| being online, has only made me more aware that men are liars, cheats and cons. i dont trust anyone
Posted: 4/2/2008 9:13:40 AM | Ah....now wait a minute. You cannot blame this type of behavior on bieng "online" or make it completely gender bias.
There have always been and always will be men AND women who cheat and lie. The internet has only given us the option of exposure to more people in general than is possible off line.
It sounds like you need a break. If I were ever to find myself feeling jaded and not trusting anyone, I would stop dating completely, take some fun classes and focus on ME and making myself happy with myself. Surround myself with family, friends, educational possibilites, self improvement and awareness. Fortunately I don't feel a need to "have a boyfriend, husband or partner" in order to make myself feel complete or happy.
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| Has being online toughened you up emotionally or made you more sensitive?
Posted: 4/2/2008 9:39:03 AM | The premise that people are really any different off line than on line is false.
What most of you don't realize is you get what you give. If you express all sorts of insecurities rather than some measure of confidence, then you'll get someone who'll manipulate you using your fears.
Remember the old saying, "You can't cheat an honest man"? Well add this one, "You can't trick, manipulate, or seduce a happy person"! It goes along with "Birds of a feather flock together".
One of the biggest mistakes to make writing a profile is to exclude people based upon negative qualities. For example, "I don't want any cheaters, liars, drunks, or whatever." Another mistake is something like, "my partner must be faithful, honest, open, loving, and so on." I mean really how naive can you be? Would a decent person want any less?
Most people would be better off worrying about their own behavior in a relationship. They should certainly stop trying to play detective or questioning the motives of their partner.
The Eagle | |
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| Has being online toughened you up emotionally or made you more sensitive?
Posted: 4/5/2008 2:24:22 AM | Personally, I won't say something if I cannot say it in person...but I know people are different and it's easier for some people to communicate online.. so I try to be more understanding online...
I really don't recommend being all emotional online though - you should just try to figure out who you're talking to first.... you have plenty of time to get emotional later after you've figured out how compatible you are. Do try to think about yourself first, your health and what you're doing to yourself by getting all unnecessarily emotional....
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| Has being online toughened you up emotionally or made you more sensitive?
Posted: 6/29/2008 8:56:25 AM | I was on an internet dating site several years ago. It didn't make me any tougher or more sensitive. However it made me more aware of how some people act and think.
I can see that some men have issues with women writing what they want in their profiles.
A woman can put down whatever she wants on her profile. However when she has a long list of requirements, she comes off as being too picky or having unrealistic expectations. That is a turn off for many men. | |
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| Has being online toughened you up emotionally or made you more sensitive?
Posted: 6/29/2008 9:25:00 AM |
...or having unrealistic expectations. That is a turn off for many men.
Many men, but not allmen. There are a lot of men out there who I wouldn't want to date. And few that I would, and do. BTW, there isn't a shortage of men for me to date. And while it may seem "unrealistic" to you or others, my 'expectations' are what will weed out the losers. As I wrote in my profile, "if you don't like it, don't look at it"! | |
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| Has being online toughened you up emotionally or made you more sensitive?
Posted: 6/29/2008 9:37:37 AM | This is the last time I will respond to anything you write. You are married, what the f u c k are you doing on a dating site? Go away! you are definitely a loser!
 bla bla bla bla bla bla bla, insert your own words.
P.S. You have been reported mister "happily married". Now go and call someone else names, you jealous loser! | |
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Posted: 6/29/2008 9:42:23 AM | This is the last time I will respond to anything you write. You are married, what the f u c k are you doing on a dating site? Go away! you are definitely a loser!
I'm not looking to date anyone from here. I'm here for the forums just like many other people are. I stated that in my profile. Maybe you should read my entire profile before you make any false assumptions about me. You are a classless b-tch.
P.S. You have been reported mister "happily married". Now go and call someone else names, you jealous loser!
Whatever. You called me a loser just because I disagreed with what you wrote. | |
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| Has being online toughened you up emotionally or made you more sensitive?
Posted: 6/29/2008 10:02:12 AM |
I'm not looking to date anyone from here. I'm here for the forums just like many other people are. I stated that in my profile. Maybe you should read my entire profile before you make any false assumptions about me. You are a classless b-tch.
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You are a classless b-tch.
I'm sorry you feel this way about yourself. | |
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| Has being online toughened you up emotionally or made you more sensitive?
Posted: 6/29/2008 10:13:44 AM | It's a natural process as we get older to become more discerning and hopefully insightful into the affairs of humanity. The person who maintains his naivete is certainly going to be taken advantage of by either his lover or the car salesman.
We should always try to stay aware of our situations in life and make sure we aren't being used or taken advantage of. Certainly bad or rough experiences are character builders, but if we fall sucker to the same schemes again and again, it can be destructive to our image and self worth.
As far as POF and other similar Internet sites are concerned, we should all exercise some caution with whom we correspond with. Women scream about nasty insensitive men, but I can tell you there are plenty of wacky women I don't want to meet either.
Remember if you can't get respect from a complete stranger, it won't help to get to know him better!
