| We hear about the bad ones, anyone have a great 1st meet?
Posted: 8/24/2007 6:23:15 PM | I remember one time I met this guy at 4 in the morning. I was fighting to stay awake as my daughter was travelling by bus from Regina to Calgary. We were not on here, but on a telephone dating line, and he suggested my coming over to his place. I admit at first I was apprehensive, having heard horror stories of women who go to some guy's place and have difficulty with them cause the guy tries to get some. After some bartering, and him promising to be a gentelman I agreed to come over.
When I got to his place I gave him a call, and we talked on the phone as I came into his home. I was pleased to see that he had described himself accurately physcially and soon learned that he indeed was a gentleman. We spent a few hours together in his kitchen, litterally breaking bread and chatting until I had to leave to pick up my daughter. Since then, when ever he and I are on line at the same time, we both do not hesitate to contact each other to see how things are going. AS for meeting people on fish, well the three that I met ended up being horror stories however two of the first meetings were good. | |
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| We hear about the bad ones, anyone have a great 1st meet?
Posted: 8/24/2007 6:41:41 PM | Hey Yankee Belle!
I have had very good first meetings, I've been lucky I guess. Also I have never gone to a first meeting with any "expectations"! It's true! If you can relax, and think of it as just a way to meet someone new who might end up being a cool pal, it is so much more relaxing an evening (or afternoon, or whatever.) I met my Big Fish on here! And I drove 2 hours to meet him for the first time too! What can I say...I had a hunch. lol Now I like to go on here for these forums, and to help out my fellow fishies who have not yet found their big catch. I know lots of poeple have had bad luck on here, but it really is a cool site to meet new people. Good luck with Date #2! Let me know how it goes :) | |
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| We hear about the bad ones, anyone have a great 1st meet?
Posted: 8/24/2007 6:55:58 PM | I'm so glad to see that you can meet nice people on here who are happy to meet other nice people, even if it doesn't always work out at the end.
Thank you for taking the time to post. I'll have to let you all (I know as a belle I'm supposed to say ya'll, but the Yankee wins out on this one) know how date #2 goes.... | |
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| We hear about the bad ones, anyone have a great 1st meet?
Posted: 8/30/2007 7:02:18 AM | Had date #2 last night- he was away visiting his daughter over the weekend so he could take her to school for her first day of kindergarten- I like that.
Anyway, was at the restaurant for over 3 hours, just talking about all kinds of stuff. We see eye to eye on a lot of things. Still wanted to pinch myself. He walked me to my car- it was raining- and we kissed in the rain. Soft lips- very nice and a good kisser.
Second impression was as good as the first. He asked when he could see me again....
I'm not going to post more about him, as I am not one to kiss and tell (okay, except for this once...) | |
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Posted: 8/30/2007 7:21:11 AM | Despite the fact he had a hunting knife under the passenger seat and an axe in the trunk, he turned out to be a really nice guy (or he is a good pretender).
I think I'm starting to have a little more faith in the male species now
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Posted: 8/30/2007 8:31:18 AM | And that, Neglected, is the point of this thread. That the "bad" experiences of another does no guarantee tham for everyone else. They say that if a person has a negative experience at a restaurant, with a product, etc. they will tell 9 people, but if they have a good one, they will only tell 3. So I think a lot of people have good experiences, but they just don't talk about them.
Spread the hope- the world needs it! | |
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| We hear about the bad ones, anyone have a great 1st meet?
Posted: 8/30/2007 10:08:31 AM | I t is great to see a thread that is positive. I guess I was lucky I met a few people from POF and only one was disappointing. I had a couple of great first meets. One the gentleman became a friend. The last person I met from POF was the most amazing first meet, we met at chapters as it is one of our favourite stores. From there we went for a stroll along the lake. Then eventually back to my place. We talked and talked and talked. The first meet lasted 3 days (no sex). There is no ending to this story as it is not finished, but the next chapter is being written as we plan our wedding.
