| Is it wrong to want a Friend with Benefits?
Posted: 5/25/2008 4:27:40 AM |
An ongoing relationship where intimacy is the focus... Is it so wrong?
If it is mutual, there is nothing wrong. It is looked down on when the relationship is exploitive, deceptive or manipulative. | |
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| Is it wrong to want a Friend with Benefits?
Posted: 6/20/2008 8:51:43 AM | | I was asked to be in FWB recently, kinda caught me off guard cause I like her and am attracted to her. I guess I am not used to that sorta thing. I want to try it out because I dont want to lose her either. We have done things watched movies, go for walks, took her out to eat your name it. The sex was amazing too. But bottom line I dont know if its wrong or not, certainly something im not used too. Have to find out the hard way I guess and hope no one gets hurt. | |
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| Is it wrong to want a Friend with Benefits?
Posted: 6/20/2008 10:17:14 AM | It isn't wrong.
As has been said, 2 adults, hopefully both rational.
I would very much like to have a relationship, but, failing that a FWB would be great as well.
Someone I can have a conversation with, hang out, spend time, and if anything physical happens, great, if not, also great.
For those that choose celibacy, thats great as well. | |
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| Is it wrong to want a Friend with Benefits?
Posted: 6/22/2008 10:05:11 PM | | I had one friend with benefits in life and its something i'd like to avoid honestly....it was like i was stuck in between relationship and "just @#$#@$:" someone...One of you will mostly likely get attached and want more....If i wanted only the physical id seek the benefits from someone besides a friend...procede with caution | |
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| Is it wrong to want a Friend with Benefits?
Posted: 6/22/2008 10:35:08 PM | | There are many definitions and dimensions to relationships. But it is a relationship no matter how you choose to define it. As long as both parties are honest and on the same page you can do whatever you please. Your personal values and consideration for moral and/or personal ethical issues will frame the ground rules for this relationship. Does it really matter what other strangers on some dating website think? -N | |
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| Is it wrong to want a Friend with Benefits?
Posted: 7/5/2008 5:41:57 PM | | i think if you are two responsible and respectful adults that can keep safety and trust as a top priority then i 'd say go for it. if both parties are in agreement with the situation and all the important info is provided. | |
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| Is it wrong to want a Friend with Benefits?
Posted: 7/5/2008 8:28:20 PM | | I don't think that there is anything wrong with it at all as long as the person you are with understands that it's just sex and not romantic then you should be fine. I have a really good friend who I sleep with and I don't see anything wrong with it since we both know that there will never be anything more than friendship and if we start seeing other people then the sex will obviously stop. I guess it all depends on the person. If I were you though I wouldn't have this kind of a relationship where the girl wants romance because you will hurt her in the end and that won't be good so just be careful about who you choose to have this kind of a relationship with. | |
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| Is it wrong to want a Friend with Benefits?
Posted: 7/6/2008 8:07:39 AM | i think it works for alot of people as long as everyone's on the same page with expectations and limitations
nothing is really "right or wrong" as long as both parties know what the "rules" are; it shouldn't matter what anyone thinks except the two people in the FWB relationship
of course, there is always the possibility that someone falls in love, or wants more; that's when the sex has to stop to avoid someone getting hurt
i think for purposes of safety, its certainly better than picking up random people at bars; a regular partner provides a sense of intimacy that one night stands probably would not......to some that's a plus, to others its a minus | |
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| Is it wrong to want a Friend with Benefits?
Posted: 7/30/2008 11:12:37 PM |  How can you even get a FWB if ya cant even get emails back? How do you even get anyone to speak to you from this site? I mean I been on here awhile now and Have gotten maybe 3 emails from different people......One I spoke to once and met......Notation....Have not gotten a email back from her in awhiles now...Dont know what could of possibly went wrong.... Is there something wrong with what my profile says? Or am I just too ugly for most on here? Just curious......Someone help me out please........ | |
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| Is it wrong to want a Friend with Benefits?
Posted: 7/30/2008 11:36:52 PM | | Naturalblonde, post a pic that actually shows your face; and come up with a first date that makes sense. I would also recommend posting on "Adult" sites. | |
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| Is it wrong to want a Friend with Benefits?
