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| Is money really that important ladies?
Posted: 10/16/2009 9:46:22 AM | A couple of the female posters here have indicated that $ is important to women because we tend to make less of it, due to discrimination. And, as an African-American woman, I have to say that during my entire fulltime working life (almost 40 years now), I would tend to agree.......
And as we get older as women, we are seeking security in old age....which doesn't necessarily mean (speaking for myself, here), that we are looking for someone else's money, but we know full well that no one can live for free, as Vanilli has pointed out. | |
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| Is money really that important ladies?
Posted: 10/16/2009 5:02:50 PM | I also believe money isn't that important. I fell in love with a man on disability and never gave a thought to asking him to share in the bills, groceries, etc. He did things around the house while I worked and everything was great until..................he started spending more and more time online and I realized he was a very expensive handyman.
So, my answer now is still money isn't that important, as long as we both have some. I've also said I've never known anyone with lots of money who were truly happy. | |
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| Is money really that important ladies?
Posted: 10/16/2009 5:40:43 PM | | money is not only important it is impossible to live without...how much money do i want...enough to pay my bills...any more questions... | |
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| Is money really that important ladies?
Posted: 10/21/2009 10:22:02 AM | Money is important for many American guys because they live their lives by paycheck; no paycheck, no life for them. When one asks me what I do for my living, I know money is important to him.  | |
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| Is money really that important ladies?
Posted: 10/21/2009 12:00:26 PM | I'm with startle, yep, sure is. We all need it, gotta have it. I just don't need a lot of it.
I could sure use a whole lot of it, if someone has it and wants to share. But, just for my day to day stuff, not much. I make what I need.
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| Is money really that important ladies?
Posted: 10/21/2009 3:17:40 PM | Is Money Really That Important? I think that this is more of a purely intellectual question rather than a monetary one. Money is certainly not the most important thing in life. In fact, money does not even make the top ten most important things in life list. In a nationally acclaimed consensus, money did not even rank among the Top 10 most important things in life. The Top 10 most important things in life were:
Time
Air for breathing
Food preserve life
Shelter
Affection
Good health
Quality relationships
Dreams, desires and wants
Emotional well being
The right to self expression
Sense of personal worth!
Those were the most important issues in life for most people. But even then, each and every one of those issues depends on a financial mechanism called money. Not everything in life is about money, as we have seen it here! But, the hard cold truth is that everything we earn, owe, own or possess is measured in terms of money. And when we do not have the necessary amounts of money, at our disposal, everything else seems to be all about money or the lack thereof.
So do not fool yourself with convenient dilutions about the” evils of money”. The only evil thing about money is stupidity or not knowing how to use it! Without money, none of all of those top ten issues would be possible. Doubt it? Stop going to work, stop paying your taxes, mortgage, bills, child support, loans or any other obligations. Put aside all of those obligations, indefinitely, and let see what happens to your “American Dream”! Chances are that you will not be experiencing life as you are accustomed. Therefore, managing or mismanaging money says a great deal about who you are and where you heading or not in life are! This is not a moral issue but rather, a testimony to true intelligence! Financial aptitude is true intelligence in action! So why would any smart lady should consider dating an "unintelligent or broke ass man", as a prospective partner? | |
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| Is money really that important ladies?
Posted: 10/21/2009 3:38:13 PM | | Babes love money. But the older they get, they understand they can't take it with them, so they spend all of theirs, and yours | |
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| Is money really that important ladies?
Posted: 10/21/2009 3:49:21 PM |
Babes love money. But the older they get, they understand they can't take it with them, so they spend all of theirs, and yours
oboy. Either you can't read, or don't believe women ever tell the truth. Why are you bothering with a dating/match site in that case? | |
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| Is money really that important ladies?
Posted: 10/21/2009 3:55:56 PM | Correct, money is not important to the over 45 female.
...That he should be 10 years younger than she....be a Prince, next in line of course.....drop dead good looking....at least average intelligence....not be mising any limbs, including his peduncle....and that he be truly, madly in love with female in question.
So, no, money is not important to the over 45 female.
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| Is money really that important ladies?
Posted: 10/21/2009 4:21:09 PM | | well speaking for myself, i certainly ask if the man is working or retired because I am not looking to support a man neither, especially not early in the relationship. whether a man is working or not does mean something. It tells me he is retired or disabled which is fine but some are just not interested in working, by that i mean lazy. so i guess if the shoe fits. It does work both ways. Not all woman are looking for a sugar daddy and I,m sure not all men are either, But if asked how much money does one make would be my first clue, that should definately not matter | |
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| Is money really that important ladies?
Posted: 10/21/2009 4:34:55 PM |
Babes love money. But the older they get, they understand they can't take it with them, so they spend all of theirs, and yours
Quite the catchy name ""slumpy.""
