| Disease testing before sex?
Posted: 10/9/2008 10:02:21 PM | Maybe having sex in the first place is immoral! If people were celibate than there will be world peace.  .
People should have to get a permit with a clean bill of health. | |
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| Disease testing before sex?
Posted: 10/9/2008 10:23:19 PM | Try Planned Parenthood. They offer testing very affordably. I know that some people hate the idea of losing spontaneity, but waiting a week or two for test results is far better than getting an unwelcome surprise. My suggestion is that if you think your new relationship has a decent chance of heading in an intimate direction, be honest about your desire to have both of you get those tests "just in case" you decide to get closer. It's unlikely to turn off your prospective lover. On the contrary, they'll start to be thinking of what you'll be doing after those results are in!  This might also be a good time to explore the related topics of birth control or what the plan would be if a pregnancy did occur. If they were turned off by the topic, that would definitely seem like a red flag to me. | |
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| Disease testing before sex?
Posted: 10/9/2008 10:37:45 PM | I believe in being tested.
With everything that is going around these days
I would not consent to having unprotected sex with any one.
However a kiss and cuddle are needed to know
if you want to take it to the next level.
I think asking some one to be tested is a sign of respect
often people are too scared to broach the subject themselves
and it is a relief when the other person does.
If however they react badly to having tests consider yourself
lucky they probably have something to hide.. you got off lightly.
If you need to find a STD lab google it to find your nearest. | |
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| Disease testing before sex?
Posted: 10/9/2008 11:31:17 PM |
And would that be an unreasonable thing to ask someone?
OP - I think it would be unreasonable if they balked at you asking them for one, or if you were asked for one. Times change, and people shouldn't be dumb enough to play russuin roulette with their bodies. Asking to be tested prior to intercourse shows responsibility not only for your sake, but for their sake as well. Blissful ignorance applies in a lot of things, but sex (and diseases) ain't among them.
I generally get myself tested right after I'm with someone. If I'm with them for prolonged periods of time, I don't usually bother, but shortly after we break I'll get myself checked out. I just got myself checked out a couple weeks back (again) actually. I used to go every 6 months regularly, and stopped when I was with my last ex (together for 6 years) as I didn't see a point. I'm thinking I'll get it done every 6 months just for the Hell of it and just to stay on the safe side. One less thing for either of us to worry about.
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| Disease testing before sex?
Posted: 10/10/2008 4:23:40 PM | | Big Daddy Jinx gets tested after a relationship ends and says [I'm thinking I'll get it done every 6 months just for the Hell of it and just to stay on the safe side. ] Clients who don't practise safer sex often tell me they get tested regularly because "better safe than sorry". I don't get it. Using protection for three months (HIV window period) and then both getting tested strikes me as a more logical solution. If the condom is going to come off, at least you have a better idea of what you're getting into - so to speak. | |
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| Disease testing before sex?
Posted: 10/10/2008 4:37:43 PM |
gets tested after a relationship ends and says [I'm thinking I'll get it done every 6 months
I get tested between partners and every 3 months regardless...
Plus I donate blood regularly...and it gets tested...
I won't put my parts in another woman until I know she's tested and I've seen the paper work.... I can wait a few months to be sure.... | |
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| Disease testing before sex?
Posted: 10/10/2008 8:05:30 PM |
Big Daddy Jinx gets tested after a relationship ends and says [I'm thinking I'll get it done every 6 months just for the Hell of it and just to stay on the safe side. ] Clients who don't practise safer sex often tell me they get tested regularly because "better safe than sorry". I don't get it. Using protection for three months (HIV window period) and then both getting tested strikes me as a more logical solution. If the condom is going to come off, at least you have a better idea of what you're getting into - so to speak.
The last LTR I was in lasted 6 years, so as I mentioned, I didn't see much point or need to get myself tested every 6 months as I had previously. Perhaps I may have been a little too naive for my own good, I mean, assuming my ex was going to be faithful and all (which she was), and this is why regardless of how long my relationship may last next go 'round, I think I'm gonna go back to regular testing as I had done in the past. I know I can be faithful in a relationship, but assuming my SO can be or will be is a little far fetched. Kinda like driving a car...I trust myself behind the wheel, I just don't trust anyone else on the road.
As for this 3 month grace period with a rubber...that'd never happen with me. I'd rather just wait the 3 months and then get tested together. At least that gives me something to look forward to. 90 days away from the promised land. Sex with a rubber for 3 months would bore me to tears, so I wouldn't even bother. I'm just sayin'...
Average waiting period for me is 2-3 months anyways. Pretty much always has been. I spend that time getting to know my potential mate intimately first before I throw her the leg. Few exceptions to the rule here and there, but very few and very far between.
So therefore, to me, the most logical course would be abstinence for that 3 month period before the mutual testing. Even with a rubber is still potential risk. Only 100% way to make sure you're not gonna contract something is to not bother.
Once you know you're clean, game on...
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| Disease testing before sex?
Posted: 10/11/2008 12:11:39 AM |
Sex with a rubber for 3 months would bore me to tears, so I wouldn't even bother. I'm just sayin'...
I think a lot of people don't get that...
I'm the same way.... I'd rather not bother than wear the condom... I can wait 3 months... I don't need sex that badly that I'd smother my little friend in a latex bag and force him to perform...
As one of my friends put it years ago... wearing a condom is like taking a bath with your socks on.... | |
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| Disease testing before sex?
Posted: 10/12/2008 12:05:46 AM | As a woman I wouldn't be offended at all. I know I'm healthy -at my age visit the gyn-ob every 6 months is a must-, so no problem at all.
Women as men has the right to protect themselves and be sure their health wouldn't be affected.
If women can ask, and most of us do it; why to be offended if a guy does it???? | |
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