| | Have you ever written to someone without seeking a date?Page 2 of 11 (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11) | | ^^^^I agree. I have formed several friendships with men and women because the forums lead me to their profiles. You can tell alot about people reading their posts and their profiles. | |
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| Have you ever written to someone without seeking a date?
Posted: 8/25/2007 9:26:41 AM | Absolutely!! I've sent a few because of something I liked in their profile, and I've sent many because of something that's caught my eye on the forums. And I've made a LOT of great friends on here as a result! 
I've also received messages about something specific on my profile, or regarding my forums posts - it definitely goes both ways. | |
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| Have you ever written to someone without seeking a date?
Posted: 8/25/2007 9:28:17 AM | I may be guilty of writing to more people out of my area just to say "I liked your profile" than to ones in my area that I have actively sought a potentially date from. Right now my work schedule sucks (3:30 pm - 4am.....then Sat and Sun for for kicks!) so my dating is taking a direct hit!
It is amazing how many of these people become regular chat friends of mine or that I even eventually meet......all of that from someone I wrote to or received an email from because of an interesting profile.
Bottom line is "you never know what may happen!" | |
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| Have you ever written to someone without seeking a date?
Posted: 8/25/2007 9:47:45 AM | Absolutely. When I was planning a visit to Hawaii a couple of years back, I wrote to some people living in the area I was planning to visit. I sent out about 10 emails stating that I was not looking for a date or a boyfriend ... just wanted to know something about the area I was going to be in. I wanted to know about nice places to visit that were off the "beaten path" as I am not really interested in many of the local "tourist trips / traps". One gentleman answered and we began exchanging emails and phone calls.
By the time I got to Hawaii ... he offered to pick me up at the airport and drop me off at my hotel, then took me out to sing (we are both quite into Karaoke). He dropped me back off at my hotel. Then 2 days later he surprised me with a telephone call and offered to take me on a tour of the whole island of Oahu on his motorcycle.
He actually took off work and picked me up at the hotel, and spent the entire day showing me around. It was great fun and he dropped me back off at the hotel ... no strings attached. One thing I noticed about him was that he was very proud of his Harley and his license tag (which was also his user name).
So in the remaining time I had there, I went out, bought the makings for a cross stitch project, designed a pattern that resembled his license tag (I had noted it before he left me at the hotel), and cross stitched it. At the top, I cross stitched his name on it, and at the bottom, I cross stitched the date of the "tour" and a thank you followed by my name. I put it in a frame and sent it to him after I returned home.
I guarantee you one thing ... it's an original and he will never forget that little tour.
BTW ... there was no romantic encounter and we are still great friends. | |
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| Have you ever written to someone without seeking a date?
Posted: 8/25/2007 10:38:40 AM | I wrote someone and made a comment about
where he lived and how I had been there many
times. At the end of the email I jokingly said that
I was not hitting on him. His response was, " Too
bad, you`re a cutie! " Though we are four and a
half hours apart, we have been together for almost
four months now! It has gotten better every day...... | |
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| Have you ever written to someone without seeking a date?
Posted: 8/25/2007 11:24:22 AM | | On the rare occasion if I see a profile that just "jumps" out at me, I will email them and let them know ..how much it was enjoyed..I think if I email someone in say Australia and I am NYS ..that I am Not looking to date,some have led to very nice friendships..I often compliment people..it does sometimes make thier day just a little bit brighter..if even for only a min. it's worth it. | |
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| Have you ever written to someone without seeking a date?
Posted: 8/25/2007 11:30:41 AM | Mike...
I do it all the time and I have had it done to me. (It brightens my day)
I think it is very nice when someone enjoys something they have written or have read and I think the writter should be acknowledged for it. | |
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| Have you ever written to someone without seeking a date?
Posted: 8/25/2007 7:40:58 PM | | Well for me, I don't expect a date from anyone on this site but that doesn't mean that I wouldn't want one. I expect to start of as friends with no expectations and take it from there. If we don’t get feelings for each other, there is nothing wrong of just staying as friends. I email people on here who I don’t think would be compatible for a relationship but I think they would be interesting to chat with. But you never know, later down the track I might find them compatible after all. | |
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| Have you ever written to someone without seeking a date?
Posted: 8/25/2007 9:04:45 PM | | I have several times. I've also written people from the forums to further discuss a point or just to thank them for what they wrote. Sometimes it leads to great conversations. Other times, it's a quick exchange, and it's done. At this point, since I'm retiring from dating for awhile, that's the only type of exchange I do make! | |
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| Have you ever written to someone without seeking a date?
