| | Have you ever written to someone without seeking a date?Page 5 of 11 (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11) | All the time.....message after message.....
Half of the fun on here is talking to people like they are sitting across the bar....yell out what you think....comment on what you see....just to get a response. It is a blast. Two things I do....compliment those women....who are dressed like women in their posted photos! Such a turn on to me. And secondly, challenge something from their profile.....almost always get a response....and lots of times it goes for multiple emails and quiet a bit of conversing.....sometimes it dies quickly....but all of it is fun! | |
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Rhett1
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Msg: 102 | |
| Have you ever written to someone without seeking a date?
Posted: 9/7/2007 8:48:47 PM | | I get lots of mail from people about posts I've made in the forums, some negative, but most are positive and give me kudos. I get quite a few from people who liked my profile or just wanted to say hi, or they wanted to critique my profile...it's all good. I've got a number of people I keep in touch with about the forums and just chatting back and forth. There are very few I could date, due to distance or we don't match up, or they're female...I've chatted with some great people on here, though. | |
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| Have you ever written to someone without seeking a date?
Posted: 10/11/2007 7:40:58 AM | | I'll usually write people and complement them on something I see in their profile or pictures. I'm a sucker for a great set of eyes and a wonderful smile. Sometimes I get a "Thank you" and other times I don't get a response. I never expect a response so it's not an issue. | |
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| Have you ever written to someone without seeking a date?
Posted: 10/11/2007 8:39:41 AM | Hey there WriterMike!
I think we all have at one point or another, but what bothers me is, i read what everyone says, but find it strange that it always seems to be with the opposite sex funny that! you hear "oh yeah seen a gr8 profile good looks balh blah blah " lol .. but I havent yet seen a women or man say anything about sending an email for kindness or friendship to the same sex.. hmmm .. i would like to hear from a a girl stating she liked my profile and that i seemed fun or nice.. and you know what , I fall in to the catorgory too.. I havent yet either, have you?
ps.. I think i just might, all let you know what happens.. :)
ty for tweeking my interest!!
take care.... | |
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| Have you ever written to someone without seeking a date?
Posted: 10/11/2007 8:48:58 AM | i frequently write to someone to ask about something they wrote in their profile or to comment on a photo or something of that nature. a few times i wrote inquiring about a particular username and where it came from. people don't seem to mind at all.
people do write to me to comment on my profile or to ask for information about my profession. my profile clearly states that i don't date and generally people seem to accept that. | |
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| Have you ever written to someone without seeking a date?
Posted: 10/11/2007 11:46:54 AM |
Does anyone ever write to people to tell them that they have a really wonderful profile?
thats the ONLY reason i msg ppl. lol. why would i otherwise? if their profile doesn't get a reaction out of me (whether it be a good laugh or a fuzzy feeling) then im not gonna bother.
it goes from "nice puma sweater" to " i am stealing your joke for my facebook" LOL
i've learned enuff to know that you can't have too much of any expectations here on pof - or any other dating site.  | |
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| Have you ever written to someone without seeking a date?
Posted: 10/11/2007 1:13:20 PM | I have never told a woman that they have a wonderful profile before, that is a bit OTT for me but I have seen some that have made me almost laugh to the poing of crying and I almost sent them a message letting them know this but I decided not to but I am not saying why because I have said enough and still haven't finished answering the main question.
If I am interested in someone then I don't say their profile is wonderful but I always mention in my first message at least one thing that they have said to show that I am interested in them as a person and not just their looks. I would never just ask them for a date in my first message, I am shy though but it still sounds too desperate.. | |
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| Have you ever written to someone without seeking a date?
Posted: 10/11/2007 2:07:58 PM | Any letter i've written to someone on POF was a simple "i liked what you wrote in your profile" with no intentions or signals of asking to meet up for a date whatsoever.
That was the first week i came on here.
I've gotten a few "f**k off" replies.... a few "I know your intentions & i know your kind.. forget it!" and my favorite "You look like a player. sorry, this convo is over!" the rest never even mailed me back at all.
