| Should women write first?
Posted: 8/15/2009 7:11:49 AM | I have written first. I get some replies but I would rather a man contact me first. I have kids and I am a bigger woman. If men are not attracted to these thing it won't work out. I know there has to be an attraction. I am a little old school where I like the man to contact first but times have changed. We all have to change a little with time and deal with it. I try reply to most people and like the same respect.  | |
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| Should women write first?
Posted: 8/15/2009 7:20:17 AM | | It's good in 'theory'.......I always respond to my e-mails, even if it's just to say 'no thank you'. | |
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| Should women write first?
Posted: 8/15/2009 9:20:40 AM | | I haven’t messaged anyone for about a year. The “Read and Delete” is getting old. If women feel that because they receive 100 emails per day they can treat men like shit, they don’t deserved to be messaged in the first place. If you don’t have time to respond to all your “nice and decent” messaged even if it’s to say; “Thanks but sorry, we are not a fit”, they shouldn’t be here. | |
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| Should women write first?
Posted: 8/15/2009 10:33:20 AM |
I haven’t messaged anyone for about a year. The “Read and Delete” is getting old
"Unread and deleted" is even worse. That's why when I send an email I delete it from my sent box right away. So I don't see what happens to it. I figure if she's interested she'll get back to me and if not....
I actually also prefer if someone isn't interested they not reply at all. That's just me. Even saying "thanks but I don't think we're a match" get's old I think we're a good match. I've thought of putting in my profile not to respond at all if you're not interested, but I think this would be too negative. | |
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| Should women write first?
Posted: 8/15/2009 10:33:35 AM | | Of course! Why miss an opportunity to connect with someone who I find is compatible and attractive to me. | |
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| Should women write first?
Posted: 8/15/2009 11:50:49 AM |
I haven’t messaged anyone for about a year. The “Read and Delete” is getting old. If women feel that because they receive 100 emails per day they can treat men like shit, they don’t deserved to be messaged in the first place. If you don’t have time to respond to all your “nice and decent” messaged even if it’s to say; “Thanks but sorry, we are not a fit”, they shouldn’t be here.
That's also a problem; I've politely declined dates from men saying, "Thanks, but no thanks, I just don't think we're a good match. Good luck on your search!".... a good half of them lash back in anger. Then, when I don't respond at all, they either complain about it in the forums ( ) or shoot out another message telling me how rude I am. It's a double-edged sword - you're damned if you do, damned if you don't.
It's crucial to not take it personally. Not receiving back a reply should tell you right away that they just aren't interested and it makes the weeding out process a little easier. | |
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| Should women write first?
Posted: 8/15/2009 12:13:19 PM |
Then, when I don't respond at all, they either complain about it in the forums () or shoot out another message telling me how rude I am. It's a double-edged sword - you're damned if you do, damned if you don't.
I'm not defending the rudeness, but just keep in mind men constantly put up with rejection. We do the bulk of the asking and get the lions share of the rejection. It does get frustrating. You should also keep in mind not to take it personally. Again, I'm not defending the rudeness, just explaining it. The only time I've emailed women back is when they have given me incredibly positive feedback then suddenly changed their minds at the last minute. But even then I wasn't rude, just asked what the story was. But I never got a straight answer. | |
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