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| Is money really that important ladies?
Posted: 2/1/2009 8:03:58 AM | Of course $$ is important...if you are broke by age 50 w/ no good reason, then HOW DID YOU LIVE YOUR LIFE???
Ummmm...ever hear of the terms..."downsizing" & "economic layoff"?
Let's not forget the good old "We're looking for a more cost-efficient solution and no longer require your services"...which translates to...."We can find a younger guy to do twice the work and pay half as much."
Never mentioned the word broke...bills get paid (on time), own my own car (it's older, but still mine), can definitely feed & clothe myself...rent's on time every month, too.
Just don't wear expensive labels, drive a luxury gas-guzzler, or have a home in the 100K + range.
I guess one "lady", and I use that word VERY loosely, summed it up best:
"insert disdainful sniff here"..."Honey, face it....you just can't AFFORD this a**"
And yes, I would LOVE some woman here to prove me wrong...in fact...I CHALLENGE any woman where I live to prove me wrong...but it's not gonna happen. | |
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| Is money really that important ladies?
Posted: 2/1/2009 11:57:32 AM |
"insert disdainful sniff here"..."Honey, face it....you just can't AFFORD this a**"
So, you were dating her because...
She was hot? Had big ta tas?
If all you are finding to not date are women with such a piss poor attitude, maybe somethings amiss with your selection criteria?
Cindy O | |
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| Is money really that important ladies?
Posted: 2/2/2009 2:54:51 AM | To some women yes. There are many gold diggers on this earth, just waiting to pounce on someone that can make their life temporarily better.
To me, no. I do not have dollar signs where my pupils should be, and am totally not impressed by what someone has. I guess that is because I am not looking for someone to complete me, I am looking for someone to share me. | |
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| Is money really that important ladies?
Posted: 2/2/2009 3:14:54 AM |
I am not interested in some of the men I have met who have turned out to be homeless. Yea that's right homeless, they use their cell phones to go on line.
LOL!
No wonder I had the feeling of dumpster diving on this site. | |
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| Is money really that important ladies?
Posted: 2/2/2009 1:48:29 PM | Be careful making assumptions.....where did it say that I was dating her?
It was a conversation in the "getting to know you" stage, and I was the one initially contacted, not the other way around. I continued the conversation because, yes, she was attractive and I liked what she had to say on her profile. I have no clue how big her "ta-ta's" were and couldn't care less.
The point is...like so many others out here....she "wasn't interested in how much you make, or what you do for a living" and it was, and is....pure bulls**t
For an overview of my selection criteria, read my profile....it's all right there. | |
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| Is money really that important ladies?
Posted: 6/16/2009 9:46:34 AM | LOL... I just have a few question's for the Men and Women .. who have been through a divorce, who like to bag on the one's of lessor value ? This should stir up some negative response.
How did you get that big fine house and Car, money in the bank etc,
1. Is your EX a renter? livivg from paycheck to paycheck? Or does he/she live with parents / relatives due to the financial strain caused by the divorce?
2. In your mind , do really believe, that you earned it all yourself?
3. Do you think in your divorce, that all was divided equally? Or did your kick butt Lawyer take him/her to the bank?
4. Looking at it from the one who got it all, was it really what is best for the children?
5. Looking at it from the one who got taken to the bank, was it really best for the children?
6. For the one's who got everything. Do you regret, taking it all? If you could redo it would you play it on the fair and equal scale?
I would say by the age of 45 or 50 , as an adult we should be OK financially, If not, 90% of the time it's because of a nasty divorce , they were at the mercy of the courts, who we all know have no mercy or justice.... I actually prefer dating a woman who got taken to the bank as long as she's taken care of her baggage / over it etc etc. Starting over from scratch isn't all that bad, thats what the gold diggers that are out there can't understand | |
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| Is money really that important ladies?
Posted: 6/16/2009 11:51:57 AM | LOL... I just have a few question's for the Men and Women .. who have been through a divorce, who like to bag on the one's of lessor value ? This should stir up some negative response.
How did you get that big fine house and Car, money in the bank etc,
1. Is your EX a renter? livivg from paycheck to paycheck? Or does he/she live with parents / relatives due to the financial strain caused by the divorce?