Posted: 8/25/2007 9:22:25 PM | I do it all the time! There are some really incredible people here that maybe aren't in my demographics or whatever, but I always let someone know when I find a forum post or profile intriguing. I've received quite a few e-mails like that too, and I love getting them.
We're all here for a connection of some kind or other. Why not make someone feel good about themselves without expecting anything in return? | |
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| Have you ever written to someone without seeking a date?
Posted: 8/25/2007 10:10:33 PM | Yes, I have. I written to people in Canada and on the east coast of the US of A. Never expected a "date"...just enjoyed their profile or something they said on the forums. I've made several friends that way.
Then there are the jokers who read/delete...my momma raised me better than that.
Their loss...my gain. I feel good about handing out a compliment and didn't ever have to worry about dealing with a jerk afterwards! | |
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| Have you ever written to someone without seeking a date?
Posted: 8/25/2007 10:40:34 PM | Sure! I write people all the time without expecting anything to come of it.
If I see a profile that strikes me or a forum post then I will let that person know. It doesn't matter if it is male or female.
I have also received mail in the same manner.
The only person responsible for your expectations is yourself. | |
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| Have you ever written to someone without seeking a date?
Posted: 8/25/2007 11:42:48 PM | yea i have written without seeking a date. i think i have received more messages in regards to my profile and attitude about life than for dates, but it's all good!
i feel good knowing that people feel or learn something from reading my profile. it gives me more faith in the human race...lol. i always like to make people think. | |
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| Have you ever written to someone without seeking a date?
Posted: 8/25/2007 11:56:19 PM | I never 'expect' a date when I write to someone. I don't expect anything, to be honest, that wayI don't get disappointed at what I do get and always have a bit of gratitiude for the time they gave me instead. I don't do this to appear 'nice', I do this to stop the emotional chain reaction that leads to my feeling unhappy. When I get a date I'm always pleasantly surprised then. Expect nothing, get more, is the rule. I really enjoy the idea that today I wrote to someone and said something nice to them. Doesn't matter if they barfed in the barf bucket instead. Eh, maybe it's actually a form of torture? You're a very pretty lady (barf barf); you've got a very interesting profile (barf barf).  | |
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| Have you ever written to someone without seeking a date?
Posted: 8/25/2007 11:59:30 PM | Yes, I have written to someone without the expectation or desire of a date because I wanted to compliment them on their fabulous smile, sparkling eyes or something from their profile. Usually, I have gotten replies that were gracious and complimentry. However, one guy was rather tacky with his verbiage and then blocked me.  LOL!  I suppose he just couldn't hide the tears of a clown.  | |
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| Have you ever written to someone without seeking a date?
Posted: 8/26/2007 12:38:37 AM | | Yes I have. And I have met some interesting people and friends through POF. Not everyone here is a compatible date but they may be a good friend. Sometimes distance or where we are in our current lives prevents us from dating, but we can always discuss politics, or culture or why rain drops make such a lovely sound. | |
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| Have you ever written to someone without seeking a date?
Posted: 8/26/2007 1:28:05 AM |
Yes, I have written to someone without the expectation or desire of a date because I wanted to compliment them on their fabulous smile, sparkling eyes or something from their profile. Usually, I have gotten replies that were gracious and complimentry. However, one guy was rather tacky with his verbiage and then blocked me.
i compliment guys like that sometimes, but i rarely get so much as even a thank you. they just read and delete. i don't really care...but at least be polite. just because i compliment a person does not mean i'm envisioning them as a life partner, let alone seeking a date.  | |
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| Have you ever written to someone without seeking a date?
Posted: 8/26/2007 1:30:23 AM | Oh Definately, Since I joined POF, I am admitted forum junkie, I click on several people's profile daily just to see what makes them tick in forum, I have also written to these people. I have written thank you notes to some people for what they have said. I am not really into finding the love of my life here, IF that happens that is great. I am really enjoying the forums, and all the great people I have met here.
I think these people that come on POF and gripe about how it isn't working for them. Are maybe, the same ones that can't make a relationship work in real life. I have also learned so much here | |
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| Have you ever written to someone without seeking a date?
Posted: 8/26/2007 6:23:46 AM | Yes, I do occasionally..sometimes a profile is funny or just plain interesting. I will just say I enjoyed their profile and wish them luck in their search...
oh yeah and sometimes if I see a very handsome guy with a nice profile I will write and just let him know I think he's really nice looking etc. - I have no intentions of looking for a date, or wanting a response even.....just "stating the facts" lol | |
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