| We hear about the bad ones, anyone have a great 1st meet?
Posted: 9/8/2007 11:09:28 AM | I'm surprised that Jasmaine49, only has guys that want to get laid, she doesn't have a picture (which may attract predatory males) but perhaps she's very attractive which I suppose is a compliment to her. I just started on POF, and I ran an ad on Craigslist before (a date I met on there told me about POF) and maybe because of what I wrote I don't attract predatory, superficial males, I guess it takes certain type of male to respond to my type of ad, especially as I don't have a picture (it's surprising how a pic is so important to some, as if they think you'll be the ugliest person on the planet if you don't send it).
Yet even on CL (which is considered a bottom feeder, the men were polite and respectful) the ad there was similiar to the one I have in my profile, so even though I got a whole lot of ad there vs. lesser here, I think with what I say and no pics, I'm getting quality over quantity! One man on here said without a pic, I would only attract out of shape guys (better a fat guy than a fat head which that guy was like) and mama's boys but I recently had a date with a guy who looked BETTER than his picture (and he looks nice there!) and I think he's quite wealthy, although my ad specifically states money is NOT important and it really isn't (I've gone out with wealthy guys who want to control you with their wealth!), it was just a first date and he's going out of town a few days, so I don't know how it will end, but I do think he was attracted to me and gave me a wonderful hug! Kind of makes up for my first date from here which although not a date from hell, not a particular pleasant one for me, the last straw being that he did not want to give back a prize that I won at a fair that I thought he was just nicely carrying for me (a bag of bath salts!) | |
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| We hear about the bad ones, anyone have a great 1st meet?
Posted: 9/8/2007 11:14:00 AM | | ive had 2 great first meets, first one, we got on great and met the next week and then spent quite alot of him, but that one was only ment to be friends, he still pops in for coffee ever now and then and we very good friends. then i had another one, started at 10 in the morning till 2 then we went out again that night for a meal, been out with him again and shame again but circumstances have changed for me, just my luck lol and wont be anything more than friends but both great first second and third meets with them 2 lol | |
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| We hear about the bad ones, anyone have a great 1st meet?
Posted: 9/9/2007 2:12:21 PM | | Wow, what to say..... so many people have so many different opimions here on this subject. I have met a few men for first dates. Some have just absolutely wowwed me to no end, polite, funny, georgous, good job, nice home. Then there are the ones that are georgeous, funny, polite, with no job..... renting a room... with no car! Then guys ask if we are gold diggers???? NO! But we do want someone who can take us out, pick us up and be able to entertain in their own homes!!!!!! | |
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| We hear about the bad ones, anyone have a great 1st meet?
Posted: 9/9/2007 5:56:21 PM | | The best ones I've been on from this site turn out to be witty, charming, charismatic and articulate. True conversationalists who can go from talking about something really intelligent and end with a naughty reference. They knew how to switch gears, kind of like Carrie Bradshaw and Mr. Big. | |
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| We hear about the bad ones, anyone have a great 1st meet?
Posted: 9/9/2007 7:35:40 PM | It is great to see threads like this! It seems like the only things you hear about are the negatives.
I began chatting with a guy last week and spend literally hours chatting and on the phone over last weekend. We met twice during the week and it seems like we really get along well. I hope things continue, it is such a rare thing when people connect on a mental and physical level.
Keep the faith, it will happen.
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| We hear about the bad ones, anyone have a great 1st meet?
Posted: 9/9/2007 7:46:32 PM | YES,
I MET SOMEONE MONDAY NIGHT THAT I HAVE ENJOYED SEEING EVER SINCE;IT HAS BEEN SUCH A BEAUTIFUL WEEK SPENDING TIME WITH A MAN SO ATTENTIVE TO ME. I REALIZE,A WEEK IS A SHORT TIME TO MAKE A CHARACTER REFERENCE BUT TALKING ABOUT GREAT FIRST EXPERIENCES,RIGHT?
WHERE IT WILL GO ,I DON'T KNOW,REALLY;REMAINS TO BE SEEN | |
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| We hear about the bad ones, anyone have a great 1st meet?
Posted: 9/9/2007 7:49:25 PM | Yes Definitely!
One recent one for me was a Young Guy who is in the Military, and also from the "East Coast" like me. It was a spur-of-the-moment-last-minute-we-should-go-out-for-coffee date. 9 pm, he picks me up in his convertible and we spent the next few hours cruising around, laughing talking and getting to know one another. It felt like going home. He is the most pleasant man I have met on this site, and I value him as my friend, perhaps someday when we are both ready for it, it will blossom into more. ( were both attracted to one another...but both just out of serious relationships as well so taking it very slowly) We talked until 4 am on that first date. We snuggled and fell asleep together (no nothing untoward happened ) he was a perfect gentleman, with an amazing sense of humour and a sensitive side that makes you just want to hold on to him. I find it amazing that I only have known this guy for about a week, and already I am so close to him, as his friend.
