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| | Sex with minorsPage 21 of 35 (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13, 14, 15, 16, 17, 18, 19, 20, 21, 22, 23, 24, 25, 26, 27, 28, 29, 30, 31, 32, 33, 34, 35) | | It's hard to reply because I'm hit from all angles here. Ok as I have said maybe they have lots in common, I mean what commonalities could a 55 and a 39 year old have? yet thats acceptable, all I'm saying is age doesn't dictate what you have in common with some one else. Why does it have to be an ego boost for him? maybe he genuinely likes her. As for the shyness thing, I'm not sure what help youre reffering to I sought help for my social anxiety issues but i am no more relaxed it is not something you can just snap out of like every 1 thinks it is. | |
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Posted: 10/5/2007 4:05:31 PM | Send all the pedophiles my way! (really, it's my own personal hate) I have some interesting experiments that include fire ants and jock straps. Of course if I run out of ants.. razors and iodine will do nicely.
sick.. I have absolutely no tolerance for men (or women) who are too f-ed up to have sex with adults. There is something seriously wrong with a grown person who finds children arousing...and I include 17 year old girls in that category...unless the person is only 20. There is a big difference between a 30 year old man and a 17 year old girl and a 40 year old man and a 27 year old woman. Although the idea still kind of grosses me out.
Leave the kids alone for god's sake... | |
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Posted: 10/5/2007 4:26:12 PM | im not trying to be mean or anything...just trying to understand...what does 'social anxiety' have to do with pursuing a minor or in this case a 17 yo?...
seems as though you feel you have limited social skills and are viewing yourself as a victim of some sort, but i still dont see the relevance...are you trying to say that you are unable to relate to women in your age group because your maturity level is on a lower scale?
even if this is the case, coming from that mindset, how do you justify, hypothetically, a 17yo who you may be able to relate to mentally a candidate for dating? you are still the 'adult' and isnt it up to you develop some type of 'moral code' and boundry for yourself so you dont possibly hurt others because of your own self proclaimed 'dysfunction'?... | |
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Posted: 10/5/2007 4:36:03 PM | Come on Vinny, now you're getting ridiculous again , sweet Jezussssss
Ok as I have said maybe they have lots in common, I mean what commonalities could a 55 and a 39 year old have? yet thats acceptable how about they're both adults for starters.
all I'm saying is age doesn't dictate what you have in common with some one else. sure it does, what happens if the guy decides to take this 17 year old out to a nice restaurant and waiter/waitress brings the wine, what then? how about a movie where she has to be over 18 years old, what then?
what could a 17 year old have in common with a 25 year old? other then their horny and want to have sex | |
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Posted: 10/6/2007 4:53:55 PM | | princess i agree with what youre saying but ppl are getting me confused with the guy in the thread topic. The anxiety disorder i was reffering to myself as to why i cant date women my age, I DO NOT WANT TO DATE 17 year olds, i simply don't date period and hearing the loser comments regarding old men like myself who can't date got under my skin. Once you reach a certain stage theres no where left to go, i am now old enough that any woman my age is in a completely different legue and is light years above me and would never ever accept me therefore i'm stuck. A question that comes to mind is what if youre both adults but one of the adults is as mentally capable as a child....isnt that tantamount to child abuse? it seems like once you hit a certain birthday youre on your own so who is supposed to protect the adults who cant protect themselves? it seems like every 1s attitude is "well if you cant take care of yourself by a certain age you deserve what you get" so what? if youre over 18 and inadeqaute you should just be left to die? your life is over we just worry about those under 18? right now i am not even talking about the guy in the thread or any dating of 17 year olds i'm talking about me and how a person gets to a stage where dating is an impossibility and how and why it hurts when you are called a loser for it. | |
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Posted: 10/6/2007 7:31:02 PM | Not that im saying its ok to call you a loser vinny but at what point are you?
At what level of social inept is it ok to be a loser?
In my book its not.
The difference between socially inept people and those that arent are the oppurtunitys passed up along the way. Actions and consequences what did you say no to, to be the way you are today?
