/geek to me (not that i'm jealous!) so maybe there's hope for the little guy. | |
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| how do you know if someone is out of your league
Posted: 9/1/2009 3:55:00 AM | This is nothing more than my opinion, but this is my view on the whole 'league' thing.
I work in IT, and with engineers who lets face it, are hardcore geeks bless them. All of which have loving, gorgeous wifes and are happy to bits and we have this discussion all the time... Is there such a thing as 'league' when it comes to meeting people? I think not.
There is either a connection or not. If I am out and I start talking to a drop dead gorgeous girl (haha... not a chance) and she is interested, then thumbs up, but if she is a right pain in the butt and annoying, no chance I will lead her on.
Attraction is a large factor yes, but attraction isn't based solely on looks. 
Chris | |
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| how do you know if someone is out of your league
Posted: 9/1/2009 3:18:27 PM | i think i have the answer to this now
how do you know someone is out of your league
when they dress naf
have dirty hair
don't shave
stink
talk boring jibberish
and are as unattractive as a snail
is selfish and only want a nightly thrill
he who mails/copy and pastes to every woman in search
is a slut
on a date/meet up make no effort
have a body of a boy
oh and act like a 16 year old in his play pen | |
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| how do you know if someone is out of your league
Posted: 9/1/2009 3:36:06 PM | some people are not as vulnerable as you think
soubriquet you can have some of the men on my scrap pile if you want as there are a few that go for anything and i imagine they may even take you for the ride of your life lol.. | |
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| how do you know if someone is out of your league
Posted: 9/1/2009 3:36:38 PM | My daughters fiancee's parents thought their precious son was 'better than' my daughter ie, given their way he was out of her league. She worked in McD's, he was training to be an accountant, he lived in a better area, she is a few years older than him. Oh and she has ME which at times is very debilitating.
Thank god neither of the youngsters gave a damn about leagues and just got on with liking and loving each other just because they did.
She now runs an office on her own, was 'big' enough to bite her tongue about the 'status' crap - and she also kept me away from them so I couldn't pull them down a peg or two and by god at times I would have been tempted for them putting my daughter down on what they 'perceived' to be the situation .
League tables are for people who 'think' they are better or worse, they only exist in peoples minds and only then if they want them to. | |
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| how do you know if someone is out of your league
Posted: 9/3/2009 5:50:53 AM | The same goes for the guys, I have posted now and again on there page and get nothing back like you have changed and changed my profile and still nothing 
one day I mite meet him fingers crossed as for the league thing nah dont belive in it there is someone for everyone out there | |
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| how do you know if someone is out of your league
Posted: 9/3/2009 7:17:53 AM | But what if you meet someone who thinks they are out of your league? i have met a few women from dating sites (including this one,it does work sometimes!) and in general the ones who earn more or who have "professional" jobs (i can explain that if anyone needs it) seem more cautious and more stand offish, im never all over someone and dont expect anything other than a conversation on a first date,so it isnt that, im not dog rough and meet most peoples criteria, own house car job etc
However i have never had a second date with the above type of woman despite seemingly getting on well on the first date ,and although obviously there may have been other reasons, it does seem to me that they thought they were out of my league. | |
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| how do you know if someone is out of your league
Posted: 9/3/2009 8:37:19 AM |
But what if you meet someone who thinks they are out of your league?
I'd congratulate them on their personal valuation of their league position, it smacks of enormous inner belief to me, and good luck to them and all their sexiness and brilliance at being a Human being i say....
Then i would throw myself off a cliff because i would be so morose at not being as superlative as her.....
Or maybe i wouldnt.... | |
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| how do you know if someone is out of your league
Posted: 9/4/2009 3:16:13 PM | | mmmmmmmmm should i admit i am guilty of this?????? i met a man well below my league.....but my god did sparks fly on my side.....actually he must have had god on his side to make my sparks fly in the first place..!!!!! talk about from fridget to nympho.....dont ask me whats all that about..... relationship material.maybe....if financial status had been different.......prefer the cave man type at the end of the day..... | |
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