| Thanks, but your not my type.
Posted: 10/9/2007 7:41:19 PM |
actually find it helpful when the message is just deleted without a reply. Just think how long an email conversation lasts for before phone number/msn and then you have all the chat etc etc bla bla and then you meet up only to find out they aren't attracted to you. Geez they've done me a favour by my not wasting any more of my valuable time - it could be months before I found out that they weren't interested or just want to be friends. Even two hours saved is grande for me...there is just so much to do without wasting it on people who aren't interested in me!
Too right! Not being funny but I really don't want to waste a whole load of time with someone when it's not going anywhere. If they simply don't reply, I can file them away and move on.
Anyone who takes it personally, should spend a day going asking dozens of people out in the flesh, and see how they get on! | |
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| Thanks, but your not my type.
Posted: 10/9/2007 7:44:10 PM |
Waste even as little as several minutes to chat to somoene randon about things you are not interested in at all. Multiply this by number of IM received and whole evening is gone - for nothing
Exactly - it might not be a nice fact to swallow for some, but you can't have someone's attention just cause you want it. Lots of people seem to convince themselves they are compatible, just because they want to be - for whatever reason.
And I get loads of 'Deleted' 'Deleted/Not Read'. It's not what I want but I can totally understand why. | |
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Posted: 3/31/2008 9:12:56 AM | It doesnt really bother me- I always answer anyway- im polite. Most of the people on here who I talk to i'm not that interested in and vice versa. I prefer to talk to somebody and judge if I like them based on them as a person.
But when there is little on a profile and you get the 'sorry your not my type' then really I think it may be based on what you look like- and therefore I think saying it is a little mean and shallow (in my opionion).
Id rather somebody just didnt reply to me than say 'sorry your not my type' I mean them typing it to you is kind of a waste of time anyway. The best thing to do is just say something like
Hi thanks for your message....take care...........says the same thing really dunnit? | |
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Posted: 3/31/2008 11:16:38 AM | i had a couple of messages from a guy..
politely told him i had aranged to meet someone,which i had, but it never happened in the end..
this guy started messaging back....'what do you mean youve arranged to meet someone.. what are you doing that for??'
i quickly replied.. who are you my dad??
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| Thanks, but your not my type.
Posted: 3/31/2008 12:36:51 PM | OP; he's probably demanding to know why beacuse he's an insecure little jerk. Reply & tell him that. heheh.
I think a "thanks but you're not my type" message is a million times more better than a plain ignorant read/deleted... or even unread/deleted. Politeness goes a long way in this world..... as the same distance as cheekiness. Ignorance goes no where.
There are a lot of people on internet dating sites who have, "issues".
(even more so on a free one) They just like to see how many favourites & emails they can collect without ever sending messages to boost their fragile little egos. Has anyone else experienced this old ignorant & boring type dater? 
If you get an "unread/deleted", send them one more message with the word "ignorant" in the subject, & tell them how ignorant they are. Don't be rude. Don't be abusive. State facts. They read & reply to that message. When you get the reply - don't read it. Just delete it.... & then take no for an answer. The person wasn't worth meeting in the first place. | |
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| Thanks, but your not my type.
Posted: 3/31/2008 1:00:32 PM |
If you get an "unread/deleted", send them one more message with the word "ignorant" in the subject, & tell them how ignorant they are.
The first time I noticed that a girl I had messaged deleted my message without reading it, I too thought "How rude". BUT......any person that receives a message can look at my profile first ( even without me knowing it and decide I am not their type so then its pointless reading my message.
Yes, its nice to get an acknowlegment of some sort even if its only "No thanks - not my type" but most dont and it does not bother me. And I certainly would nt ask why or persist - bit like pleading or begging for a date !!
I reply to every message for one reason -
If a girl walked up to me in person and said she liked me and asked for a date, I would not blank her - and read/deleting but not replying is in my opinion an online version of that ! | |
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| Thanks, but your not my type.
Posted: 4/3/2008 3:21:55 PM | First time for me viewing and posting in the forums (so be gentle)
Thanks folks, reading these mails has kind of reassured me somewhat and explains why so many girls delete/unread messages or don't reply. I was beginning to wonder if there was something wrong with me 
I wasn't aware that people were getting "But why???" messages from people who've been knocked back.
The way I approach messages is simple: send an initial message and if you don't get a reply then just move on.
Although I do have to say that seeing a message I've sent being deleted before being read does get my goat. | |
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| Thanks, but your not my type.
Posted: 4/4/2008 9:12:19 AM | Just wanted to add to this again with 2 different experiences today:
First one, a girl I have been chatting to on and off from another site for 2 months. Not had a phone chat or date. After pushing the point today she admitted she has no intention of meeting anyone and just chats until things come to a head and then she moves onto the next sucker. She explained I should be grateful I have had the pleasure of her time for 2 months. I feel that I've just wasted 2 months being the butt of someones joke. 
