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 slow_hand_001
Joined: 8/28/2006
Msg: 626
This thread is ONLY about legal sexPage 26 of 35    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13, 14, 15, 16, 17, 18, 19, 20, 21, 22, 23, 24, 25, 26, 27, 28, 29, 30, 31, 32, 33, 34, 35)
I have read a lot of opinions in this post and most of them come down to people imposing their morality on others. Bottom line is no parent wants to see an older dude sleeping with their daughter.

A simple question is this, lets assume the girl is 17, or 17 and 6 months or even 17 and 11 months. Immediately she turns 18 will your opinion change because If your whole argument is based on then law then once she turns 18 you have no case and will simply need to shut
up.
 Arugula
Joined: 11/5/2006
Msg: 627
Sex with minors
Posted: 1/7/2008 5:10:29 AM
YOUR post 611:



The question raised was:If a 25-year-old man was interested in a 17-year-old girl, and it is completely legal for the two of them to have sex, would you see this as unacceptable.

Hope that clears it up for all of you. This thread is ONLY about legal sex.


Changing your mind?

Your most recent post:


I will re-quote the OP:
I recently read a post from a 25 year old man who has a crush on a minor, the girl in question is according to him is 17 years old.

Since when did a "crush" mean "f*ck", which when I have heard anyone use it, seems to be a form of casual sex, with no feelings involved at all? So how on Earth is your post ON TOPIC?


Left a bit out didn't you? Here is the REAL post. Please note the questions asked in the Op as well as your previous post 611.



I recently read a post from a 25 year old man who has a crush on a minor, the girl in question is according to him is 17 years old. Personally I think this is unacceptable but some of the replies really shocked me. I have a 16 year old daughter and the thought of an adult male almost a decade older hitting on her troubles me as I feel at this age children are very venerable and should not be the target of 25 year old virgins (this claim was also made in the original post). Perhaps Im over protective so Id like to know what others think about what ages are acceptable for minors/17 year olds to have sex with adults from both male and females. If the genders were reversed would things be different? Whats you option on this?


And as I've stated over and over, I'm providing my opinion on THIS topic, not on a "crush."

More from you:



Let me be perfectly clear: If you think a "crush" is the same as "f*cking", then I pity you, for any man who has dated has had to learn to pick up on when women say one thing and mean another. You have made it perfectly clear that you equate a relationship with a f*ck. So any man who dates you will pick up that, and will react the same way as he would to any other woman who feels this way about relationships. She makes her bed, she lies in it, and that's all she gets, because that's all she can see.


Off Topic and completely unrelated to anything I've stated.

As far as your rant about me being charged and the illegality of me being able to get a protective or peace order, you might want to read up on the law. And in addition, I never once said I would "lie."
 ItsMargo
Joined: 4/24/2007
Msg: 628
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Posted: 1/7/2008 5:56:46 AM
I've mostly stayed out of this thread... because it was based on a thread that WAS a crush, the 25 yr old was a virgin and stated he wouldn't pursue sex with the girl in question. The OP of this thread didn't like some of the responses in that thread (your opinion was consistent Arugula in both threads) jumped off that and twisted the situation, making it about sex and being a predator.
 scorpiomover
Joined: 4/19/2007
Msg: 629
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Posted: 1/7/2008 2:57:05 PM
To Arugula:
1) I never changed my mind. Mahogany_rush started claiming that this was about illegal sex with minors. I merely pointed that this thread was only about legal situations.
When it came to you, you started talking about f*cking, so I had to correct you as well.
It is wise to read the Opening Post very carefully before posting, as I did, to ensure that you don't start talking about something that the OP never addressed.

2) You are nothing to do with me. I have no care or interest in whatever happens to your family. I know what usually happens to the daughters of a woman who expresses herself in a certain manner. But that is your issue. I have no desire to educate you in any way, or to help you to escape your fate, or the fate of your family. I normally look to help others wherever possible. But your posts suggest to me that you seem to think you are smart enough to handle your own family's issues on your own. I wish that you never have anything to do with me.

