| Men and their Age Issue?
Posted: 9/12/2008 11:16:02 PM | | I'm 56 myself and I find the 30 something and 40 something women whom I happen to find in my bed many times have something to teach me. It is almost always both interesting and pleasurable. God bless willing knowledgable younger women! | |
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| Men and their Age Issue?
Posted: 9/12/2008 11:36:30 PM | | You must have had a very sheltered sex life. It's not just sex. Gosh after comming of age in the late 60's with wesson oil and a twister game theres not much I feel a 40 something can teach any of us old geesers in bed.Even with issac newton Horning in on life. When Jabba the hut eats vernocia va Voom , thats when the new and comfortable Veronicia Comes out. Older women are comfortable in their skin even if it saggs a little. Every wrinkle is a comfort zone of no longer needing to play the game. No longer is the ego so inflated that anything but comfort and ease matters. At 40 something you have the last horah in a way. I still got it thing going on. You seem to have a great nees to tell your self this over and over it seems. And you find the young ones who will tell you this. You are afraid to age in my opinion. I have an ex who is 70 and aan ex who is 48. I do not discrimamnate on age. I just find the young ones you have to teach everything to and are very impressed by anything you say or do. Ego stroking to the max | |
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| Men and their Age Issue?
Posted: 9/12/2008 11:49:56 PM | | Had to go see your profile. Suprised the heck out of me. Usually educated men do not discriminate as much, Get over it your approaching 60 rappidly . What happens when the little blue pill doesnt work any more? then what happens to 30 or 40 something? out the door baby! Unless the bank account is as big as the house. | |
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| Men and their Age Issue?
Posted: 9/13/2008 12:01:05 AM | | There are two kinds of people who talk about sex all the time: those who are not getting any, and those who are not getting any but have very fertile imaginations regarding sex (and not much else). | |
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| Men and their Age Issue?
Posted: 9/13/2008 6:59:40 AM | Op...in your original post you said in a rather casual manner "yes i know women have done it for years"..lying is ok for women and not men ? hmmmm makes me wonder  | |
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| Men and their Age Issue?
Posted: 9/13/2008 7:17:13 AM | | Triumvirate, I believe the Op was just acknowledging that women lie too, and in a different time, that was expected. However, that men lie (about their age) is a relatively new turn of events. I guess men are just as vain as women? Are you, gentlemen? However, lying about your age (men) does not work well, as most men age more quickly than most women, and it is obvious. | |
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| Men and their Age Issue?
Posted: 9/13/2008 8:27:45 AM | I’ve been on dates with women that once on the date, tell me that they “lied” about their age on their profiles. In all cases they tell me that they did so because they feel that men will not see their profile on searches if they are over a certain age.
So, perhaps some men are using the same tactic now?
When the women tell me their real age, I shrug it off especially if their pictures were recent and representative of what they look like now. I would date them regardless if they were younger or older than me.
Now I don’t believe in the tactic myself. I am not trying to date women “half-my-age” and if some woman 2 to 12 years my junior chooses not to consider me, so be it.
It’s funny though. I really can pass for someone much younger. In fact, my last girl friend thought I was younger than she was and that I was lying about being older.
I had to show her my drivers license on two separate occasions to prove to her I was really 51 (at the time – she was 43).
One of my favorite quotes is from “Raiders of the Lost Ark”:
Marion: You're not the man I knew ten years ago.
Indiana: It's not the years, honey, it's the mileage.
I look at that quote in reverse connotation.
Yes I have my real age in my profile.
When people I meet in real life are surprised that I am 52 and tell me that they guessed that I was around 40 I always say:
“It’s not the years, it’s the mileage”.
Anyone I will want to be with, younger than me or older, will believe “it’s just a number” so I have no reason to misrepresent myself by my “profile age” or by posting outdated pictures.
They will find out anyway – honesty is indeed the best policy.
Ceij | |
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| Men and their Age Issue?
Posted: 9/13/2008 9:08:56 AM | | I was convinced no one I'd be interrested in would date me at my age until it began to realize it doesn't matter how old you are, it's about how you carry yourself. lying is for the weak and immature, mostly politicians...ha ha... | |
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| Men and their Age Issue?
