How much do you Americans will find appropriate for a person you may be willing to settle down?
As long as the debt isn't mine and doesn't become mine, I don't really care. As long as my partner can pay their own share of the living expenses, (IF it came to the point where we were talking about living together) the rest is his to deal with.
I have never expected a new person in my life to pay off my debts or to help me raise my kids (when I was still raising my kids).
He needs to have enough left to share in some of the dreams we might have tho'.