Now i don't msg people until i've been messaged. I've been more successful just partaking in the forums. Makes more sense because your profile can say you are happy go lucky and kind.... but then you can read someones post and they can be on some "I HATE MEN" channel. (or for the women, then can see "I HATE WOMEN" posts & attitude)
Coming on POF to seek a date is like being in the army. You message someone and next thing you know, the person becomes seargent attitude like "TENNNNN HUP!!!!... Turn around!! kiss my ass..... ANNNNNDDDDD HUP!...TWO! ....THREE.....FO'...... COMPANYYYYYYYYYY HALT!!!!... whats that in your profile??? NO KIDS?????? 40 SIT UPS, TUFF GUY!!!! LETS GO!!!!
HUP! TWO! THREE!!!FOUR!!!"
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| Have you ever written to someone without seeking a date?
Posted: 10/11/2007 2:42:06 PM | I wrote to a woman who was pregnant and looking for a date. She had 4 little boys at home and was pregnant with a little girl. She was drop dead georgeous and had recently left an abusive husband. She was lonely. I wrote to this woman to tell her how strong and beautiful she was and that things would get better. We ended up talking for a few days and she was so happy to be talking with me.
I also emailed a really goofy looking sweet guy one time. He had all these rediculous typos in his profile. I emailed him and said, " obiously you've already struck out with me but, I want to help you. Fix the follwing errors:....". He probably thought I was a real psycho b**** but, hopefully he changed his profile.
I also emailed my ex SIL and "welcomed" her to POF with a lewed inviation for sex. Ha, ha, ha.... | |
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| Have you ever written to someone without seeking a date?
Posted: 10/11/2007 3:18:02 PM | | In reply to mr. dynomite, I have never been told to f**k off before but nothing would suprise me on here and there is plenty of time yet. I agree about the forums, I find them a much better way of judging people than a profile. | |
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| Have you ever written to someone without seeking a date?
Posted: 10/11/2007 3:35:30 PM | Yes I have.
I look at some of the profiles when I am in the forums. I have written to a couple of the men just to say I liked their profiles and they responded back with a thank you.
I am here to make friends. If it should lead to something more serious, then so be it. | |
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| Have you ever written to someone without seeking a date?
Posted: 10/11/2007 3:47:36 PM | | Myself no, however woman write me all the time and for some reason or another they don't ever want to meet up, either cowardess or shyness. However my personal view on it is that it is quite annoying to talk to a person for a month online and still not even go out on a date with them. My feeling is if you talk the talk walk the walk. I've really only had bad luck as far as plenty of fish goes. The woman act like their married, which for some reason i think some of them are and that's why you never meet up. Also you have the liars that won't give you a good description of themselves or a good photo. So be it, it takes all kinds, i just live by different ethics and morals. | |
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Joy4us
| | Joined: 7/2/2007
Msg: 116 | |
| Have you ever written to someone without seeking a date?
Posted: 10/11/2007 3:54:38 PM | I do it all the time. Doesn't everyone like a compliment, or at least to know someone read their profile or thread. There are some people on here who are amazingly gifted writers and comedians. I have spent many hours LMAO at the forums. If anyone wants to check out a amusing profile and writer try mr. dynomite from Nova Scotia. He cracks me up.
To the guy who asked why women never tell other women they have great profiles...because we don't see them. Only men come up in our matches, and you have to jump through hoops to search out women. No Thanks!
So Writer Mike, I'll check out yours, if you check out mine. Wink! | |
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vosche
| | Joined: 1/6/2007
Msg: 117 | |
| Have you ever written to someone without seeking a date?
Posted: 10/11/2007 3:57:25 PM | | the very notion that you'd be on a dating site and message someone without the thought of seeking a date behind it is ludicrous. of course everyone here that messages someone is fenaggling a date/meeting in the future..dont kid yourself otherwise. | |
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daisie
| | Joined: 9/22/2004
Msg: 118 | |
| Have you ever written to someone without seeking a date?