Posted: 9/13/2008 12:08:19 PM | Unfortunately it's not exagerated... if anything it seems to be the biggest single issue here. In general, I think that both women and men who get too far "off the reservaation" of their own age range are delusional... especially in that late forty something early fifty something range when the changes are pretty dramatic for both men and women... especially women. I dated an older women (10 year difference) after my wife died, and while we had our moments, I couldn't keep it up in good faith... the difference in age would have eventually made a difference in the relationship too soon for me.
I have no problem with someone shaving a year or two off their on line age if they really look like their pictures and take a lot of pride in staying lively and in shape. It's more about attitude than the age anyway. I'm young at heart --- I'll get old later --- hopefully together with that final soul mate who wants to reach for the gusto now, live a total relationship in the moment, and can gracefully accept the reality of aging as it comes their way. | |
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| Men and their Age Issue?
Posted: 9/13/2008 1:05:26 PM | | So let me get this straight; Men and women should date withing their own age range. So maybe I shouldn't hire a younger person to work for me based on the possibility that they have not fully matured ? I have a very hard time believing what would be incompatible with a 30 year old and a 50 year old person. It is just add up. What might exist that might also might also exist with two people the same age ? | |
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| Men and their Age Issue?
Posted: 9/13/2008 1:40:02 PM | Well, Slowpace, if I'm not too old for you, you're not too young for me! Unless you are "old" at heart. Just kidding.
Being a serious person myself, I really don't care about age, but don't want to be left by an older guy for a younger woman. LOL! | |
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| Men and their Age Issue?
Posted: 9/13/2008 6:26:07 PM | LOL, I wouldn't EVEN consider dating a woman young enough or in a frame of mind to make babies! Give me A woman who has come to her senses please  | |
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| Men and their Age Issue?
Posted: 9/13/2008 8:02:43 PM | George Carlin said the only time in our lives when we like to get old is when we're young.If your younger than 10 you think in fractions "How old are you?" "I'm 4 1/2 going on 5. In your teens you jump ahead "I'm going to be 16" and then you become 21 yesss. But then you turn 30. Makes you sound like bad milk He TURNED, we had to throw him out.
You BECOME 21 you TURN 30 then you're PUSHING 40 WHOA, before you know it you REACH 50 and your dreams are gone. BUT WAIT, you MAKE IT to 60.
So you become 21, turn 30 push 40 reach 50 and make it to 60. You've built up so much speed that you hit 70. After that it's a day by day thing; you HIT Wednesday!
You get into you 80's & every day is a complete cycle; you HIT lunch; you TURN 4:30; you REACH bedtime. It doesn't stop there. Into the 90's you start going backwards; "I WAS JUST 92" THEN A STRANGE THING HAPPENS YOU MAKE IT OVER 100, You become a little kid again "I'm 100 and a half.
The way to stay young is throw out nonessential numbers; age, weight and height. Let the doctors worry about them. Keep only cheerful friends. Keep learning. Laugh often, long and loud. Endure, grieve and move on. Cherish your health. Don't take guilt trips, take a trip to the mall. Tell the people you love that you love them. ALWAYS REMEMBER, LIFE IS NOT MEASURED BY THE NUMBER OF BREATHS WE TAKE, BUT THE MOMENTS THAT TAKE OUR BREATH AWAY. | |
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| Men and their Age Issue?
Posted: 9/13/2008 9:01:44 PM | In all seriousness; in the future we should meet at a nice cafee in your Country. I would enjoy that, and we can go to some of your favorite palces as well. I think you look fine and you are very wise as well. If we should not be compatible it would not be due to how you look but I think more of my romantic and passionate character. My ex was 31 I was 48 and she will tell you I wanted to kiss and be intimate way to often for her. You also might not like my taste in music. I understand that you cannot look like Jessica Alba at your age but that isn't your fault and I completely understand that without condemning you for this. So the cafee in Canada is a date for the future. Write to me and I will give you my email and phone number too.  | |
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| Men and their Age Issue?
Posted: 9/14/2008 7:29:13 AM | | It seems to be the norm rather than the exception. Some have tried to justify it by saying that women do it all the time too. I have met only one man online so far, that has not lied on his profile about his age, weight, built, job, education or marital status. I have found it is often about insecurity and something you should pay attention too since it appears to be the beginning of others to come. | |
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| Men and their Age Issue?
