| We hear about the bad ones, anyone have a great 1st meet?
Posted: 9/2/2007 1:13:33 PM | I had a great first meeting too. It was supposed to be just lunch - but it lasted 8 hours. That made me feel wonderful. Within a month, we had our second and third dates too. Unfortunately, she was a con-artist and by the time a year had passed, I've witnessed about 7 felonies committed by her (and a known accomplice has joined her in 6 of them) under investigation by 3 different law enforcement agencies. One investigaton is complete, awaiting prosecution and the other two are still in progress.
Unfortunately, a great first meeting doesn't relate to having found "the one." | |
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| We hear about the bad ones, anyone have a great 1st meet?
Posted: 9/2/2007 1:57:10 PM | I recently had my first meeting with someone off of here, and I was skeptical at first being that you hear so much negative. I started talking with this guy from day one and I was very impressed with his first email to me it was genuine, very sweet, respectful and well-written. We talked frequently and as time went on I became eager to meet him. His picture didn’t hurt either he looks like a young Frank Sinatra. We recently met at the state fair, just to talk and hang out but we had so much fun it turned out to be more of a date. He’s such a gentleman, and old-fashioned kinda guy. We had supper together, and afterwards we went to a comedy club. We spend the whole day together, he made me feel like such a princess. Looking forward to seeing him again  | |
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| We hear about the bad ones, anyone have a great 1st meet?
Posted: 9/3/2007 6:01:34 AM | | well great wouldnt come close to describing it..Met a fantasic lady we spoke everyday for hours and met exactly one week after first contact. We didnt do the "movie and dinner"thing instead we went shopping....for food...for our picnic...It was 7.30pm the night was cool but clear, we took our blanket and basket and headed towards a spot which overlooked the entire city. The lights were magic. We set up, lit the candles, kicked off the shoes and talked for hours....then the first kiss...wow how terribly romantic.. I was floored, still am, shes one amazing woman. | |
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| We hear about the bad ones, anyone have a great 1st meet?
Posted: 9/3/2007 6:14:35 AM | Pink, trust me when I say he is looking forward to seeing you again too. The beautiful women are always a welcome site. Those not blessed with those gifts.... another situation.
I have yet to have ONE great first meet. I don't meet that many people anyway, not in the context of the "meet over dinner" scenario. I have had people visit me after long periods of conversation and those went well, but they were not really strangers by then. I really don't consider that a first meeting.
One recent first meeting was a dinner where she whined constantly about losing her job, her alcoholic husband, her family not helping her keep her house.... I am not religion but I prayed the whole time that she was on a diet and wouldn't want dessert JUST so the evening could end 10 minutes sooner..... It was like watching the clock at work on teh Friday before a 3 day weekend..... tick, tick, tick.......
Another showed up and I didn't even recognize her because she had professional photos posted that looked NOTHING like she did in real life. Had she not recognized me I would have made it out unscathed, but she did and I had to go through with the dinner.
Another came over here on a Sunday afternoon and during our chat ont he couch, my dog had to go out. She was APPALLED that I would leave the conversation to open the door so the dog could go out and left almost immediately after. Silly me, when I trained the dog I should have built in a command like "Tell me when you need to go outside to pee but if someone is here you have to wait until they leave".
So no, I have never had a good first meeting "out" somewhere. The people who visited, fine..... | |
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| We hear about the bad ones, anyone have a great 1st meet?
Posted: 9/3/2007 6:21:48 AM | | I have had a couple of first meetings that seemed to go great, they suggested we get together again, but then they disappear off the planet. The conversation goes well and there is no clues that I can see to think they don't enjoy meeting me, we had lots in common - but then NOTHING! I don't say anything about a future meeting if I don't really think it is worth my time. I just say it was nice to meet you. If I hear from them again I am just honest with them and tell them I didn't think we had enough in common to be friends. Why do people do that? | |
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| We hear about the bad ones, anyone have a great 1st meet?
Posted: 9/3/2007 6:35:19 AM | I've had quite a few decent to really good first dates from the internet dating experience. Some of them have lead to relationships, committed long-term relationships and one even lead to a long-term engagement.
Ed | |
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| We hear about the bad ones, anyone have a great 1st meet?
Posted: 9/3/2007 6:57:31 AM |
Another came over here on a Sunday afternoon and during our chat ont he couch, my dog had to go out. She was APPALLED that I would leave the conversation to open the door so the dog could go out and left almost immediately after. Silly me, when I trained the dog I should have built in a command like "Tell me when you need to go outside to pee but if someone is here you have to wait until they leave".
Is there a thread in here about that? HE got up in the MIDDLE of our conversation (at his HOUSE, for a FIRST meeting) to let the DOG out. How rude! Didn't the dog KNOW not to interrupt the 'grown ups' talking? I left right after. Did I over-react? 
I have met some wonderful people from this site. I think if you go to a first meeting ready to BE engaging, as well as be engaged it usually works. May not lead to 'the one', but a positive connection is a good result. What more can you ask for? | |
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| We hear about the bad ones, anyone have a great 1st meet?