So there is absolutely 100% impossible for me to have anything to do with your family. I leave you to the tender mercies of other men, who are known to be quite open to taking advantage of women wherever possible, one of the things that I am known for not doing.
 scorpiomover
Joined: 4/19/2007
Msg: 630
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Posted: 1/7/2008 3:03:12 PM
To mahogany_rush:
Legal sex or not at that age, she's still a friggen MINOR, what I find so weird is, you can grant licenses and make it legal to have sex but they cant vote, purchase real estate, buy stocks, run for public office
Who do you think passes these laws? People in your legislature. And what do all these people have? Money, and young, horny teenage sons and daughters, who want sex, and who their fathers and mothers will anything to please.
 mc511
Joined: 11/17/2007
Msg: 631
This thread is ONLY about legal sex
Posted: 1/7/2008 5:55:53 PM
Alright most people who posted in this thread really dont know what they are talking about. Let go shall we

I was at the mall one night with my mother ( yes i comfortable enought to go shopping with her do to the fact i work their) and i was thinking about my friend who is 23. He said he was dating a 17 year old. I thought it was strange so i asked my mother what she thought. She said "Thats the way it is. Older guys like younger women." A few months later i was talking another girl who is my age. She said the same thing. Thats life people sorry. If someone who is 25 wants to go out with a 17 year old and she thinks that they can handle then thats on her. We dont know these two the author apparently is making the thread about. We dont know what they are like or even if they will engage in sex.

Minor is defind in many different countries and age of consent is also defind in my different states, so the law isnt really accurate. Sorry. Most girls mature faster than others. I know a girl i am hanging out with is 17. She has a job and already has colleges that she wants to go to. Most girls like jumping around all the time dressing up and acting like a tease.


To the author of this thread: Please dont post saying having sex with minors unless you know they are going to got at it but you dont and to be honest its none of your bussiness and you all should not be debating what this girl can and cant do with her sex life with a guy we know knowthing about. Sometimes i ask myself who is more mature: the ADULTS that debating what this girl can do with her life or the girl that isnt on an online dating site. You do the math. You are all adults.
 nascar3fan
Joined: 5/31/2006
Msg: 632
This thread is ONLY about legal sex
Posted: 1/7/2008 6:45:18 PM
^^^ I want this guy as my lawyer.

vvv It's not you that would need to be drinking.
 mc511
Joined: 11/17/2007
Msg: 633
This thread is ONLY about legal sex
Posted: 1/7/2008 6:49:29 PM

^^ I want this guy as my lawyer


Sorry i dont drink.
 HarleyDavidsonFXDL
Joined: 5/18/2007
Msg: 634
Sex with minors
Posted: 1/23/2008 12:55:21 PM
There is no Agument it is Legal,but if it is my Daughter and your Son there could cause a serious Argument.right after I convince that Local Red Neck that there could be Free Beer if that Son of yours came in contact with the Bumper of His truck.
 HarleyDavidsonFXDL
Joined: 5/18/2007
Msg: 635
This thread is ONLY about legal sex
Posted: 1/23/2008 12:57:27 PM
never undrestamate the stupidity of the american people
 tigerlily1
Joined: 12/20/2007
Msg: 636
Sex with minors
Posted: 1/23/2008 1:34:04 PM
25 verses 17 is not that bad at all-most boys are inmature even at 25, and some girls very mature at 17......

I have sons so I have different concerns to that one, but In memory as a young girl, I was much better off to have a dated a 25 yr old at 18, than an another 18 yr old, 18 is not far of 17 , if she is an immature uneducated girl then of course not, and the parents must play a role in all of this.

In real terms the law is to protect very young girls from being taken advantage of by older men, and being forced to stay with men they dont want to be with, in unwilling situations.

And having a crush on a 17 at 25 is very likely men fall love in with beauty and personality and it doesnt Mr 25 a sicko at all, or that he wants to have sex with a minor, it means he lieks this human being and according the law will have to wait, its not illegal to have the crush, it is just illegal to consumate the situation and who know s she may not want to anyway,.........

