| Thanks, but your not my type.
Posted: 8/28/2007 11:36:01 PM | a few words of wisdom i use when the messages become agressive or if i really lose my cool.
I can please only one person per day. Today is not your day. Tomorrow isn't looking good either.
I don't have an attitude problem. You have a perception problem.
I don't know what your problem is, but I'll bet it's hard to pronounce.
I like you. You remind me of when I was young and stupid.
I see you've set aside this special time to humiliate yourself in public.
Don't try to outweird me--I get stranger things then you free with my breakfast cereal.
some of those work for me  | |
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| Thanks, but your not my type.
Posted: 8/28/2007 11:58:30 PM | Yeh I've had the agressive response to the 'youre not my type but good luck' reply. But I just don't respond.
Most recently I had a mail simply stating that I was sexy, I replied Thanks but I'm seeing someone, it does say that in my profile, but good luck, he then proceeded to tell me how to word my profile so that it is a bit clearer that I'm not looking for a partner anymore....I ignored it but still thought to myself is the fact that my marital status is set to not single/not looking and that I'm set to looking for talk/email not enough of a hint that I'm not looking for something more, or the fact that I've actually written in the body of my profile that I've met someone, not enough for him?!
Evidently not.
He hasnt persisted thankfully.
If they do persist, there's the read/delete function  | |
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| Thanks, but your not my type.
Posted: 8/29/2007 5:19:12 AM | Haven't had that type lately but did have a read/deleted yesterday, slightly gutted as I spent a long time making sure the message was polite & friendly. ho hum!
Be nice to get a 1st mail from a female on here, they are very few & far between! | |
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| Thanks, but your not my type.
Posted: 8/29/2007 5:26:22 AM | no, I have not and I would not do it
apparently though no reply works better than nice reply, sad but true | |
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| Thanks, but your not my type.
Posted: 8/29/2007 6:04:49 AM | i was on another dating site and a lady messaged me asking if we could chat and see how we got on with a view to meeting for a relationship, i politely as i could replied saying i am sorry but i feel that you are too old for me[she was 55 last year a ten year age difference ] to consider meeting as anything other then friends, but even then by your profile we just dont have anything in common for a friendship as such.
she used to send me some quite abusive messages and then she would suspend her profile making it impossible for me to block her, when she put herself back on she changed her profile name sent me some more abusive messages then suspended her profile again, i had to in the end leave the site to get rid of her,
wonder if she ever found anybody | |
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| Thanks, but your not my type.
Posted: 9/2/2007 4:06:59 AM | | Whats wrong with plain old fashioned talking.? i think girls who dont answer messages even when you are polite to them are just shallow and ignorant. | |
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| Thanks, but your not my type.
Posted: 9/2/2007 4:09:45 AM |
Whats wrong with plain old fashioned talking.? i think girls who dont answer messages even when you are polite to them are just shallow and ignorant.
What is shallow about having a type?
I have got into these long winded hello you arent my type emails a few times, said i wouldnt mind chatting online as mates but that is all there will be and i have either got nasty emails back or, despite me laying down the ground rules from the off, too much trying to persuade me that they will be my type once i get to know them.
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| Thanks, but your not my type.
Posted: 9/2/2007 4:14:05 AM |
Whats wrong with plain old fashioned talking.? i think girls who dont answer messages even when you are polite to them are just shallow and ignorant
I'm quite capable of being shallow and ignorant if the mood takes me. I've also encountered those who when you say thanks but no thanks don't take no for an answer. Until you bore him with so much rubbish that he ends up rejecting you. Or everything he wants to talk about you have to express no interest in at all.
And if he still doesn't take no for an answer I'm afraid it's Read deleted. | |
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| Thanks, but your not my type.
Posted: 9/2/2007 4:16:44 AM | Oh Gucci how very very rude of him, would you like to borrow princess to teach him some manners ..
I have had a couple of random rude messages, and that's usually when I forget to behave, tell the to pi55 off, and block them, I have no time for idiots, or men younger than my daughters !!! | |
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| Thanks, but your not my type.
Posted: 9/2/2007 5:42:01 AM | I have encountered the 'read/deleted' from a few ladies. It does annoy me but it's their choice.