Thats what you have the problem with thats what you need to change. Stop saying no stop being scared and go out there and give your all and get stomped by somebody expierince life and you dont have to worry about what age the girl your dating is cause once you start to expirience anything you catch up pretty quickly to where your suppose to be. SAY YES TO YOURSELF Instead of saying ehhh no i'd rather do x thing instead of getting out there and getting to know people around your age that enjoy similar things. | |
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Posted: 10/7/2007 4:48:20 PM | | I say again though, this is not something you can just snap out of. I have said "YES" to myself many times but all i experience is terror, no mater what i experience it never gets easier and theres really no options socially speaking. Most social scenerios involving young ppl i find very threatening because it seems like its a challenge to go to a party without getting stabbed or randomly beaten to death. The socializing i find most comfortable is talking with much older members of my family because most older ppl arnt violent, but you arnt goanna meet too many women that way. Plus I'm on foot i don't/can't drive and everything i do is alone so i can't exactly go to the bar, I mean walking several blocks at night alone walking into a bar alone,I know well adjusted ppl who couldnt'd do that and in actuality I have done that before a few times but it never got easier. I truthfully think this is something a person is born with some ppl can do things others can't just because. | |
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Posted: 10/7/2007 4:52:31 PM | | as long as they wash the coal dust off its ok | |
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Posted: 10/7/2007 7:10:17 PM | Vinny...
You don't mention having sought professional help, or if you did , I missed it. That might be a more appropriate avenue than to try dating much younger women. Deal with the social anxiety in a responsible manner. Mental health professionals deal with similar clients all the time .You are not the only one who can't seem to fix themselves on their own. Social anxiety is a real illness. Some cases are very extreme and professional help is a very reasonable option. | |
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Posted: 10/8/2007 6:57:53 AM | | i have sought professional help and unfortunately i seem to know more about it than they do...im taking meds that dont work and im currently being assesed by a psychologist but everything takes so long....in the mean time i still gotta live. | |
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Posted: 10/8/2007 8:23:37 AM | if a 25 year old was dating my daughter at that age, I would shoot him in the knee caps.
My buddy is 21 and dating a 16 year old and that to me is really f*ckin weird. Like when I see highschool kids now, they all look so young, I'd feel like a pedo. | |
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Posted: 10/8/2007 8:50:44 AM | sex with minors is not ok!
parents need to talk to their kids often, do not go out with strangers, dont get into strangers cars, if you leave with a friend come back with that friend etc etc etc. may not be fool proof, but talking to your kids does help. | |
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Posted: 10/8/2007 11:00:34 AM | Dude, shes a chick, I think she knows what she wants. Besides, she said they can, not will, jackass. Settle down, she's just trying to say, that some teens want it, and if it cant hurt them, and its in gods design to do it, than its up to the teen. I bet your honey daughter cringed when she reads your post and is hiding her boyfriend. HAHAHA  | |
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waidh
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Msg: 514 | |
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Posted: 10/9/2007 11:50:58 AM | There are exceptions people. When I was 17 I was dating a 36 year old. I was EXTREMELY mature for my age mentally. I had been living ON MY OWN since I was 15, I was doing school correspondence because I didn't feel comfortable at a regular high school AND I had 2 part time jobs. I had liked this guy for a while as I had been noticing him around my circle of friends. I also had friends that were very much older as I was because the "kids" my age annoyed me and we had absolutely nothing in common. The man i dated was very sweet and sincere and romantic and i still think about him to this day...i wonder how it would have turned out if i hadn't of moved out of the city for 6 months (i was taking another job) and broken up with him. We dated for about 2 months...and guess what people???? We never even had sex.... OOOOO what a shocker.!!!!(i like to take things slowly in relationships)We spent a lot of time hanging out with friends, having get togethers, going for coffee, played a lot of yahtzee (lol) and believe me people I could out drink him and all of his friends anyday. I was no innocent 17 year old and I was the one that pursued him relentlessly till I got him.
He is until this very day the sweetest man I was ever with and he treated me like gold.
So what kinds of theories are you going to come up with for that?  | |
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Posted: 10/9/2007 1:00:19 PM | | I say good for you, if it works it works I must warn you though that the rest of the ppl here are going to give this fellow you mention more flack than if he was a f uckin serial killer and yet if the guy was your age and was bending you over a park bench every weekend giving you std's up the a ss no pun intended after he got 3 of your friends pregnant and all he was about was drinking and ganging up with his friends and their retard baggy pants to curb stomp and or stab some poor dude which is common place for most 17 year old males today....that would be ok because he's the same age as you right? | |
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Posted: 10/9/2007 2:04:58 PM | waidh, That doesn't say much for the guy does it? what kind of guy at 36 years old would date a 17 year old, thats not only creepy but if that guy played hockey with some of the guys I know (not thug guys) most would of fried his worthless ass, doesn't matter if you pursued him or not, he should know better. You're going to tell me at 17 years old you were a mature as the average 36 year old? yeah ok I hope if I get my wisdom tooth out the Tooth Fairy will slip me Superbowl tickets too.