Good luck to all the wonderful fishies on here. | |
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| We hear about the bad ones, anyone have a great 1st meet?
Posted: 8/30/2007 3:43:28 PM | First of all, congrats blackjade :)
I have only met a couple and both have been really good first meetings.
The guy I just met, well, we are going to see how things go, and so far it looks very promising :)
I did change my profile to reflect that too!!!
Good luck to you on your next date yankee _ belle :) | |
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| We hear about the bad ones, anyone have a great 1st meet?
Posted: 8/30/2007 4:23:20 PM | I have had 4 first meets in the last 9 months, and all have been very nice. Great conversation, lots of laughs, sharing stories, just enjoying getting to know someone new. One of those first meets turned into a 4 month intense relationship (that ended only due to bad timing). I definitely have zero regrets, and am very thankful for this site.. there really are a lot of genuine and kind people here.  | |
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| We hear about the bad ones, anyone have a great 1st meet?
Posted: 8/30/2007 4:36:33 PM | I had a great first meeting/date. My date showed up on time (always a good thing). Looked like his pictures (an even better thing!!). And we had great conversation and chemistry. We met for lunch @ 2PM and our date didn't end until 11 PM. After lunch I treated him to coffee, then went for a little walk, then just hung out on a bench overlooking the Manhattan skyline and talked and laughed and laughed some more. It was a great first date. It's a shame he had far too much baggage and drama (3 young kids, a nasty divorce, a crazy ex-wife & major financial issues) but it was a great first date. 
Happy fishing.  | |
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| We hear about the bad ones, anyone have a great 1st meet?
Posted: 8/30/2007 4:49:45 PM | I've been doing the online dating thing for about 4 years off and on, and I have LOTS of good first meets, some which expanded to dating,or great friendships. For a large number the chemistry just wasn't there or didn't sustain. And of course a few that turned out to be someone PRETENDING to be in the market for a serious relationship when they actually just were looking for sex...but I've had almost ZERO experiences where the guy stood me up or turned out to be vastly different than how he represented himself. Believe it or not I've had a few experiences where the guy had less weight and more hair, or just plain was better looking than what his profile and photo indicated.
And yes a few of those good meets have come from PoF.
Cindy O | |
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| We hear about the bad ones, anyone have a great 1st meet?
Posted: 8/30/2007 5:18:51 PM | | Had some good and some not so good. My greatest first meet is one I'll never forget. We met for a drink, (just one) at 7:00 and he asked if I would like to go for a ride in his plane. So off to the airport and up we went, he even let me fly for a bit. All was perfect until he ran out of gas... Fortunately, it was in his car after we landed safely. Here we are, it's late at night on a deserted highway in the middle of nowhere. He calls a friend to bring us gas, turns to me and says, "well... wanna make out?" I had to laugh, he couldn't have planned it better if he'd tried. We had to wait over an hour and a half until his buddy got there. He was a perfect gentleman, but we could have sat by the side of the road all night just talking. All gassed up, we head off to have breakfast. Didn't get home until 4 in the morning. He ended up moving back to Texas, but it was great while it lasted. | |
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| We hear about the bad ones, anyone have a great 1st meet?
Posted: 8/30/2007 7:32:45 PM | I am finding it interesting that most of these stories are from women. The guys seem to be in the "it was okay but nothign special" area.
Which I think says that if there isn't an indication that sex is in the offing that the guys don't call back for round 2....
But that's just my take on it. There is a wide range of critera that make a first meet a yea or a nay. | |
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| We hear about the bad ones, anyone have a great 1st meet?
Posted: 8/30/2007 11:01:29 PM | | I've had several good experiences. Once I met someone for drinks and appetizers by the water. We talked all evening and shared some delightful, goose-bump raising kisses. I didn't hear back from him, but that was still okay. It was a delightful evening and I enjoyed myself. Bottom line. | |
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| We hear about the bad ones, anyone have a great 1st meet?