Truly I feel Blessed to have met him. Not every guy is a Panty Raiding Idiot... there are the few like my Friend who stand out among the crowd like a glimmering star in the blackest of nights. This (  ) is for him if he reads this. | |
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| We hear about the bad ones, anyone have a great 1st meet?
Posted: 9/9/2007 11:50:51 PM | I had a great first meet date! We met at the beach on the pier. I got a little lost and he had to find me. When he walked up, I was shocked he looked like his picture! We both smiled when we met face to face. We walked along the beach and up and down the pier and stopped and had a soda. During our long conversation we found we had so much in common, even the same medical condition. It was after one am before we decided to head home. Neither one of us wanted the night to end. It was definately love by the end of our first date!  | |
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| We hear about the bad ones, anyone have a great 1st meet?
Posted: 9/10/2007 7:24:08 PM | | I had the best and longest 1st date ever with a guy I met through POF. We had emailed and chatted for a few weeks then decided to meet. He wouldn't tell me what we were going to do. He called first thing in the morning and told me to pack a suit suit, flip flops and a towel. I said "Are you serious? Asking a woman to wear a bathing suit on a first date?" He said, "Fine don't wear one, be ready!" He had booked me a 1hr massage at a spa. He said that being a single mom must be difficult and it sounded like I needed to be pampered. Then he took me to Montebello for lunch. We spent the afternoon driving around and talking. He then decided he wanted lobster for dinner so we went grocery shopping and back to my place to cook dinner. We didn't want the date to end. We ran out and rented some movies and then he came back the follow day to take me out for brunch. It was truly wonderful and completely unexpected. The sad part is he was diagnosed with a brain tumor a few weeks later and decided a relationship would be too much. He's a wonderful man and we'll definately remain friends. | |
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| We hear about the bad ones, anyone have a great 1st meet?
Posted: 9/10/2007 7:53:22 PM | | I had an absolutely wonderful first meet. Was talking to someone from this site e-mailing, IMing, and talking on the phone. We decided to meet. He drove an hour and a half to my place. He arrived around 11 am. We sat and talked for quite some time. I took him horseback riding. That was fun. (He even stopped at a horse rescue a few days prior to learn a little more about horses. Boy, was I impressed). He then helped to feed the horses that afternoon. We got cleaned up and had some dinner. After dinner, we built a bonfire, played bags and made smores. Later we layed around and shared a great kiss. It was the longest date I had ever been on and even though we did not do anything that outstanding, it was the best date I had ever had. Did not want it to end. The second meeting was even better, but I am going to keep that one to myself (hey all of you, get your minds out of the gutter!) LOL! | |
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| We hear about the bad ones, anyone have a great 1st meet?
Posted: 9/10/2007 8:37:17 PM | | I met a wonderful woman last week who is now a surrogate sister. She is so in the present and so empathetic that it is inspiring, but is at wits end when it comes to irony. It was one of those moments where you feel love for someone and know that it would be so meaningful to have them in your life forever, but you also know that you are experiencing a magical fraternal agape rather than something more powerful (which consequently makes you more cautious). | |
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| We hear about the bad ones, anyone have a great 1st meet?
Posted: 9/11/2007 9:10:02 AM | Stoic,
Only you can know if the "chemistry" is ther or not, or if it ever could be, but maybe you shouldn't be so quick to categorize this one. If there is a connection there, unless you are REALLY not attracted to her at all, maybe you should "wait and see". Sometimes that powerful attraction can sneak up on you when you least expect it, even with someone you've known for a while. A word, a gesture, something small and AHA!... you realize that you are attracted to the whole package. What's better than that?! | |
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| We hear about the bad ones, anyone have a great 1st meet?
Posted: 9/11/2007 8:14:59 PM | Fortunately...ALL of my first meets have been loverly. Granted...A couple were kinda boors but that was a loooong time ago. My sensories have sharpened since then...HAHA!
Very recently, I jumped in...a few emails, a phone call, he drove 2 hours here...And for me,it absolutely was an enjoyable afternoon/evening! My "instincts" were right on. He turned out to be entertaining, brilliantly interesting, riddled with humor, kind and respectful, attractive, and well..FUN.
Kept my tiny mind on it's toes! I felt honored by his effort and visit.. 
AND.....it reinforced my belief..that there are soooo many great and wonderful men and women out there in cyberworld. Just have to remember the old adage..."chaff from the wheat".... | |
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| We hear about the bad ones, anyone have a great 1st meet?
