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| Has being online toughened you up emotionally or made you more sensitive?
Posted: 7/16/2008 9:29:30 AM | I've met married women off of here that said they were single/looking for long term. I used to block married people, but not I don't bother with any blocks because they will just make a profile to mirror your "match" and sneak through the security gate.
So yes POF, just like the paid sites I have tried, have yielded the same disappointing results. And the ones that I do find that I am interested in never meet and just fade away.
Has it changed me? Being on and off here, I would say it has made me more cautious, less willing open up or trust. It's actually scared me a bit. I'm trying my best but when you have your guard up so high, and the other person has their guard up so high .. then how can you ever try to date? It's crazy. This whole online dating thing doesn't seem to work very well.
I want to trust first and foremost, but so many have lied and screwed me over/used me for their personal needs. I feel like a girl sometimes, I know how you women feel! Treated like a weeknight snack! SCREW THAT! Because of this, I am becoming much more comfortable with being single and accepting that fact that it's okay to be alone.
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| Has being online toughened you up emotionally or made you more sensitive?
Posted: 7/26/2008 4:18:31 PM | I don't know about toughened up, but I think it's certainly changed my attitude toward dating.
I used to go into every date with the attitude that person could be someone really important to me. Now I go into every date with the intention of meeting someone new, enjoying his company but no other expectation. If I find love, I won't slam the door on it, but I am no longer expecting/believing I'll find it.
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| Has being online toughened you up emotionally or made you more sensitive?
Posted: 7/26/2008 6:11:03 PM | Hi from TOUGH to you,
I believe you are using the wrong words.I am a very sensitive person and get the game players on here.I respect myself and what I value and want in my life for today.If rejected or dropped in to cyberspace by someone.I check where my part in it was or not and see it was not right and know they were the ones to miss out on a GREAT person ..SMILE Jenine | |
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| Has being online toughened you up emotionally or made you more sensitive?
Posted: 7/26/2008 7:42:55 PM | I am a very honest person. I have a tendency to believe that because I am so without guile or deceit - others are also. I learned through some very harsh and bitter lessons that even female friends that you meet online can be false and not really what or whom they portray.
Has it hardened me?
It's made me more cautious about trusting.
It's also made me more protective about who I open up to, in revealing deeply who I am.
It's alerted me more fully to the awareness that even innocent and lovely packages can be deadly and vicious.
To this point I had not learned nor faced the complexities of bizarre personalities in my real life.
Possibly because in the heart of USA, in the center of Iowa, in small town Midwest we don't practice such deception in our relationships with others...
It's a healthy way of existing - even if naive. | |
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| Has being online toughened you up emotionally or made you more sensitive?
Posted: 7/26/2008 8:21:52 PM | I wonder if online dating is even healthy in the long run. for example, one of the standard characteristics of succesful people is positive expectation. If you go into something basically KNOWING it probably wont work out, then you are basically doing the opposite of what succesful people do.
perhaps we could say that SERIAL online dating isnt too good, lol | |
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| Has being online toughened you up emotionally or made you more sensitive?
Posted: 9/8/2008 8:58:20 PM | | I'm thinking it has made me a little sad. Too many hurt and wounded are here pretending to be healthy, trying... but still crying. Then there are the games...no photos, photos that arn't real, their age off by about five years because they "look" younger than they are, three or more profiles for the same woman under different names each routinely making the same spelling errors or punctuation mistakes. I suppose I look too closely. But then again, the pickings are slim. | |
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| Has being online toughened you up emotionally or made you more sensitive?
Posted: 9/8/2008 9:35:18 PM | I don't think it's done either to me. It has made me more aware of things, I have learned alot in understanding the male perspective better, actually love hearing both sides of issues and being able to see things from different viewpoints.
It's funny that so many stereotypes go on w/ men vs. women yet when you really pay attention, they are often saying the same thing!!
I also think it's helped me to be more open to listening to another's point of view. And the humour that is found in the threads can be so hilarious, they alone are worth it!!