2. In your mind , do really believe, that you earned it all yourself?
3. Do you think in your divorce, that all was divided equally? Or did your kick butt Lawyer take him/her to the bank?
4. Looking at it from the one who got it all, was it really what is best for the children?
5. Looking at it from the one who got taken to the bank, was it really best for the children?
6. For the one's who got everything. Do you regret, taking it all? If you could redo it would you play it on the fair and equal scale?
I would say by the age of 45 or 50 , as an adult we should be OK financially, If not, 90% of the time it's because of a nasty divorce , they were at the mercy of the courts, who we all know have no mercy or justice.... I actually prefer dating a woman who got taken to the bank as long as she's taken care of her baggage / over it etc etc. Starting over from scratch isn't all that bad, thats what the gold diggers that are out there can't understand
Sorry to burst your bubble, but I've been divorced AND widowed and, while I received nothing from either (there was nothing to get), it didn't cost me anything. Everything I have was paid for by my l'il ole self. | |
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| Is money really that important ladies?
Posted: 6/16/2009 3:57:39 PM | This topic has always interested me OP and the different dynamics between men and women.
Why is it that a rich guy can get away with having a workable long-term relationship with say a “working” girl?
Yet it never works out for long with the few rich ladies I have known – usually gravitates to me being frequently treated as a step-n-fetch-it boarder . . . so I quickly get on my horse and head out of Dodge.
No way could I live like that.
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| Is money really that important ladies?
Posted: 6/16/2009 4:28:04 PM |
Why is it that a rich guy can get away with having a workable long-term relationship with say a “working” girl?
Yet it never works out for long with the few rich ladies I have known – usually gravitates to me being frequently treated as a step-n-fetch-it boarder . . . so I quickly get on my horse and head out of Dodge.
Wot? You've never heard of the Golden Rule - he/she who has the gold, rules. | |
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| Is money really that important ladies?
Posted: 6/16/2009 5:40:51 PM |
Wot? You've never heard of the Golden Rule - he/she who has the gold, rules.
Yes, of course.
But that does not answer the question -- about why there seems to be such a difference in how rich men vs rich women treat their (otherwise equally loving, warm and affectionate but less well healed) SOs?
Anything to contribute toward that question?
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| Is money really that important ladies?
Posted: 6/18/2009 9:58:08 AM | IT'S NOT MONEY THAT'S IMPORTANT TO ME AT THIS AGE, IT'S SECURITY. I'M NOT LOOKING FOR MONEY, I CAN SUPPORT MYSELF, BUT I'M UNABLE TO SUPPORT SOMEONE ELSE. IT'S ALL IN SOMEONES HEART. I KNOW THERE'S ALOT OF  "MONEY HUNGRY" WOMEN OUT THERE, AND I'M NOT ONE OF THEM. MATERIAL THINGS ARE NICE, IF YOU CAN AFFORD THEM, THATS GREAT, BUT IF YOU CAN'T, THEN YOU CAN'T.
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| Is money really that important ladies?
Posted: 6/18/2009 11:57:39 AM | This is a tricky one SlowHand...
Obviously in our current economy, we are all thinking about finances. I can only speak for myself but, if I meet a man, I hope that he is not it WORSE financial shape than me. Not that my financial situation is critical or even close to that.
Based on personal experiences...I have what amounts to paranoia about men who want a "Sugar Mamma". Just like the many women who are looking for a "Sugar Daddy", the men who are looking for a "Sugar Mamma" are out there too. Take my word for it!!! I know!!!
We are living in a very materialistic society and with the current economy the majority of us will probably have to learn to live with less. Personally I don't consider myself materialistic...my desires are for the basics...a roof over my head, food for my tummy, clothing to cover me and a place to lay my head at night. Add in just a few MINOR creature comforts such as a computer and cable and I'm a pretty happy lassy. No need for vacation homes, lavish dinners out or expensive theater tickets.
So, I guess what I'm saying is...the gals who aren't preoccupied with money do exist. They are out there. If you run into ones who do seem to be looking at your wallet more than at you as a person...well give 'em a miss, (as they say in New Zealand).
I think there are ways to express that you don't think of money as being highly important. In my own experience, if I meet a man who seems a bit too interested in my bank account, I begin to paint a picture of austerity. Maybe not entirely accurate but I'll be darned if I will invest time in a man who just wants to get into my pocket book. I think there are ways to say it and express it. Maybe just saying flat out that you aren't materialistic and don't place a lot of value on a person's financial status could be enough to discourage any gold diggers.
Hope you find the right one. Good luck in your search.