Posted: 7/31/2008 6:34:50 AM | | It says You want something for nothing. And tells a lot about a person's personality and If you have not been very successful in your profession,{Jobs? Life as there is nothing that does not cost $$$$ and guts to take a risk? Called an investment all the way and a future """""""when this statement is posted It really says You will do till something better comes along.""""""""More like Renting a house and not the ownership? | |
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| Is it wrong to want a Friend with Benefits?
Posted: 7/31/2008 7:43:52 AM | | I think friends with benefits is just fine. As long as you can find someone that you enjoy the encounter with for a long time than you should be good. | |
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| Is it wrong to want a Friend with Benefits?
Posted: 7/31/2008 1:13:25 PM | does my profile now look more of what people want to see? I am sorry Im not perfect ! I tried and evidently...The male that stated the comment...Doesnt understand...Im NOT after MALES.......only FEMALES........Anyways.....Changed A Few Things On my profile....... Check it and let me know what ya think!!!!  | |
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| Is it wrong to want a Friend with Benefits?
Posted: 7/31/2008 1:15:20 PM | Absolutely Not!
As long as you are very clear with your potential "friend" from the get go. If you are clear and do not mislead, then you are both on the same page.
K | |
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| Is it wrong to want a Friend with Benefits?
Posted: 8/1/2008 4:35:49 PM | | everyone is thinking it to death. just do what comes natural. and you dont have explain yourself to anyone, including the person currently trying to get in your pants. if you dont like it move on, buster. im free im single and im enjoying it. if everyone else whats to make themself miserable. go for it. | |
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| Is it wrong to want a Friend with Benefits?
Posted: 8/8/2008 9:18:32 PM | | When 2 warm blooded hot bodies touch,taste,feel,smother with kisses,,it,s a feeling like no other,, love is a wonderful feeling,,, | |
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| Is it wrong to want a Friend with Benefits?
Posted: 8/8/2008 9:22:29 PM | | Nothing at all wrong with it as long as you're both comfortable with it and appreicate it for what it is without the hope of anything more. If one because more emotionally involved, then you may wind up losing a good friend but if you can both handle it, I think it can be a wonderful thing. | |
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| Is it wrong to want a Friend with Benefits?
Posted: 8/9/2008 7:12:59 AM | To each there own I say , no there is not a thing wrong with friends with
benfits. Just so that your up front and open , honest about what you expect
from it and go into it not with your heart gaining anything else other than a
friend that you want to spend time with that you have a sexual attraction too!
As for me no FWB's I pass on get asked all the time have no desire to allow my
self to be in that sorta postion with anyone! I can have friends without the sex
involved that total package of me is reserved for just one that gains all of me!
All the best ~ Brenny | |
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| Is it wrong to want a Friend with Benefits?
Posted: 8/9/2008 8:09:38 AM | | FWB well I think that depends on the two people considering it. To me it falls along the very general questions that are asked of us when we create our profiles. My favorite one...Marriage? My question to that question is "with who"? Children? "With Who"? Show me who you're talking about and I'll give you an answer right away and that's the same with FWB. | |
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| Is it wrong to want a Friend with Benefits?
Posted: 8/9/2008 8:14:32 AM | | Just let the other person know that its just FWB, no marriage coming in the future, so don't expect a ring. No, you're not going for that house,and kids,and the convertible etc... Make sure that they cannot fall in love with you. Because then somebody crossed a line. And that's when ppl get hurt. | |
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| Is it wrong to want a Friend with Benefits?
Posted: 8/9/2008 10:02:08 AM | Glad to see this topic on here because right now i am in a similar situation. He is just coming out of a marriage and im a single mom. We talked about the sexual part of our friendship (him letting me know that he thought about wanting sex from me) teasing each other when we talked on the phone and when he was still living with his ex he wasnt feeling good about it.
Now that he's out of the house and we had finally got together he made it clear that he wasnt looking for a gf type right now not saying that he wont later on once the divorce is final. He did although mention to me that he was afraid to hurt my feelings but i know there is an attraction there for me.
The thing is my feelings are getting stronger for him everytime we do get together and i dont know whether i should tell him or not and jeopardize what we have right now. We dont get to see each other as much as i would like but like i said we do talk on the phone a lot and try to get together as much as we can which so far has only been 4 times since June but we've been friends for over a year now. | |
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