Common sense has to prevail and it doesn't seem to exsist on this site.......
 creativelust
Joined: 1/22/2008
Msg: 637
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Posted: 1/25/2008 11:54:57 PM
its not the men its the girls seriously 16-17 girls like older guys I know this cause I dated one. never again -_-
 Blk_Archangel7
Joined: 12/21/2007
Msg: 638
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Posted: 1/26/2008 12:02:30 AM
If they can bleed, they can breed. If there's grass on the feild, play ball.
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bunni, you're a joker
 kylie_xoxo
Joined: 1/17/2008
Msg: 639
Sex with minors
Posted: 1/26/2008 4:14:15 AM
Totally unacceptable. The power balance is unequal. It's not difficult for an older man to convince a young girl that she wants to have sex. Kids need to be allowed to grow up without being targeted by adults. I work with youth and I agree with you, it always shocks me how a lot of people seem to think it is okay. If you have a crush on a younger girl, let her grow up.
 crayonzz
Joined: 11/14/2007
Msg: 640
Sex with minors
Posted: 1/26/2008 4:49:11 AM
Now let me see?

When it comes to war
-- Sixteen year old boys fought, died, and killed people during Korea. Not just Korean boys thank you. Korean and US boys.

When it comes to independent living
-- My brother left home age 15 to take up full time employment

When it comes to work
-- See above.
BUT
At that age an iresponsible, drug adddicted parent can legally clean out his bank account.


So whats the big deal with sex.?

-- Are you telling me that a 16 year old, who has held a rresponsible job for a year, and has lived independently, taken care of herself, and paid her own bill hasn't got the maturity to organise her own sex life?

Get real please.
 apainlessend
Joined: 12/24/2006
Msg: 641
Sex with minors
Posted: 1/26/2008 5:10:34 AM

I recently read a post from a 25 year old man who has a crush on a minor, the girl in question is according to him is 17 years old. Personally I think this is unacceptable but some of the replies really shocked me. I have a 16 year old daughter and the thought of an adult male almost a decade older hitting on her troubles me as I feel at this age children are very venerable and should not be the target of 25 year old virgins (this claim was also made in the original post). Perhaps Im over protective so Id like to know what others think about what ages are acceptable for minors/17 year olds to have sex with adults from both male and females. If the genders were reversed would things be different? Whats you option on this?


Ummm sounds more like you wanting to know for yourself you creep ass.
And the age statue doesnt make it legal for an adult to have sex with a minor. It's when the minor is legally allow to have sex at all...
You my friend ass a genuine creep-a$$.
 mahogany_rush
Joined: 7/18/2007
Msg: 642
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Posted: 1/26/2008 6:33:24 AM
Ahhh Apainlesend, a young man that gets it, well congrats young man well said, my hats off to you.

crayonzz, you are so full of shit it isn't even funny, Im going to borrow the phrase from Apainlesend " the age statue doesnt make it legal for an adult to have sex with a minor. It's when the minor is legally allow to have sex at all."
Crayonzz, lets compare apples to apples not apples to pine apples , teens in the Koren war?? come on, different times different era , in our parents time it was common for 14 year old to get married and have a litter of children,don't see that much today unless you're hillbilly and not in contact with society.

Thats why laws have been amended to protect our children of today, how many 16 years old out there that have great jobs? most of them are either high school drop outs , working menial minimum paying jobs living in a room shared by tons of people , because some of them dont want to live at home and abide by their parents rules.
 ksthehunk
Joined: 3/1/2007
Msg: 643
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Posted: 1/26/2008 7:58:48 AM
hell no!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
 Imtheone7
Joined: 2/10/2007
Msg: 644
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Posted: 1/26/2008 8:54:41 AM
Read through this post.. you will find it very intersting.. It shows the ages of consent from around the world.. as well as by State...

Who would have thought that a large number of states would have a age of consent of 16 years old... How odd that a man having sex with a 17 year old in CA would be a sexual predator, while he could have sex with a girl that is 15 in Alabama and it is legal...


This table lists different countries around the world, and shows the ages in at which people of different sexualities can legally have sex.

If you're an adult, and you're reading this page for personal information, then you might need a more detailed explanation of these laws as they relate to adults - you can find this on our age of consent FAQ page.