Second one, been chatting to a girl on here and she is only on Msn whilst at work. She has access at home but never seems to be online on an evening. If I send a MSN message I can wait an hour for a response. Earlier this afternoon I got short replies and a BRB. An hour later she logs off without responding. Why have Msn on at work? It is not something I would do and is not worth risking a job over.
Now I know with both these girls the signs were there and I should just walk on by. My problem is I give them the benefit of the doubt and just feel a fool at the end of it all.
I know a couple of bad apples do not ruin the full crop but not having to pay for this site leaves us open to all the idiots. I'm a grown man and can take a "no thanks" without justification. I just dislike all the gameplaying.
Who says I'm not bitter?  | |
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| Thanks, but your not my type.
Posted: 4/4/2008 9:16:58 AM |
She has access at home but never seems to be online on an evening
That's because she's sat watching corrie with her husband.
As for chatting to the other one for 2 months.....no way. | |
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Posted: 4/4/2008 9:23:18 AM |
as anyone one else experienced this new demanding and aggressive type dater?
Yes it happened to me recently as well i kept getting back "how do you know till you try", and then it turned into and "why are you so stuck up?" i said eventually after trying repeatedly to be nice "because youre 5ft 1 inch tall and I'm 6ft in heels, I make it clear in my profile I prefer taller men and i was happy to reply and be polite to your mails but im sorry i just dont find you attractive", he then told me i deserved to end up lonely. You cant please all the people all the time, so please yourself first and foremost when it comes to choosing a date, you need to have an intital attraction i think or you're just using the man to take you out or whatever, i would have thought men would be grateful for the honesty and not being led up the garden path.
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Posted: 4/4/2008 9:27:39 AM |
Just wanted to add to this again with 2 different experiences today:
First one, a girl I have been chatting to on and off from another site for 2 months. Not had a phone chat or date. After pushing the point today she admitted she has no intention of meeting anyone and just chats until things come to a head and then she moves onto the next sucker. She explained I should be grateful I have had the pleasure of her time for 2 months. I feel that I've just wasted 2 months being the butt of someones joke.
Second one, been chatting to a girl on here and she is only on Msn whilst at work. She has access at home but never seems to be online on an evening. If I send a MSN message I can wait an hour for a response. Earlier this afternoon I got short replies and a BRB. An hour later she logs off without responding. Why have Msn on at work? It is not something I would do and is not worth risking a job over.
Now I know with both these girls the signs were there and I should just walk on by. My problem is I give them the benefit of the doubt and just feel a fool at the end of it all.
I know a couple of bad apples do not ruin the full crop but not having to pay for this site leaves us open to all the idiots. I'm a grown man and can take a "no thanks" without justification. I just dislike all the gameplaying.
Who says I'm not bitter?
Ah f*ck them (not in the biblical sense, but the bollix to them sense)
To me it is like this: why would you be wanting to be even contemplate a relationship with a pair like this? You've already had insight to their respective personalities and only a glutton for punishment would want anything to do with them. I wouldn't waste anymore of your valuable time on either of them. | |
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| Thanks, but your not my type.
Posted: 4/4/2008 9:33:36 AM |
well not aggressive but after being told, sorry dont think we are suited but i wsh u all the best etc, they still added me to favs and mailed me a few more messages, i had to remove them in the end and just ignore, wich i didnt enjoy
How's about this to scare them off? If they keep persisting, send them a message stating that you participate in the forums, ask them to read your posts and then wait for a reply. That should let them know the score. | |
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Posted: 4/26/2008 2:54:38 PM |
First one, a girl I have been chatting to on and off from another site for 2 months. Not had a phone chat or date. After pushing the point today...
Is it possible this girl liked to talk to you but didn't feel it was going anywhere in the 3D sense? She may have said she does this with everyone to make you feel better, so you think it's not a personal rejection. We know how fragile the ego can be, eh?
I've spoken to a few bods now and it's really hard to say 'not my type' because I wouldn't wanna hurt anyone's feelings.
If you're getting short-can't-be-asred replies, and the person doesn't wanna move onto the next levels (msn--->text--->whatever...) then perhaps it's easier to take a hint and move onto someone else.
Bests all over the place to you and yours
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| Thanks, but your not my type.
Posted: 4/26/2008 3:32:17 PM | Yes!!!!!!!!!!!
Ive tried ignoring and have been called ignorant...
Ive tried finding something positive in their message/profile and telling them thank you for messaging me...but they come back with lots more messages asking me lots of stuff... i was just being polite!..
ive tried saying "thank you so much" and leaving it at that,...but then i get "well you dont say much do you"
ive tried saying "thats very lovely of you, but i ve actually just started talking to someone right now" (that got me.. "then what are you still doing on here") so when i say well we've only just started co-responding theyre like "so youre keeping your options open so im an option so lets go for a drink" blah de blah
You name it ive tried it...and even "thank you but youre not my type" which gets me.. "you really love youself",,,
I cant win so ive gone back to them thinking im ignorant, and not replying, its easier in the long run. | |
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Posted: 4/26/2008 3:33:55 PM |
Second one, been chatting to a girl on here and she is only on Msn whilst at work. She has access at home but never seems to be online on an evening. If I send a MSN message I can wait an hour for a response. Earlier this afternoon I got short replies and a BRB. An hour later she logs off without responding. Why have Msn on at work? It is not something I would do and is not worth risking a job over.