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| Has being online toughened you up emotionally or made you more sensitive?
Posted: 9/8/2008 9:55:39 PM | I have learned that ALL threads with "Why are ALL ..." are generalisations.
ALL threads like that are just shorthand for "My ex did [ABC] and I am 100% victim and ALL of you should support me by agreeing that [He | She] was an [Expletive] and that death is too good for [Him | Her]". 
ALL threads / posts with the word ALL should be ignored.  | |
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| Has being online toughened you up emotionally or made you more sensitive?
Posted: 6/27/2009 8:58:28 PM | | Being on line made me more cautious because a lot of people are not real or they want to use me for my body or looks. I can sense that most of the time. I can usually tell when people are genuine. I am an honest person who wears my heart on my sleeve... but I do have instincts when someone is a fake or they are trying to use me. There are times i am not sure . I say on line toughen me up. | |
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| Has being online toughened you up emotionally or made you more sensitive?
Posted: 7/2/2009 6:40:01 PM | | absolutely agree 100%. its just about being smart and being careful. you could just as easily meet a few liars in the club or at a bar or wherever who are liars or whatever....you just have to be more careful online and not take everything everyone says to be real...until u get to know that person and truly see what type person they are... | |
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| Has being online toughened you up emotionally or made you more sensitive?
Posted: 7/2/2009 6:50:51 PM | | It's made me quite jaded and most sensitive. I've stopped looking, not because I'm hoping love will sneak up on me... but because I'm pretty sure that what I had been looking for was unattainable, especially now that I'm 48 and not 28. If the "right" woman were to hit me in the head with a frying pan, all it would do would be to raise a lump.. I'd be none the wiser that Ms. Soulmate was the one who did it. I take my mind off the search by focusing on pressing through with life knowing that it will be just me and not an "us". | |
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| Has being online toughened you up emotionally or made you more sensitive?
Posted: 7/3/2009 1:37:09 PM | Oline dating a fish pond Women looking ,Men looking all have there own reasons,some staying online to upgrade get a little better.One true love ,or just companionship,one or two days of sex,someone to talk to,meet new people,what ever the reason.Its there reasons, they act the same online as they do off line.Offline you can , meet and usaually see them for real.Online it allows anyone to contact anyone ,most don t even post pics.exsample the last date I went on off here was not even close to her pic or age, but in conversation her big thing was men who lie.I love to ski ,30 days ayear if time permits online she said she skied in person confessed she did nt mmmm.I have a good Job make good living found alot of people,able to see threw the games.Iam sure Women have had the same things happen.A mass amount of dates does nt me we will find Mr or Miss right you ll just settle for a person whos ok. Due to the mass amount of liars rude people ,dreamers. 4 married women 2 liars ha ha for me  | |
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| Has being online toughened you up emotionally or made you more sensitive?
Posted: 7/3/2009 10:40:58 PM | | Dating in general has toughened me up. I'm not quite bitter, but I find that I just brush myself off when I find an experience to be disappointing and keep it moving. I don't "like" people as easily . I don't trust as easily and when someone shows me they can't be trusted, I let them go much more easily. I kinda feel empowered by that insight. I don't waste quite as much time trying to make things work that won't. | |
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| Has being online toughened you up emotionally or made you more sensitive?
Posted: 7/4/2009 5:51:59 AM | Well, being online has made me less sensative to insults since i tend to get them on a daily basis, its a pitty that most women that insult me look hot on the outside, but look ugly on the inside.
I would prefer a plain woman that wants to get to know me as a person. | |
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| Has being online toughened you up emotionally or made you more sensitive?
Posted: 7/21/2009 3:45:46 PM | MSG: 2
being online, has only made me more aware that men are liars, cheats and cons. i dont trust anyone anymore. ill go back to the way i was before when i meet people in person, not online. for some reason online seems to give men to think they have the right to lie. sad eh, but so true.
Right. And, if you're 44 then I'm 22. Nice try. | |
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