If you're a young person, and you want to find out more, read our page on teens, sex and the law. You might also like to have a look at our "Am I ready for sex?" page.

This table should only be used as general guide - please also read the notes at the bottom of this page.

Country Male-Female Sex Male-Male Sex Female-Female Sex
Afghanistan ? Illegal Illegal
Albania 14 14 14
Algeria 16 Illegal Illegal
American Samoa ? ? ?
Andorra 16 16 16
Angola ? Illegal Illegal
Antigua and Barbuda 16 16 16
Argentina 13/16 13/16 13/16
Armenia 16 16 16
Aruba 16 16 16
Australia ACT 16 16 16
Australia NSW & Norfolk Is. 16 16 16
Australia NT 16 16 16
Australia Queensland1 16/18 18 16
Australia SA 17 17 17
Australia Tasmania 17 17 17
Australia Victoria 16 16 16
Australia WA 16 16 16
Austria2 14/16 14/16 14/16
Azerbaijan 16 16 16
Bahamas 16 18 18
Bahrain ? Illegal Illegal
Bangladesh ? Illegal Illegal
Barbados 16 Illegal Illegal
Belarus 16/18 16 16
Belgium 16 16 16
Belize 16 ? ?
Bermuda 16 18 16
Benin ? Illegal Illegal
Bhutan ? Illegal ?
Bolivia 14f/16m ? ?
Bosnia 16 16 16
Botswana 16f/14m Illegal ?
Brazil3 14/18 14/18 14/18
Brunei 14/16 Illegal Illegal
Bulgaria 14 14 14
Burkina Faso 13 13 13
Burma/Myanmar ? Illegal ?
Burundi 18 Illegal ?
Cambodia (Kampuchea) 16 ? ?
Cambodia 16 ? ?
Cameroon ? Illegal ?
Canada4 12/14/18 18 12/14
Cape Verde ? ? ?
Cayman Islands ? ? ?
Central African Republic ? ? ?
Chad ? 21 21
Chechenya ? ? ?
Chile 14 18 18
China 14 14 14
China - Hong Kong 16 16 16
China - Macao 16/17 ? ?
Chinese Taipei (Taiwan)
16 16 16
Colombia 14 14 14
Cook Islands 16 Illegal 16
Costa Rica 15 15 15
Cote D'Ivoire 15 15? 15?
Croatia 14 14 14
Cuba 16 16 16
Cyprus 13/17 17 (Illegal in north) 17
Czech Republic 15 15 15
Denmark 15 15 15
Dominica 16 ? ?
Dominican Republic 18 18 18
Dutch Antilles 16 16 16
Ecuador 14 14 14
Egypt 18 18/Illegal 18
El Salvador 18 ? ?
Equatorial Guinea ? ? ?
Eritrea 18 Illegal Illegal
Estonia 14 14 14
Ethiopia 15 Illegal Illegal
Falkland Islands (Malvinas) 16 16 16
Faroe Islands 15 15 15
Fiji 16 16 (unofficial) 16
Finland5 16 16 16
Former Yugoslav Republic of Macedonia 16 16 16
France 15 15 15
French Guiana 15 15 15
French Polynesia (Tahiti) 16 16 16
Gabon 18 18 18
Gambia ? Illegal ?
Georgia (country) 16 16 16
Germany6 14/16 14/16 14/16
Ghana ? ? ?
Greece 15 15/17 15
Greenland ? ? ?
Grenada 17 Illegal 17
Guam 16 16 16
Guadelope 15 15 15
Guatemala 18 18 18
Guinea 15 Illegal Illegal
Guyana 16 Illegal 16
Haiti 18 18 18
Honduras 14/17 14 14
Hungary 14 14 14
Iceland 15 15 15
India7 14/16 Illegal Illegal
Indonesia 16f/19m 18 18
Iran Must be married Illegal Illegal
Iraq 18 ? ?
Ireland 17 17 17
Israel 14-16 14-16 14-16
Italy 14 14 14
Jamaica 16 Illegal 16
Japan8 13-18 13-18 13-18
Jordan 16 16 16
Kazakhstan 18 ? ?
Kenya 16 Illegal 16
Kuwait Must be married? Illegal Illegal
Kyrgyzstan ? ? ?
Laos 15? ? ?
Latvia 14/16 14/16 14/16
Lebanon 15/18/Married Illegal Illegal
Lesotho ? ? ?
Liberia 16 Illegal Illegal
Liechtenstein 14 14 14
Lithuania 14 14 14
Luxembourg 16 16 16
Madagascar 21? 21 21
Mali 16 ? ?
Malta 18 18 18
Malaysia 16/Married Illegal 16
Marshall Islands 16 16 16
Martinique 15 15 15
Mauritius 15 Illegal Illegal
Mexico9 12-18 12-18 12-18
Moldova 14 14 14
Monaco 15 15 15
Mongolia 16 ? ?
Montenegro 14 14 14
Morocco 15 Illegal Illegal
Mozambique ? Illegal ?
Namibia 16 Illegal 16
Nepal 16 ? ?
Netherlands 16 16 16
Netherlands Antilles 16 16 16
New Caledonia 16 16 16
New Zealand 16 16 16
Nicaragua ? ? ?
Niger ? 21 21
Nigeria 13 Illegal Illegal
North Korea Undefined Undefined Undefined
Norway5 16 16 16
Oman Must be married Illegal Illegal
Pakistan Must be married Illegal Illegal
Panama 12/18? ? ?