Posted: 8/31/2007 1:31:34 AM | | My first meet with my last ltr turned out really well. We had planned on just meeting up for a drink or two before he went to a friend's birthday at the bar, but things were going well so he invited me along. We got along so well he actually ended up spending most of the night with me and not with his friends (he did apoligize to them). Then when the bar closed we drove around until the sun started coming up just talking. We dated for almost a year. The majority of my first meets are overall postive, it's what happens after that always seems to be negative (ie: never call again) | |
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| We hear about the bad ones, anyone have a great 1st meet?
Posted: 8/31/2007 1:59:57 AM | | The last 'first meet' i had from this site the guy got lost and called me on my way there to meet me at another place. After finally finding a carpark at the new meeting place i walked around the corner to where we planned to meet and saw this tall, dark, handsome, well dressed guy half sitting/standing on a low wall, legs and arms crossed, staring at me and smiling. We went inside and had drinks and chatted for a few hours, got along really well. Afterwards he walked me to my car and during our goodbye conversation he looked me straight in the eyes and said, "I'm going to kiss you goodbye, so if you have any mace or a baseball bat you'd better get it out now".. And he proceeded to kiss me goodnight. My knees practically buckled with that incredible kiss. I couldn't stop smiling all the way home. It's now 6 months later and it just keeps getting better | |
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| We hear about the bad ones, anyone have a great 1st meet?
Posted: 8/31/2007 4:15:21 AM |
My first meet with my last ltr turned out really well.
Okay, I am baffled here. This was posted by a 22 year old girl. "LAST LTR?" You are 22 now.
What exactly is considered long term anymore if at 22 someone is already speaking about an "LTR" that has come and gone?
LTR to me is 20 years..... If it's anything less than the "almost a year" it's really just dating. Exclusive dating, but just dating nonetheless. Geeze, it should be a year of dating before you even start TALKING about LTR.
Maybe at 22 a year seems like a long time. Been too long since I was 22. But what a sad state of society where "almost a year" is a long term relationship.... I long for the way it was in my parents generation when couples stayed together for 50 years and more. Now at the first sign of disagreement they file for divorce.
Back to topic, the first meets at my age are actually kind of depressing. A bunch of women whining about how their ex was a drunk, their kids won't get jobs and live at home rent free, "I hate my life", "I hate my job", "I hate men because of what the last one did to me".....
I stay home a lot.
Men may do it too but I don't have first meets with men. | |
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| We hear about the bad ones, anyone have a great 1st meet?
Posted: 8/31/2007 5:40:53 AM | WHEW! Agree on that one Eddie! ONE, even two, years is exclusive (let's hope) DATING...I thought it was anyway. It IS odd to call dating someone a year or so "Long Term".... Perhaps it just FELT like a loooong time...hehheh!
Never had a "Bad Meet" with anyone...perhaps because I spend some prior time on the phone and get a pretty good "pic"of the person before first meetings.
But...I HAVE met up for a first time and immediately realized it ain't gonna "happen"...but will admit I kinda felt/sensed that was the case before I agreed to meet up. Just gave it that extra mile in case....  You never know! | |
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| We hear about the bad ones, anyone have a great 1st meet?
Posted: 8/31/2007 7:52:39 AM | Congrats and good luck black jade and all those others who found a relationship here.
Eddie, other than telling you that you might be looking for the wrong kind of woman for what you need, I wanted you to know that you see from here that good experiences are possible if you keep your mind and heart open and continue to put yourself out there. I wish you luck too. | |
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| We hear about the bad ones, anyone have a great 1st meet?
Posted: 8/31/2007 8:57:56 AM | | I have met no one on this site. I beginning to think I look bad or something. I have redone my profile a couple of times. But.... nothing. Maybe guys on this site are shy. I did meet someone a while back from another site. He walked in saw me and smiled! It was so nice to be liked right off. Our first date was a blast. We went to a title company Christmas party. Danced and had fun. He says it is the best date he has ever been on. We are friends, still in touch. Circumstances at the time just didn't work out. | |
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