One or two have responded with 'thanks but no thanks' in a variety of forms. I do respond with a polite 'thanks for your reply and good luck with your search'.
I accept that I am not everybodies 'type'. Couldn't cope if I was!!  But I have made and chat to quite a few friends and enjoy seeing them at the meets.
We all want to meeet "THE ONE" and I know she is out there somewhere for me. So not too worried about being deleted. I view it as their loss.  | |
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| Thanks, but your not my type.
Posted: 9/2/2007 6:32:59 AM |
Has anyone one else experienced this new demanding and aggressive type dater? Yes, I have. I've experienced this every so often, in real life, over the last 12 years. A woman asks me out, I say no, and she won't leave it at that. She has to know why. Then, if I end up telling her why, she insults I anyway. If I don't tell her, she just gets more aggressive.
When I knocked a woman back, I found that:
Women a lot younger tended to take it well.
Women a lot older tended to just get embarrassed,and then I felt stupid.
Women close to my age, older or younger by about 5 years, really got the hump.
That is why I don't really like being asked out by women close to my own age. | |
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| Thanks, but your not my type.
Posted: 9/2/2007 6:47:42 AM |
Whats wrong with plain old fashioned talking.? i think girls who dont answer messages even when you are polite to them are just shallow and ignorant.
I'm not going to respond to every man just because he's polite in his first message.
I have said on my profile that i don't want to chat to people who are looking for an intimate encounter for example. Or i'm not here to date guys who are old enough be my dad.
If they can't be bothered to read that bit on my profile and mail me anyway. I can't be bothered to reply.
I also read/delete ppl who's msgs av bin writ owt all lyk dis n i cant mke owt wot da say enwayz.
Am I ignorant and shallow, sometimes a definite yes, sometimes no.
Do I owe an explanation to everyone who mails me why i'm not interested?
No i do not.
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| Thanks, but your not my type.
Posted: 9/2/2007 6:55:51 AM | Since joining POF I have unfortunately received a few disgruntled messages from people accusing me of being shallow and rude because I view their profiles and never left them a message, how the hell does that work in their minds?  | |
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| Thanks, but your not my type.
Posted: 9/2/2007 7:14:01 AM |
I have always answered all messages that i received but have noticed that for the past month if i message a guy back saying, thank you for your message but your really not my type and good luck in your search, they keep messaging me back demanding to know why
When i first joined ( as looking for dating) i used to reply to every message i got,
but as the type of response you describe was the response i got everytime
(ok maybe not everytime,but nine times out of ten) i replied with a thanks but no thanks type message,i stopped bothering to reply!
Has anyone one else experienced this new demanding and aggressive type dater?
I don't think this 'type of dater' is new per se,as (as i said above) in my experience that 'type' have always been around,
i think you may just have been lucky enough not to recieve messages from them in the past! | |
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| Thanks, but your not my type.
Posted: 9/2/2007 7:17:50 AM |
Whats wrong with plain old fashioned talking.? i think girls who dont answer messages even when you are polite to them are just shallow and ignorant.
I'm with you on this, I'm happy enough just chatting to people.
I think some women are on here for vanity reasons alone, and have no intention of making conversation with anyone thats not "fit" despite what it says on their profiles.
But thats society at the moment | |
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| Thanks, but your not my type.
Posted: 9/2/2007 7:21:48 AM | Guess they are just puddled, fruit loops, deperados so hell bent on getting a bloke. They must feel insulted that you looked but didnt message them so then the anger sets in via a snotty message. If thats what they are like on here then god help them in the real world. If i see a bloke has looked and doesnt message me i take the hint lol! he didnt find ya piccy attractive to his visual sensory bit of grey matter  or he is looking for something that i have restricted from my mailing list like looking for an intimate encounter etc. Not exactly rocket science now is it. I wouldn't pursue someone with an attitude just because they viewed me whilst browsing. Probably better to just get on with reading the messages of those that send em then you know they are interested from what they have seen.  | |
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| Thanks, but your not my type.
Posted: 9/2/2007 7:22:04 AM |
I think some women are on here for vanity reasons alone, and have no intention of making conversation with anyone thats not "fit" despite what it says on their profiles.
What is "fit" to one woman is not to another. I very much doubt that is the only reason why women don't reply.