Papua New Guinea10 16f/14m/Illegal Illegal 16
Paraquay11 14/16 16 16
Peru 14 14 14
Philippines12 12/18 12/18 12/18
Poland 15 15 15
Portugal13 14/16 14/16 14/16
Puerto Rico 14 14 14
Qatar Must be married Illegal Illegal
Reunion 16 16 16
Romania 15 15 15
Russia 16 16 16
Rwanda 18 18 18
San Marino 14/16 14/16 14/16
Saudi Arabia Must be married Illegal Illegal
Senegal ? Illegal Illegal
Serbia 14 14 14
Singapore 16 Illegal 16
Slovakia 15 15 15
Slovenia 15 15 15
Somalia ? Illegal Illegal
South Africa 16 16 16
South Korea 13 13 13
Spain 13 13 13
Sri Lanka 16 Illegal 16
St. Kitts and Nevis 14/16 ? ?
St. Martin ? ? ?
Sudan Must be married Illegal Illegal
Suriname 16 18 18
Sweden 15 15 15
Swaziland 18 Illegal Illegal
Switzerland 16 16 16
Syria 13/15 Illegal Illegal
Tajikistan 17 ? 17
Tanzania 18 Illegal Illegal
Thailand14 15/18 15/18 15/18
Togo 14 Illegal Illegal
Tonga15 16/Illegal Illegal 16
Trinidad & Tobago 16 Illegal Illegal
Tunisia 20 Illegal Illegal
Turkey 18 18 18
Turkmenistan 16 Illegal 16
Tuvalu ? Illegal ?
Uganda 18 Illegal 18
Ukraine 16 16 16
United Arab Emirates 18/Married Illegal Illegal
Uzbekistan 16 Illegal 16
Uruguay 15 15 15
Vanuatu 15 18 18
Venezuela 16 16 16
Vietnam 18 18 18
Western Samoa 16 Illegal Illegal
Yemen Must be married Illegal Illegal
Zaire ? Illegal ?
Zambia ? Illegal ?
Zimbabwe 12/16 Illegal 12/16
United Kingdom England, Scotland, Wales Jersey, Isle of Man 16 16 16
United Kingdom Northern Ireland 17 17 17
United Kingdom Guernsey and Gibraltar 16 18 16
USA Alabama 16 Law invalidated Law invalidated
USA Alaska 16 16 16
USA Arizona 18 Law repealed Law repealed
USA Arkansas16 14/16 Law invalidated Law invalidated
USA California 18 18 18
USA Colorado16 15/17 15/17 15/17
USA Connecticut 16 16 16
USA D.C. 16 Law repealed Law repealed
USA Delaware16 16/18 Law repealed Law repealed
USA Florida16 16/18 Law invalidated Law invalidated
USA Georgia 16 16 16
USA Hawaii 16 Law repealed Law repealed
USA Idaho16 16/18 Law invalidated Law invalidated
USA Illinois 17 17 17
USA Indiana16 14/16 14/16 14/16
USA Iowa16 14/16 Law repealed Law repealed
USA Kansas 16 Law invalidated Law invalidated
USA Kentucky 16 Law invalidated Law invalidated
USA Louisiana 17 Law invalidated Law invalidated
USA Maine 16 16 16
USA Maryland 16 Law invalidated Law invalidated
USA Massachusetts 16 Law invalidated Law invalidated
USA Michigan 16 Law invalidated Law invalidated
USA Minnesota 16 Law invalidated Law invalidated
USA Mississippi 16 Law invalidated Law invalidated
USA Missouri16 14/17 Law repealed Law repealed
USA Montana 16 Law invalidated Law invalidated
USA Nebraska 17 Law repealed Law repealed
USA Nevada 16 Law invalidated Law invalidated
USA New Hampshire 16 Law invalidated Law invalidated
USA New Jersey 16 16 16
USA New Mexico 17 17 17
USA New York16 15/17 15/17 15/17
USA North Carolina 16 Law invalidated Law invalidated
USA North Dakota 18 Law repealed Law repealed
USA Ohio 16 Law repealed Law repealed
USA Oklahoma 16 Law invalidated Law invalidated
USA Oregon 18 18 18
USA Pennsylvania 16 16 16
USA Rhode Island 16 Law repealed Law repealed
USA South Carolina16 14/16 Law invalidated Law invalidated
USA South Dakota 16 Law repealed Law repealed
USA Tennessee 18 Law Invalidated Law Invalidated
USA Texas16 17 Law invalidated Law invalidated
USA Utah16 16/18 Law invalidated Law invalidated
USA Vermont 16 Law repealed Law repealed
USA Virginia 18 Law invalidated Law invalidated
USA Washington16 16/18 16/18 16/18
USA West Virginia 16 Law invalidated Law invalidated
USA Wisconsin 18 18 18
USA Wyoming 16 Law repealed Law repealed
USA Traveling Citizens 18 18 18
USA Military personnel17 16 Illegal Illegal
Average age* 16 16 16

