| We hear about the bad ones, anyone have a great 1st meet?
Posted: 8/31/2007 9:10:41 AM | | YES!! YES!! certainly did..... met a woman from Oxford, had a coffee.... a chat, then went for a drive, Nice warm day went for a walk in the country.... found some woods had sex in the open air on a fantastic sunny day, great date loved it....... good luck to everyone... I hope you find what you are looking for | |
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| We hear about the bad ones, anyone have a great 1st meet?
Posted: 8/31/2007 9:58:34 AM | | Wonderful first meet. Exchanged emails, chatted online, then talked on the phone.Felt comfortable enough to invite him over.Wow...only expected to spend maybe a couple of hours together, ended up chatting for several hours.It was great. Invited him over for breakfast,again had a great time. Going out this weekend to a car show and concert. | |
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| We hear about the bad ones, anyone have a great 1st meet?
Posted: 8/31/2007 10:10:19 AM | There have been a few GREAT first meets (just not from pof. .yet) but I think I have short term memory only at my age.. keeping it 'great' beyond that is another story. Too much interest felt too soon is a bad sign for me, that often fades out fast and one wonders who the heck they were spending time with sometimes all too soon. I hope to change that sometime in my life but not holding my breath either. I like the color blue but turning that shade isn't one of my goals.  | |
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| We hear about the bad ones, anyone have a great 1st meet?
Posted: 8/31/2007 10:22:10 AM | It's best to take the precaution of NEVER over-anticipating or fantasizing about up-coming meetings, so as to avoid disappointment.
The majority of Ladies I've met through PoF have turned out FAR better than their profiles or our prior chats, and we have remained great friends ever since!!!
So, be optimistic and just let your meeting flow naturally, be responsive, and don't dominate the conversation, but SHARE the experience, and LEARN about each other.
That's where the excitement lies !!!! | |
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| We hear about the bad ones, anyone have a great 1st meet?
Posted: 8/31/2007 10:31:23 AM | EAST SIDE EDDIE You are still my Hero! LOVE your posts! 
I try to make it a point to never have a bad meet. My philosophy is to have no expectations other than to have some fun/laughs and spontaneous conversation in learning more about each other. This way, in my opinion and one that works for me, if it doesn't happen, however disappointing that may be, no one goes home feeling they just been kicked in the gut. There's never an excuse for rudness even if you, or they, don't end up being attracted.  | |
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| We hear about the bad ones, anyone have a great 1st meet?
Posted: 8/31/2007 10:56:31 AM | | Absolutely.. great first meet. Met for coffee... almost 8 hours later , after closing one coffee shop and moving to another.. it was like catching up with an old friend. Amazing.. never dated but still in touch.. and someone I feel very close to. He wrote the testimonial on my profile actually. | |
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| We hear about the bad ones, anyone have a great 1st meet?
Posted: 8/31/2007 12:02:52 PM | | Last nite I finally met the guy I have been talking to for the past 10 days. He lives in the same town. We talked every day whether on- line or on the phone. We just clicked. We becamed best friends instantly. Did you ever meet a guy you did not want to date because if you broke up, you knew he would not be in your life? This is a person I want in my life for a very long time. So I would prefer being very good friends with him. No benefits. I don't cross the line with my friends. He is the best! Thank you POF for putting him in my life!! | |
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| We hear about the bad ones, anyone have a great 1st meet?
Posted: 8/31/2007 12:05:51 PM | had a few - 2 were just mates and still are
my current partner we met on a forum we both administer but he does use this site, we met up one saturday spur of the momenta nd ended up seeing each other every night that week lol 2 months later we are still going strong | |
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| We hear about the bad ones, anyone have a great 1st meet?
Posted: 8/31/2007 1:25:34 PM | | i have met quite a few, most were bad but there was one that was great, not saying his name (obviously) but we met up after about 2 weeks of chatting on m.s.n not only did he compliment me like immidieatley, on something that i consider my best feature (my eyes) and i never get complioments on anyhting but my butt and stuff like that, but he loved my cooking and had a great time playing with my daughter still dont know where this is going to go, bu there's hoping *crosses fingers* | |
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| We hear about the bad ones, anyone have a great 1st meet?
Posted: 8/31/2007 2:11:55 PM | I met a man from POF in June this year, he was really enthusiastic, funny and genuine! We went for a sushi meal and later to a quiet pub and got on so well we met up again a couple more times in the same week. We became an item on June 21st, and I am very happy to have been so lucky as to meet such a great guy.  | |
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| We hear about the bad ones, anyone have a great 1st meet?
Posted: 8/31/2007 2:56:52 PM | I've met 5 guys in person, and they've all been decent people -- no horror stories.
But guy #5 -- he knocked my socks off. We met up at a coffee shop, and when he walked up to where I was sitting, I was blown away by his gorgeous eyes. They didn't show up in any of his pics, so I had no clue. He turned out to have a fantastic sense of humor; we mainly laughed during the hour we were at the coffee shop. It all felt so right that we followed up coffee with a motorcycle ride, where more good vibes abounded. We stopped for a hike through the woods and talked and laughed some more. And then we wrapped things up with a great cajun dinner -- more talking and lots of laughter.
So our first meet turned into a terrific first date. That was two and a half months ago. And we're still going strong. I joined him for a family picnic last night, and we're headed to the state fair together this evening. Life is good! | |
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| We hear about the bad ones, anyone have a great 1st meet?