Posted: 9/4/2007 12:26:07 PM | Jasmaine,
I've had that happen to me a few times, and not just guys from online. My attitude now is better to know from the beginning that he just wasn't into me instead of wasting any more time on him.
On and on,
Wow! Great first date! | |
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| We hear about the bad ones, anyone have a great 1st meet?
Posted: 9/5/2007 4:47:01 AM | I have had so many first meetings that seem to go ok and never see or hear from them again, I never expect to meet anyone twice. I usually message the guy after thanking them for the nice time, but very rarely do I hear back from them even to say they really didn't think we were a good match - even when they say they think we do in person. I think for most people it is just a game to see if they can get a 'one night stand' and when they don't get what they were really looking for - they don't care to be in touch again. I don't know why they waste their time and your time if they are meeting people and they never have any intention of having a relationship that will last past a month. I haven't taken meeting anyone seriously for years because I don't think anyone is serious about even developing a long term friendship with someone. I enjoy meeting people and getting to know them, but what is the point of wasting so much time if you are never going to hear from them again?
I really don't know why I bother having a profile on this place when I know I am never going to find what I am looking for ... it doesn't exist. | |
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| We hear about the bad ones, anyone have a great 1st meet?
Posted: 9/5/2007 5:00:53 AM | Jasmaine,
You say you like meeting people. I understand your frustrations, but what are your expectations from a first meet? Are your actions in line with your expectations? Do you keep going for the same type of guy, or do you leave yourself open to new and different men? I am being very pleasantly surprised by a man 5 years younger than me, whenever I never dated anyone at least 5 years older (most of the time 10 or more). So far so good, but if I had not taken a "chance", I would never have met him.
Maybe you should break out of your rut and try something new- a new way of thinking or approaching, a different type of guy... and see how that works for you. You know the definition of insanity- trying the same thing over and over again, expecting different results. | |
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| We hear about the bad ones, anyone have a great 1st meet?
Posted: 9/5/2007 5:48:09 AM | Yup! Had quite a few, actually. I've been on this site before.
I remember one 'first meet' that lasted from a Saturday afternoon until the following Monday morning, when we both had to go to work..Can't say I ever had a BAD first meet from POF. This place rocks! | |
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| We hear about the bad ones, anyone have a great 1st meet?
Posted: 9/5/2007 7:37:16 AM | | I recently had my very first first meet with a POF guy I've talked to for about a month. Initially we planned to meet after work over a cup of coffee but decided to have a beer and shoot some pool instead. I went into it without expectations, was even kind of dreading it cuz I was imagining all kinds of things that could go wrong. I hate to sound shallow but I have to include that the first thing I noticed is that his pic did not do him justice. I already knew he is a little shy but he didn't seem shy at all. He was paying for everything which was never my intent so he finally allowed me to buy the last round. I planned to only be there 1 1/2 hours at the most. Well... it's true that time flies when you're having fun cuz the next thing I knew 3 hours had passed. He saw me safely to my car, asked my permission & gave me a goodnight kiss that wasn't too bold or cold but just right. We don't have a definite plan but agreed we would like to get together again and we've spoken since then. I'm not looking for anything exclusive and serious right now and I believe he has the same attitude, but I definitely enjoy his company. I'm just very pleased that the evening was a success and I'm thrilled to finally have gotten my feet wet. | |
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| We hear about the bad ones, anyone have a great 1st meet?
Posted: 9/5/2007 6:27:22 PM | | It is a miracle to even get a response to an e-mail, alone having someone want to meet. I make it clear I am not looking for a one night stand, but the guys who wan to meet someone - that is all they are looking for. Maybe I live in the wrong area where all men are shallow jerks or doesn't want to meet someone more than once. I would like to find one guy who is willing to spend enough time with someone to get to know them, instead of looking for a super model much younger than themselves or someone for a night of sex. I don't see it is worth wasting my time with the games guys play. | |
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| We hear about the bad ones, anyone have a great 1st meet?
Posted: 9/5/2007 6:43:03 PM | I had a fun first meet with a woman tonight , gorgeous, petite, sexy as hell, and funny .
I had fun .......who knows? I asked her to dinner with me and she agreed so maybe something good comes of it maybe it doesn't ? what's a guy to do ? but keep trying. | |
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| We hear about the bad ones, anyone have a great 1st meet?
Posted: 9/5/2007 7:49:23 PM | | Wow says it all! It was the first person I messaged with on POF and the first and only person that I have actually met. But it did turn out very well. We met at the driving range . I had seen his photo but he did not see one of me.......brave man he was.! But I was sure glad he was brave. As soon as he stepped out of his truck and I got out of my car I knew I had made the right choice, we both did. We hit it off from there. It is just too bad that he had to move away soon after, but we are still msn buddies. | |
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| We hear about the bad ones, anyone have a great 1st meet?