The Eagle | |
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| Has being online toughened you up emotionally or made you more sensitive?
Posted: 6/29/2008 10:20:57 AM |
being online, has only made me more aware that men are liars, cheats and cons.
I hate say this but women often set themselves up for the liars and cheats. A decent, average guy can't hardly get a woman to return messages, but they will go after the cons because he doesn't mind lying and makes himself appear to be that dreamboat that women are looking for. | |
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| Has being online toughened you up emotionally or made you more sensitive?
Posted: 6/29/2008 10:24:57 AM |
I hate say this but women often set themselves up for the liars and cheats.
Hmmm. I do wonder ~ how does one "set themself" up to be a recipient of a lie? That's impossible. Liars are liars, they don't need to be given an invitation or open opportunity. It's who they are, not what they do. Sadly.
~OT~ I've never been a softy anyway, so I'd say it hasn't made me softer or tougher. It's just what it is, a magnitudal waste of time, some giggles, some new friends and that's that.  | |
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| Has being online toughened you up emotionally or made you more sensitive?
Posted: 6/29/2008 12:28:27 PM |
...and makes himself appear to be that dreamboat that women are looking for. And what would be better for us (me) to do? Should I write in my profile that I have no standards, and that I would accept a date from just any Tom D i c K or Harry even married cheaters and losers who have no morals ? I can 0nly speak for myself, when I say this; I write in my profile what my standards are....for a reason. If a man has issue with what I write, it is because 1. He knows he cannot live up to those standards. Even though I have also set those standards for myself. 2. He isn't my type, isn't what I want, and isn't anyone who I would waste my time meeting. And he knows this, so thinks he needs to write abusive s h i t to me in order to make me feel bad about myself, as his self-esteem is low.
To those men/boys who think I have "unrealistic expectations", just think about this. For one thing, I do have a real life. Maybe if you did also, then you would not be so "turned-off" by my requirements of who I want to date. If you would try and better yourself, and acquire some social skills, you may also learn that......when you spend time working on your life, getting an education, finding a good job, nice place to live. You would want your potential date or person who you want to date to have at least those things too. And secondly, I do get responses to my profile. I'm sure that I'd get even more if I spend lots of time perusing the ads and making contacts myself. But I am too busy. Maybe I sound jaded. And with good reason. I am not going to lower my standards so that your feelings aren't hurt, or that so you can feel better about yourself.
Like I say in my profile...If ya'll don't like it, then don't look at it!
Once I made a fake profile that was on this site for about 1 - 2 weeks. It had a sexy picture with a profile that was basically saying that I will not be very picky about who I date or sleep with. I did it to see who would respond. And I got so many emails that I literally could not reply to all of them. I got about 3 pages in 10 minutes. And I got 14 pop-up windows in less than a minute. My computer froze up after that and I had to reboot it. Some of the men who responded to that add I still see looking at my real> profile still. And I am glad that they pass me bye. Because if they responded to the add that I had, then they were not really looking for a nice person or a real relationship. They were looking for sex. That's the problem with this, so many women out there will lower their standards, if they have them. I order to have a guy, who will not even care about them, but just want sex. So men don't want to date a woman who expects more. I'm really sick and tired of all of the horny dudes who come here looking for sex, and then have the stupidity to make fun of women who have requirements and standards, who would never look twice at them, because I (we) know what they are only here looking for. | |
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| Has being online toughened you up emotionally or made you more sensitive?
Posted: 6/29/2008 12:39:07 PM | To be honest, if it wasn't for the fact that I have male friends that don't mess women around and have morals I would give up! This online dating has shown me the worst in men and some of the messages make me question the whole thing. I just refuse to give up though because I know I am honest and caring and so I hope that there might be someone just like me...
I haven't had many positive encounters and even when I was going out with someone I found him claiming he was single somewhere else, I had deleted my profiles at the time.
Well, let's hang in there and hope for the best! Maybe one day.... 
The one thing I learned when I used to horseride....If you get thrown off, get back on straight away  lol
And now there's me wandering around on my (virtual) horse through the dessert of singledom...sigh | |
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| Has being online toughened you up emotionally or made you more sensitive?
Posted: 6/29/2008 12:54:00 PM | being online really hasn't made any impact on me at all emotionally, except maybe for the fact that i now have a broader range of of material i find pathetic. exposure to a wider segment of society has actually given me more confidence in my own mentality and cognitive abilities.
my real time experiences have given me an awareness and sensitivity to the needs and issues of those around me, so i'd have that going on whether i spend time online or not.
so i really can't say that my own emotional reactions and/or lack thereof have anything at all to do with online experiences. | |
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| Has being online toughened you up emotionally or made you more sensitive?
Posted: 7/7/2008 8:29:19 AM |
I have difficulty taking the whole online thing seriously.
I think that's why most people fail on here - they either think its a joke, or they have already convinced themselves it won't work. I met someone on another site in late 2005, and that relationship lasted almost two years. And at one point we were engaged. So online dating CAN work if you use some sense and see it as a tool for finding someone instead of seeing it as a novelty. | |
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