Anyway if this is what you really think I actually feel sorry for you. So hey take it with you. Leave it to your kids, leave it to you dog for all I give a crapolie. but me, while I can enjoy I am enjoying life. Golfing, going south to see friends, get cute collars for my little dog. Buy the perfume I like, and yesss it is costly that little bottle of Channel. All for my personal enjoyment. So if I am going to be with a man I am going to continue on as I do. If he gets weird 'cause he is scared to spend two bucks on wooden disposable toothpicks and reuses the free swizzle sticks from his Shirley Temple then he and I are not at all on the same wavelength.
I do not like effeminate men, men who whine and go on about their money, their lives all their stuff that they so think all the women are out to get. Gawdddddd where are all the real men. Meaning men who know real life. .... sheesh no wonder I don't date from on line. Could be considered cult like some, not all, but some of the men.
Again I ask as I have a thousand times before ... please men, get a mirror and take a little look down there. Did they get packed with last years Christmas decorations ??? ...
.... did you lose them 'cause your last X ripped you a new one. Well welcome to our world we ALL lost allot during divorces and splits, move ins and move outs. But we are not going on and on in every thread about men only wanting us for our money. And I can't tell you the number of men on line who live in the basement of mummies house, renting a room living on welfare come and post on here wa wa wa the ladies only want my money. What they really mean is I don't have any money and the women I meet want to go out. They will even go dutch but I just either am too cheap or can't afford it or want to leave it all to my dog.
I am very generous, in all, well many ways in my life. I want to date a man who is generous also. Time, love, affection, attention, financially, physically, compliments, huggs and kisses ... now is that too much to ask for. That is what I got to give. Even Stephen ...
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| Is money really that important ladies?
Posted: 10/21/2009 6:25:37 PM |
The Top 10 most important things in life were:
Time
Air for breathing
Food preserve life
Shelter
Affection
Good health
Quality relationships
Dreams, desires and wants
Emotional well being
The right to self expression
Sense of personal worth!
Water is more important than most of the 10.
Without money, how could you hold the 10 most important things you listed to balance your life? | |
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| Is money really that important ladies?
Posted: 10/21/2009 7:00:13 PM |
Time
Air for breathing
Food preserve life
Shelter
Affection
Good health
Quality relationships
Dreams, desires and wants
Emotional well being
The right to self expression
Sense of personal worth!
And Farm's right, water comes right after air, and a bit before food.
Starting with food it takes money. Which ends with shelter (& clothing?). Transportation is nice, too. But basically, with time, the rest can be had for little or nothing. But that also assumes brains and character.
I *have* time. My air is clean and free. My water is clean and free. My shelter is $150/year (taxes). Light, heat, telephone is a bit more. Affection I have, human and animal. Good health I have created. I am in possession of Great relationships/Dreams, desires, wants/Emotional well being/self expression/Personal worth. I think, unfortunately, too many children grow up with a sense that $ = all these things. It doesn't. And my observation is that great wealth rots character (in general); longing for great wealth masks a shriveled soul.
I was married to a man who will leave both of his children millionaires. He believed that money could buy love. It can't. It can't keep love, either.
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| Is money really that important ladies?
Posted: 10/21/2009 7:33:27 PM |
My air is clean and free. My water is clean and free.
My water isn't free. When one has money to pay his food, free air is meaningful. When one has money to pay for his eating right, good health is meaningful. When one can't have money to pay his bills, he lacks an ability to build relationships in high quality; he won't be emotional well being, and his desires and dreams will be how to find money for his basic needs such as water, food, shelter, ect. Emotional well being/self expression/Personal worth are based on after paying off one's basic needs. | |
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| Is money really that important ladies?
Posted: 10/21/2009 9:19:45 PM | | money is a neccessity...a woman would never think about it if she did not have to...she is doing something distasteful...throwing away her happiness to have a roof over her head...there is no one who would do that if they did not have to...pity is a more understandable emotion that resentment... | |
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| Is money really that important ladies?
Posted: 10/22/2009 2:36:37 AM | You all need to go without money for awhile and learn from the experts. Keep in mind, this is SoCal methods.
Shelter... if you are real lucky you still have the car from before you lost your job and home, otherwise flop house or under bridges works really well.
Water .... all the parks have water fawcets.
Showers ... parks, grocery stores any other public restrooms and clever use of sinks.
Food ... ahhhhhhhhh.... there is a schedule they all have. The various churchs in the city has a meal program every day of the week ... one really hearty meal per day will hold you. Plus food banks.
More food.... dumpster diving. I once had a guy who dumpster dived at the Bristol Farms near where I did karaoke. He used to bring me some of his best finds. Interesting guy, he had previously 'owned' several apartment buildings. Never let me buy him a soda or food or give him money. I had a woman friend who made it through high school dumpster diving to feed herself and her sick mom (they didn't figure out how to qualify for government assistance).
Ciggies? Drugs? ... now that's for begging from the people who think you will use it for food.
Notice, none of this required any government monies.
"Need" money? No. It does make life easier.
I am fully self-supporting ... and I expect my partner to be so, too. I don't want the kind of guy who would be a sugar daddy .... and I am not sugar mama material. | |
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| Is money really that important ladies?