I take it all men reply to every single woman they get mail off regardless of whether they are interested or not, even if the woman just wants to chat? 
Why waste time on the one's that don't interest us, when we could be moving forward with someone who does.... | |
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| Thanks, but your not my type.
Posted: 9/2/2007 7:28:41 AM | Well Missy, our own vanity dictates that we engage ladies in conversation for as long as possible, be they look like Cindy Crawford or Michael Crawford.
I am positive that men are far more likely to reply than women, whether interested or not, and why is it wasting time? | |
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| Thanks, but your not my type.
Posted: 9/2/2007 7:31:44 AM |
I am positive that men are far more likely to reply than women, whether interested or not, and why is it wasting time?
Ugly or desperate men might always reply, but the fitties i have my eyes on dont always get back to me!
Mind you, one rather gorgeous one has just given me his msn.. I shall converse with him right away.
There is little point, when you are on a DATING SITE of talking to people you dont fancy. | |
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| Thanks, but your not my type.
Posted: 9/2/2007 7:38:38 AM | I am positive that men are far more likely to reply than women, whether interested or not, and why is it wasting time?
Your wrong, i'm sure many of the ladies on here can confirm they have had their mails read/deleted on many occasions by men, including myself.
Although there has been a few ladies that have, it just seems to be more men that start threads and highlight the fact that women read/delete their mails.
Why is it wasting their time? Because it is initially a dating site and people are looking for partners. So again there's no point wasting your time talking to people your not interested in and don't fancy.
I have male friends i chat to that i will never date. But they are my friends because they are interesting, we have things in common, and i enjoy chatting to them. So no they don't all have to be fit for me to chat to them. But if they are boring to me and i'm not interested. I won't bother, simple as. | |
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| Thanks, but your not my type.
Posted: 9/2/2007 8:40:59 AM | I think 'you're not my type' might come across as a bit snooty. As if somehow they are not measuring up. I usually say 'sorry but I don't think we would be a match - but I wish you well in your search'. That's if they have taken the trouble to write me a decent message! I've only ever had one person persist after this.
I'll always reply but will rarely engage in protracted correspondence with anyone who doesn't engage me in any way. Life's too short! If I do pause to chat a while, I'll always tell the person if I am backing out of talking. Which is a courtesy many men don't offer, I find.... | |
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| Thanks, but your not my type.
Posted: 9/2/2007 10:41:45 AM | Having acknowledged myself "probably not anyone's type" many a while back I don't have any problem at all with either the 'no ta' or the 'deleted'. What bugs the hell out of me is the ones who read a message and then leave it sitting there for days and weeks without either replying *or* deleting it. What the heck am I supposed to read into that? Am I just so boring that they're in a catatonic state and rendered incapable of action? Are they waiting for me to prove that I'm really, really interested (and how would I do that anyway) before they'll deign to reply? Have they fallen ill at the keyboard and should I ask the Chief Fish to send an ambulance? Should I live in hope or despair? For the love of all that's fishy .... STOP PLAYING WITH MY MIND!
Ahem. So, as I was saying, please ladies, whatever you're gonna do, don't delay, do it today! Someone's sanity could be in your hands!
My personal policy (he says as if he gets messaged more than once a year) is always to reply - unless you're really scary, in which case you're blocked! (This has only happened once in living memory, so you have to be ever so very scary and then some!) | |
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| Thanks, but your not my type.
Posted: 9/2/2007 11:15:06 AM | I really dont like telling people that they're not my type, but then again i dont like ignoring messages either
Just replied to one guy (not on this site) thanking him for the message, however he isn't tall enough for me
It does say on my profile that i'm looking for someone 5'10" + so why these shorter guys message me I just dont know | |
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| Thanks, but your not my type.
Posted: 9/2/2007 12:18:53 PM | Miss,
I think you will find that some people only see what they want to see in a profile, maybe some of the 5'10 less guys actually were taller in heels? But they didnt want to mention the cross dressing too early.
I always reply to a message, at first i found it difficult to say thank you but no thank you, however, i got feedback from people who i had said it to. They told me it was refreshing for someone to have the decency to at least reply even if it was to say no thanks.
So for those that dont like to reply i would say give it a try, most will be very receptive even if its a slight knockback for a possible friend/relationship, its a step forward for faith in humanity. | |
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