Shes just not interested but dosent want to come out and say it. | |
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| Thanks, but your not my type.
Posted: 4/26/2008 3:39:12 PM |
I cant win so ive gone back to them thinking im ignorant, and not replying, its easier in the long run.
ha ha! Oh dear, Girly, you sound defeated!
I, too, have resorted to just not replying. I don't like doing it, but it does seem to be the easiest way. | |
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Posted: 4/26/2008 3:41:55 PM | ha ha! Oh dear, Girly, you sound defeated!
I, too, have resorted to just not replying. I don't like doing it, but it does seem to be the easiest way.
lol i am! ive found a couple of lovely people on here that ive met, one i had dinner but didnt have that elusive spark and another i really liked and talked too but had other stuff going on in his life anyway ive just started talking to a couple of lovely guys who arent remotely like the ones i listed prevriously so hopefully.. keep ya fingers crossed for me lol x | |
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| Thanks, but your not my type.
Posted: 4/26/2008 4:57:36 PM | Deleted my "dating" profile now but ...
When I had a "Latin/South American, dark hair/eyes,35-40 yo, living in London, slim,with no young kids..."
- getting messages from 20 you bald or blonde guys from up Norht with photos of their "little darlings" and "my kids are my life" in their profiles.. was just boring.
Replying nicely "You are not my type" only to get "Why do you say that" when all they had to do was to read my profile...
Just unread/deleted now and siply block if anything rude comes my way.
No point stressing over idiot.
And the "You do not know till you try" bull is just that - bull...
I am 39 not 15, I know, do not have to "try". | |
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Posted: 4/26/2008 5:07:12 PM | Grumpyoldwoman - yours has to be the most apt username on here
You make me look like a regular ray of sunshine in comparison
ish
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| Thanks, but your not my type.
Posted: 4/26/2008 5:10:56 PM | Thanks, I like my "name" here - leaves nobody wondering and makes all clear and simple.
I am a GOW and have no intention to hide it or mislead anyone | |
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Posted: 4/26/2008 5:20:53 PM | ^^^ listen woman...grumpy or not...old or young, get yourself a facebook account.
My mate who lives in London gets millions of dates with attractive latinos off of there......don't be relying on this site alone - broaden your horizons. How I wished I lived in London !!!
I get feck all messages with this profile apart from some men asking if I've got a certificate to prove my sanity because for some reason they are convinced I might be slightly crazy .
On topic...I think when you get to the point of telling someone that they bore the tits off you and you would not be unhappy if they suddenly disappeared off the face of this earth that should do the job. | |
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| Thanks, but your not my type.
Posted: 4/26/2008 5:45:40 PM | MSG 96 b- thanks but will pass with the Facebook, not my cup of tea this kind of public exibitionism with my full details on display.
"Getting losts of dates with good looking Latinos" never was a goal-one trip to a club and one can take their pick, that was never the point.
Anyway,as per my current, minimalistic profile, only here for the Forums. | |
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Posted: 4/26/2008 6:10:29 PM | l^^^ hehe....well ok then hahahahahahaha, I believe you - thousands wouldn't.
MSG 96 b- thanks but will pass with the Facebook, not my cup of tea this kind of public exibitionism with my full details on display.
Oh god stop trying to make me laugh..if any of the posters on these forums could be accused of being .....a tad calculating in their approach to ensnaring 'the perfect man' it would be you .......It's cool and hilariously fun the way you pretend otherwise when confronted haha...Keep it up woman - I mean, keep it up regarding making me s and laugh out loud at silly ridiculous stuff...cheers me dear !!! | |
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Posted: 4/26/2008 7:11:11 PM | What do you mean, 'new' - it's beeng going on for aeons..
Unfortunately, at least in the case of men pursuing women, the reason some men carry on asking is because it works. Until 'no' means 'absolutely never' rather than 'maybe' this will continue to happen. You can dress it up with statements like 'getting to know someone' , but the reality is that for some men pursuing some women, a 'no' turns into a 'yes' over a period of time.
Personally I don't give a rat's arse about messages being deleted - I just get on with my life. I have, however, had women pursue me repeatedly after I'd made it clear I wasn't actually interested.
There has also been one particular person on here that was fairly offensive about my choice to be completely uninterested in children, and more than one rude e-mail to my suggestion that they should actually fill their profile out with interests rather than just giving me a picture to go on, ffs... | |
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| Thanks, but your not my type.
Posted: 4/27/2008 12:43:32 AM | damned if you do, damned if you dont...
if you dont reply your ignorant/bad mannered..
if you do and say no thanks your rude and stuck up.. or too picky.. or a time waster... or only on here for an ego boost.. or prob married.. or fat and ugly and nothing like your pic...
you wont ever win.. either way... | |
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