Posted: 10/22/2009 12:09:17 PM |
Well, I’ve done a fair amount of dating in the year I’ve been on this site and not once have I run into the ‘money issue’ with anyone with whom I’ve been ‘out with’. And, as a full-time working musician, this issue is something that I would have been very sensitive to spot, had it appeared. What I have found is that what women are interested in is to feel ‘comfortable’ with whom they are seeing. They are interested in meeting someone who is going to entertain them to some degree – and by this, I mean someone who has something of interest to say and a reasonable degree of intelligence to say it. They care that the person they are with is enjoying their company and shows some genuine interest in them and some of the stories of their life. But not once in all my time on this site have I run into a woman who seems preoccupied in what type of wage I make (or am able to make). But then, it is highly possible that my choices in whom I ask for dates are of a specific type of person. That is very possible, indeed ...
cdn guy
Wow.... that was VERY well said. Not all women are out for money. Some of us really do want someone genuine, real, honest, decent... the usual. Money can't buy a guy a winning personality, and it can't buy him decency or respect towards women or others.
Money, like looks, can be lost. And as always, what remains inside is what a person is left with.
cdn guy.... again, well said. And I agree that you most likely didn't have that experience due to your choices, etc. | |
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| Is money really that important ladies?
Posted: 10/24/2009 11:25:07 AM | | Not a lady, but I would think any lady with a shred of common sense and who is reasonably financially solvent herself wouldn't care how much or little money you have, as long as you're taking care of all your bills so she doesn't have to-! Liability is the issue. | |
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| Is money really that important ladies?
Posted: 10/24/2009 12:41:56 PM | Like you, I mourn that love has slipped from the primary motivator; and while looks never mattered much to me anyway, personality and character remain huge. But may this old sage play devil's advocate a moment? There definitely are a lot of financial predators of both genders out there; and anyone victimized by one would lose not only his/her financial security but self-respect as well. How often have you heard: "That silly old thing should have known s/he was just after money."? The best way to deter being victimized is to ensure that a potential partner doesn't need your money. Like many real truths, this one's a bit hard to accept--but it's still true.
And relative age is a factor too; a younger person has both the time and superior "hireability" to get a job to recover if taken advantage of by a gold-digger. In fact, given this economy and unemployment rate, many effective, active, energetic young people are having trouble competing for jobs.
I really think maybe you just haven't gotten lucky yet. Hope you find a great lady to love you lots--I know a BUNCH who are looking for just what you describe. Help them know you're not a threat. | |
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| Is money really that important ladies?
Posted: 10/24/2009 12:48:32 PM | | Well, after a marriage to a man that was out of work more than he worked, money is important to me. I'm fed up with getting evicted. If you don't like that answer, what can I tell you. We all need a roof over our heads. | |
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| Is money really that important ladies?
Posted: 10/24/2009 10:01:56 PM | If you have less money than I do, I wonder if you are after mine. If you are retired and I can't afford to, I wonder how we will reconcile our time together. Will you want to travel and I don't have that kind of time?
Reminds me of a poster who wanted to find a female companion to sail the Carribean for the next four months.
Much as I'd love such an adventure, I need to be paying into SS and saving for retirement. (That doesn't even address healthcare costs.)
I'm really not cynical, just realistic. | |
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| Is money really that important ladies?
Posted: 10/25/2009 9:27:39 AM | are you kidding?
let give you my definitive answer on this subject
HELL NO ! money means ABSOLUTELY NOTHING to women
don't let them fool you into thinking the opposite | |
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| Is money really that important ladies?
Posted: 10/26/2009 1:03:23 AM | I just got accused of looking for a sugar daddy when I met someone from here. He mentioned he was going to get a job working under the table and I said something about that not paying into social security. I got a nasty email back saying I was apparently looking for a sugar daddy. I am by no means looking for a sugar daddy, but I am at the age where retirement is near, and I don't want a relationship with someone who can barely afford to pay his bills.
I don't think bringing to his attention that he should be considering what pays into social security that I was being rude or implying that I was looking for a sugar daddy | |
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| Is money really that important ladies?
Posted: 10/26/2009 3:30:40 AM | I think a very real difference between men and women is that women really very seldom place their self worth on what they have in the bank; men too often do. Women are more prone to place their self worth on what they see in the mirror; men too seldom do. Hence, you have men worried that they're only wanted because of their bank account, and women worried that they're only wanted for their looks. And both sexes get pissed at the other sex when what they have is spurned, and claims of shallowness and gold-digging go flying forth, lol!
I'd say if you're starting to feel you're only wanted for your body or for your wallet, that a good healthy and thorough self examination might be in order. . . . ya think?
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| Is money really that important ladies?
Posted: 10/26/2009 7:14:52 AM | | I do refuse to date the homeless or the guy who still lives with his mother. I also refuse to date drug dealers or mob bosses. But you would be surprised at how many men will state how much they make after I tell them I am not interested. As if the problem is they are poor and NOT the fact I am not physically attracted to them or mentally. Or the number of men who will whisper in my ear how they can take care of men when I walk by. I assume that means financially. Don't think men will not try to use money to impress a woman. If you think they don't you are a lie..... or lying to yourself. | |
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