Posted: 9/1/2007 12:32:26 PM | Most of the meets I've had were nice. About 1 in 10 were truly great. And the best was my last meet--4 months ago. Met at a coffee shop for a quick coffee and ended up spending 6 hours together! Quite honestly I have never met a man who was so open and honest before. A perfect blend of courage and vulnerability, hard and soft. A killer smile and body language that can't be beat! He is very outgoing and friendly with everyone and about as caring as a person can be. And very passionate and romantic as well. We are absolutely never at a loss for words. We seem to understand each other completely and like many of the same things. Both LOVE music and often when a phrase is said we will think of a song with that phrase. If there is such a thing as soulmates, this could be us.
We talk every single day, sometimes multiple times. He does the lion's share of the calling--doesn't give me a chance to call! We see each other as often as possible and spend much of each weekend together. Meeting each other's family now and each week our lives are just plain becoming more and more intertwined. We do talk about the future--often. The talk seems to be more about when, not if.
Yep, we started out with one great meeting and it just keeps getting better. | |
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| We hear about the bad ones, anyone have a great 1st meet?
Posted: 9/1/2007 4:56:26 PM | The first real face to face from POF was a lovely lady, had a real bubbly upbeat nature and very personable. She looked like her photos as well. Loved to hug and fit just right under my arm, just felt like an old soul meeting up again. We dated for awhile but I wanted to be exclusive with someone else. I ended it badly do to my poor social skills. I have since apologized and wished her the best. All in all a good experience for me, she probably has a differing point of view  I'm still learning  | |
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| We hear about the bad ones, anyone have a great 1st meet?
Posted: 9/1/2007 5:56:07 PM | | I met someone from here a couple of weeks ago, and it was great. He was exactly as I expected! Possibly better. He is the only person I have met from POF and it went much as yours did - witty emails, nice chats on the phone, and nervousness (on my side lol) before the meeting followed up by a very pleasant time. Good stuff indeed. | |
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| We hear about the bad ones, anyone have a great 1st meet?
Posted: 9/1/2007 6:05:19 PM | | I met a guy off pof just this weekend. We met for coffee on Friday night he was exactly as i had pictured him.. sexy witty funny it took all of my control to keep my hands off lol....We had dinner together at my place last night and i have to say WOW the perfect weekend meeting and dam the sex was awsome .....dont know what happens from here but its a meeting i wont forget in a hurry | |
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| We hear about the bad ones, anyone have a great 1st meet?
Posted: 9/1/2007 6:43:53 PM | Forum veterans make a note of this post and check back in 3 weeks to find "We had sex the second time we met and then he never called again", and it will be HIS fault. Also note the "safety" posts and here's one who had a guy she knew for one day to her home. But men are just after one thing, right?
Coffee Friday, in bed Saturday.
Interesting.
Wonder if a man had made that post what the replies would be like? | |
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| We hear about the bad ones, anyone have a great 1st meet?
Posted: 9/1/2007 9:12:23 PM | Nah Eddie..just check out the profile(s) you might be referring to...the sex is the icing on the cake. Ain't gonna be any complaining when, IF, the guy splits. Part of the deal.
Question....what if SHE has her way with him and then decides to move on? Is she a "Player"?
Is she just taking care of her wants and needs . And.....is she perhaps paralleling HIS agenda?
Curious.Seems so many double-standards exist in this dating-game world.
Women cannot WANT,LUST FOR, DESIRE sex with a new meet/guy/acquaintance because it is considered verbotten..so they have to play the innocent "let's take weeks/months before we do it" game? Yawn.
Sometimes I think I am a wee bit too dumb. I always thought women should be able to be as lewd, sexual, agenda-riddled, selfish as their male counterparts. And know and accept the consequences !!!!
But then...what do I know???? | |
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| We hear about the bad ones, anyone have a great 1st meet?
Posted: 9/1/2007 11:30:29 PM | | Sure... it ended up lasting for 24 hours until dinner the next day...it was great, fun, adventurous :)...and he ended up being a heck of a lot hotter in person then his pic...probably the hottest guy I've ever dated...lol...it was a nice surprise so say the least..I think he intentionally put a crappy picture up...hahah....but he was super guy...good fun :) | |
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| We hear about the bad ones, anyone have a great 1st meet?
Posted: 9/2/2007 11:25:53 AM | I have the BEST first date story!!! A man I became very close with from this site lives in Calgary (about 3 hours away). We met half way in Red Deer for the first time. He didn't want to just meet for the normal coffee or drinks so he planned this beautiful elaborate, no detail left undone picnic. He arrived before me at this amazing park and set up an atmosphere that was beyond my wildest dreams. He had set out a blanket and big umbrella right by a babbling brook complete with ducks. There was wine, pate, cheeses, crackers, strawberries, soft music and even a planted pot of roses. He was everything I envisioned him to be from our online chats....an absolutely beautiful man inside and out. It was the most memorable, meltable and thoughtful first dates I have ever had. Wow doesn't even begin to describe it and him.
The distance thing became a barrier for us but we're still friends and I'll never forget him or the effort he put forth that day to make it so special for us. | |
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| We hear about the bad ones, anyone have a great 1st meet?
Posted: 9/2/2007 11:34:08 AM | I have never ever had a bad experience meeting anyone!! Just because sparks dont fly..or there isnt instant physical attraction..doesnt meant its a bad moment.
These things are what you make them! you can either sit down and have some good conversation over a drink, coffee, lunch..whatever...Or you can take the shallow route and just be bitter that things didnt turn out exactly how you planned it.
I choose to make the best out of any situation.. | |
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