Kind regards to all the fishies...
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| Is money really that important ladies?
Posted: 6/18/2009 12:15:54 PM | Yeah yeah and if she has nothing how many men want to date her????
Lots of men are attracted by the houses the cars the good salaries, oh yes it works both ways | |
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| Is money really that important ladies?
Posted: 6/29/2009 12:27:40 AM | imagine when you are not ready to have a family...
imagine when you haven't got enough money for the baseball ticket for your child.
imagine when you have to fight with your wife because you want to spend money for something you like.. but she is upset because she think that money is better to spend for repair a house and to bring family for camping... imagine when you can't pay 2 things in the same time but have to choose . between yourself (and fight) and for your wife and children (but you are not happy with that)
sometimes we all have a beautiful words tosay, tomake our self have a good appeareance... but we know what is the truth.
sorry for my bad english. | |
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| Is money really that important ladies?
Posted: 7/3/2009 9:25:41 PM | | A person has to have an income. That's just the facts ma'm/man. That's life. But if that's ALL you are about?? Really?? I may not match your personal income bracket, regardless how hard you had to work for yours...been there...done that. It really isn't about money. I take care of mine...do you? | |
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| Is money really that important ladies?
Posted: 7/4/2009 9:29:47 AM |
As for if I look for it in a prospective partner? No, I don't care if you have a Harley, a boat, an RV, a Corvette, and a house in Florida. If you are smart, show some thought went into the writing of your profile. If it makes me laugh, or if it shows sincerity. If you were born sometime before the Beatles appeared on the Ed Sullivan show I wouldn't care if you drive a 30 year old Pinto wagon, and live in your parents basement.
It's who you are, not what you own, or how much money you have that matters.
Oh come now kissme. You are sounding just a little bit naive here. You don't think the material things one owns are not a refection of who they are? You don't think that if a person who lives in their parents basement at the age of 45 or more, that this does not reflect who they are? It could mean a number of things of course, but it does mean something. Are they looking after their parents who may be infirm? Or they emotionally and financially dependent on their parents? Have they any interest venturing out, perhaps even moving out some day? A women who is overly materialistic or who lives in the parents' basement, that would be a red flag for me. I don't find someone who lists "shopping" as an interest to be very interesting. These things all suggest a different set of values. And values go to the core of a relationship. | |
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| Is money really that important ladies?
Posted: 7/4/2009 5:51:28 PM | | You nailed me........ similar situation, once bitten twice shy..... just cautious to protect my investment and have him hold his own!!! | |
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| Is money really that important ladies?
Posted: 7/4/2009 7:04:35 PM | How did you get that big fine house and Car, money in the bank etc,
1. Is your EX a renter? livivg from paycheck to paycheck? Or does he/she live with parents / relatives due to the financial strain caused by the divorce?
2. In your mind , do really believe, that you earned it all yourself?
3. Do you think in your divorce, that all was divided equally? Or did your kick butt Lawyer take him/her to the bank?
4. Looking at it from the one who got it all, was it really what is best for the children?
5. Looking at it from the one who got taken to the bank, was it really best for the children?
Big, fine house and car bought and paid for myself.
Money in the bank is from my business.
1. Ex lives in the house we bought and paid for. Didn't need it, didn't want it - signed my half over to my youngest son with the ex's approval. We paid the house off in 5 years so I didn't worry about him having to make mortgage payments.
2. Yes, I earned it myself - didn't take a penny from the ex. Actually, he's doing quite well. Lives in the house by himself and the youngest does visit. His business is doing extremely well and he has money in the bank.
3. Neither of us was taken to the bank. Didn't want anything from him except his signature on the divorce papers. He kept his money, his half of the house, his vehicles and 100% of his business which I helped him start and worked at with no salary while holding down a full-time job and operating my own business. I kept my money, my vehicles, and my business.
4/5. Kids are doing great because nobody "got it all" - youngest is co-owner of the former matrimonial home in Ontario, oldest is co-owner of my primary residence in BC, and both kids are co-owners on my rental and vacation properties in both provinces. | |
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| Is money really that important ladies?
Posted: 7/5/2009 4:26:50 AM | LOL, I was just thinking same thing... Thread of 33 pages and started almost 2 years ago. Interesting topic, but don't know if I want to wade through 33 pages of posts in order not to be redundant.
"I 'm not a millionaire, but I play one on Plenty of Fish" *cough* | |
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