So what if you moved out of town , you're not together are you? so I don't buy that argument, if it was meant to be he would of worked on it no matter what.
Vinny , im still shaking my head at you kid, why are you comparing Thugs to the average Teenager, what you are describing are thugs. | |
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waidh
| | Joined: 8/4/2007
Msg: 517 | |
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Posted: 10/9/2007 4:57:23 PM | ^^^^^^^
yup.
that's exactly what i am telling you. i was that mature...
and it was i who broke up with him. he had no choice in the matter. unfortunately i thought it was best for him because i was so far away. He wanted to come with me but I didn't want someone to give up their life for me. If by working on it you mean following me around against my wishes and being a stalker then perhaps you are the one with the issue...?...just a thought. either way . i stand by my statement that he was the sweetest man i have ever been with.
Of course i also do not deny that this was a rare situation and does not happen often. I am not endorsing this stuff. I am merely stating that there are exceptions in life...TO EVERYTHING | |
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Posted: 10/9/2007 7:16:08 PM | ummmm Waidh, I know this arcane process called "reading"is difficult for some, but you want to show me where I said He should follow you around against your wishes like a stalker?
You're the one that said hes the sweetest man you known, he treat you like Gold, and you moved away, and now you say you don't want him to follow you around like a stalker? ok  | |
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Posted: 10/9/2007 7:21:49 PM | | thats because where I come from the average teenager is a thug. I'm from the west side of saskatoon which is pretty much the native version of boyz n the hood, dont get me wrong we have plenty of wiggers here too, all i can say is the average teenager in my world is a scumbag and if i had a daughter i wouldnt let her date one of those bandits without issuing her a freakin revolver for protection. | |
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waidh
| | Joined: 8/4/2007
Msg: 520 | |
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Posted: 10/9/2007 8:22:35 PM | im not going to bother rewriting to you what you wrote...figure it out by yourself...you're old enough. this conversation is done for me. it's sad that people get so worked up and judgemental they cant see past themselves.
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Posted: 10/10/2007 2:35:44 AM | As a fit father, I would say this is a stupid question! Why would someone go for under age people???
Don't you have enought balls to get someone of your age?
Kids or minors as you say don't know better.
Yes there is laws in every country, but no matter where you leave on earth when you are 14, 15, 16 you go out with 14, 15, 16 and it's ok for them to learn and explore as it's part of growing up. They are learnig between themeself, I'm not saying that I'm pushing them to have sex, but at lease they are aware on how to use protections .
Beside If your looking for victims, go to bars at lease they are adults and some will go for a quicky!
Kids are the future, don't mess with their head and heart!
It's my opinion anyway... | |
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Posted: 10/12/2007 3:11:41 AM | | If you live in a nation where its breaking the law than you are , if you are not breaking any laws in your country than knock yourselves out . Its really that simple folks . No need to make it more complicated than it is . | |
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JWA
| | Joined: 5/21/2005
Msg: 523 | |
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Posted: 10/12/2007 4:50:50 AM |
ummmm Waidh, I know this arcane process called "reading"is difficult for some, but you want to show me where I said He should follow you around against your wishes like a stalker?
You're the one that said hes the sweetest man you known, he treat you like Gold, and you moved away, and now you say you don't want him to follow you around like a stalker? ok
Its ironic that in a post advising the "arcane process of reading" also seems to completely miss the point of Waidh's post. She was SEVENTEEN when she dated the 36 year old guy, she's now 27-------by my "reading" that's a full ten years or so in the past?
She also described when she left town he wanted to accompany her due the relationship and/or connection they had. We've hopefully all had someone we cared for so much we thought about relocating----if not then perhaps we've just never met someone who'd motivate us in that way.
I think you're misinterpreting Waidh's post---you might try reading things yourself first---it would help considerably! | |
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Posted: 12/26/2007 6:16:31 AM | I think it's up to the people ACTUALLY involved
if the 16 old wants 2 b with the other person then let them.
also in Australia you have to be 16 to be legal to have sex, so if your kid doesnt noe the precautions...y'no...you shud b worried..so teach them wat they need 2 noe and let them learn there own life lessons and learn from there own mistakes | |
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Posted: 12/26/2007 6:23:25 AM | | The law is clear enough. In previous times, though, marriage was often between people that in today's world would be minors. There is 'age of consent' too. | |
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