Posted: 9/11/2007 11:18:33 PM | | Just this last month I met a girl for drink at a local Latin Jazz lounge. She turned out to be the most beautiful girl in the room, every head turned. A couple drinks, an appetizer, we clicked, she kissed me and dragged me to the dance floor, we danced until late, Live Latin Cuban jazz, supper hot. I never thought sweat could be so sexy. I walked her to the car where we star gazed, kissed and tried to think of a good excuse not to have sex on the first date. * Very respectable* It turns out we are in the same profession, she is everything any guy could want which leaves me standing in line with another 100 guys : ( Nothing may ever come of it, but that was the best date ever! *Thanks POF* | |
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| We hear about the bad ones, anyone have a great 1st meet?
Posted: 9/12/2007 4:58:05 AM | | Yankee...had the same thing happen recently. The guy was absolutely wonderful....completely taken by him. After a few dates though...found that when it comes to relationships he is emotionally void and shut down. He wanted to keep dating but this was a complete turn off so I've cashed in on the 'escape clause' ....but the time spent together was fantastic and he is a very likeable person. | |
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| We hear about the bad ones, anyone have a great 1st meet?
Posted: 9/12/2007 11:23:25 AM | I did!! I did!! YaY me!!
After chatting for a couple of days, last week we decided to meet at the mall. We walked around a little! Just hung around for an hour or so. He has a great smile and nice dimples. We had our 1st actual date last night. He's a perfect gentlemen. He opened the doors for me w/o me coaxing him into it! (because I am silly like that, I will stand in front of a door until the guy opens it) didn't have to he was wayyy ahead of me!!
We have our 3rd encounter on Saturday. I am really looking forward to it, but don't tell him I said that OK? | |
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| We hear about the bad ones, anyone have a great 1st meet?
Posted: 9/12/2007 12:02:22 PM | | Yes I definitely met someone...a man of my dream. We dated casually for about 3 months, no sex involved, we had great time going out and doing things together but he suddenly disappeared. I was probably not good enough for him.....oh well. | |
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| We hear about the bad ones, anyone have a great 1st meet?
Posted: 9/12/2007 12:35:51 PM | Yes, Ive met some very very cool woman on this site...And I have had a couple great meetings the first time....The latest has been one of the sweetest gals Ive ever met...Very nice woman...Ill leave it at that...
It is possible.... | |
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| We hear about the bad ones, anyone have a great 1st meet?
Posted: 9/12/2007 2:15:17 PM |
After a few dates though...found that when it comes to relationships he is emotionally void and shut down.
How can u let that pass so quickly Baby? I would dream of such a great first meet... some men... probably myself included don't show alot of emotion till we know the woman really cares for us. (take for example the poor fellow who dated a pof'er that married someone in 6 days) But when sure... I love with an intensity that even overwhelms myself! True things take time... call that guy up... I seriously think u are jumping out way too fast.. if he seems unemotional for more then 3 months or post getting physical.... then put on the joggers... just remember u said ur time with him was fantastic and likeable.... u willing to give that up so quickly (few dates) . Are you sure your past isn't dictating what you are feeling fear/careful wise now? I have to admit, this is the first post I have seen where a woman praised a man so much, yet stopped seeing him.... any of u woman out there agree with me? | |
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| We hear about the bad ones, anyone have a great 1st meet?
Posted: 9/12/2007 2:23:34 PM | Agree snoopy...how, after only a few "dates" does one ascertain the other is emotionally void and shut down???? (Unless she caught him kicking her dog...?) 
Whoops! Another thread topic.
And must be far more to that "story"...usually is. | |
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| We hear about the bad ones, anyone have a great 1st meet?
Posted: 9/12/2007 11:49:47 PM | Thanks for such a positive thread!!!!
I am new here and am skeptical, cautious, and yet hopeful. Have not had a first POF date experience yet, but thanks to you, YankeBelle, and all who have posted, I shall remain hopeful! Congrats to all of you who have had such great experiences. It's great to know that there are still fish out there that one need not throw back!!!  | |
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| We hear about the bad ones, anyone have a great 1st meet?
Posted: 9/17/2007 12:26:48 PM | I met a guy online and on a whim, after only talking with him for two days, I went out to meet him. We were really open when we first started messaging each other, so when we met, not only was more adorable than his pictures, we were already comfortable with each other.
Unfortunately he attends school in Europe, and he left yesterday. But it's pretty clear both of us feel pretty strongly for each other and we were both a little upset he had to leave so soon, so hopefully in December when he returns we'll get to see how serious we should get | |
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