Posted: 10/11/2007 3:58:56 PM | ^^^^^ nope. thats all wrong. we're not all looking for dates. and there is the option of FRIENDS/TALK for what were seeking. Not only dates^^^^
oh heck yeah, i write to people all the time and have no intentions of dating them since im here for friends only.
also i get mail from men and women commenting on my forum posts and my profile. I dont date women, so thats out. and the guys...well most of them are far far far away often on other continents....we email often, laugh a lot and have NO intentions of flying cross time zones for a date!!!
except wellllllllll my dear friend Graeme....I think we are gonna get married. But NOT date. naaa jsut get married. THERE IS A DIFFERENCE! hehehe we've also decided not to speak to each other...ever..., since we cant understand the accents and hell be wearing a chicken suit. sooooooo wellllll it should be quite a happy marriage ya think??? oh and this is all providing his wife allows me to marry him. he siad she will be cool with it, but I dont know. heheheh
merry xmas
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| Have you ever written to someone without seeking a date?
Posted: 10/11/2007 5:04:12 PM | Well said Daisie!
None of my contacts here ever have I asked for a date.
All I've ever sought here was friends, and it just so happened that in getting to know one exceptional woman we fell in love.
And we're both still here, offering our advice, encouragement, and support to others still searching, as well as those who aren't! | |
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| Have you ever written to someone without seeking a date?
Posted: 10/11/2007 5:12:04 PM | Yep! Complimented on some of the pictures they have as well. And have had others write to me for the same reason. A lot of very nice people are actually out there amongst the 'others'. Not looking anymore - got tired of the 'games' being played and decided to keep the friends I've met here and the forums are interesting too. | |
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| Have you ever written to someone without seeking a date?
Posted: 10/11/2007 6:28:09 PM | Absolutely...all the time. But it's from the forums..I don't go into the "Matches" area, it makes my head hurt.
I have, in the short time I have been here, read marvelous posts. Some I agreed with, some I didn't, but the sheer force of intelligence, passion and personality shines through and I just have to say something to them. I find there are a few special people whose posts really reach down and touch me..I look for their posts because I know I'm going to enjoy them, and probably learn something. I've been humbled more than once on here by the heart, depth and other qualities I have seen.
Finding someone here is kind of like a bonus..if it happens...wonderful. If it doesn't..well I sure have enjoyed all the marvelous people I have gotten to know a little. I am sad to say there is at least one man who is too far away for anything other than friends and pen pals (shucks!) But he is brilliant, handsome and talented...and I am honored to call him friend. Other than that I am just going with the flow...
There are some women I've met on here too who just wow me...and it's nice to get emails from them to.
Nuff said..I like it here | |
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| Have you ever written to someone without seeking a date?
Posted: 10/11/2007 6:43:16 PM | Absolutely, shortly after joining pof a few weeks ago, I read a profile by petiteblonde24, it was profound. Anyone wanting to be in a loving relationship would benefit by reading it.
She comments on, for lack of a better term the "biegeness" of a lot of the profiles, people in the world in general, and encourages herself and others to overcome their fears and lay out their true values , wants,desires and need for love.
I could really relate as I had just come out of a failed long term relationship where both of us were relatively unavailable for a loving relationship for a variety of reasons.
Due to the level of liars, headgamers and nasty people out in the main fish tank I'm spending more and more time lurking on the forums and have to agree with some of the previous posters, an awful lot of good people here.
I'll probably never post again, so I don't want to leave without tipping my hat to my brother phisher Mr.Dynomite as well. His posting on this thread like most others is right on the money and very entertaining. Every time I'm reading a thread , I cross my fingers hoping he's going to post 4-5 words and level those that deserve it with his bulldozer acerbic sarcastic wit.
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| Have you ever written to someone without seeking a date?
Posted: 10/11/2007 8:24:28 PM | | I write to whomever i have a comment for... I've written peeps to tell them, they should get rid of the mullet, the 80's are over... Or just to tell them about their spelling mistakes... They always end up being friends in the end... it's fun... | |
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