| | Yes...Page 11 of 11 (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11) | | yes i've written to several women on this site and i'm not gay so i had no interest in dating them. usually i saw something i liked in their photos, usually they have a cute dog or cat and i feel compelled to compliment them about it. good way to make friends also. | |
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| Have you ever written to someone without seeking a date?
Posted: 5/6/2009 11:49:41 AM | I've been contacted by several women, some who thought my profile was funny, or in response to something I posted in the forums. A few times I've written to a few myself just to remark on something about their profile I liked or thought could maybe use a little brushing up (i.e. if it was too plain I suggested they add some more). I have even made a few friends whom I keep in constant contact with offline and on.
However there are those I've seen on here that have either no interest in making any friends off a 'dating' site (go figure!), or possibly believe that anyone contacting them has no other purpose than .. the obvious.  Their loss! | |
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| Have you ever written to someone without seeking a date?
Posted: 5/7/2009 10:10:08 AM | I have done that when I was in the "Fishing Pool"...Interestingly enough...I complicated one man about his picture and added...your much younger...so this is nothing more then a comment about your profile picture....he replied...we met..and several months later we are still "dateing".
Sure wish tho that I would get some e -mails now. I would love to have some text pals..male/female...dogs, cats..whatever! | |
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| Have you ever written to someone without seeking a date?
Posted: 5/7/2009 12:16:19 PM | I have to make a correction !
Interestingly enough...I complicated one man 
ummmm...should have typed. COMPLIMENTED...
I do have an "X" that may state that the first is correct! Hopefully the currant doesn't agree! | |
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| Have you ever written to someone without seeking a date?
Posted: 5/7/2009 3:47:32 PM | | Just yesterday, I e-mailed that nice fellow who wanted to know about mani/pedis on the Spa Weekend - Facial topic, 'cause he keeps smashing his toe (ow!). Gave him some basic info on the subject and he thanked me very sweetly. | |
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| Have you ever written to someone without seeking a date?
Posted: 5/7/2009 4:48:26 PM | | I've never written to someone seeking a date. I think it's an unrealistic goal to have in mind, much better to write and see how real they are before making any 'real' plans. (good point about brightening their day though, that's always nice) | |
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| Have you ever written to someone without seeking a date?
Posted: 5/7/2009 5:26:48 PM | Yes
I have emailed Dharmadude to commend him on how much he honours his mother.
I've also emailed others when they've said something brilliant in the forums, or if their profile was great.
Can't hurt to email, just to give a compliment and no, have never sought to receive dates from the ones I email... | |
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| Have you ever written to someone without seeking a date?
Posted: 5/7/2009 5:48:23 PM | | I, too, have contacted guys just to let them know that something on their profile hit home for me, and that I was very pleased to know that other people think that way, too. In a funny way, it's almost like a hug in writing, and I would hope it feels almost as 'warm and fuzzy' to the recipient as to get a physical hug. And we all know how good it feels to have a heartfelt hug (grin). | |
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| Have you ever written to someone without seeking a date?
Posted: 5/8/2009 5:28:49 AM | Yep...Ive writen to plenty with compliments....some send me a thank you BUT most....ignore...I think mainly because they figure if they respond...I might think they are interested in me....not the case but as Ive said bfore...human nature....it gets tiring but whatcha gonna do...these sights are mostly gamers that arent happy with their home life...maybe seeking an on line fantasy...lol... | |
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Joffin
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| Have you ever written to someone without seeking a date?
Posted: 5/8/2009 6:02:35 PM | " Hell, yes....how awesome is that?"
Totally awesome.....I am currently feeling a bit down, but this thread is making me feel better because everyone here is so positive about just complimenting someone else for a good profile or something someone said.
Yes, I too send messages to compliment...and I hardly get responses back, just "delete". Do you suppose people do not respond back because they are not used to being complimented and are suspicious of some ulterior motives? A response might be a nice human touch, but everyone's different in their take.
I am thinking maybe I should include a qualifier that says "Do not be afraid, I come in peace. This is a compliment, the message will self destruct in 20 seconds. " | |
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| Have you ever written to someone without seeking a date?