General notes
If more than one age is given then the law within that country or state varies according to region or circumstances. In particular, some countries have regional laws that may overrule the federal law. Also in some cases the age of consent is lower when partners are of a similar age. Where the symbol ? is used, information is either incomplete or unavailable.

In some countries the age of consent is higher for those taking part in commercial sex. In many countries the age of consent is higher when one partner is in a position of trust with regard to the other, or when one partner takes advantage of the other's immaturity. Age of consent laws often do not apply when the partners are married.

In this table, male-female sex is defined as vaginal or anal sex, and male-male sex is defined as anal sex. Other sexual activities may be legal at a lower age.

* The average age of consent does not include countries where it is illegal.

Footnotes
In Queensland, the legal age of consent for anal intercourse is 18 (regardless of gender), while for vaginal intercourse it is 16.
Although the Austrian age of consent is basically 14, it is illegal to have sex with someone under 16 by "exploiting their lack of maturity".

In Brazil, authorities may not choose to prosecute if the younger partner is aged 14 to 17 and does not lodge a complaint.
In Canada, consensual activity with those over 12 may not be an offence if the accused is under 16 and less than two years older than the complainant. The exception is anal intercourse, to which unmarried persons under 18 cannot legally consent according to national law, although provincial laws may vary.
 apainlessend
Joined: 12/24/2006
Msg: 645
Sex with minors
Posted: 1/26/2008 4:15:55 PM
Perhaps it's the hours I spent studying abnormal/criminal psychology, mayhaps it is just instinct. However, he pretends that the topic applies to a 3rd party...but he only has few SERIOUS posts anywhere else. Prior to that one. And now he is gone. So of all the topics alloted here, when you finally choose to post it is on THIS subject? Come on guys use your heads.

I take NOTHING at face value.