Posted: 9/5/2007 8:07:52 PM | | The guy I'm dating now was an awesome first meeting. He took me out for Japanese food, introduced me to Saki (wow...that's a happy thing), and then we went roller skating. I was grinning for hours. I didn't even fall down...though it was due to me wrapping my arms around his neck to prevent myself from falling. He didn't need all that air anyway. Either way, we've been together even since then. :-) | |
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| We hear about the bad ones, anyone have a great 1st meet?
Posted: 9/6/2007 6:12:02 AM | I was on here last year, haven't been on up until day before yesterday. Had alot of bad dates, got to where it was routine to go meet a new one just to see if there could even be a friendship. I don't want to be negative, so I'm going to give the positive first about the greatest guy I ever met on here.....
Talked since October last year, met in January. At the meet-up he asked if it could turn into a date. It was wonderful. His beautiful eyes. We were together for almost 9 months. Now the negative. He asked me to move in at the beginning of '08 with him a week and a half ago, and then found out Monday he was cheating on me. He was what I wanted, so sweet. Unfortunately the day I found out, I met the true him.
I am back here now, wanting what I wanted before, which is to be good friends with someone who won't try to just use me for sex. Whores are to easy to find and alot of us women on here have issues with previous men, that's why I'm here. To take the time to get to know very well. It isn't right some men prey on us. | |
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| We hear about the bad ones, anyone have a great 1st meet?
Posted: 9/6/2007 6:58:39 AM | i've had plenty of great first meets. some were only that, by the second or third i realized the first one was the only great one. haha....
then there were some where the the first great meet led to a great first date, and continued.
then there were the sad ones where the meet was fantastical, but the connection on "that" level wasn't there. aka - friends. 80% have fallen into this category. its ok tho, it keeps my faith in knowing that good guys are still out there.  | |
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| We hear about the bad ones, anyone have a great 1st meet?
Posted: 9/6/2007 7:00:42 AM | Well I met a lovely girl on here a few weeks back. It was my first time meeting anybody from POF, so I was very nervous and had to drive so no dutch courage could be had!!! Anyway we both had a good time and talked lots, but the spark wasn't there. However we still talk often and I have made a good friend. We even give each other dating advice!!! I'm not expecting to meet the love of my life on here, but if I do then fantastic. Its always good to meet new friends.
It is good to hear people are having good experiences after all the bad ones I've seen. Good luck to you all.
And I'm looking forward to the next meet even more now. | |
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| We hear about the bad ones, anyone have a great 1st meet?
Posted: 9/6/2007 11:53:22 AM | I just joined POF this past friday. Well I get this email from this guy wanting to get to know me. Sure why not. We made plans for monday morning to go on his motorcycle. We talked on the phone for awhile over the weekend and I told him once he gets up to call me. Well, he did at 5:30am . He let me go back to sleep until 7am. He came to pick me up on his bike. He took me out to breakfast then we got lost for 2 hours. It was the best time I have had in a long time. We are making more plans for future dates.  | |
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| We hear about the bad ones, anyone have a great 1st meet?
Posted: 9/6/2007 1:59:51 PM | I've enjoyed several (6) first meets with men on PoF so far!! Only one thought COFFEE was something other than warm dark liquid served in a mug... lol!!! Even HE was 'ok', even if I didn't want to be part of his 'harem of Loosie Lucies', ahahahaha!!! Besides, he's from Redmond, which is a couple of hours drive from my town...
A few have turned into 'dates', and are very wonderful men... all but 'that one with the loosie lucies' will remain good friends, and one may even eventually become more than a friend... only time will tell.
I think this is by far the best date site I've ever been on. I've even met two women from this site that live in my city, and they are AWESOME gals who are genuine and interesting, and I hope they find good meets on here with good men too.
I'm of the opinion that 'those who expect nothing are never disappointed', and therefore, I have not been disappointed... quite the opposite, been quite delighted! | |
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| We hear about the bad ones, anyone have a great 1st meet?
Posted: 9/6/2007 2:45:53 PM | yes! i met a chap from here on Sunday (2nd Sept) and he was lovley, the date was brilliant, we went to a zoo in london which we didnt find out existed till we were there!!! we sat in the park, and we chatted lots, and drank coffee and dinner was a macdonalds! excellent, and fun too!
Although theres no plans to meet again, its great just to have met someone who was nice and fun to be with :) | |
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| We hear about the bad ones, anyone have a great 1st meet?
Posted: 9/8/2007 10:17:16 AM | Had a first meet today for lunch. Didn't have much time as it was a last minute arrangement but it went well. Very nice guy, relaxed and great to talk to, felt really comfortable with him....plus he's tall, dark and incredibly good looking!
A second date is on the cards so fingers crossed! | |
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| We hear about the bad ones, anyone have a great 1st meet?
Posted: 9/8/2007 10:51:24 AM | wow i give you fishies a lot of credit committing to lunches and dinners...
Been there done that, sat through way too many one date wonders, wondering how did i let this happen? lol
now ice cream cone and short walk is about it for the FIRST meet.
Now.... (wink) if all goes well the second date is a whole other story!!! lol 
jj | |
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