Posted: 5/8/2009 11:52:12 PM | | Joffin, I like your sense of humor. I think the qualifier would be cute. I don't think I've written anyone...but I did favorite a man. Everytime I logged in his pic was at the top with this great big friendly grin, it always made me smile. After that he wrote me and I told him why, we became friends, and I really enjoy contact with him. | |
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| Have you ever written to someone without seeking a date?
Posted: 6/4/2009 4:54:27 PM | Mike (Original Poster)...
Sir, I feel that it is totally acceptable to drop a person a line because their profile sparks something so similar to your thought process or intrigues you in a way that makes you echo their sentiments. Everyone doesn't express this view because the web is full of people in denial and battered in emotional ways. Therefore, you will have people in your area who state they are seeking "Friends" to "Hangout" or "Just Talk/Email" and they will frown on you nudging and joking with them because they aren't physically drawn to you. They are so blinded by their own selfish ways they don't see that everyone with eye's knows they are trying to date or be whisked off into a fairy-tale where Peter Pan exists... LOL...
Drop everyone a message whether far or near to show them they are appreciated and enjoy life without being a prude. Peace... | |
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Twooit
| | Joined: 5/27/2009
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| Have you ever written to someone without seeking a date?
Posted: 6/5/2009 5:12:02 AM | I do sometimes. It's a nice gesture to message someone and tell them you find them attractive- even if you don't have any intentions of dating or getting to know that person. Making someone smile and making their day is always nice to do- and who knows... maybe they'll find you attractive and the unexpected will happen  | |
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| Have you ever written to someone without seeking a date?
Posted: 6/5/2009 8:20:27 AM | | I get a lot of emails from people who aren't trying to date me. It's always a pleasure not to have to read the same incessant drivel. At least they have something to say that doesn't include how I look or where I work. | |
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| Have you ever written to someone without seeking a date?
Posted: 6/5/2009 1:57:01 PM |
I am just looking for some conversation, maybe I will learn some things about how to make a future relationship a fun one. If I met someone right now in a possible dating sense I'd probably just screw it up, and I don't want to do that with a possibly nice person.
Nice idea. And you do sound nice, Walker1960.
I've done the same.. written to someone on here, not expecting a date. I've replied to posts in the forums if I was impressed or interested in what they said. And true, it's always possible to makea friend when you email someone complimenting them on something they said in their profile. In, I'd posted a question in the forums a few months ago. A guy wrote directly to my email on this site and said something I appreciated (I also appreciated the fact that he bothered to email me his input) , so I emailed him back and we've been online friends ever since.. he's in CA and I'm in SC (S. Carolina).
In a few minutes i'm going to write a guy on here who had a beautiful picture of a sunset where he lives and i'm going to compliment him on the picture.
I too, have gotten to where I come on here to mostly read the forums.
Lynn | |
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| Have you ever written to someone without seeking a date?
Posted: 6/5/2009 2:01:22 PM | | Yep. I do it all the time! Mostly from here or if I read their profile and it makes me laugh or something strikes my interest, I'll send a note. I'm not fishing for a date when I do that. Just showing appreciation for something they said or wrote or whatever. | |
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| Have you ever written to someone without seeking a date?
Posted: 6/5/2009 9:52:21 PM | 98% are here to date. They figure that folk who're here for other reasons are like parents hanging out at a party for teenagers.
Still, I gotta admit the only messages I've sent anyone that weren't responses were just like that, comments; there's strange stuff in profiles sometimes you just have to ask. | |
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| Have you ever written to someone without seeking a date?
Posted: 6/5/2009 11:58:39 PM | Yes, I too have people who have contacted me because of my profile and visa-versa. Some are from very far away. I don't really think it is that big of a deal and most people are nice. So far I have met some pretty good writing buddies and sometimes, that is all I need.
I enjoy the mental connection and not having to deal with the "are you going home with me tonight" syndrome that an actual date seems to end with. So, it doesn't bother me a bit. | |
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