He is a cheap CREEP who wants to verify that he can sleep with a 17 year old he found online. (Who is probably poor and estranged from her shitty shitty parents.) And I say he is cheap because he isn't seeking LEGAL help because he can't afford it. When he didn't receive anything diefinitive, POOF. He probably has a completley different profile. The internet disgusts me.
 slideforlife
Joined: 3/6/2007
Msg: 646
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Posted: 1/26/2008 5:46:53 PM
As a teenager, I lost my virginity to someone 15 years older than me.

thank god i chose someone who had been around for a while.

we should all be so lucky.


 MotherOfEight
Joined: 2/16/2007
Msg: 647
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Posted: 1/27/2008 3:42:45 PM
I think for you, as a father, the idea of anyone having sex with your daughter is a no-no.

I don't think someone else's desires/fantasies or whatever are your business.
 Confident-Realist
Joined: 2/8/2004
Msg: 648
Sex with minors
Posted: 1/27/2008 7:32:13 PM

The power balance is unequal. It's not difficult for an older man to convince a young girl that she wants to have sex.

There's a difference between just being under 18 and being a pre-adolescent. Yes, they have a lot of sexual desires -- whether they're a boy or a girl. Secondly, it's easier for a hot, older woman (2oish) to convince a young teen boy to have sex. In fact, the 14-16 year old boy would probably say, "You don't have to tell ME twice!"

I agree, there's a difference between male and female, and authoritative advantages on male-to-female, as opposed to female-to-male. But let's make this clear -- female teens have a desire to have sex. Male teens have a desire to have sex. I think it'd be judged on a case-by-case basis, and different rules for different age groups, etc.

Either way, it's not good for a sub 16-18 year old to have sex with someone significantly older. It's not good for an 18-20 year old girl to either. A line has to be drawn, and the severity of it depends on what went down. I think people go WAY too out of control about teens having sex with someone in their 20's. It's bad and should be a definite concern -- but they don't go out of control about innocent Suzy hooking up with a bunch of boys her own age which happens far far more often, and when it's about someone older "Oh, she didn't want it -- she had to be coerced!". Maybe, maybe not. But sorry, Suzy has desires too, just like Timmy's licking his chops over the hot choir teacher -- so all cases aren't as easy as pie ;)
 apainlessend
Joined: 12/24/2006
Msg: 649
Sex with minors
Posted: 1/28/2008 5:32:37 AM

Either way, it's not good for a sub 16-18 year old to have sex with someone significantly older. It's not good for an 18-20 year old girl to either


Pardon my lack of eloquence in saying this but, WHAT THE FU*K are you TALKING ABOUT?

Either way kids that age SHOULDNT BE HAVING SEX AT ALL!

I think back to all those mistakes I made as a youth, that shit damaged me.
THERE IS TOO MUCH TO BE WORRIED ABOUT PREPARING FOR AT THAT AGE TO BE SCREWING. IT takes your mind off the thing you NEED to be focused on...

Not to manage it stifles intellectual growth, and maturity.
It also give kids a false sense of maturity. E.G I am not an adult, but I do as adult do, so I must be. So they g about making adult descisions in other aspects of their lives.
Get a nasty "I am not that young" complex.
And screw up their lives.

The only people who AGREE with it being ok to screw at that age, are pervs, and people who did it them selves..
And those arent typically people who are gaingully employeed...or own homes.
 SAIUN
Joined: 5/23/2007
Msg: 650
Sex with minors
Posted: 1/28/2008 5:43:57 AM


Either way, it's not good for a sub 16-18 year old to have sex with someone significantly older. It's not good for an 18-20 year old girl to either.

Either way kids that age SHOULDNT BE HAVING SEX AT ALL!

Not to manage it stifles intellectual growth, and maturity.

The only people who AGREE with it being ok to screw at that age, are pervs, and people who did it them selves..
And those arent typically people who are gaingully employeed...or own homes.


Oh man, that's another can of worms entirely. I'm no expert but I think there are a heap of people who had sex between the ages of 16 and 20 who incurred no ill-effects, especially with regards to their intellectual growth and home ownership.

(Disclaimer: This post is in disagreement to the sections of the post quoted above, not in disagreement to the disapproval of adults having sex with minors.)
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