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Posted: 12/2/2007 11:06:00 PM | It's been awhile but when I read The Wisdom of Menopause by Northrup it talked about how hormones change a woman as she ages - when younger they found estrogen makes a woman want to nurture, as we get older our desire to nurture goes down as the hormone lessens and our desire to explore the world and know ourselves increases. Men want to explore the world when they are young and as they get older, become more laid back and less wanting to get out there. The book seemed to say there is scientific evidence to support the notion that older women should be with younger men who like these things about older women and older men with younger women (who still want to nurture them.) I've dated men 15 years older and ten years younger. Ideally, I'd prefer younger because I'd like the chance that he would be around for awhile. Age isn't really a big deal but attitude is--having a love for life and desire to learn and try new things is. If that means younger,  | |
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Posted: 12/3/2007 11:03:15 PM | | I think it would be hot to experience a younger man, say a 20 something....I had opportunities! I passed....because I knew my 20 something daughter would be disgusted or worse. I didn't want a relationship, just the experience, oh, gawd, the experience would be something else I bet. See, there are cougars out there. I will probably never do it, but it was flattering and it was tempting. On my list of things I'll regret....never experience a 20 something in my 40's. | |
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larhz
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Joined: 12/9/2007
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Posted: 12/19/2007 10:17:46 AM | To Faeryangel: Do not live with regret. Just live. Saying no to life never got anyone anywhere. The trick is to say Yes, Yes, emphatically YES!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!  | |
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Posted: 12/26/2007 11:29:45 PM | | Have you ever noticed this: When an older woman socializes with a younger man it is said that she is having a "boy toy". A nice term. BUT.....when an older man socializes with a younger woman......he's a "DIRTY OLD MAN". Is this a little discriminatory, or what??? | |
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Posted: 12/26/2007 11:59:51 PM | Lotus Flower said: "You said it Susu! Younger guys are HOT!"
So what about us older guys. Do you think we're dead? We can teach those young bucks a thing, or two about being gentlemen and treating the ladies like ladies as opposed to treating them like a piece of meat. The younger guys brains haven't progressed out of their pants yet! | |
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Posted: 12/27/2007 3:06:57 PM |
when an older man socializes with a younger woman......he's a "DIRTY OLD MAN". Is this a little discriminatory, or what???
When a man prefers young ladies I just figure he's looking to be a daddy - not to her, but to have babies | |
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Posted: 12/27/2007 4:54:30 PM | [The younger guys brains haven't progressed out of their pants yet!]
Yes, you get it. Thats the whole point. Some of us like that. | |
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larhz
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Joined: 12/9/2007
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Posted: 12/28/2007 5:25:43 PM | Have you ever noticed this: When an older woman socializes with a younger man it is said that she is having a "boy toy". A nice term. BUT.....when an older man socializes with a younger woman......he's a "DIRTY OLD MAN". Is this a little discriminatory, or what???
There's double standards on both sides of the fence. When men sleep around their thought of as a playboy not a slut. I truly doubt that it will ever become equal. I do agree with you partially on having more to offer on a mental note. The dirty old man may have experienced more life than the boy toy. I'm sure i'll have more to offer when i'm older, but that's not to say i don't have alot to offer now. | |
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Posted: 12/28/2007 9:03:08 PM | Most of the women that I know are 45+ or higher. None them like to socialize with anyone more than 5 years their junior. They say they have nothing in common and they aren't just looking for a quick roll in the hay. They prefer to socialize with men who are closer to their age, or a little older. Of course now....everyone is different and has different tastes in who they socialize with.
Many older men prefer to socialize with younger women because it keeps them thinking young. For many older men sex isn't that critical anymore. I know that's a little difficult to believe, but it's true. We've been there and done that. Now it's time for being close and without being physical. This is NOT to say we DON'T want to get physical. This is saying that sex isn't high on our priotity list as it is with the younger men. We are to a point where we would rather LET it happen than try to MAKE it happen. We are also to the point where if it doesn't happen...we won't be crying in our beer about it. We just take on the "maybe next time" attitude and work with it. | |
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Posted: 12/28/2007 9:43:44 PM | I believe that just about every Gal I know in my age group has been with or is with a man who is younger even by a few years. I have not heard any complaints from them. | |
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Posted: 12/28/2007 10:02:04 PM | I believe that just about every Gal I know in my age group has been with or is with a man who is younger even by a few years. I have not heard any complaints from them.
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And...more than likely you won't! As I said earlier....different people have different tastes in who they socialize with. The ladies that I know prefer to socialize with men closer to their age....within a couple of years, or less. A good majority of them prefer to date older men simply because older men treat ladies like ladies. Not like a sex object. | |
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larhz
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Joined: 12/9/2007
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Posted: 12/28/2007 11:05:58 PM | arapaho,
are you finding it more difficult to find women around your own age to date because they are only interested in younger guys? | |
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Posted: 12/29/2007 1:41:27 AM | Larhz said:
arapaho,
are you finding it more difficult to find women around your own age to date because they are only interested in younger guys?