Posted: 9/14/2008 7:39:48 AM | | I think the ones who lie about their age are the ones who are trying to date younger! What else would their motivation be...I personally want somone my own age. | |
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| Men and their Age Issue?
Posted: 9/14/2008 8:12:07 AM | Above, I said that age does not matter. Thinking about this, I realize that may be misleading, and need explanation.
What does matter is similarity of life styles, and as I am retired, am seeking someone retired or close to retirement. So....I guess age (generally speaking) does matter in that sense. But some people retire quite young, so that's fine too. Also, if someone is over 65 but healthy, that would be just as good, right? It all boils down to compatible life styles, not really age. | |
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| Men and their Age Issue?
Posted: 9/14/2008 3:41:07 PM | | I think most ppl want to be known for the age they feel not the age the calendar tells everyone they are. | |
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| Men and their Age Issue?
Posted: 9/20/2008 12:24:03 PM | | I post my true chronological age. Why not? Women can use any number of search engines to find my true age once they learn my identity. I know I check out women's ages if I might want to date them. Big deal! | |
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| Men and their Age Issue?
Posted: 9/20/2008 1:08:44 PM | Im one of those, age doesnt matter to me guys.. Often ill see a age under the pic of a woman and think "wow she looks great for that age-- she must be young at heart" and then go right ahead and say hi to her.. And by looks great-- i dont mean she has to look like cindy crawford--- but a good smile-- a friendly way -- now that is sexy..
As for me-- i post my age-- i figured the one that likes me is going to like me.. | |
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| Men and their Age Issue?
Posted: 9/20/2008 1:26:41 PM |
I figure the one that likes me is going to like me.. .
Yes, exactly. | |
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| Men and their Age Issue?
Posted: 9/20/2008 2:02:27 PM | I can't see the point of lying about your age or anything else....especially if you are going to meet up and hopefully date....doesn't matter what age group you prefer, just be honest about how old you are, we all age there's no getting out of it. I must remember to update my photos on my profile they are between 1-3 yrs old.
Yes its happened to me a few years ago, he not only lied about his age he lied about everything, his profile was descibing his son the phot was his son too....it said: 5ft 10in, muscular, 45....he was 5ft 2in, thin and weedy and by the look of him in his 70's....needless to say the meeting lasted all of 10mins, his excuse, you wouldn't have met me if I had told the truth...very true....I had been chatting to him over a month before we met. Now when I get comfortable chatting to someone I insist on using web cam just to make sure they are what they say they are. | |
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| Men and their Age Issue?
Posted: 9/20/2008 3:23:32 PM | Oh la la you "Whipper Snappers"
I just turned 71 on the 15th of September.
Have I been tempted to lie?
Yes and I did for two weeks and re-registered again.
I am taken for younger but so what? I am 71 I can not
change this fact.
I have plenty of attitude and thanks for asking,
I am still very much alive.
Yes I do know there is "operation self help" but there
are too many things missing.
The kisses, the hugs, etc. that is what is missing.
I too have met the scammers, and the guy who is 5/3 but says he is 5/8
in his profile. The average guy too, who already shows in his picture he is
a big guy.
I had a very good mariage and I want/need this closeness again.
Now fellows don't contact me all at once okay? lol
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| Men and their Age Issue?
Posted: 9/24/2008 11:09:22 PM | We have all seen it, either some people just dont age well, photograph Very well, or lie. I feel it is very dumb to risk it, so who are you fooling? What if the very next person you talk to is "that" one, "the one, the soul mate" and you have started off with a lie, one that could tank the entire relationship. Would it be worth it? heck no! If you want to look young then take care of yourself, drink tons of water, take your vitamins, exercise, get fresh air and laugh alot. Be a happy and positive person, it doesnt really matter what age you are or how good looking your are if you are a miserable, toxic mess.
Warning (bragging) I am fifty one and I am told all the time that I do not look fifty or even forty, but that used to bother me because when I was younger I wanted to look mature and grown up, I didnt want to look like a kid, I would be ok with it now.
dont worry, be happy | |
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