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Larhz:
This is only part of the problem. Another part is a lot of women think that guys my age are dead. A lot of women have no respect for guys my age. When you get to be my age you learn very quickly that you are very often overlooked, ignored and rejected. Us older guys don't like that, but it's a fact! A hard, cold fact! If we are single and not attached to anyone...it's a real chore to find someone to socialize with. Frustrating as hell! At times it makes me wonder why I even look for someone. It seems like a total waste of time, energy and talent. But that's ok! I know very well that when one door closes...another one opens. So when I am overlooked, ignored, or rejected....I write that off has her loss. There'll be another one out there that will appreciate me for what I am. | |
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Posted: 12/29/2007 2:10:49 AM | Susu - you go girl! You want to start something for older women/younger men - go for it! BUT.. for me, I like sticking to close to my age range. I've dated younger men and frankly, outside of the bedroom - there was not much there. I figure a 7 year age difference is the max I would consider - in either direction.
What's that saying - we plan - God laughs?
Why the heck men's sex drive is highest in their early twenties and women's in their 40's, (and beyond) is perplexing to me. - Again - she's laughing!
But I know a site like you are considering would get lots of hits! | |
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Posted: 12/29/2007 2:25:37 PM | ""A good majority of them prefer to date older men simply because older men treat ladies like ladies. Not like a sex object."" --Arapaho
This has not been my experience. There are rude men who treat women like sex objects in All age groups, just as there are Well-mannered men of all ages. | |
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Posted: 12/29/2007 3:07:17 PM | Gingersnap said:
This has not been my experience. There are rude men who treat women like sex objects in All age groups, just as there are Well-mannered men of all ages.
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Good point! What I was saying is that a good majority of older men treat women with respect. I didn't say ALL of them did. Oh good heavens no! There are scoundrels in all age groups as you stated. When socializing with men one has to filter out the Boris Badenoff's from the Dudley Dorights. (Yes! I did like the Rocky/Bullwinkle show!)
On a personal note...I treat all women with the respect and dignity that they so rightly deserve. Unlike a lot of men...I don't push sex on a woman. That is a very quick, convenient way to instantly lose a potential friend. To me a woman is an equal....NOT a subrodinate. She is NOT a sex object for me to chase after with the intent of an intimate encounter. If I am with a woman long enough to where sex could happen I would rather LET it happen than try to MAKE it happen. If it happens...it was meant to happen. If it doesn't I won't be crying in my beer about it. | |
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Posted: 12/30/2007 7:51:31 PM | Yes that may be true older women like to go with younger men. I had a relationship with a older woman before i came here and it lasted for 7 years. She and I met at a dance through a friend of her. It was very wonderful to go with an older woan at the time. She now has pass away and i just have gotton out of another Relationship with a younger woman. But I would like to go with some one younger then me. I know how to treat a lady as well. But i will date and have dated older women and I feel they both know how to satisfy a man. You just treat them with respect and get to know each other as well as except your difference. Any Relationship is work in been in a Longterm relationship and been very caring and loving to each other in the long run. Saying sweet things to your woman as well and never go bed angry with your mate. Been able to hug and kiss each other and saying I Love you darling at night time. This is how I feel about older women or even younger women. Happy New Year and best of luck in New Year as well. | |
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Posted: 12/31/2007 1:56:11 PM | Cougar is a term championed by a leading female author on the topic. The older women I've dated have been really great dates, but not marriage material so it depends on what your priorities are. If you are looking to catch yourself a "Tad Pole" (younger guy) remember what sets you apart from his female peers.
People in their 20's treat eachother like trash and you will be a nice relief from that.
People in their 20's don't have a lot of money. I think a lot of guys want to be romantic but don't have the means to. They don't have a receptive partner, they don't have a place to find said partner, or a place to take said partner. I've had some cougars cover some serious bar tabs. I've also found that I enjoy an evening in, and it's nice to be in an enviroment that is private, clean and established (unlike the dens of most people in their 20's)
Guys in their 20's want a Mrs. Robinson. It feels special to woo someone receptive to being woo-ed and across the board Cougars are much more receptive. Another thing that is awesome about cougars is they are out of the loop. So conversations are usually very fullfilling being that you're meeting at different stages in your life; things considered to be common knowledge by either party are new and interesting topics for the other. | |
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Joined: 12/9/2007
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Posted: 12/31/2007 10:41:56 PM | as far as i knew, its not sexy at any age when you don't have your shit together.
I don't quite get the motherly thing that people talk about either. Sexy is sexy regardless of race or age or whatever ridiculous stipulation that people put on each other. | |
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Posted: 1/1/2008 9:21:57 AM | | I agree with you. One of the reasons I stopped this thread a few days after I started it was because of the silly crap that people come up with based on God knows what types of assumptions. This was not a thread to ask about inane opinions. It was a post to see how to go about starting a specific type of website. | |
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Posted: 1/1/2008 1:00:57 PM | | I think it would be a great website. Wish I knew how to start one. If you know, and do it, please post it and I will pass it on to all my cougar friends. | |
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Posted: 1/1/2008 6:55:00 PM | | I myself like dating women anywhere from 4 to about 12 years older than me because I don't have to deal with alot of the issues that young women have in finding themselves and what they want to do or who they want to be, women older than me are set in their ways and have developed communication skills already so are much easier for me to have a meaningful relationship with whether friendly or romantic. | |
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